{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[Fleur828815]

Oh my Natalie!!!!! Keep us updated!

Today dh had made a second cup of coffee and we agreed to only have 1 a day while we're actively ttc-obviously coffee is very important to us lol! Any how I said "hey, is that your second cup today?"He gos "yes but you're preggers anyways" he's so supportive, I can only hope but I highly doubt it, I guess time will tell, it is in The Lords hands!


Fleur-I'm sorry it seems as though you didn't ovulaye this month, hope AF comes soon for you. So when you/other ladies are saying what cd you are on, are you referencing what would be your normal cycle or the 1st day you started bleeding from mc? Sorry if I'm out of the loop? Also along with that question, are most of you ladies under the impression that your cycle will more or less fall on the same day (roughly) as it did before? If that's the case, I would be due for AF in about a week...which means if she doesn't show, hypothetically I could test in about a week if she doesn't show right???? I'm confused lol

Lol it's not a bad thing to have an optmistic DH, balances things out for me! Hoping he's right about you being pregnant.

I'm referring to my first real cycle after miscarriage. I had a D&C and the doctor said I should expect this first AF around 4-6 weeks later, it arrived 34 days after the D&C. Pre-miscarriage my cyles used to be between 27 and 32 days, so not too far out. I was still getting a faint BFP 3 weeks after the D&C so personally I'd wait till 5 or 6 weeks to test, just to avoid getting my hopes up.
Lots of women do get their AF back around the same time as their usual period, so wait as long as you can and then test!

 

[KTJ006]

Oh my Natalie!!!!! Keep us updated!

Today dh had made a second cup of coffee and we agreed to only have 1 a day while we're actively ttc-obviously coffee is very important to us lol! Any how I said "hey, is that your second cup today?"He gos "yes but you're preggers anyways" he's so supportive, I can only hope but I highly doubt it, I guess time will tell, it is in The Lords hands!

Jamie: Glad your DH is super supportive and positive! I tend to be a glass half empty person, but thankfully my DH balances me out and is the opposite. Hoping you get some good news this month!

Wow, so much to catch up on since I was last here!

Katie, hugs to you. I totally understand how you feel, I feel exactly the same, bitter that others who don’t “deserve” it seem to have babies so easily while I’m wondering if it’s ever going to happen for me. Fingers crossed it’s not AF starting and you’re going to get a BFP! If not, I’d still try next month and try to spread out costs over a few months if they do happen to both have birthdays in September. I’d always told myself I wouldn’t TTC aroud March to avoid a December baby, but what if that’s the month it would have worked?

AFM : I can’t seem to get out of a funk since the past few days. Maybe it’s because Christmas will be here soon and I had asked for baby stuff as Xmas gifts. Don’t even feel like celebrating now. Been doing OPKs for 10 days, had a faint line every day, it got darker on CD 20 but not even close to positive. CD 22 today and the line is practically invisible. So I didn’t even ovulate this month and I don’t know when I can expect AF.

Fleur: good perspective to have. I've thought a lot about it today and I'm still back and forth about whether we try next month for another September BFP (AF did officially show, so I'm now back on the TTC wagon). I'm also concerned about what the kids will think having the same birthday month. Will they like it or find it more of an annoyance? I guess it's all what you make of it. And here I am trying to plan everything out when it might not even happen! I guess it doesn't hurt to try and then figure things out if it happens. Also, I don't know much about OPKs, but is it possible to have ovulated and the line just wasn't very strong? Maybe use CD20 as an ovulation day to get an estimate of when AF will come.

Hope everyone else is doing well!! :wave:

 

[jlw617]

Fleur-thanks for clearing that up for me, I kind of suspected that was the case (you had already had a cycle post mc) but wasn't sure and I had read where some women will continue to say what cd they were in as if they had AF even though they hadn't yet. I think I will try to wait as long as I can even though I really think AF will show, if not I think i may test on the 22nd by that point it will have been almost a month since I started miscarrying...

Katie-I say go for it girl! At the worst your kids might have the same bday month, if anything maybe it will be a humbling experience for them for them to share their birthday month and you never know, they might actually enjoy it

 

[NDH]

Fleur Im sorry it looks like an anovulatory cycle. I hope AF arrives as usual if it is an anovulatory one so it isn't dragged out further.
I'm not going for bloods today as I don't want early pregnancy monitoring and they'll insist on stuff I don't want done.

Jamie I hope your husband is right

Katie I'm sorry it was definitely AF I wouldn't worry about a shared birthday Month. One of my friends on here has 2kids with August birthdays, one with June and one in July and is due again in August. And I know a family of 12 with 8 birthdays in September and October!

