Calling all RMA Ladies (1st page updates)

[Spoiledangel]

I'm sorry there's no personals but I can't really write much....... On the way to the morristown office this morning I had a gush of blood bright red, we do the u/s and seen both babies both with good HBs measuring 6w5d & 6w1d and I was diagnosed with a subchorionic hemmorage, a huge one. An hour later I get to work and I go to the bathroom and I had a waterfall of clots come out!!! I rushed back to morristown, baby B is gone & Baby A's HB dropped to 67 due to the"stress" going on in the uterus.

I go back tomorrow to see if baby A is still viable...... I just can't believe i get pregnant on my first FET, the baby's stick good, I get HBs and then I wind up with something that
is 1% chance of getting and then a 1-3% chance of miscarriage from, I'm so mad right now but as big as it was they should have seen it at my other u/s since I did have mild spotting & it was so big!! I could have been on strict bed rest and it could have resolved different I'm just so mad & upset right now!!!

 

[Kins]

Oh spoiled I have no words to ease your anger or the sadness you may be feeling. I am so sorry. I'll pray for you and baby A to be strong

 

[Hopeful_NJ]

Spoiled - I'm so sorry to hear that!! Wishing for a good outcome with Baby A.

AFM: The transfer today went smoothly. Transferred two AA grade embryos. Feeling very positive and taking it easy today. I plan not to think about the outcome too much until my test day on the 16th. It made me crazy last time trying to read every little symptom!! It's out of my hands now...I just pray that my little peanuts stick around.

 

[MissyMaddy]

Kins.. I can understand does your insurance cover ivf? I know what you mean about frozen embryos, may be you can donate?

Spoiled.. I am so sorry dear. Can't imagine what you are going through.... I am praying hard for your baby..

Hopeful.. that's great buddy.. I conceived my son the month I stopped using Dr.Google..

 

[iheartqueens]

Spoiled - There are no words... I am so sorry. Praying for you and baby A.

Hopeful - That is great news! Here's to a quick 8 days ahead for you...

 

[jchic]

Hopeful- when are you going to test??

Spoiled- I am sorry. I know a bunch of women that have had SCH and they are hard to diagnose sometimes due to the changes in your uterus, etc. Try to take it easy and I am praying for you and Baby A. Stay strong

 

[Spoiledangel]

Thanks all, we just left the u/s and I passed everything baby A is gone also, I'm just a mess and my husbands doing no better.

Dr. Constantino didn't seem to know squat about subchorionic hemmorage, so that was unsettling when I got a generic answer for what are my odds of this happening again, what could have prevented it ect.

Now the wait for my hcg to go to 0 which I don't think should take long as everything came out I'm just so heartbroken, this is the worse m/c I ever went through!!

 

[iheartqueens]

Spoiled - My heart goes out to you. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling. I am so so sorry for your loss. Hopefully once you are able to you can find out more about why this happened and how you can prevent it... it's very disheartening to know that your doc has no explanation.

 

[Hopeful_NJ]

Jchic - my beta test is on the 16th but I think I will do HPT on the 14th.

Spoiled - that is terrible. I'm so sorry you did not get any answers! Keep hope...I'm sure it will happen for you!

 

[jchic]

Spoiled - I am so so very sorry. All of my love and prayers go to you and your DH. Please stay strong and remember that you WILL have your forever babies....xoxoxoxo.

 

[Kins]

Maddy my insurance cover up to 15,000 lifetime max

 

[Kins]

Oh spoiled so sorry. We are all here for u if u need the support

 

[Spoiledangel]

Thanks kins during the day I'm semi ok tying to keep busy but at night it's horrible all I can see is the u/s with the 2 little HBs than 2 hours later the bathroom & clotting and i start hysterically crying. I just wish I never seen the HB if this was going to happen because that even made it worse for my husband he tears up every time he talks about it.

 

[iheartqueens]

Spolied - I haven't stopped thinking about you and your hubby, hope you're staying strong. Praying that you get answers and back on the road to having babies as soon as you're ready.

 

[Littlee49]

Been away from the post for a little while....

Spoiled I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. U and ur husband are in my prayers

 

[iheartqueens]

We were able to see our baby again this morning and see and hear the heartbeat. What an amazing moment. I am still a little in shock that we are finally here after so long. Doc says that we'll be 8 weeks in two days which puts us 2 days ahead of where I thought we were based on internet due date calculators. We're cutting the progesterone in half this week and we return a week from today for our final RMA NY visit. WOW!!!!

 

[MissyMaddy]

Spoiled I am so sorry.. You are going through a very tough time. Wish I could speed up this terrible time. lots of prayers your way.. One day will be your day.

iheart.. aww baby looks soo soo cute.. Congrats and enjoy your time.. so much worth the wait..

Kins.. I would say go for ivf? I think I'll be doing max of 3 IUIs with injectable before going for ivf.. anyways best if luck with whatever you decide..

 

[FurMama]

Hi Everyone! I've spent over an hour reading through older posts and have gotten to know some of you a little bit already

DH and I have been TTC 18 mos. Had 1st appt with RMA of PA (Dr Schillings) early November. Lots of blood work, semen analysis, all of that fun jazz. Learning lots about our bodies. As for him...the millions was good (65 or so), motility was good (high 50 percent), morphology only 1%

As for me...always suspected I had PCOS (average 60 day cycles, sometimes more or less, negative ovulation strips, etc) - was confirmed at my 1st appt. Underactive Thyroid. Day 3 and Day 21 bloodwork was referred to as "nice and low" - no ovulation had occurred.

Will be doing HCG in January. Crossing my fingers for some good news! Nurse said the Dr. would suggest IVF due to the low morpholgy, but we are sticking to original plan - 3 cycles of Clomid/double IUI (no more than 3 cycles of clomid due to family history of ovarian cancer) and then moving onto IVF from there. I have $15,000 lifetime coverage including IVF.

Will do first cycle in Feb after our vacation- if we have to move onwards, we decided to skip March because of the holidays, and then resume again in April. Anyone else ever consider timing?

I'm excited to begin this journey, but still struggling with the fact that we are having to go this route. Making babies is supposed to be FUN! I'm also struggling with the increased odds of multiples, as I absolutely do not want more than 1 baby at a time.

Anyhow, that's my story, thanks for reading! DH and I share a home with 5 furgirls - 2 cats and 3 dogs - we like to foster and rescue pets, love traveling (Just got married in August, honeymooned on a Mediterranean cruise!) and we also love playing poker.

Have a great night! It's late, time for bed!

 

[Kins]

Hi furmama welcome! You definitely found a great thread. Good luck with your cycles.
As for timing the baby in August I turned 30 so we skipped that month but since its been such a struggle to get pregnant we just go continuously month to month or I should say cycle to cycle.
Ps congrats on your recent wedding that honeymoon sounded awesome

Clomid- is there a correlation to cancer?


Afm- ladies my friend that just told everyone the were pregnant last week went in for an appt yesterday and there was no hb. It's such a shame but Dh and I decided to tell them about our journey for the past yr and half we wanted to let them know they had support too. Ugh all this sad news on the boards and in my everyday world.

Hoping everyone is staying strong.

 

[Hopeful_NJ]

Furmama - welcome!!! You will find lots of support here.

Kins - I can't believe it...makes you realize that having a child really is a miracle!!