[CLOSED] ex-SMEP ladies waiting for lightening to strike.

[Wytrease]

Hi ladies how are you all
doing

 

[ProfWife]

Hey, Wytrease, I'm in a roller coaster right now. I'll do fine for a few hours, then something will happen and I'll get angry or sobby. If one more person announces this weekend, I think I'll have a breakdown.

We were going to go with an ultrasound guided timing, but I've been thinking long and hard about that. What is that going to tell us that my body isn't telling me already? How will that be any different from the microscopes, OPKs, or CM monitoring? It could verify right or left, but I'm not convinced that matters as much for us as the doc said initially.

I've decided to return to my first doctor temporarily. I want a second opinion. I'm going to call later this week (when I have some time) and ask for a script for CD 3 bloodwork, for CD 21 bloodwork (so I can do those two with my next cycle) and ask for an ultrasound to check the cysts on my ovaries. My cycles have started becoming more regular since I've been on the FertilAid and I'd like to see if there is any difference. I've noticed less ovarian pain as well. I'm going to request copies be sent from my doc here to my doc there as well for comparison. I want the doc to see if I do have a cervical polyp and if that can be dealt with as well.

Certainly a long list.

Granted, it would be VERY nice if I could scrap all that due to getting a BFP on my birthday, but I guess we'll find out how the next month and a half goes.

In the meantime, hubby is finishing a 3-year leadership program cycle this month, graduates with his Master's next week, and I'll be finishing school at the end of May. A grueling year coming to a close.


How are you???? :-D

 

[LillyTame]

Hi wytrease :wave: how are you?

Wow ProfWife, that was a mouthful! lol But it sounds like you have a good plan. I have so many questions for my doc but I have to wait till Nov to ask! That will mark our year of trying....I wish I hadn't said we were trying back then so that I could just lie now and jump ahead, but now my doc knows. Oh well. Anyway, I hope you get some answers and they are positive or even better a BFP! When is your birthday?

AFM, major temp drop today, just like 2/3 of my last cycles....I usually start spotting the next day. So on to cycle 5! I kinda tried to go NTNP this cycle but that didn't work All I ended up doing was wasting a cycle. But I'm back on board for SMEPing cycle 5

 

[ProfWife]

Lilly - I'm convinced there is no such thing as wasting a cycle. If you BD during the month, it was a useful month. I don't see why you can't ask your doctor your questions. I haven't been trying a year yet (not until October). I'd at least try asking them for some input. I'd understand no treatments yet, but laying the groundwork shouldn't be out of the question.

Birthday is mid-May (19th). I'm on CD 3 right now. I should be O-ing on or the day after Mother's Day (US). How coincidental!

 

[LillyTame]

My insurance doesn't allow for extra visits...just once a year, unless I had an abnormal pap or something. That's with the OB/GYN. My regular PCP is a Nurse Practitioner that doesn't have the OB/GYN experience to answer my questions. So when I see my OB/GYN in Nov I can get recommendations/referrals as needed then. I'm actually a veteran and my health care is covered to an extent. They really try to avoid excessive appts, which is understandable. If my OB/GYN thinks I should start seeing a FS then I will have to pay for that out of pocket as I will get no help from my insurance for fertility issues. Depending on what is said then I would just look into getting insurance through my work if that would help with fertility related visits.

 

[ProfWife]

Do you have any underlying conditions like PCOS or irregular periods? If there's an underlying issue, you might be able to squeeze in an additional visit for a secondary issue. Normally mine only covers 100% the annual visit then charges a copay for additional specialist visits afterwards. I'm surprised yours doesn't since the health care with vets has a reputation for being better than ours (my co-workers refuse the benefits from the school to opt for military since he's retired Army).

Depending on the questions, you might be able to just call in and see if they can call back. Sometimes my doc would just call in things like blood work and call me with the results in years past. Perhaps yours would do that as well?

 

[LillyTame]

Nope, no other conditions that would justify me seeing her early. And they specifically don't cover fertility issues so I couldn't just see her for that. The V.A. is really cracking down on specialty visits...routine primary care is always open to going in whenever you need to. If I lived somewhere that had a V.A. hospital and was seen by a V.A. OB/Gyn it would be different...but it's a higher cost seeing a non-VA doc, so they don't cover anything but routine visits or like you said secondary issues that REQUIRE follow up. Like once I get pregnant, they will cover me and baby post-natal care only for 6 wks. Part of the issue is I'm on an island with only a small primary care clinic, not a V.A. hospital that would have all those other specialties. So everything is an extra cost to be sent out.

I'm going to poke around more once I hit the 6 cycle mark and see what I can do though....I just know right now I keep getting told no no no, gotta be trying 1 yr but VA wont cover FS.

