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[sarah2211]

Yeah I just really don’t want to end up with another emergency one. I think they consider it an emergency c section in your situation because it wasn’t when it was ‘planned’. It might not have been a life threatening one at that point but if your waters break before the date (even slightly before) I think they still call it an ‘emergency’ one.

Only 6 more days until we find out (if he/she cooperates!).

Haha men and wanting a son! I hope you do. Will you guys wait a while? DH today said he’d like a third but I really don’t think my body can go through this again. I’d like to do a really good job and give everything to the 2 we’ll have and not feel overstretched

 

[Nita2806]

Yeah, all my stuff for the medical aid and bills are for an emergency C Section. I still think it was all chilled. The surgery itself took a lot longer this time as well. Today I walked to the shops, feel pretty great, friends of ours looked at me and couldnt believe I had a CS just 2 weeks ago.

I really cant wait, I hope he/she cooperates and I cqnt believe you are halfway there!! The last bit is the hardest, but it will be worth it. I found it easier to adapt with this baby as well, I cant imagine my life now with only 1 child.

We will definately wait a few years, no waaaaays I am putting my body through this any time soon again. I think we will end up only having the 2 girls.

 

[ttc126]

Nita so glad you’re doing well!

Sarah, I can’t believe you’re nearly halfway!!!!!

I’m 15 weeks today! I finally feel less anxious all the time which is nice. Hyperemesis really kicked my butt this time. This is my last baby too. I thought we were done at 3!

 

[sarah2211]

I’m glad your recovering is going well Nita! That’s pretty impressive. I was still struggling to walk to the bathroom at 2 weeks. It sounds like you’re managing the two girls really well! I’m thinking it’s going to be super full on in our house after the new baby is here. W is full on, he’s so much fun but he’s busy.

It’s definitely tough on the body. I don’t know how people have lots and lots of babies. Like my MIL had 7. I’m exhausted now.

It’s crazy I’m almost half way. My scan is on Friday. DH reckons it’s a girl and I think boy. I’ll let you know as soon as I know!

I had the high risk OB today. He wants me on Clexane injections again but my hematologist said it wasn’t really necessary so at this stage I’ve said no thanks. I’ll be having regular growth scans and being monitored closely. The OB recommended an elective c section at 38-39 weeks but said if I wanted to try for a VBAC he would support that. He said “but we will talk more about that closer to the time, if things are not going perfectly to plan then I wouldn’t be recommending a VBAC”. So if my BP behaves, baby grows well etc then I might do a VBAC otherwise it’ll be a c section.

TTC, I’m sorry you’re having such a tough time with HG. If I could get rid of any pregnancy symptom it would 100% be the nausea and vomiting. I did see today that mums who have bad morning sickness/HG often end up with more intelligent children haha. Probably not a legit study but I’ll take it.

 

[Nita2806]

Good to hear from you TTC, so sorry you have been feeling under the weather. I cant believe you are so far along already, wow. When are you finding out the gender? Maybe a girl after the 3 boys

Sarah, its good the OB is respecting your choices and is willing to try VBAC. You still have plenty of time though, I hope things go smoother this time. My OB said often women who strugle with high BP in the first pregnancy have normal BP in the next (she was right mine stayed pretty low - normal right through) hope it is the same for you.

I am soooo excited to hear what the gender is, I will likely stalk this page on Friday to find out, hee hee.

 

[sarah2211]

It’s still a difficult decision to make. If it wasn’t for the recovery, I’d go for an elective but I’m really scared about being so sore after. Also, not being able to drive sucks. And DH will stay at home overnight to look after W. And based on my experience last time, the midwives and nurses in hospital were so overworked and I got no support from them. Plus all my family and in laws are away/not able to take time off work then. So I don’t know how I’ll cope.

So far, my BP has been all good. My midwife said you can never tell, for lots of women it isn’t a problem in the second pregnancy but we still need to monitor closely. The OB said because I had the same father for both pregnancies then the risk is still there.

Less than 24 hours!! Haha.

 

[Nita2806]

Not being able to drive sucks!! I am 3 weeks pp today and so ready to get my life back, I am so tempted to drive, I feel fine though, absolutely no pain, but I just dont take the chance. I will probably start to drive when I am 5 weeks pp. I hope this time things are different and you get some support from the hospital staff. I was so lucky this time, the hospital have space for like 30 women, but we were only 3, the staff was so chilled and sometimes they just came by to chat or say hello. Also 1 shower in the maternity ward, so this time there was no ques, I even showered for half an hour on the last day, because I can lol.

Its good you are so closely monitored, rather safe than sorry.


Eeeek, I cant wait

 

[ttc126]

Just curious why you all have such long driving restrictions? I was driving before two weeks were up both times I had a c section... do your countries do it differently?

Ahhhh can’t wait to hear what you’re having Sarah!

