child benifits UK girls....not good news

[KaceysMummy]

Like I said earlier I don't think a child should go to nursery until they could tell you about their day there...
It would just put my mind at rest that they are happy and everything is okay
Not so I don't have to go to work or because of the news stories.
xx

Unfortunatly not everyone can do that
i leave LO in chreche 2 days a week but i feel at ease as im only upstairs so can go and check.

Yeeah and I understand that, I don't think private nurseries are wrong and no one should put their children there or that, just I personally don't like the thought but I've got my mum to help though aswell.
If your happy with it then your LO will be

xx

 

[Char.due.jan]

Char, we can post where we want to.

I dont patrol the loss sections, saying only Members with Angels can post.

As my above post says I didn't say you couldn't post here. People are allowed to post in all sections to give advice/support. Some of this thread is bullying one particular poster. I don't find that very helpful at all :s

 

[jenniferannex]

she said she wouldnt send her kid to a nusary not lock it in a room for ever ffs,. many dont. cost not so cheap either,

Never said that did I?

 

[AP]

if everyone didnt want to send their kids to nursery and actually go back out to work...who would pay your benefits for you to be able to stay at home?

Some people have to remember that some mummys are going out to work in the morning when it wouldnt be there first choice but are paying taxes and allowing you to stay at home...you dont always get something for nothing

Georgie that is a very fair point Hun. Xxx

 

[24/7]

Goodness me, what a thread?!

At the end of the day, our children are our responsibility, and in having my son it is with the expectation that I pay for him, nobody else. I will be returning to work, because I have to, I'm not in the position where I have a choice on the matter, he needs clothes, food and a roof over his head. The only way I would give up work is if my OH could support all of us, but unfortunately his wage doesn't quite cover all of our outgoings.

I am a very firm believe in that people who need help should recieve it, but it is disheartening to know this isn't always just those who have no choice that do, why? Because what I lose in tax, means I have to work more for, missing out on my own child, so others can spend time with theirs by choice, now thats whats not fair, not all the government cuts!!

Jobs are not always very local to where we live, I have spent a few years doing four hours of commuting a day, spending £100+ a week on travelling, because thats what was needed for the job I was doing, because it puts a roof over our heads.

 

[rainbows_x]

Char, we can post where we want to.

I dont patrol the loss sections, saying only Members with Angels can post.

As my above post says I didn't say you couldn't post here. People are allowed to post in all sections to give advice/support. Some of this thread is bullying one particular poster. I don't find that very helpful at all :s

No, you asked who was atually a teen & that this was the teen section, insinuating that only teens could post here!

You've posted in teen parenting before, you aren't a parent...

 

[Georgie90]

this entire thread is laughable, it really is!! and we wonder why we're in such a mess as a country

*Claps* and she took the words right out of my mouth...

 

[miss_danielle]

lay off her ffs looks like some of you are picking on danielle.

they can have as much fun as they like dragon..
they dont raise my kids and only a mother knows what/whos best for their children..
it takes 4/5 people to challenge my veiws ..
they need a little help from their friends

What? this isn't about fun I was just saying.....I really don't see why we have to fall out about this

not falling out as of my last post veiws are different and i no that .. some people dont argee with mine and i dont argee with theres..not trying to fall out with anyone just putting my point across

 

[polo_princess]

Char, we can post where we want to.

I dont patrol the loss sections, saying only Members with Angels can post.

As my above post says I didn't say you couldn't post here. People are allowed to post in all sections to give advice/support. Some of this thread is bullying one particular poster. I don't find that very helpful at all :s

challenging a persons opinion and viewpoint doesnt constitute bullying

 

[polo_princess]

miss_danielle, if you think any of my posts to you were rude, i apologise, i was merely challenging your viewpoint and moral standing on the issue since it differs so drastically to mine

 

[Georgie90]

if everyone didnt want to send their kids to nursery and actually go back out to work...who would pay your benefits for you to be able to stay at home?

Some people have to remember that some mummys are going out to work in the morning when it wouldnt be there first choice but are paying taxes and allowing you to stay at home...you dont always get something for nothing

Georgie that is a very fair point Hun. Xxx

Thanks Sand, I'm looking at it from an outside point of view, but a lot of my mummy frinds on here and at my office work because they arent happy to just sit back and take, and personally I wouldnt feel comfortable just taking something for nothing

xxx

 

[Char.due.jan]

I don't understand why people can be so bitchy and jump on other people for an argument when they post?! I've posted in teen parenting before, yes. I think I've asked for advice on prams etc. As I feel mums who've already been using the prams will have a better opinion on them.

 

[miss_danielle]

Goodness me, what a thread?!

At the end of the day, our children are our responsibility, and in having my son it is with the expectation that I pay for him, nobody else. I will be returning to work, because I have to, I'm not in the position where I have a choice on the matter, he needs clothes, food and a roof over his head. The only way I would give up work is if my OH could support all of us, but unfortunately his wage doesn't quite cover all of our outgoings.

I am a very firm believe in that people who need help should recieve it, but it is disheartening to know this isn't always just those who have no choice that do, why? Because what I lose in tax, means I have to work more for, missing out on my own child, so others can spend time with theirs by choice, now thats whats not fair, not all the government cuts!!

Jobs are not always very local to where we live, I have spent a few years doing four hours of commuting a day, spending £100+ a week on travelling, because thats what was needed for the job I was doing, because it puts a roof over our heads.

thats what ive said my children are looked after by me and so what if we need a little help my OH works and learns which limits what i can do...if i have to sit at home while he works and learns to better his job applications then thats what i need to do i carnt then decide after him working and learning o watch the kids while i work it wouldnt be fair on him

 

[v2007]

Char, we can post where we want to.