 

[kdmalk]

Jamie- I used my d&c as cd1 just to see how long it would be and ended up getting my first af at cd36. My cycles are typically 31 days long with af arriving sometime during the afternoon or evening on cd32. This cycle wasn't much longer for me, but I also felt fairly certain that I ovulated around thanksgiving. my lp is always 13 days, so I was expecting af on the 10th and she came in the afternoon on the 9th. Guess I was right about Oing... too bad we weren't trying!

Kate- I say go for it. If you don't and you end up ttc for several more months, you will always wonder if you might have gotten your bfp for your september baby. If that won't haunt you, then skip a month, lol. I bet the kids won't mind sharing a birthday.

Fleur- I am feeling the same about christmas! Upset that I don't have my baby belly and that I am not shopping for cute baby stuff and asking for strollers and blankets and cute little baby stuff in lieu of christmas presents for me and dh. It will get easier! I hope we are all pregnant again by the time our due dates roll around. I think everything will feel so much easier for me once I am pregnant again. I'm not sure if others feel the same, but that is how I feel.

 

[KTJ006]

Someone mentioned taking progesterone to aid in a successful pregnancy. I don't remember what was said. Can someone give me some details on it?

 

[jlw617]

Kylee-thanks for explaining that, bummer you weren't trying but that definitely give me hope that it's possible I may have ovulated...

Katie-that was me with the progesterone, basically progesterone aids in balancing out hormones, in pregnancy it aids in building/keeping the uterine wall strong as our progesterone dips low in pregnancy and for some women can help them avoid mc, during pregnancy, you only take it throughout your first trimester. I use an all natural topical progesterone, (not synthetic, does not contain soy) HTH!

 

[kdmalk]

Y'all!!! I just tried to make eggnog for our work party tomorrow (alcohol free, obviously) and it was a complete disaster. I ended up with some sort of chunky mess. It is hilarious. But now I have nothing to bring. Off to the store to find something to make. Procrastinating until 9:00 the night before now does not seem like such a good idea.

 

[NDH]

Aww bummer what recipe did you use? Last year I made a dairy free eggnog with rice and cashee milk that all but my dad enjoyed (hes really picky). I can't remember the recipe to make it again this year though.

 

[kdmalk]

I was using almond milk, coconut milk, and pure maple syrup. The recipe was really ambiguous... 4 cups of this liquid... 1/2 cup of that liquid, this many eggs, this many egg yolks. Well... I had no idea how much liquid I used (way more than 4 cups) and guessed on the eggs. It wasn't really thickening in the allotted time, so I tossed in a few more... and the rest is history. For future reference, DO NOT TRY TO "WING IT" WITH EGGNOG! Do the math. Use the right egg to liquid ratio. lol

So... to add to this story, I decided to just go to walmart and buy some eggnog and tell my story when people come around to taste my "creation" at the work party tomorrow. I figure it is the thought that counts and at least it makes for a pretty funny story when people sample my store-bought eggnog. Well, apparently the entire city wanted eggnog this weekend, because there was literally one random small bottle left. I grabbed it... then after much searching, I found another pretty small carton of some weird vanilla spice eggnog in the back on the bottom and grabbed that too. I didn't necessarily mind going to the store because I forgot to buy frozen blueberries when I was at the store on friday. AND I WAS SO EXCITED TO MAKE A SMOOTHIE FOR BREAKFAST! so going to the store was a nice excuse to pick them up tonight so I can FINALLY make my smoothie tomorrow morning. Get the blueberries, dog food, eggnog... get in the car... get half way home..... realize I USED ALL THE ALMOND MILK IN THE STUPID EGGNOG FISASCO! So now I get NO smoothie in the morning. And I had gotten myself all worked up and excited about it. I'm not actually that upset, even though I am in speaking in shouty caps... I am just frustrated with myself for not using my brain tonight.

okay, that's all from me tonight. Hope the rest of you have your heads on correctly, because mine seems to be unattached to my body right now! lol

 

[Fleur828815]

Katie, I’m sure the kids won’t mind sharing a birthday month. So many people do, and what about twins? It’s up to you to make it special for each of them but I’m sure you’ll do that anyway whenever they’re born.
This is my first month using OPKs so I don’t know much either, but the instructions are very clear : the test line has to be as dark or darker than the control line for it to be positive. I’m going to wait till CD40 before seeing a doctor if AF is not here by then, but I’m sure he’ll just say it’s normal for cycles to be messed up for a few months.

