{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[tcinks]

Thanks everyone. I am not really too worried about it , I remember passing something that looked like that earlier in the miscarriage, I think it is part of the placenta or part of my uterine wall where the placenta was. I'm just surprised it could still be in there after all this time! And with my hcg being negative. I've had so many tests and checkups and ultrasounds and medication...I'm so worn out from seeing doctors. They never usually tell me anything new, just that "its normal" or "that MIGHT be a problem." Ugh. I just don't know what is going on with my body these days, I keep getting these twinges that feel maybe like ovulation , but I'm pretty sure that isn't happening...and it's been going on for days. Ready for some normalcy!

Kylee, when do you plan to test ? Those all sound like really good symptoms! But of course it's easy to get your hopes up thinking that. I'm sure when I get to trying again, I'll be going crazy in the tww. With my previous pregnancy it was my first month trying so I wasn't really even thinking I would get it that time so I was really symptom checking. I know in the future it'll be craziness.

Leigh, how are you doing?

 

[tcinks]

Oh Natalie, thanks for googling that. Was it an intense treatment? I'm not too worried about those, as the more I talk to people , the more it seems like they are rarely the cause of mc. The last doctor I talked to said she's seen women with them that are the size of a grapefruit or bigger and had perfectly fine pregnancies. I don't like all the invasiveness, I feel like it's going to start causing more harm than good. I just want to let my body naturally take care of things and judge for myself when I feel ready. I mean honestly, all the doctors are telling me different things but I'm the only one living in my body .

Natalie I have been peeing on things like crazy even though I know I couldn't be pregnant. Once this cycle is over I think I will go get some opks.

 

[kdmalk]

My official test date is 10dpo. Not for any particular reason, but because it is slightly possible to get a bfp at that point. But I want to be realistic... some cheapies will be dipped every day between now and then. I swore I would skip tomorrow because I am being ridiculous, but I just love to pee on sticks!

Natalie, I think we have that in common. But who doesn't?! lol. I don't think you are crazy. I just dipped three tests at 5dpo.

 

[zaycain]

The witch has arrived. Wah wah. Oh well.. just gotta start again for the next time. I'm have very specific ovary pains. I'm hoping it's not a cyst!

 

[tcinks]

Oh I'm sorry zay. on to the next cycle!

Kylee, as long as you've got the cheapies, why not? But I've seen some women do excessive testing with the frer. I can't imagine, those are so expensive!

 

[NDH]

So sorry Zay

Kylee at least you've already ovulated

Terrissa I didn't actually read up on that treatment just the side effects so I don't know what it entails. I can't eve remember what its called It does seem quite common though as they mentioned its been performed over 100000 times (with 4 reported deaths)

 

[NDH]

My body must still be pretty out of wack. Or else Im a crazy Burkina (lmao autocorrect changed nutso to that! And lmao was changed to knapsack????) with a terrible case of like eye. Mote than likely both scenarios

I forgot I threw out my opks but I poas anyway on a hpt on the 0.01% chance AF was plantation or breakthrough bleeding but instead I watched a really faint line show up within the time limit while it was drying.

A faint line means either I have line eye or a bad batch of tests, or else that my body is still screwed up and has a tiny bit of hcg on my system or else that I would have to have ovulated and conceived around CD5....not impossible bit highly improbable...

Peed on another just now and same thing...

So confused. Wasn't going to say anything til Monday it Tuesday when I test again.

 

[coucou11]

So sorry about the witch Zay!

Wow Natalie that is bizarre! I guess CD5 is possible but you're right, does seem unlikely. But you could still be ovulating with a little hog in your system from the mc. When would O normally be due? And AF? Man these cycles are so annoying, just impossible to figure anything out.

Terrissa it's so great that you're so positive about all this! Hopefully when you show this to the doctor they will have some definite answers. And with this AF maybe things will finally get back to something more normal! Fingers crossed!

Kylee can't wait for your test! Those do sound like great symptoms!!

