[CLOSED] ex-SMEP ladies waiting for lightening to strike.

[Akayj]

I understand your feelings, Akayj. It's very healthy to have that attitude. Do things that make you happy until you get your BFP (then, continue to do things that make you happy).

I never have gotten very sad with AF either. I tend to get sad at other times in the month though. Every now and then it will just hit me randomly. I'll think about how long it has taken, and I'll wonder how long it will take until we're successful. I'm almost 32, so I am feeling some pressure, I must admit. Instead of worrying about it though, I have, like you, been working out most days of the week. I have decided to get myself in the best shape of my life while I wait. My best friend has two daughters under the age of 2, and she is jealous of the time I have to do things for myself (like go to the gym). It's all a matter of perspective.

Having a baby is going to be life-changing and very difficult at times. It is wonderful if you are able to embrace life for what it is at the moment.

I have a friend with 2 under 2 and I look at her and I think man I'm not sure what I would do in that situation, I guess I just second guess myself. I also think that when I have a kid I will have someone to share my cool experiences with that will live longer than me, but Im in no real hurry for that to get here, I guess you could say. So the arrived fully this morning now to go workout haha! I didn't want to sound crazy because I know that there are people who get really sad every month AF shows and I didn't want to hurt any feelings. I don't think age is always a factor I have known alot of women to get pregnant in thier 40's and have healthy no complicated pregnancies so it can happen! Hope you get your soon!

 

[Lionchild]

The main thing with me is both the timing and my age. I am in a doctoral program and my research and teaching situation allows me a very flexible schedule right now. I work from home most of the time. DH works a lot, but he is also the boss, so he can move his schedule around. I'll be done writing my dissertation in no more than two and a half years. After that, I'll either look for a tenure-track position or a post-doc. Either way, it's going to be a lot more hectic than now, and it will continue to be crazy until I have a tenured position.

We would like to have one biological child, and then we plan to adopt a kid out of the foster system later on. This is really the ideal time to have a baby for us—but of course, you can't always plan these things. For now, I'll continue to wait patiently with you Akayj (and all you other strong women). If I'm not pregnant by the end-of the-year, DH and I are taking a trip to SE Asia next Jan., so at least I have that to look forward to!

Sorry for such a long post that goes on and on about myself. I hope you had a good workout today, Akayj!

How are you doing Lilly, ProfWife, Wy, and anyone else I missed?

 

[Akayj]

SE Asia sounds fun... Cant get the hubby to jump the pound hehe!

 

[LillyTame]

Hi ladies :wave:

Eh, I'm just hanging around. Got another 1.5 wk before I ovulate

SE Asia does sound like an awesome experience! It's nice to have something to look forward to like that....think I'll start planning our next big trip!

 

[ProfWife]

Currently hacking my lungs out. I have been sick all week with a fever and a hacking cough. I was getting fertile CM, and hubs was a trooper and risked infection to BD anyway 2 nights.

No tenderness right now; so, I don't know if I Oed or if it shut down due to the infection and will happen later.

Emotionally, I'm getting a little depressed because of Mother's Day. I'm trying not to, but it's hard with everyone on my Facebook posting about feeling their first kicks, getting their gender ultrasounds, making little butterflies with their little ones' feet. I could just use a day without the reminder...and the reminders get worse the closer we get to Sunday. Just trying to get through the next few weeks so I can be out of school for the summer and we can finally relax (hubs graduated with his M.S. last week).



What about everyone else?

 

[Lionchild]

Sorry to hear you are sick, Profwife. That really is the worst timing! Sick sex is no fun. I hope you feel better soon!

I completely understand your feelings about FB and Mother's Day. Maybe stay away from it for several days until all the Mother's Day stuff has passed? The other day I went on and an entire page of newsfeed was baby photos. I logged right back off. I'm very happy for all of them, I just find I don't need a constant reminder of my inability to get pregnant.
Congrats on the DH's accomplishment! I hope you are feeling healthy again so that you can celebrate!

AF is here. It wasn't IB. Oh well, I'll be on a 3 week vacation starting at the beginning of June, so at least I won't be facing morning sickness.

 

[ProfWife]

Just got a Z-pack, Flonase and a few other medications to stave this off...as I was checking out the cashier wished me a Happy Mother's Day. Oy, just what I needed...

 

[Akayj]

Just got a Z-pack, Flonase and a few other medications to stave this off...as I was checking out the cashier wished me a Happy Mother's Day. Oy, just what I needed...

Hope you get to feeling better ASAP.

