{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[coucou11]

Natalie that is amazing!! Wow, I am so impressed!

Terrissa good luck at the appt! I hope it goes well and you get some answers.

 

[KTJ006]

Awesome house, Natalie!!!

 

[tcinks]

Yea Natalie that is amazing. Great job!

my appointment did not go as hoped. I'm not sure what to think at this point. I'll update with a full rant later.

 

[coucou11]

Oh Terrissa, I'm so sorry! Get yourself a glass of wine and a hug from your hubby.

 

[tcinks]

I just don't know what to think!

Doctor #1 : (at the hospital): your bleeding should stop in 2, 3 weeks at the most; miscarriage was due to infection; We suggest waiting 2-3 months to try again to give your body time to recover
Ultrasound guy: Oh no, your fibroids aren't an issue at all
Ultrasound girl: I've seen women with way more and bigger fibroids, these shouldn't be a problem
Doctor #2: I just want your hcg down before you start tying again, so we don't get confused about when the new pregnancy starts
Doctor#2 (1 month later): I want you to wait two cycles, and I want to check your fibroids again, just to be sure
Doctors #3 :You're still bleeding after 8 weeks? Nothing to worry about, if it gets to 12 weeks that would be a problem. You can try again in another month, if you were older, I'd suggest trying sooner.
Doctor #4 (same office as doctor above): You're still bleeding?! This should have stopped at two weeks, this isn't normal. And I want you to wait three months from NOW to start trying, just to get your uterine lining built up, otherwise you'll be at risk for miscarriage again. Oh your fibroids? Nothing to worry about. Also, you should probably get a d&c to clear out your uterus, I see something that could be tissue or a blood clot.
Doctor #5: D&c? No way there's still tissue left behind. I'll give you antibiotics just in case. I see you have fibroids, I suggest we remove those before you get pregnant again. See me again in three weeks and we'll discuss what you want to do. And I'll want you to wait 6 months after that surgery to start trying.

There's the short version of my last two months. I wish there was some clear, consistent advice from the different providers I've seen. It's so hard to know what's really the best way to go. I absolutely do not want to have surgery, though if course I will if that's what I NEED. I just find it hard to believe that it would be best since no one else mentioned it. I'm just at the end of my rope.

 

[coucou11]

Oh my gosh, I am so so sorry. That sounds just awful, I can't believe how inconsistent everything is. On top of miscarrying you have to go through this whole process of different opinions and never knowing what the hell is going on. I just want to give you a big hug!!

I wish I could give you some advice but I just can't imagine what there is to be done with so many different opinions. I guess the best I can say is to pick the doctor you like and trust the most and go with them, and listen to your body and your heart and push for some answers. I can't believe how many doctors will just brush a patient off until they really start forcing the issue.

Do something fun tonight and try to relax and not worry. Thinking of you.

 

[kdmalk]

Take a few days to get your head around everything that has been said, then start some research. Once you have a bit of information, choose the doctor that seems to be going with what the evidence says. If you are having trouble finding information, choose the doctor you felt gave you the most personalized care and give him/her the same list you gave us. Tell him/her that you want all the options looked at since other physicians suggested other approaches, then ask again what is the best option. Once you know someone has seen everything that has been offered and has considered it, you will know they have thought through their answer and suggested the option that makes the most sense for YOU.

That is my two cents. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I hope you are comfortable with whatever route you ultimately choose. We will be here for you!

 

[NDH]

Oh my goodness what an ordeal I think when faced with do many different opinions Leigh had some pretty solid advice - go with the Dr you got the best vibe from. The one who best looked at you as an individual and looked at your history rather than just the immediate issue.
if only tue one dr mentuoned surgery for the fibroids I would think its highly unlikely that its really necessary.
Also i guess it would be good to determine each drs main specialty. Are any of them an RE for example?

for your emotional roller coaster

 

[tcinks]

All of you ladies are so wonderful! thanks for your support, it means so much. I talked things over with my husband and we are on the same page with our game plan at this point. There's very little left that I can do really, except to pray and trust God to continue to guide us. I'm going to try not to post so much about it anymore until we get more answers and thoroughly discuss and decide what to do.

I feel like I've taken over the board these last few days with all my whining. Haha. How are all of you?! Doing anything fun for the weekend? Natalie and Katie, hows the tww going? Kylee, how has af been treating you today?

 

[KTJ006]

Oh Terrissa I'm so sorry And don't think for a second you can't come here to talk. That's what we're here for! Take a few days to let it all settle and listen to your gut. Don't question your gut at all. YOU are the one person that knows yourself the best, regardless of how many PhDs someone has. Whatever path you choose, pick it and don't look back. No 'what ifs.' You are traveling this journey for a reason and will one day understand why. Hugs to you my friend!

