{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[kdmalk]

Jamie- sorry you guys had a sick christmas! That can't be fun! Glad to hear you made the most of it!

Leigh- glad you had a relaxing trip! EVEN A MASSAGE--NICE!

Had a positive opk this evening (as dark as control) and decided to give it one more go before bed, and I was running around the house in joy when I saw that my 8pm test was darker than the control line! I imagine I will O tomorrow... only a day or so after I would in a normal cycle, so not too bad. Now that I have a positive, DH is a little more exited to dtd. He is ready to be a dad, and I think it feels like less of a chore when he knows I am extremely fertile! Hope he is this eager for 3 days straight--not like him at all, but I like it!

 

[NDH]

Leigh that funny - katie is only 7 so a little young to be a mom
Your holiday sounds amazing. If only you had been a week later in your cycle so af didn't put a damper in things.
That reminds me I need to book my massage before it gets any later. I got money towards a pamper session for my birthday and the lady I usually see is running a special right now where I can choose from a selection of three treatments for the exact amount I received do I'm going to get a facial, hour long massage and then haven't decided between reflexology or a scalp massage for the third one.

Kylee yay for ovulation! I've always ovulated the day of my positive opk so never did smep or is be doing a lot of unnecessary BD lol. (That and were technically ntnp cause I can't deal with the stress of actively trying.)

My girls got into my newborn nappies that I have stashed away. Goodness o forgot how tiny they are. I hope I get to use them again by the end of 2015.

 

[KTJ006]

Hope everyone had a GREAT Christmas!!!

Natalie - HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! How sweet to have a surprise party and you not find out about it...haha. And your kiddos are too precious

Terrissa - Glad you felt comfortable with your appointment and the medication is working. Hope things continue on the upside for you! Did you and DH have a good Christmas?

Leigh - Welcome back!! Glad your trip was relaxing. We reaaaaaaallllly want to take a trip somewhere with crystal clear waters. One of these years we'll do it.

Kylee - YAY for ovulation!!! How do you like using OPKs thus far?

Jamie - I hope everyone is on the mend on your side. Everyone is getting sick over here. My kids were sick the Tuesday before Christmas and I was crossing my fingers they got better before Santa came (they did, thankfully!)

As for me - Christmas was great! Too many presents for the kiddos which means we had to clean house to make room! I am actually ovulating RIGHT NOW. I am super bummed by this. Last month I didn't ovulate until CD21 so we thought we had time. I'm on CD14 now and we haven't even DTD once this cycle. We were going to DTD last night but DH wasn't in the mood (which never ever happens). To wake up this morning to see I am ovulating made me cringe and realize I am likely out this month again. We will try tonight and tomorrow, but I still don't have a good feeling

 

[tcinks]

Kylee, it is so funny to me that your DH doesn't like the idea of dtd 5 days in a row. Mine would love that! I hope this is your cycle!

Leigh, so glad you enjoyed your vacation!

Natalie I thought the same as Leigh about your picture. I just kept looking at it and had to enlarge it and finally saw the picture below it But you and your girls look lovely


Jamie, how frustrating about everyone being sick! There's been a lot of that lately. How is everyone now?

Katie, you never know, you might still catch it in time! Don't give up

afm, the medicine has been working great but also left me with a yeast infection. . Ugh. I just left it for a few days because it usually goes away by itself. But it's been almost a week now...so I'll probably go get the medicine. I just hate being on so much medication! Oh well, if it helps. I was thinking AF should have showed up this week, but no sign of her except a bit of spotting. So I've been testing like a crazy woman every two days. All negative. DH and I leave for our trip today! I should be up packing instead of in bed typing this. Haha. I'm soooo excited!

 

[NDH]

Katie eek how frustrating! Day of and day after ov should still have you in good stead if you can do today ad tomorrow at least.

Terrissa sorry you have a YI as well ugh. Have a great holiday!

 

[zaycain]

T - I HATE yeast infections. All that itchiness! Ugh! I'm also sorry they keep moving your date around. It's crazy. I hope the figure out what's going on.

Katie - I agree with Natalie. You have a window of time that you can conceive. I bet you're still ok. Try it.. but don't put too much pressure on yourself.


I have a rant I need everyone's advice on.

My closest friend is having twins in April. I was sucked in with her other best friend and SIL to plan her baby shower. Fine. Whatever. But then they started talking about costs. I was like. "HOLD UP. What's the budget for this thing?" The more I thought about it, the more I thought.. should I even be paying for this? I feel like a horrible friend, but I don't have the funds to do this after having to pay for a ovarian cyst surgery and a D&C.

Then I started getting upset because the theme is 1000 paper cranes, and that's the one thing I wanted at my wedding, but didn't get it (I didn't have a bridal shower but that's a long story).

I started to cry and realized it's because I'm having to plan a baby shower, after a miscarriage and having to pay for it, when financially we aren't doing well (we both own businesses).

I started to bring it up to the other friend (not SIL) that we shouldn't be paying for it. Now I am feeling like an asshole for bringing it up.

What do you ladies think. Am I being unfair? Should I be helping pay for this?

Also, my pregnant friend is the only one who knows about my miscarriage and financial troubles, but I don't plan on bringing it up to her for obvious reasons.

Anyway.. that was long, but I knew you were the right group of girls to bring this issue to. Thanks ladies. xoxo.

