Can't shake the fear of another mmc

[Cattia]

I am 5 weeks pregnant after a mmc in Feb, found out at 8 weeks that baby stopped growing at 6+2. I was doing ok with staying relaxed until the past couple of days, my super sensitivity to smell seems to have gone so now I am worrying about another mmc. I will ask for my bloods to be done next week but by the time I have booked an appointment then waited the 48 hours between tests it's going to be the end of the week before I know anything. I just hate feeling so paranoid, I promised myself that I wouldn't obsess this time and what will be will be but I'm finding it hard not to freak out.

 

[Nina83]

((hugs)) It's hard not obsessing over everything after a loss!
When is your first appointment? I think bloods at 6 weeks won't be very helpful, the early bloods are the more important ones. I think that after 6 weeks they start to double slower than at first.
Try to stay calm, occupied and happy that right now you are pregnant!
I'm sure everything is and will be fine
Keep us updated, and of course, congratulations!

 

[Cattia]

Thanks, yes it's driving me insane already and it's only been a week! I will be six weeks on Tuesday and I can't get an appointment before then. I was planning to wait until nine weeks for a private scan but thinking I might just get one at seven. Do you think numbers would tell me anything at six weeks?

 

[GalvanBaby]

Hi Cattia. I am pregnant again after a MC last year at 6 weeks. I have been so scared that I will lose this one too. I had betas, and was stressing so bad that the numbers wouldn't be good. Then, the second beta wasn't doubling. It had a doubling time of 84 hours. I was so scared to get the 3rd, but it had almost tripled with a doubling time of 34 hours. Now I am scared of my u/s next week. I am so scared for something to happen again. I feel like if I can just get pass the 6 weeks and see a HB, I will be ok. I wish I could go to sleep and wake up in 2 weeks to the sound of a HB.

I have faith, and believe that being positive and praying helps. I don't know if you are religious or not, but prayer has helped me a lot in the past week. GL, and I hope all is good next week. Remember you will have days that you have no symptoms at all, and then days that you feel every symptom you can think of.

 

[Cattia]

Thank you. The six week mark is a big thing for me too as last time the baby stopped growing at 6+2, probably right when the heart would have stated beating, which I think often happens with mc. I feel like this next week is so scary. I am trying to stay positive but it's hard. If we have another mc I don't know whether or not we will keep going TTC as I am 37 now. I have always wanted three children but there's only so far you can go. Really hoping this one sticks!

 

[Nina83]

Thanks, yes it's driving me insane already and it's only been a week! I will be six weeks on Tuesday and I can't get an appointment before then. I was planning to wait until nine weeks for a private scan but thinking I might just get one at seven. Do you think numbers would tell me anything at six weeks?

You would be better off with a scan at 6 weeks.
With my first pregnancies I did 3 beta's and all doubled nicely.
This time I only did one to document the pregnancy. Sometimes numbers don't mean anything except a number. My best advice would to just wait for an US (I'd never be able to wait until 9 weeks) to see the little HB. Beta's now would just get you even more anxious if they didn't double exactly, or are higher etc.
((hugs)) I absolutely hate that I know that anxiety feeling in the beginning, but it will get better!

 

[Cattia]

Thanks. The private scan places won't scan before 7 weeks I don't think so I guess I will wait until then. It's the smell thing that's really bothering me, two days of smell sensitivities and now nothing I hate this waiting, if something is wrong I would rather know.

 

[Juniperjan]

I'm also on tenterhooks as I had a mmc in December when I was 8 weeks along. Trying so hard to keep a lid on how I feel and not stress about it but it's so hard. Good luck

 

[RaspberryK]

Keep thinking positive! As long as there's no bleeding you have a 99% chance of everything being just fine.
My symptoms were odd this time, came and went, lack of symptoms was my biggest sign of mmc last time so obviously I worried, it'd be impossible not to.
Xx

 

[Kyliem87]

hey :waves:

I'm totally in the same boat. I promised myself I wouldn't do this to myself and I'm acting like a nutter! Haha I've had two MMC's and it appears my body doesn't recognise loss - first time was 11 weeks and second time in January this year was at 8 weeks along. Both classed as MMC's although I suspect the one this year may have been a blighted ovum although my medical notes say MMC.

I had bloods taken at 4+1 = 44, 4+3 = 77 and 4+5 = 162 which apparenly is fine because they were going up well (71% the first time and 110% the second time) and I have a scan next Friday when I'll be 6+5 and praying for better news than last time

Good luck hun

 

[Cattia]

Thanks ladies, it's good to know there are other people who understand although obviously I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Had some real bad nausea today but now stressing that my boobs don't hurt as much, I really wish I could stop this madnes! Going to ring the scan place tomorrow and try to book in for seven weeks.

 

[babytots]

Big hugs hun. I'm the same. Although my losses were years ago now the worry is still there. I had a m/c at 8 weeks a mmc at 9 weeks and a mmc at 19 weeks.

I've since gone on to have two boys but the fear of having another mmc and not knowing is really getting to me Scan isn't for another 3 weeks and we can't afford to go private. Hoping my doctor will refer me for a reassurance scan next week when I see her. x

 

[Lynn98]

Hi I am in the same boat as you guys I had a miscarrage in January this year and another etopic in June this year now it's august and Iv just found out I am pregnant again think I'm about 5 weeks and scared stiff any advise would be helpful xox