child benifits UK girls....not good news

[KaceysMummy]

I think its right to work to be able to support your family - mum, dad, mum and dad, whatevers needed.
Although there is working, then there is working too much, to the point where you never see you own child? I don't agree with that, its not fair on them really...

 

[Georgie90]

I think its right to work to be able to support your family - mum, dad, mum and dad, whatevers needed.
Although there is working, then there is working too much, to the point where you never see you own child? I don't agree with that, its not fair on them really...[/QUOTE]

yeah really? Nor is not being able to feed them...

 

[KaceysMummy]

I said working right, if your working you could feed them...
but there is working too much, like 24/7.

Like when I was a child my mum was always home, my dad only worked and I was able to go home tell my mum about my day, have a family dinner etc. But my best friends parent worked all the time to the point where she went to a child minder every day after school until half 7 then it was home to bed when parents picked her up...didn't leave much time for interaction and time together and weekends she went to all the clubs sort of things.
Thats the sort of thing I meant I didn't agree with.
Although her parents worked her socks off to get her all the best toys, big expensive holidays and designer labels she said the only thing she'd really have wanted was their time...

xx

 

[booflebump]

Sometimes KC, parents need to work just to give their kids the basics, and I think they should be applauded for making sacrifices and putting themselves through so much heartache to provide for their kids

 

[Hayley90]

I cant win can i?

Leonie, my post wasn't aimed at you and i realise its more difficult for you as you're a single mum. I wouldnt lump everyone together and leave it at that.

Kacey's mum -working too much? like me you mean? id rather earn it than claim it. im eating so cant type loads, sorry if blunt.

 

[Georgie90]

I see what u mean now hun, my friend gets made to feel guilty for working full time xx

 

[xerinx]

Shocked at some peoples ethics!!!!

 

[KaceysMummy]

Hayley90 - working too much, yeah but have you read my post under it some people might get confused as to what I mean, I don't mean working full time, I mean 24/7.
It may be like you if you work all the time, like I said earlier it might mean you can get everything for your LO which is good, just make sure you give them your time too
And I don't claim it either...

Georgie90 - working full time is fine babe, normally 9-5 shifts, which is good, means home for family dinner and that Everyone should be working full time!

xx

 

[Hayley90]

Kacey's Mummy - finished food now so i can explain more fully!!!

I work full time, but apply those hours to a child's routine and there isnt a lot of time left to spend with them at all. Im working from home currently (for the last 2 weeks) and its stressful, so no doubt i'll end up back in the office. My hours are 10 - 6pm. So, Harrison wakes up at around 9am, i feed him for 30 minutes then leave for work. I get home at 6.30-7pm, he is already eating dinner. Then its bath, food, bed.

He sleeps through, then it starts over.



Although i HATE that, its normal. Its what NEEDS to be done. So its all well and good saying "you work too much" but if thats what you have to do to earn enough, then it should be done. Its a shame yes, but kids need to know that to get their fancy toys, holidays etc their parents need to work for it.

There shouldnt be a "oh i work too much, im gonna quit"... it should be "lets find something else that fits better so i can earn the same"

Do i make sense? My brain is fried, and to be honest this thread is heartbreaking for me. I'd give anything to sit at home everyday, and play with harrison instead of sitting on a laptop answering emails and marketing things i know nothing about.

 

[Nicoleoleole]

For me, I understand not wanting to put your child in daycare. I honestly do. I have a very 'high needs' child who would scream and cry all day because she wants someone to hold her 24/7 and for a daycare, that can't happen. But we are financially able to have me stay home with her until she is old enough and gets more dependent. BUT if we were on benefits, theres no way I would stay at home. I would find a way to get my LO a daycare that would go to her 'needs.' I even considered moving back a few states home to my parents and have my little sister watch her while I work if we ever needed to make more money.
I just don't see how someone can stay at home and live off of benefits and not even try.