 

[ProfWife]

That really stinks! Is there even a VA hospital in Hawaii? I'd never even really considered that there wouldn't be easy access depending on which island you were on.

 

[LillyTame]

Nope...they basically utilize Tripler which is an Army medical center but even that is on Oahu.

 

[Lionchild]

Lilly, I hope your BFP comes soon so you don't have to worry about the out-of-pocket expenses. My grad-student insurance that comes with my fellowship doesn't cover fertility treatments or specialists either, so we'll be holding out until late in the year. I hope we don't ever make it to that point though. I looked at your charts and there's no update on the hpt. You decided not to test today?

ProfWife, I'm sorry you're going through some emotional ups-and-downs. I definitely have those periods. TTC over many months is emotionally draining. I hope you feel better about things soon. Congrats on finishing school though!! What program degrees are you and DH working on? At least that extra stress is coming to an end (hopefully).

Wy- I got a positive OPK today! WOOOOHOOOO!!!! Today is CD16. This cycle we BD'd on cd 8, 10, 12, 15, and 16(today). We will BD the next three days because DH and I are determined to get our sticky BFP this cycle! Mark my words ladies! I am sick of TTC! I am going to see that second line in two weeks! We're using Preseed (as usual), I'm taking B-complex and I've added an extra 50mg of B6 to help with my luteal phase. This will also be the first time I use progesterone cream. I'll start it after I've had two days of negative OPKs. As soon as I get a BFP, my doctor is going to call in a prescription of progesterone suppositories. I feel very positive about this cycle!

 

[Wytrease]

Lilly I hope your BFP comes sooner rather than later

Prowife I'm so sorry you are going through the ups and downs but try not to stress

LionChild congrats in the positive opk & I just love your positive attitude toward this cycle Speak that BFP into Existence


AFM even though I am NtNp this cycle I have still managed to follow SMEP minus the opk's... I am taking the stress free approach for the next couple of months I stopped temping & taking opks so we will see how this turns out I think I am on cd 15 which makes me 2 or 3 dpo based on my last couple of cycles

 

[Akayj]

Well ladies I never got a +OPK was supposed to yesterday didn't happen but I had a jump in temp today not sure what is really going on eh we will see. I didn't get to yesterday was out way to late lol! Maybe today. Still hope Im in the running lol! I will keep yall posted!

KEEP YOUR HEADS UP LADIES WE WILL GET THAT SOON ENOUGH!

 

[LillyTame]

Thank you Lionchild! FX'd this is IT for you!
No I didn't test yesterday nor will I today. With that temp drop I just gave up and I'm waiting on AF to show. IF she doesn't show by the end of tomorrow I MIGHT start to let myself get a little excited and test the following morning.

Thanks Wytrease, same to you hun!

Akayj - so did you get a close pos and then it started to fade or what? What kind of OPKs do you use? The smilies or internet cheapies?

 

[ProfWife]

ProfWife, I'm sorry you're going through some emotional ups-and-downs. I definitely have those periods. TTC over many months is emotionally draining. I hope you feel better about things soon. Congrats on finishing school though!! What program degrees are you and DH working on? At least that extra stress is coming to an end (hopefully).

He's graduating with his Master's in Interactive Simulation and Training Systems. For me, it's just the end of a school year (I'm a teacher). I got my Master's in English Education in 2011.

We just got back from a day trip to the other side of the state to see a beautiful garden/park. Now he's working on the yard, and I'm working on thank you notes to participants in a ministry I work with at church. It's a first weekend "off" of the stress.

 

[LillyTame]

well just my first hint of spotting *sniffle* I was pretty much holding onto a thread of hope that wouldn't show

 

[Lionchild]

well just my first hint of spotting *sniffle* I was pretty much holding onto a thread of hope that wouldn't show

So sorry, Lilly.

 

[Akayj]

Thank you Lionchild! FX'd this is IT for you!
No I didn't test yesterday nor will I today. With that temp drop I just gave up and I'm waiting on AF to show. IF she doesn't show by the end of tomorrow I MIGHT start to let myself get a little excited and test the following morning.

Thanks Wytrease, same to you hun!

Akayj - so did you get a close pos and then it started to fade or what? What kind of OPKs do you use? The smilies or internet cheapies?

Smilies and the lines got dark but never a positive. Also I think it didn't work because I got a smiley on it before lol. We will see tho got a lot of in so I'm in the tww because the bbs are tender like normal.

 

[LillyTame]

Yea and I see your temp went up, Akayj. I sure hope you got it!

 

[Akayj]

Me 2! But i don't think so based on the non +OPK. but we will see!

 

[ProfWife]

Lilly -

Akayj - It's possible your surge was just short and you missed it between tests. Some can be incredibly short. Perhaps it just didn't take much for you to release this month. Praying this is the perfect egg and that you caught it!