{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[hanrh]

oh no tcinks - i really feel for you. The bleeding is the worst as it feels like you are in a state of limbo! Good luck with the doctor - hoping it is af and you can start ttc very soon! are you finding your emotions are very up and down at the moment? Ive found ill just start crying randomly during the day with nothing that actually sets me off!

I have been temping since my d&C and my temps have been all over the place. This week they have been very low (more my pre-O temps) and i finally got my negative hpt. I then got LOADS of ewcm and a, i think, positive-ish OPK (I wanted to put in in my clear blue monitor but as i hadn't used it for ages it wouldn't let me!). My temps have gone up a bit today so if they stay up i will assume ive ovulated. Although i think i would be pretty lucky for my body to get back to normal that quickly as i don't think you usually O before AF after D&C???

 

[tcinks]

I don't think that's always true, just for some women. Really hope you're ovulating and get your bfp soon!!!

 

[KTJ006]

Tcinks: when they did an ultrasound did they see any blood clots at all? How was your lining in your uterus?

 

[tcinks]

They saw some clots, that's was almost four weeks ago, I'm sure they've passed now. They didn't say anything about my lining...I don't know?

 

[kdmalk]

hanrh- many of us think that if the body is ready, it's ready. I doubt you will fall pregnant if your body isn't ready. I say get to BDing!

kt- happy you Oed! I'm with everyone else. KEEP BDing!

Terrissa- I hope you get some answers about your bleeding tomorrow at the doctor. Surely you are just that rare case and doesn't ever fully stop and this is AF! Especially if the bleeding seems different the last few days.

afm, I do think I ended up Oing over thanksgiving because CM seems to have dried up. YAY!!!! I am finally going to adjust my imaginary expected AF date by a week because I am convinced I Oed, so I think she will arrive about 2 weeks after. So I say I am now expecting AF on the 10th. Which means we will be staying home for christmas to BD the entire week. Sounds good to me! lol

 

[KTJ006]

They saw some clots, that's was almost four weeks ago, I'm sure they've passed now. They didn't say anything about my lining...I don't know?

Did you pass any clots? Maybe TMI, but they would be balls of blood, that almost look like tissue. Though when you break them up with your hands they fall apart versus stay together.

 

[kdmalk]

I think I posted without reading the last page! lol

hanrh- I just Oed and I had my d&c on the 4th. No AF yet. I had ewcm for a few days and cramping on Thanksgiving. I wasn't really CERTAIN until I noticed cm has really dried up. So I think I did. That puts me a week behind regular schedule (if I use d&c date as cd1). I bet you probably did O.

I never had a positive on my opk, but of course I skipped like 3 days out of frustration which would have been the days it could have been positive. It was getting a bit darker up to then, but I got mad and quit. lol. I took another one on maybe Wednesday and it was nearly invisible. So I bet I had my surge on a day I didn't test and then Oed on Thursday like I thought (which is why the one on Wed. would have been so light). I think that is how those things work..... lol.

 

[KTJ006]

Yaaaay for O'ing Kylee. And Xmas BDing doesn't sound at all bad Staying inside while it's cold (is it cold near you??), relaxing, some wine, little music

 

[KTJ006]

Ladies... Random question: what do you guys do for skincare? I'm in the market for a new regimen and just curious as to what you use.

 

[hanrh]

Kylee I really like that - if your body is ready - I'll get to BDing then! Im glad you oed and I think if I did it will put us both on line for af at the same time! I'm really liking your idea of some Christmas BDing sessions. Sounds perfect to me as I'm really not looking forward to Christmas this year. Does anyone else feel like that?

Kt - I Am a loreal skincare fan although when I have the money I would generally opt for Clinique as it feels soooo nice!!!

 

[NDH]

I've already forgotten everything I was going to reply to as ive had so many interruptions from my kids

Hannah what would you do if the genetic testing came back showing a problem? Would you keep ttc anyway and take your chances or would you do ivf and have the embryos genetically tested? If the former then there's no difference trying now or after you get the results.
I always ask myself "what difference will the results make?" about every test in pregnancy and imagine different scenarios. As a result I opt out of pretty much all routine tests because for me, I don't believe they will make any difference.

Terrissa if the bleeding distinctly changed I would say its more than likely AF. After babies some people get AF before their post partum bleeding really stops so I don't see why the same couldn't be true for miscarriage.

