Calling all RMA Ladies (1st page updates)

[Kins]

Ash welcome back. My mind is still going everyday as to what i should do next and when. This process is so heart wrenching.


I go tomorrow to see I my beta level is back to 0 ;-( then I guess I have to decide ivf or continue as is. It's hear to decide because I was able to get prego w/bd'ing so I wonder if I should try that again.


what is assisted hatching?

 

[iheartqueens]

Ash - I am so glad to hear that you're excited to get back into it. You definitely have the right attitude. I think the level of care at RMA is amazing, I never had the pleasure of speaking with my doctor the day I found out that an IVF had failed. It has to be somewhat comforting to know that they are all working together to figure out what may have gone wrong so that they can get you pregnant

Kins - You have a tough decision to make but it is a very good sign that you were able to get pregnant by just BDing. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Assisted hatching is when they break down the outer "shell" (zona pellucida) of the embryo before the ET, which helps it to "hatch" easier.

 

[ashknowsbest]

iheart - yeah it is very comforting knowing that they're all working together already. I love my doctor, he is very involved in my case it seems and he always answers all of my questions and everything. I have a consult with him on december 3rd and I've got a lot of questions written down that I'm going to ask him and he said that for my december period which should come around december 20th if everything stays on schedule we'll start the cycle then, wether it's the long lupron again or a different one. I can't wait and I'm a bit impatient, I just want to start now, but at the same time I'm kind of happy that I get a little break from everything. I might even get a snowboarding trip in before we start another cycle!

 

[jchic]

Ash, I think ICSI and assisted hatching will offer you much better results. Dec 3rd is right around the corner, excited for you!

 

[Gabie20]

Kins- I hope your beta has dropped so that you can move onto another cycle, GL to whatever you decide to do.

Ash- Dec 3rd is super close!

Angie- Congrats again!!

AFM- AF came on 13dpo (Saturday).... I had a CD3 baseline and I have 3 cysts, so I might be sitting this cycle out... either way I am still undecided on if I should do another IUI cycle or just move onto IVF....hmmm

 

[jchic]

Gabie - I vote for IVF!

 

[Gabie20]

jchic- I can't afford it right now... my insurance covers unlimited IUI but no IVF weird huh? I have to figure out what we can do, if it was up to me I would jump into it right away!

 

[jchic]

Insurance sucks!!!! Ugh, I hate when they dont cover stuff!

 

[Poms Mom]

Thanks ladies I don't really care if its 1 or 2 (would love twins can't lie after trying so long) but as long as the embie/embies stay put and grow healthy I will be happy. On another note I do refer to them as twins for now because I don't want to jinx the one by saying its not there lol I know I'm odd but very superstitious.

As for the doubling she said they want to see it at 66% I would feel better the higher it got though honestly I am thrilled with today's number and still a little in shock try #1 worked!!

Yay Spoiled! that is a great number! higher than my first Beta. Nj does 2 betas then ultrasound...depending on the progression, you may get up 2-4 more ultrasounds and beta and p4 tests every visit. betwen beta 1 & 2 my numbers more than double by a little bit. but it varies. i actually just got off the call with my RE having a final thank you and checking up on me. Praying that your beta's stay strong and your lil one (or ones) hang in there!

And dont you remember the old saying ---it only takes once!

 

[Lucinda7981]

Kins,
Good luck on whatever you decide to do!

Ash,
Dec 3rd is around the corner....best of luck!

 

[Kins]

Gabie-sORRY about your bfn. If your insurance covers it or you have the cash and no personal thoughts against IVF I say go for it. I mean look at all thesae BFP on this board

So Gabie I just wrote the above and then read that you dont have IVF coverage....I say keep trying with the IUIs :0)

Insurance blows

 

[Gabie20]

Thanks Kins I am going to go for a few more IUIs and in the meantime save up for IVF.... I have been seriously contemplating looking for another job based on their insurance and what it covers I know that it sounds like a crappy thing to do but to pay almost $15,000 out of pocket for IVF and not having it work would put me in the looney bin.... I really really really want to get pg and it doesn't seem lke it's going to happen... I'm just super sad today and angry that my insurance blows... I should be fortunate that it covers something but geez unlitmited IUIs, but no IVF is just mind-boggling :/

 

[Spoiledangel]

Gabie if you don't mind me asking does your employer have over 50 employees?? We are in a mandated state thank goodness my previous job was horrendous but luckily had great insurance, and I was lucky enough that when I left them for a personal job opportunity I got to keep the insurance as long as I pay the premium for 18 months (I'm on my 6th month so still have a year, then will switch to my dh's sad though I have no deductible or co-insurance but his is quite high!!!

 

[jchic]

Spoiled - The state mandate is awesome - I have that too, but sometimes employers can choose whether to offer it or not if they are over 50 employees. So shitty!

Gabie - definitely check with your HR and Benefits person if you have state mandate coverage which means you would get 4 Fresh IVF's basically at no cost except for your copay and unlimited FET's and IUI's. Also, I know RMA has a payment plan, maybe check into that?

 

[Kins]

State mandate is that a NY thing?

I have personal choice and I have a lifetime infertility benefit of 15,000. My u/a and b/w have now counter towards that thank God. And I have only had one IuI. So I prob have enough for 1 ivf. What sucks is medications r separate and I have already maxed out my infertility med benefit

 

[Gabie20]

No, unfortunatly I work for a boutique law firm... we are about 10 people... I am not too happy here (not to mention we are moving at the end of the month and that is going to add 25 minutes to my commute), so to find a new job would be good for just my sanity in general... I am trying to get back into Merdian Health which is where I used to work before here (I am so regretting leaving there at this moment) but it's not happening I think they are having job freeze..... I don't know what else to do, I can pay out of pocket for one, but if I need more then one I'm screwed...

 

[Spoiledangel]

Double posting

 

[Spoiledangel]

Jchic I read somewhere that those employers trying to opt out of it (unless its a religious argument) are being looked into because as a mandate all employers with 50 or more employees are supposed to provide it..... Some employers were trying to get over by getting out if state insurance companies.... Don't want my opinion on that lol

Kins it's NJ as Jchic said were covered for unlimited IUIs & FETs, 4 fresh retrievals per lifetime, ICSI is included as well as assisted hatching if needed only thing not covered through Is if you freeze the embies or want PGD done.

With my insurance luckily meds are covered too copays for each IUI was $100, for my IVF $205 and FET was the best at $40 when we saw all that when I first got my coverage I literally thanked god that we lived in NJ at that present moment lol

 

[iheartqueens]

I took a job with the City of NY just to get insurance to cover infertility treatment... despite living 100 miles away. Being self employed in NY it's impossible to get any coverage. Luckily I had applied for a civil service job before moving upstate and a few days after we decided that we needed to see an RE I was given the opportunity to interview - and my in-laws were in the city so I used their address. I commuted almost daily to Brooklyn for 4 months and now I am on Cobra for another 8 months. It's crazy what we'll do for insurance coverage! Thank you NYC!!!

Hopefully you won't need it... just keep trying the IVF and another opportunity may just present itself, you never know!

 

[iheartqueens]

Spoiled - good luck today!!!!