 

[country_girl8]

i would much rather stay at home and look after my 3 girls myself then go to work full time n miss out or part time and it make me no better off what so ever!...my husband works full time so i think i have a right to stay at home and get my tax credits to help me out

 

[Hayley90]

^^ But (as already stated in the thread) you wouldnt be worse off. The benefits system is being overhauled so people are better off working than they are on benefits.

Its just going in circles here... so im out.

 

[AP]

Country_girl8 you have an OH who supports you financially, no-one can judge you for that hunny

 

[jenniferannex]

i would much rather stay at home and look after my 3 girls myself then go to work full time n miss out or part time and it make me no better off what so ever!...my husband works full time so i think i have a right to stay at home and get my tax credits to help me out[/

 

[jenniferannex]

Sorry, just re read post, you didn't say live off, I apologize, ignore my post! I need to read slower

 

[KaceysMummy]

Hayley90 - For someone like you I can see your total dedicated to you CHILD!! Which working all hours is fine as long as its for them. But what I was meaning is all the people who strive in business want to be a big manger and have flashy cars and loads of money, yeah they can give their kids everything but their job and money comes before there children, its them sort of parents that work that I don't agree with. Like on wife swap or some stupid show i was watching the parents owned a B&B, their dream fair enough, but made their kids get up every morning to clean it etc and all their time was put into running their business and not their children. Im not the best at explaining things, hope you understand me now...I've got nothing against mums working, in fact I think its totally right to work, if you have kids you should support them.

You clearly would do anything for your LO and at the end of the day thats all thats important you child and well done you!!

xx

 

[country_girl8]

yeh i dont live off benefits! my husband works full time and he actually walks 5 miles to work in the rain because he cant drive....Hayley90 im sorry but u have no idea how expensive cornwall is to live in and how hard it is t find a job that pays for that £8000 a yr!! i am not willing to go work all hrs never see my kids to b in the same financial situation....its a very low paid area and the cost of living is extortionate and very temp due to it being a holiday resort.

 

[Freckz]

I think if everyone lived within their means whether it be on benefits or not then the system would be a lot better in general.
Our current way of living has spoilt us all and we forgot what are essentials and what aren't.
Many people think that subscriptions to tv, broadband and phones and even having are car are essential but they aren't. These are luxuries and generally if you're struggling with your current financial state then maybe it should be time to consider cancelling one or two of these luxuries.
Me and OH have been in both situations, we are a lot better off with him working but if I worked too and had to pay full time child care fees then it works out for us to be about £20 a week better off and I don't see the point when our nursery choice would make us still supply formula and nappies etc, We'd be spending that extra £20 just on the things for her to go to nursery with.
Benefits is and shouldn't be a long term solution as some have said, I totally agree with that and I think too many people rely on these grants. Yes, we had them but we didn't rely on them, we could buy everything we needed without them, they were "extra money" to help supply us with "extras" for bubba.
Old fashioned way and saving for what you want and cutting back on things you don't need will always and IS better. People should do that more.

 

[jenniferannex]

yeh i dont live off benefits! my husband works full time and he actually walks 5 miles to work in the rain because he cant drive....Hayley90 im sorry but u have no idea how expensive cornwall is to live in and how hard it is t find a job that pays for that £8000 a yr!! i am not willing to go work all hrs never see my kids to b in the same financial situation....its a very low paid area and the cost of living is extortionate and very temp due to it being a holiday resort.

I deleted my post and apologised as I read it wrong...

 

[Lil-woowoo]

Well ive no choice but to work full time, we simply couldnt afford to live of my partners earnings. I work long shifts (13.5 hours) as i am a staff nurse, i may only get to see my son for a wee while in the evenings before he goes to bed but i also only work 3 days a week which means i have 4 days off with him which i get to make up for when i am working. I love my career and my son and i am lucky i can have both but also that i can provide for my children so they have a nice life. I was a teen mum with my son but ive always been in full-time education and working to provide for him so been lucky ive not had to claim benefits, though when i finished uni i was unemployed for a few months and we simply had no choice to live off my partners wages and eat into savings as i was too proud to claim jobseekers. I agree though benefits should be a short term solution x