{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[tcinks]

Leslie, I'm so glad you got that closure. It makes it easier to move forward.

Hanrh, that is great newss!!!!! I know it was such a relief for me. I can't remember if you said you would start trying again right away our wait for af?


Kylee, your posts never fail to make me laugh I'm so sorry about your MIL, that had to be frustrating. I live fairly best to both sides of our families, but typically split the days (one family the day before holiday, one on day of.) It just gets crazy with the back and forth. I think my family had a hard time with that this year, as I was "breaking tradition". Well, when be families are formed, New traditions have to be made! Anyway, we can't make everyone happy, but I hope things get better with you and MIL. Also, I totally agree it would be nice to meet, but we are all so spread out. I promise I'm not an ax murderer. Although if I were, I'm sure I wouldn't admit it.

 

[NDH]

Kylee that sounds so frustrating. It always annoys me when people claim you make no effort bit they don't make any themselves. Relationships go both ways.

Hopefully your cycle is back on track even if it means AF and ttc a bit later than you hoped.

Hannah I'm sure being that negative test brought out lots of mixed emotions. I'm too nervous of what I will or won't see to poas yet. I think I will on Monday which is the day of my next blood test just to have a bit of an idea what it might be. My test last week was 845 which still seems high to me, but I have no idea what it was 4 days before when I miscarried - if it was 20000 than 845 is a lot better than if it was 5000 iykwim. When I get the results I'll ask for Thursday's too.

 

[hanrh]

Tcinks - we Are supposed to wait for all of our genetic testing results before TTC however it's so tempting to try now! I know I must be patient though. How is everything with you? Did you get any blood results from your doctor?

Ndh- I hope your results go well on Monday. I'm afraid I can't shed any light on your numbers as I've never had testing for my levels following my loss. They don't seem to do it over here. Although from what I have read from other ladies on here, I imagine it decreases quite rapidly!

It's so funny the things I get excited about at the minute. I'm currently very excited as since yesterday have noticed loads of ewcm. I've never seen it before!!! When ttc previously I tried everything (vitamins, grapefruit etc) and now I've finally got some! Yay! Hoping it's a good sign. I did an ov test and its looking very close to positive. Fx this means af isn't too far away!

 

[zaycain]

No big announcements on Thanksgiving. AND... Barely there line on my HPT today! Another few days I think I'm good!

OPK is still super dark but ovaries stopped aching. How long are OPKs supposed to be dark for after you ovulate?


Hanrh - Hoping for an AF for you soon. It's so painful to wait!

NDH - I wish I had a scan after. Must be a relief.

tcinks - Any updates on your HPT? Are we down to zero yet?

KD - Ah.. family. Frustrating. Holidays bring out the best.

 

[tcinks]

Leslie - when I miscarried, my my hcg was 86,000. It dropped very rapidly at first, then slowed down. It took four weeks to get from 300 to 0. :/ hopefully it goes quicker for you!

On Tuesday my level was 7, but that is a pretty negligible amount so I'm happy with it. I *think* af also started Tuesday, but I have no way to be sure. My bleeding never completely stopped, just got light an spotty. But now it's a little heavier and bright red again. And I've had cramps again like my typical af. I hope thats really what this is! I'm on day 5 since it started so it should stop in the next day or two. And maybe I'll ovulate next weekend!!! We'll see, I'll talk to my doctor this coming week to be sure everything is good to go.

 

[hanrh]

Glad you are nearly back to 0 on your hpt zaycain and 7 sounds good tcinks! Glad you finally got Af too!

Well us ladies seems to be nearly all ready to TTC again! I'm excited for the next chapter for us all ladies! X

 

[tcinks]

I think it'll be a very emotional journey. I have it in my mind that I will conceive the first time we try, like we did last time. If that doesn't happen, it'll be so crushing. I shouldn't have my expectations so high, but that's one of the only things keeping me going right now. With everyone pregnant or with new babies all around me, my emotions have been getting the best of me lately. I didn't expect it to be so hard. if I didn't have you ladies to talk to, I know it would be a lot worse. No one I know personally really knows what I'm going through and it's nice to have others who can sympathize.

 

[kdmalk]

Terrissa- I am feeling the exact same way! We caught the very first egg and I was totally surprised. I just have it in my mind that it is going to be the same this time. I hope we all conceive very quickly! I am also having the same issue with everyone around being pregnant or having a baby. One of my friends just picked out some stuff for her baby and put the pictures on facebook today. It is pretty heartbreaking.

We put up our christmas tree today and I seriously considered putting our ultrasound picture on there, but I'm just not sure that I want to look at it. We did plant a little bonsai tree the day we went for the d&c. Seems like a bust because it still hasn't sprouted yet. I really wanted to use that as a way to remember the baby, so I am really frustrated that it doesn't want to seem to grow. It is like super warm and sunny here today, so I put it outside to see if maybe some more sunlight will help. I doubt it will make a difference.

Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend.

 

[NDH]

I've never conceived the first try (27 months for DD1, 5 months for DD2, 3 months for my angel) though my first loss was a surprise "not doing a great job of preventing but not trying either", but I still can't help but be hopeful I'll catch the fist ovulation and be pregnant by Christmas. I guess the main question will be whether I actually ovulate in the next couple weeks cause it's always take me quite a while after births to start ovulating and I'm still breastfeeding which can affect that.

 

[zaycain]

T - I know exactly what you mean. I've been trying to calculate when I can tell people if I conceived the first time. How crazy is that?

I am setting myself up for failure already. How do we distract ourselves? I think that we will be so caught up in all of it, we'll be the people that are having a hard time conceiving because we are putting too much pressure on ourselves.