 

[kdmalk]

AF has been much better to me today! Much lighter bleeding... in fact, I don't actually think I have changed this tampon for like 5 hours, now that I am thinking about it (remember that time we said there was no tmi here? lol). Glad she is finally slowing down.

I'm cooking tonight in an effort to stop eating crap! I'm making homemade spaghetti, but dh won't be home until 9! I am about to start the sauce but have tried to stay busy cleaning to keep my mind off being hungry in the meantime.

In other news, we said we weren't going to do anything for christmas because we bought ourselves the wii, but I can't just NOT get him anything. Being the wife I am (pfffffttttttt ), I got a two gun set of huge nerf guns with darts the size of small children (lol) so we can battle it out in the house. I also bought a bunch of random candy and crap to fill his stocking with (including a light up bouncy ball that we will both enjoy watching the dogs chase around and a slinky). My stocking might be empty on christmas morning, but my heart will be full knowing that I did something sweet for dh since I pushed for the wii (that sounded SO dorky, but it is true)! I love him, but bless his little heart, he isn't a romantic (and he doesn't do surprises) and we said nothing, so my stocking WILL be empty

 

[kdmalk]

I'm really just excited to surprise him with "presents" when he isn't expecting anything.

 

[tcinks]

Awww Kylee you and your husband sound like you have so much fun together! So sweet. It's so nice that you're getting him some little things, who knows, he might surprise you too!

We did white elephant gifts last year with his siblings, and we got a nerf gun from his brother...so he attacked me with it quite a bit. He thought it was just the funniest thing, too.

 

[jlw617]

Whoa! I've missed a lot in just a day! You ladies move fast

Terrissa-I am so sorry for all the nonsense you're having to deal with, oh my word! You'd think you'd be able to get a straight answer but these Drs are all over the place! I say the other ladies are right, talk it over with DH, pray and find a good dr.

Kylee-I don't know how long you've been married but I've been married 8 1/2 years and my dh literally, Like in the last year or so started getting better about gifts and being romantic lol! I know what you mean too about eating junky! If I don't plan out my meals which I've bern bad about lately, we end up eating garbage!

Sorry I know I missed most of you, I can only see the most recent page and I have the memory of a 90 year old!
On another note-I've been getting random cramping so I kind of feel like AF is coming but I'm thinking wow it's kind of early which is either good and means the progesterone has helped my body to get back on track quickly or i kind of have it in the back of my mind that it could be "something else" I'm not counting on it but I remember with this last bfp, I was 100% sure AF was about to come but she never did-the cramps/twinges I've been having have been in my right ovaries again which I find kind of interesting...hope everyone is doing well!!!

 

[NDH]

Oh good Jamie you mean theres hope? We've been married 6 1/2 years and I literally always get nothing unless I expressly ask. I don't expect a lot, would rather our money go to the kids and their future, but just a little something to say " hey I love you and thought of you while choosing this" would be nice... I think the only "birthday present" he's ever given me too was to tell me I could go get a massage... not even a voucher or anything.

 

[NDH]

aalso good luck! Sounds like it could be ovulation to me!

 

[jlw617]

Could be Natalie, I had a little bit of what looked like ewcm tonight too so we shall see. Ok the gift thing reminded me of when my husband and I were just dating, now we used to work out and would even spar together (box), my first bday we were together, he bought me used sparring equipment (chest padding/face padding)!!!!!! Haha thinking back on it now, it was actually quite sweet but still makes me laugh!

 

[jlw617]

Oh and btw, awesome house!!!!

 

[NDH]

Oh my word I am in agony! Seriously the worst pain of my life! Dh and I DTD while the girls were napping and a couple minutes afterward I started to get a stitch like feeling in my abdomen which soon turned into a full on never ending contraction. It felt like someone had my uterus in a vice. Seriously its been going on for over an hour. It was one continuous contraction for 40 minutes and since then I've had a couple mins of decreased intensity before it builds again. It is at least lessening I think I can move from fetal position soon :/ I wanted to throw up and still feel kind of nauseated. Seriously way worse than labour as at least then it only hurts for a minute or two at a time and you have hormones working with you...

I've tried to Google but can't really find anything specific other than similar experiences, but it doesn't appear to be a concern as an isolated event.

I just hope it doesn't affect the chances of implantation if there's a little embryo enroute :/

 

[KTJ006]

AF has arrived. I don't even know what to think