Nothing much new here, enjoying some relaxing time after new year's before work starts in earnest next week. I am at CD14 and should ovulate mid next week. My temps finally dropped thank goodness so now I'm around low 97s, which is pretty normal. I've been monitoring CM and may start taking opks today even though its probably early. The only thing is my husband is suffering from some kind of weird stomach ailment, so I am trying to get him better so we can start dtd soon! He doesn't want to at all with his stomach hurting (and I don't blame him). Bring on the ginger tea!

Kate and Jamie and Fleur - how are you guys? Long time no see! (well, a couple days anyway, haha).

 

[kdmalk]

Sorry, Zay! for next cycle!

T- I have 4 frers... MUST. NOT. DIP!!!! Because when I am a day or two before AF and I have dipped them all for no reason, I will not buy more. This is how I am keeping myself from using them. Lol.

Nat- PICTURES OF TESTS!!!! I want to tweak them. Lol.

Leigh- yay for O soon!!

 

[KTJ006]

Ladies you are chatter boxes today!!! I love that everyone is back after the holidays!

Natalie - Pictures pleeeeease!!! I am definitely intrigued by everything!

Terrissa - Hope you are doing well this weekend! Any good plans with the DH?

Kaylee - everything sounds good with you! FX'd you get some good news. I am impressed you got all those signs the first time around and are seeing them this time. I really never had any signs, besides implantation bleeding right when my AF was supposed to show. And yes, stick with dipping the cheapies for now!!

Leigh - Hoping O comes for you soon! I wish I could temp. I am up and down too much during the night that it would throw everything out of whack.

Zay - sorry for AF but yay for starting a new cycle! I get ovary pains too, specifically on my right side. Is that a sign of a cyst? I'm too scared to Google it as it will probably tell me I'm going to die within a day...haha

A big HELLO to anyone I may have missed!!

Nothing new here. Will test at the earliest the 11th...AF is supposed to come around the 13th. I'm not feeling it this month but who knows!

 

[NDH]

You cam't really see a line in the top one from yesterday, so I didn't post any photos of it alone. Bu the bottom is with fmu today and its darker.
Am I nuts?

https://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a175/Roshinda/028_zps66dbd2af.jpg

 

[KTJ006]

I don't see anything, Hun. But I'm also on an iPhone so I wouldn't go by me! Best you can do is wait a few days then test again. Hate the waiting game! FX'd for you

 

[NDH]

I can't see anything on the top one in the photo but the bottom one is taunting me. lol

My rational brain knows I need to lock up the tests for a week ad all will be revealed in time, but this whole ordeal has turned me into a psycho with line eye lol and I can't stop peeing on things an googling if its possible to ovulate on CD 5 or 6. (Which btw it is, though very rare)

 

[KTJ006]

Ladies, wanted your thoughts (maybe I'm over analyzing things). DH and I have never had issues getting pregnant. Anytime we tried, we were successful as I knew my body well enough to time things right. Since I had the very long, drawn out process of the D&C, things are just different:

-The first 2 days of my period are super heavy. I could wear a super plus tampon plus an overnight pad and they're both soaked through within 2-3hrs

-also during these first 2 days, I get pelvic congestion (though I've had this since having my first DD). It's basically when there's so much blood that's trying to go through a small space it creates pain. The pain only happens when I'm standing (crazy strange, huh?) and only for the first 2 heaviest days

-I get pain in my right ovary from the time I ovulate to the time I get my period. I did have this checked out back in November after my D&C - doctor did an internal exam and thought it was just things 'waking up.' Still having the issue though

-the fact that we still aren't pregnant yet. Not sure if the things above are what's causing me not seeing a positive test. Though a D&C is a big change on your body...mine might just need more time to heal

Not worried about any of this. Just perplexed. I was planning to call if I don't see a positive test this month, just to rule some things out. Would love everyone's thoughts! And sorry if any of this is TMI!