 

[Nita2806]

Ttc, the rule here is no driving for 6 weeks. You need the go ahead from the OB qt the 6 week check up. We have this rule for 2 reasons, 1. They say takes the time it takes to heal properly enough to drive and 2. Insurance companies dont pay if you are in an accident and had a CS less than 6 weeks ago. So not really like we cqnt or dont want to, but thats how it is here.

 

[ttc126]

Ttc, the rule here is no driving for 6 weeks. You need the go ahead from the OB qt the 6 week check up. We have this rule for 2 reasons, 1. They say takes the time it takes to heal properly enough to drive and 2. Insurance companies dont pay if you are in an accident and had a CS less than 6 weeks ago. So not really like we cqnt or dont want to, but thats how it is here.

Wow that’s a long time to wait! Here you have to be cleared by the OB, but the only restriction they’ve placed on me in the past was going 3 days without any narcotics before driving. I think here if you get in an accident before the OB clears you it’s an insurance issue.
I hope the rest of the time passes quickly for you!!!!!

 

[ttc126]

Also, it’s not like I think the US does a good job of taking care of women during or after pregnancy. It’s crazy how fast we’re supposed to be “fine.” I’d actually love if we were supposed to take more time to actually heal.

 

[sarah2211]

The driving thing sucks. It’s recommended 6 weeks here. The OB said you might feel fine and be ok to drive but if you have to brake suddenly then that’s when there’s the problem. I waited until 6-7 weeks last time.

I forgot about how you pretty much have to go back to work straight away in the US. I do not know how you could even think about work that soon after a baby!

Did you not have your own bathroom/shower Nita?! Here, if you have a c section you get your own bathroom/shower to minimise the risk of infection.

About to go pick up hubby to go to the scan!!

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

I had emergency section in 05 and 06, I wasn't allowed to drive for 6 weeks.

My ovarian cancer surgery last year, I couldnt drive for 2 weeks.
I'm in the US.

Last cycle didnt work out and this FE cycle I am sick and trying to figure out if my cancer is back so NTNP I guess.

My 1st section was emergency, my 2nd wasnt. 1st was placenta abruption. 2nd was failure to progress and I wasnt educated enough at the time to push the issue like I am now. I would have told them to get me a new OB and ask for pitocin.

But I'm stubborn. Lol

 

[drjo718]

Hi ladies! I just came across this thread tonight and thought I'd join. I'm 34, and DH and I are ttc #3. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks in June 2015. I was later diagnosed with PCOS (which always assumed I had), hyperprolactinemia, and a submuscosal uterine fibroid. I had surgery and went on meds, including femara (Clomid didn't make me ovulate), and conceived my daughter on my 2nd cycle.

When I got my first postpartum cycle, I took femara again, and conceived my son on my 2nd cycle. I then conceived spontaneously with my 1st postpartum ovulation, but miscarried very early. I waited for another period (which took 3 months), and started femara again. I conceived on the 2nd cycle yet again, but miscarried very early again.

I'm now in my 2nd cycle of femara again (noticing the trend??), and got my bfp at 9dpo on April 1. Im nervous but hopeful. I'm liking my line progression so far, and feeling better about this one.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Congrats!!

I did Clomid and FE years ago and I ovulated 50% of the time and that was with cancer!

I am on cycle 2 of FE and od last cycle, waiting to O this cycle but I have been sick and I'm not supposed to be TTC this cycle.

 

[sarah2211]

Another boy!!

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Yay!!!!!!!

 

[Nita2806]

Ttc, do you get maternity leave in the US? I think in South Africa its nice that we are supposed to take time ti heal but thats not me, I took a few days off afterwards the birth and then started working from home again. I would love to be able to drive again and just do things as normal, even though I have no pain, I feel pressure when I overdo it.

Sarah, we have a huge maternity ward at the hospital I go to, we have standard and private rooms, my medical aid dont pay for a private room so I havr been in a standard room with both births, which means I share the room. It only have 2 beds for 2 patients and a bathroom with a toilet and a bath. The whole ward then share a shower, but they clean it everytime someone showers. I dont know if the private rooms have their own showers though. The hospital is quite old and those days women did not have CS as easily as now, hence the baths..

Congrats on another boy, how do you and hubby feel about it?

Welcome drjo718 - sorry you had so many MCs, I hope this one is a sticky bean, keep us updated!!

I hope your luck change soon OnEarth, I hope you feel better xx

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

We get maternity leave here. 4-6weeks. Sometimes unpaid though. Just for moms.

I got a + OPK tonight.

 

[ttc126]

First, congratulations Sarah! My two older boys are so close. I love watching them grow up together.

If I were still working in my field, I wouldn’t get any paid maternity leave. I stay home with our boys now because childcare costs are totally outrageous in my area. My husband’s job recently started giving “parental leave” fully paid for 12 weeks for moms OR dads. It’s amazing! We hope he can take advantage of that because c section recovery with 3 other kids is going to be tricky. Last time my husband went back right away so it was really tough especially because my then not-quite-three year old still needed me to lift him at times.