 

[KTJ006]

Sorry, zay! There are ways to do baby showers without them being expensive. What are the expectations for it? If the other girls want it grand and over the top, maybe just volunteer to do a few things: make a diaper cake, buy the plates/utensils, or offer to help set up. I don't think there's any issue just telling them you have a budget to follow monthly and you can't go outside that. The important thing above anything else, is being there for your friend. Having had a baby shower, I remember what people did for me (write positive thoughts down, sew a blanket, come to the party even without a gift, etc) and who was there, versus how much money was put into the shower. Don't let it stress you out!

 

[NDH]

Zay that's certainly a difficult position to be in, planning a baby shower after a miscarriage with the theme you wanted for your own wedding shower. And then to have a big price tag attached too.
I don't see a problem with just saying to the other "this is what I am able to contributesi keep that on mums when planning costs of things" or something like that. Just be firm and blunt about it.

 

[coucou11]

Totally Zay, agree with both Kate and Natalie - maybe just say this is my budget, and I can contribute in any other way (i.e., time, if that is possible, helping to set up, etc). I also think that it's totally legit to just excuse yourself from things that make you uncomfortable, i.e. if they are too baby centric and you are feeling upset about the MC. You can even tell one of the ladies organizing it, if you are comfortable with that, and then that would help them be more understanding. I totally think you are entitled to only do what you are comfortable with in this situation.

Terrissa I'm so sorry about the YI! Ugh those are the absolute worst. I think just take the meds and get everything sorted out, although I do agree with you about wanting to avoid medications if possible. But this way you can get everything sorted and hopefully move forward. Where are you going again for holiday?

Kate I hope you caught the egg!!

Natalie that massage thing sounds amazing! So fun, what a great birthday present.

Kylee I am with you on dtd seeming less chore like when it's the perfect time Good luck these next couple days!!

 

[KTJ006]

Today feels like a blah day. Rainy and yucky. Naps and movies all day

 

[kdmalk]

Is it safe to assume I O'ed yesterday? Both dh and I are about out. Lol. Someone please say yes.

https://fertilityfriend.com/home/5378c6

 

[jlw617]

Haha Kylee, I'd say you probably did and if not and you were bding before then your prob good to go

 

[kdmalk]

Thank god. No more. No more! I am in pain! Lol. Too much!!!! Must. Have. BFP. Cannot SMEP again. Lol

 

[zaycain]

Haha Kylee. You can let it rest for now. Fingers crossed for you!

Thanks ladies for getting back to me about my little issue. I got pissed again today because we have a mutual friend that will throw a party for anything.. and now she's butting in on it. Too many cooks in the kitchen is never good. We'll see what happens when they start talking money.

Then I realized that I am just SUPER pissy. Anything will set me off. I don't remember being so pissed around this time in my cycle before my BFP. Although this day I had a voracious appetite for fried pickles. Then we called it pickles.

My boobs are huge and I am crampy. I took a HPT and it was a BFN. I'm only 10 days dpo. My cycle is all screwed up. I o'd on day 17-18. Do you know when you girls o'd after the mmc?

I feel like I am in MAJOR PMS mode. Like I have a big cloud of my head. Did you ladies go through major hormones before your BFP?

Thanks ladies!

 

[jlw617]

Zay-I can't remember if I was super moody or not but def yes on the boobs and cramping! I was sure AF was coming so I was probably moody as well! Keep us updated! If you're anything like me you're going to either poas everyday until you get a bfp or AF comes, I sure hope it's a bfp for you!

 

[kdmalk]

Zay- I had a fit over some cheese at 8(ish)dpo and knew right then. But didn't get my bfp until 14dpo. You are still in. And I DEFINITELY had sore boobs, which was not normal for me right before AF.

 

[NDH]

You're definitely not out yet Zay! 10dpo isn't too early for a bfp bit its definitely too early to know tore out. It ain't over til the red lady bleeds. Sounds promising! I ovulated on cd16 as opposed tp my usual 12 or 13.

 

[zaycain]

Thanks so much ladies!

Natalie - haha never heard that before!

Jaime - I'm going to hold off on testing again today. I might just wait until January 1st like I had planned. I'll be 12 days dpo. (I think)

Kylee - Yes. Sore boobs are not normal before my AF either, but I am wondering if my body changed after being pregnant. My first dead giveaway was dark nipples, but they never went back to normal so now I can't tell!



I have a meeting with a tough client today so I need to take deep breaths. Otherwise I COULD get fired with my attitude.

It's lightening up. I took a cycle class last night, at a bunch of cookies and had a good night sleep.

You ladies are amazing! Thank you for the support!

 

[coucou11]

Good luck Zay!! One day at a time. I don't have any insight on symptoms, I can't really remember mine from before my BFP, and before that I never got PMS because I didn't have my period (on mirena). But I don't think you are out by any stretch! For my first BFP I didn't get it until 18DPO!

Kylee - great looking chart! So excited for you this cycle!!

My chart is all over the place so far this month, I'm super annoyed. My temp was 97.8 this morning!! WTH. Usually my cover line is closer to 97 so this is totally weird. My temps after the D&C were bizarre too but I just can't figure this out. I really hope they start dropping soon otherwise I can't imagine how I'm going to figure out when I will O, if I will at all. Sigh. I think I will go take a run now and try to get some positive energy going.

 

[coucou11]

Also, I'm spotting a little. 4 days after my period ended and CD10. ARGH. Ok, just gonna try and be understanding, this is just my body adjusting. Doesn't mean I can't get pregnant this cycle.

Could also be from dtd on Sunday afternoon but really, two days later?