Jamie, CD1 can also be the first day of the miscarriage or D&C (when you start bleeding). Wait till a few days after your usual cycle length if you can.

Thanks Natalie, I do hope AF won’t make me wait. With my luck it will shop up on Xmas Day or New Year but at least I’ll start a new cycle then.
Any news, did you test again?

Kylee, you’re a laugh! Glad to know I’m not the only one who gets excited about food and then sorely disappointed when I can’t have it.
I also feel like a new pregnancy (carried to term!) is the only thing which can make me feel better, so this anovulatory cycle is the worst. I’m so apprehensive that I won’t be pregnant by my due date, or that I’ll be but lose it again. More people around me have announced their pregnancies and I telling DH that I wonder if we will ever have a baby, he said “Yes we will someday, it wasn’t your turn yet”. YES IT WAS!!!

 

[KTJ006]

Ha, Kylee you are hilarious! I swear our brains turn mushier the older we get! Makes for some great stories though!

 

[tcinks]

Good morning ladies! Seems like you all had a busy weekend After Friday I just had to take a little break to gather my thoughts. I'm feeling much better and DH and I feel like we have a good idea about what we'll do from here.

Also, I had a pretty nice weekend. We went to DH office Christmas party Saturday night. It was really fun to get out and mingle with people....and eat LOTS of good food. Oh and here's a picture of us afterwards. Super adorable, right?

https://i1369.photobucket.com/albums/ag220/terrissaf/imagejpg1_zpsd3fd27f3.jpg

Then Sunday we went to a brunch with some of my college girlfriends, which was also really nice. And also ate LOTS of good food. I'm still stuffed from it all.

Natalie, so excited about your faint positive! Keep us updated on progress!!

Katie, sorry about af :/ how are you feeling today?

oh here is a picture from a couple weeks ago at the candlelight ceremony I tod you all about.

https://i1369.photobucket.com/albums/ag220/terrissaf/imagejpg2_zpsef230c58.jpg

 

[jlw617]

Kylee you are hilarious! Sounds like you had quite a fiasco-and I agree with Fleur, glad to know I'm not the only one to get emotionally upset over food! Haha!

Terrissa-what a cute picture of you and your hubby, you two are seriously adorable and truly look like you're totally in love with each other! In glad you worked things out as to what you plan on doing from here-you have been through a lot!

 

[jlw617]

Oh and I tested today and finally got a little line so light that if I were testing to see if I was pregnant, I'd probably say it was a negative! There was the slightest shadow of a line but it was barely there and took a good bit to come up so now I feel confident that if I were to test in about a week and got a dark line, I wouldn't doubt that I was pregnant but only because dh and I have been at it every day-sometime 2x a day-he's killing me! Lol

 

[coucou11]

Hi all! Hope everyone had a wonderful weekend!

Mine was super busy so no time to update, sorry! We went to Christmas party on Saturday and then hosted family on Sunday and gave some gifts to the little cousins. It was all really fun but just lots of running around and cooking and cleaning and planning.

I've caught up with everyone but won't have time to respond to everyone until probably later today. Natalie I hope your line gets darker!!

Terrissa you guys are such a beautiful happy couple

Nothing new here - FF is telling me I ovulated on CD20 (last Wed). I'm hoping that's the case! We'll see if AF decides to show her face anytime soon. I'm really looking forward to starting to try again.

 

[Fleur828815]

Terrissa, lovely pic, you two look very sweet together. Touching pic of the candlenight ceremony as well. Glad that you're feeling better and that your DH and you have agreed on what to do next.

Jamie, yay for the almost BFN. Up to twice a day... where do you get the energy from??? Let's hope that does the trick hehe.

Leigh, looks like the Christmas fun and festivities have already started for you. Hope that you really did ovulate and will be able to TTC again in January.

AFM : I've given up on testing and am now just waiting for AF. Might order a BBT thermometer to confirm if I ovulate next month... or try to beg my doctor to run some tests (which he'll most likely refuse)

 

[kdmalk]

Well, kids.... I am definitely sick. Just not in the way I thought I might be. Started getting a nagging sore throat late this afternoon that has just gotten worse and worse. So much drainage. Throat so raw. Refuse to eat. Not hungry anyway. ugh.

at least it is happening now and not over christmas. It's the little things... lol

 

[kdmalk]

side note, AF is officially gone today. yay! O seems like years away though. lol

 

[hanrh]

I'm freaking out here ladies. I just took this.... Surely it can't be???