I dont patrol the loss sections, saying only Members with Angels can post.

As my above post says I didn't say you couldn't post here. People are allowed to post in all sections to give advice/support. Some of this thread is bullying one particular poster. I don't find that very helpful at all :s

Ehhhhh, i wasn't bullying her........

I was voicing my opinion.

 

[miss_danielle]

miss_danielle, if you think any of my posts to you were rude, i apologise, i was merely challenging your viewpoint and moral standing on the issue since it differs so drastically to mine

anyone that has posted comments at me i have found no affence to them nor do i think they are bullying..we as aprents will always be different and have different veiws on how to bring up children in the best possible way which many will no agree on but each to their own..i havent posted on here to cause affence to anyone or to fall out with anyone just posted my opinions and got peoples opinions in return which is what the whole point of this forum is about right? You want to ask people their opinions and advice ?

 

[Hayley90]

I personally find it difficult to read about people choosing to sit at home looking after their kids, when their OH cant afford to support them on their salary, claiming help from the government.

I would LOVE to be at home with my baby. I would give anything BUT my OH cant afford to take care of us on his salary... so i cant do that.

I dont know what gives some people the right to sit at home and claim when its a CHOICE rather than a need.

So, sorry danielle if my comments to you were harsh, but i was merely making a point and questioning your reasons.

 

[leoniebabey]

I personally find it difficult to read about people choosing to sit at home looking after their kids, when their OH cant afford to support them on their salary, claiming help from the government.

I would LOVE to be at home with my baby. I would give anything BUT my OH cant afford to take care of us on his salary... so i cant do that.

I dont know what gives some people the right to sit at home and claim when its a CHOICE rather than a need.

So, sorry danielle if my comments to you were harsh, but i was merely making a point and questioning your reasons.

I would love to getout and have a job i really honestly would love to but unfortunatly im on my own and have no family that can help out with childcare so it would be totally pointless.
I dont plan on finding a job till LO is at nursry depending if i can find something to fit the hours or if not then when he starts school.


were not all lazy mares that want to stay at home!!

 

[AP]

if everyone didnt want to send their kids to nursery and actually go back out to work...who would pay your benefits for you to be able to stay at home?

Some people have to remember that some mummys are going out to work in the morning when it wouldnt be there first choice but are paying taxes and allowing you to stay at home...you dont always get something for nothing

Georgie that is a very fair point Hun. Xxx

Thanks Sand, I'm looking at it from an outside point of view, but a lot of my mummy frinds on here and at my office work because they arent happy to just sit back and take, and personally I wouldnt feel comfortable just taking something for nothing

xxx

Ironically the nursery i was based in, i would say 90% of the parents worked for a massive certain bank
Ok, so for me,(obviously) 6 weeks is too early to drop the lil one off there and go to work, but some people just have to make that decision, which funds the benefits and grants we speak of.

Its just not a valid excuse to stay at home on benefits.

Aaaaanyway, thread related question. Sure Start grant. Is it first child only from april, or one application only, as i have read in another thread.

The answer to that could be bendficial to those who werent entitled with pregnancies before but may be now....

 

[miss_danielle]

I personally find it difficult to read about people choosing to sit at home looking after their kids, when their OH cant afford to support them on their salary, claiming help from the government.

I would LOVE to be at home with my baby. I would give anything BUT my OH cant afford to take care of us on his salary... so i cant do that.

I dont know what gives some people the right to sit at home and claim when its a CHOICE rather than a need.

So, sorry danielle if my comments to you were harsh, but i was merely making a point and questioning your reasons.

YOUR OPINIONS ARE YOUR OWN AND TO WHO EVER SAID PEOPLE WERE PICKING ON ME (A POSTER) IM NOT REALLY BOTHERED ABOUT IT EVERYONES GOT THEIR OWN OPINIONS AND THEIR ARE SOME THINGS I WOULDNT DO THAT OTHER PEOPLE WOULD OUR CHILDREN ARE OUR OWN TO BRING UP HOW WE SEE IS BEST..

AND I WOULD LOVE TO GO TO WORK JUST TO GET A COUPLE OF HOURS NO HAVING A CONVERSATION IN BABY TALK
IM NOT LAZY AND NEVER HAVE BEEN IVE WORKED MY SHARE AND WILL GO BACK TO WORK AND DO MY SHARE BUT AT THE MOMENT I NEED TO BE AT HOME .WHILE oh WORKS AND LEARNS

 

[24/7]

I personally find it difficult to read about people choosing to sit at home looking after their kids, when their OH cant afford to support them on their salary, claiming help from the government.

I would LOVE to be at home with my baby. I would give anything BUT my OH cant afford to take care of us on his salary... so i cant do that.

I dont know what gives some people the right to sit at home and claim when its a CHOICE rather than a need.

So, sorry danielle if my comments to you were harsh, but i was merely making a point and questioning your reasons.

Seconded!!

We all have to adapt and live within our means, not what the government can provide us, because just because they will, doesn't mean we can all just take. I'd love a second child, but I won't be able to, atleast not for a long time, as we cannot afford it, but I accept that and will enjoy our son when he arrives, to make up for this, I would love to be there for him all the time, but I still can't do that.

This thread highlights once again how unfair the system is, and reminds me once again that only good can come from all of these changes, such a scrapping the hipp grant and SS grant only for first children.