 

[LillyTame]

Blah! What a dry month for us! *pout*

Whose left? Lionchild, Profwife, Akayj and me right? Is everyone looking at June now? Lionchild...will you be taking a break during your vacation?

I'm still in it for May...should be ovulating within the next 5-8 days. Which means I may not have a period in May...woohoo lol. I will be due to test the last couple of days of May...so I might get AF Jun 1 and barely miss May. Or I might not get AF at all...that's the plan right?! lol

 

[ProfWife]

I should still be in May. I'm still not having the normal tenderness, but I am having some really light but noticeable cramping (almost like ov cramps). According to the Crieghton Method, I Oved last week. I didn't do any OPKs; so I'm sort of flying blind this month. Should be safe to do my progesterone blood work on Saturday unless I get fertile signs again.

I should be testing in about a week and a half, but I may just wait since I won't know if I'm precisely 10 or 13 days (which is a big difference in the testing world).

 

[LillyTame]

So true...10-13 is a huge difference lol

So you aren't supposed to check your progesterone if you are having fertile signs? Why not?

 

[Lionchild]

Lilly, I hope you O when you expect to. Catch that eggy!!!

I should O before I leave on vacation. I leave on the 28th and I should O around the 26th. I've decided not to use OPKs this month. We're just going to BD every other day (more if we feel like it) until I leave and see what happens. DH is flying out to meet me 5 days after I leave, so hopefully the timing works out. I'm on cd 5 today.

Profwife- Good Luck!! I hope you have good news to share next week!!

 

[ProfWife]

Lilly - Progesterone is low the first half of your cycle and spikes shortly after ovulation. It's the progesterone that makes your temperature rise with BBT. Progesterone drops as you get closer to your cycle, which is what starts your period.

The fertile signs (like ov pain and EWCM) are usually caused by the rising estrogen (which continues to rise until ovulation when it drops off some).

Thanks for the wishes, Lionchild.

 

[PrettyPixie]

Can i please join this thread? Its my first month on the SMEP. Been trying for a long time now and getting really despondent. Had a stillbirth on 25.12.2011. i think my age counts against me as i am 41yrs old but i dont want to give up just yet..just want to try that one last time.

 

[Lionchild]

Hi, PrettyPixie. Welcome!!!

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. That must have been incredibly painful for you. I can't even imagine how you pull yourself together after such a loss. Thank goodness for human resiliency!

I do understand the sadness and stress that comes with TTC for a long time. It hasn't been so long for me (14 months), but it's been long enough for me to worry about it. Do you have any children, or is it your first? Do you have any known fertility issues?

I hope you get your BFP with SMEP! We're here for support while you wait! Lots and lots of BD to you!

 

[LillyTame]

Hi PrettyPixie! :wave: Welcome to the thread! I'm hoping your first time SMEPing will be all you need!

So sorry to hear about your loss

 

[PrettyPixie]

Hi Girls...thank you for all the welcomes. I have 2 children. DD Age:20 and DD12 Age:12.
My Angel Baby was a DS. I am 41yrs and my DH is 37yrs. My DH is loving all the BD'ing and we are remaining hopeful. After the devastating loss of our DS we made a conscious decision not to TTC again..my husband was completely and utterly heartbroken. We moved away from home to gather our thoughts and come to terms with our loss and it has honestly done us the world of good..i think it was what we needed at the time. We are returning home in the near future and we so excited. The specialist has said we have no reason not to try again so i dont think i have fertility issues..i just have time against me with regards to my age. We are both so excited at the prospect of ttc again..(with DH loving all the bd'ing..)...so here's sprinkling lots of babydust on all of us..x

 

[Cutler101]

Me & hubby tried it before a few months ago and got a BFN . We tried it again this month & yesterday i got a faint positive at 7DPO . going for blood work tomorrow at 9DPO . plan to test Sunday if not then Tuesday the latest . FX for me . we've been ttc for 11mnts now .

to all you ladies .

 

[LillyTame]

Congratulations Cutler! Thanks for giving us some hope and come back and share a non-squinter with us!

Hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

 

[LillyTame]

Anyone adding anything to their plan for their next cycle?

There are some things I'd fallin off doing that I'll be readding....softcups, preseed, gauifenesin, hips up, orgasm before/after "deposit"...the whole nine yards! lol

We've had 2 BD sessions so far, but my OPKs are still basically blank *pout*, but looking over past OPK progression...I won't start to see a change till tomorrow and I will probably OV Sunday...well I guess I should say I'll get my darkest peak on Sunday...maaaybe Saturday.