Good luck to those who have or are about to O. We're aiming to BD every other day or so but if it doesn't happen we won't stress about it. 27 months ttc my daughter trying to time BD with a hubby who doesn't have a high libido became way way too stressful on our marriage. I was upset with him for not putting in more effort and he resented me for only seeming to want sex for making babies not just enjoying eachother. So since then we've just made a point of not trying to try but just have regular sex. I sometimes do OPKs but only if my cycles havent regulated post partum, but if I do think/know O is approaching I may try to make extra effort to seduce him

Anyway I have my next bloodtest today. Ill get the results tomorrow. I took a hot last night and its faint but not a squinter. Probably about the equivalent of a 12 or 13dpo test?

 

[tcinks]

Leslie, thank you for input, that makes me feel a little better. Some people say things so definitively and get me discouraged. (like you HAVE to have no bleeding for 4 weeks for it to be considered AF), when they are grey areas and some women are different. Anyway, really hoping that's the case.

Glad your test is getting fainter and good luck with your seducing! haha. do let us know what your results from the blood tests are tomorrow! I'm hoping to get my last hcg check tomorrow.

 

[tcinks]

Now that Thanksgiving is over, we've got our Christmas decorations up! Makes the house so much warmer. This is my second year having a real tree and I just love the smell! (Dh grew up having real ones). My husband and I were married almost two years ago on December 28 so it was Christmas themed. We used the same decorations from our wedding to decorate our house now.

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It's kind of hard to see with the light shining. The colors are light blue and silver. All growing up I always had red and gold decor and thought I wouldn't like anything else. But I actually think I like this more! New traditions with my hubby.

 

[NDH]

The picture didn't come up on my phone but ill look later. How cool to reuse your wedding decorations for Christmas

I pulled our tree out of storage (we're reversed - I always grew up with a real tree but now have artificial because real ones are just so expensive here and I'd rather have my tree up for ages, though do miss the smell) yesterday and we'll decorate this evening when hubby gets home from school. The girls are desperate to help. I'm so not sure how decorations are going to go with an almost 3 year old and a 1 year old but we'll do our best... lol.

 

[tcinks]

Oh that sounds like so much fun! Please upload a pic when everything is finished

And I keep forgetting you are in Australia! Whenever you say "later this evening" I'm thinking "it's already evening..." Haha. I guess you are already on Monday where you are. Crazy.

 

[KTJ006]

Love the pic tcinks! We do a real tree as well - I loooove the smell! Our friends own a Christmas tree farm so my DH helps cut them all down (an insane job) and works the tree lot. We got our tree today but have yet decorate it. The decorations are in the attic so hopefully we'll get them tomorrow. Love, love, love this time of year! I am a bit bummed because we would have been finding out the gender around this time, but I'm just trying to focus on the positive!

2 weeks (give or take) until I break down and test. I'm excited for all you ladies because it looks like everyone is headed in such a positive direction!!

 

[tcinks]

Thank KTJ That sounds like a fun job.
I too feel a bit down, but like you said just have to try to stay positive! And I just love Christmas, so I don't want to grinch my way through it. Haha.

Good luck in your two week wait! Hoping for your bfp!!! What a wonderful Christmas present that would be.

 

[jlw617]

I just wanted to say Thank you to all the ladies on here, I finally started the process, On friday night I literally felt like I was in labor, Im supposed to have an ultrasound done tomorrow but I think Ill call and cancel since it was a follow up appointment from last week when they had found a slow heartbeat, but like I said in my first post, I knew in my heart of hearts that the baby wasnt going to make it. In a way this has been an answered prayer (not the MC itself) because we prayed I would miscarry everything naturally and not have to have a D&C and I really feel like my body is getting everything out on its own if that makes sense-My DH and I have decided we are going to TTC as soon as Im done, if its Gods will for us to get pregnant right away, we will, if not, thats ok too-Im so glad to be a part of this group and hope to get to know you all a little better in the upcoming weeks/months

 

[jlw617]

Ooooh I love your tree tcinks! I love Christmas, if things weren't so crazy for me this week, we would have had ours up too We will get ours up next weekend-I love the blue and silver and for many years had a "color scheme" but I finally gave into my dh and let the kids decorate it ugly haha! but I always do a little rearranging (just a little I promise!) when they go to bed hehe!

 

[tcinks]

JLW, so glad you're back and updating us. I was wondering how things were going for you! So glad everything was able to happen naturally. Do you plan to get your hcg level checked or take hpt to make sure everything is passing? I know every doctor is different, mine really monitored me quite a bit as I'd had some complications .