I'm trying to focus on being healthy and being in love with DH. I have declared December OUR MONTH! Really taking advantage of the holidays and our winter wonderland in NYC.

 

[coucou11]

Hi all! Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend, and holiday weekend for some of us. And recovering from dealing with family! Can be so difficult at times. Our friends who were visiting left today for the weekend so we are having a quiet one, which is blissful. I actually have to get some work done, and it's just nice having the house to ourselves again.

My bleeding has been off and on all week - Terrissa I really don't know how you dealt with this for 6 weeks. It is torture. It will stop entirely for the whole day and then I will randomly get some cramping and then will have a small "gush" and then it will start all over again. ARGH. Killing me.

Took an HPT Thursday, with FMU - here it is. Very light, so at least I am pleased about that. Will try another one probably Monday and hoping it will be all gone!

Oh, and one thing I have been doing to distract from this whole recovery / ttc process is trying to really get myself super healthy. I quit drinking caffeine, am staying away from alcohol (mostly), trying to exercise, drinking tea and taking vitamins, and my next project will be to tackle my sugar intake which is way too high. I think focusing on making myself really healthy for the next baby takes some of the pressure off of getting pregnant right away. We'll see, anyway!!

 

[tcinks]

Leigh, I'm glad your hpt is getting lighter! I know it must be nice to see progress. As for the bleeding...well it is just annoying and has a mind of its own! I really hope it stops for you soon though. I'm sure it will.

I think it will be hard to get my mind off pregnancy , especially during the holiday season surrounded by all the friends and family with their babies. :/ BUT DH and i finally decided to get a gym membership! It starts Monday and I'm really looking forward to working out and feeling healthy again. And it always just helps my overall mood when I've been active.

 

[kdmalk]

It really seems like most of us are taking this time to work on becoming healthier! I love that we are all so like-minded!

 

[KTJ006]

You guys make me feel so guilty talking about being healthy. I have done nothing but EAT the past few days! This time of year is so tough. We are headed back home tomorrow (thank God) and a nice long run is calling my name! I got a new pair of compression socks I'm itching to try out on a run

I'm going to try a barre class to see if I like it. I hear it does wonders for your legs!

 

[tcinks]

Oh, I've done nothing but eat too! You're not the only one. Haha. What else do you for thanksgiving?! But I know I need to make some changes. Really looking forward to getting back to the gym, it's been months. I was too worried through the first trimester that exercise would be too stressful for the baby...even though I know they say exercise is good. Anyway, I just want my body to be healthy and ready to carry a baby!

 

[KTJ006]

We are in TN visiting the in-laws. It's...interesting to say the least. We head back home tomorrow and I'm SO looking forward to it!!!! I actually despise coming here, but do it for the DH. It's almost 2am here and I'm wiiiide awake. I took a 1.5hr nap today which I never do...now I'm paying for it!

Agree with the getting healthy. I'm ready to get back on the bandwagon. I used to be an avid runner but have let it slide over the past 6 months. It's crazy how easy it is to fall out of shape, yet so hard to get into shape!

Time to hit the couch...maybe I'll sleep better on it

 

[KTJ006]

Finally ovulating today!! We DTD last night. Wonder if we should again tonight?? I am sooooo tired of DTD! That sounds horrible, huh?!

 

[tcinks]

Yes, do it again! And the next day too.

When we conceived, we dtd the two days before ovulation, day of and day after. Not sure which day it happened, but we wanted as much of a chance as possible. Get off your computer and go do it now!!! Haha. I get tired of it sometimes too. But if I was ovulating right now, I'd be doing it all day! Go make your rainbow baby!

 

[hanrh]

zaycain - i love that you are thinking about that. positive thinking is a must in this situation! We took 7 months to conceive last time so i have been basing my calculations off that!

Coucou - im glad your hpt is getting lighter however im sorry to hear your bleeding is getting your down. I found the bleeding very difficult to deal with as it feels like its preventing you from moving forward and is a constant reminder. FX it will stop soon! I think you are definitely right about distracting yourself with being healthy - these are my thoughts exactly.

KT - wooohoo for ovulation! Get to BDing for sure. I have been reading the SMEP plan a lot lately and she states that if you stick to it you should fall pregnant 3 months after a loss. She suggests BD 3 days following positive OPK and then miss a day and then BD again. The more BDing = the better chance of a rainbow! It is extremely tiering at times however it will be all worth it.

tcinks - i agree about the exercise. I am so ready for it again as i did the same as you and stopped as soon as i got my bfp as i was scared it would damage the baby somehow! I am starting swimming again on Monday and am really excited about getting healthy again. I find it also takes my mind off everything as well..

AFM, after nearly 4 months of no bding ( i am a little crazy and banned it for the 1st trimester as i was so scared!) we finally bded today. I was a little reluctant as the doctor said to wait for our genetics results and for first af until properly ttcing again, however it wouldn't be the worst if it happened before would it?! I doubt it will be the easy for me but it would be nice! Hope everyone is having lovely weekend. x

 

[tcinks]

Hanrh, glad you aren't waiting. I mean if you're both ready, then why not? Have you been tracking your ovulation?

I'm going on 7 weeks since miscarriage and have not stopped bleeding! I am *hoping* what is happening now is af. But they say you have to stop bleeding for 4 weeks, THEN af comes. Maybe I'm just a rare case? Ugh. I just want it to stop. I will talk to my doctor about it tomorrow. I'm not really worried about infection/retained tissue , my hcg has been declining steadily. Was 7 last Tuesday, checking it again tomorrow. I just don't know why my body is taking do long to return to normal! I'm so emotional lately.