 

[jlw617]

Hi Ladies,
Sorry Ive been so out of the loop lately! I think deep down, Im just trying my best not to hyperfocus on this whole pregnancy thing because even though Im hopeful I also am trying to be real and I know that if I get too excited and Im let down again for any length of time, I dont know how Im going to handle it...
Katie-Im not really sure what info you're looking for but I can relate on the point of DH and I never having problems getting pregnant before his vasectomy/reversal so it is really hard to go through-pain wise, I get it all and always have since a teen, super ridiculous heavy flow the first 2 days, with cramping that is awful, and bad ovary pains that tend to happen up until af as well
Kylee-Super excited for you, hope you get a bfp!
Natalie-its hard to see anything but its totally different when youre looking at the things in person, even the best camera would have a difficult time capturing a possible faint line, when are you going to test again?
Coucou-Thanks, it has been a few days but it seems like forever haha! I know what you mean with trting to get the hubs better, our whole house has been sick here too for the past 3 weeks, the viruses going around have been terrible this year, we had to take our 8 year old daughter in because she literally couldnt walk! the dr said sometimes the viruses will attack muscles/joints-tell me what day you get a positive opk, Ive also started testing (about cd10) because Im textbook ovulation and mine always comes on cd14...well not this time, today is cd14 and yesterday the line was barely even visible so Im praying it will just be later than usual because of mc and that its not an annaovulatory (sp?) cycle for me!

 

[Fleur828815]

Happy new year everyone, hoping this one will be much kinder to all of us than 2014! How is everyone doing?

I’ve been taking a bit of a break because it all got too much, lots of pregnancy announcements, still not ovulating, fighting with DH because he says I’m obsessed.

Jamie, sorry to hear you’ve all been so unwell, your poor daughter! Hope you’ll be getting a positive OPK in the next few days.

Natalie, belated happy birthday, so sweet of your husband and mom to organize a surprise party. Have you booked your massage? I can’t see anything on the pic you’ve posted, sorry. Try again in a few days if you can stand to wait, fingers crossed!

Zaycain, did you manage to sort out the baby shower stuff? You shouldn’t feel you have to pay, especially in your situation. Sorry AF came, good luck for this cycle.

Terrissa, so sorry that you were advised to wait till March or April to try again, but looks like you’ve found a good doctor. Did you manage to find out what the strange clot was??

Kylee, hope you get your BFP this month so you don’t have to try SMEP again lol. When are you going to test? Has your viola arrived?

Leigh, sounds like you had a fab holiday in Mexico. Start the OPKS earlier if possible, your cycles can go haywire after a miscarriage so you might ovulate earlier. Hope your DH is doing better and up to BDing!

Katie, bummer about the early ovulation, hope you still managed to catch the egg. Unfortunately after my miscarriage my cycles also went haywire. I go through a super tampon + an overnight pad within 3 hours on the first day of full bleeding. No idea about the pelvic congestion and ovary pain though, but from what I’ve read, there is no “normal” after a miscarriage. I fell pregnant very easily the first time so it’s hard having to go through this wait and uncertainty.

AFM : CD 13, negative OPK, no CM at all just like last month so I’m guessing this will be another anovulatory cycle. I also got a really weird AF, started with old brown blood for 1 day, then 2 days of VERY heavy bleeding, 1 days of slight bleeding, 1 day of nothing, then 4 days of brown discharge. So fed up.

 

[tcinks]

Glad to see you Jamie! :wave: I know what you mean about staying away for a while and trying not to think about it. It is so hard! I hope ovulation is just late and that you're not just not ovulating. How frustrating. :/

Nice to see you too Fleur So sorry about the weird cycle. I hope you still end up ovulating! And sorry you're fighting with your dh. Sometimes it's so hard for them to understand. Mine has been pretty understanding and that has been helpful.

Oh Katie, sorry about all the confusion with your is . I have no answers , I'm going through some of those same things. :/ I think the mc/d&c is just doing weird things...i hope you can get some answers from your doctor.

Afm...cycle day 5, I think. The first 3 days were awful, so much blood. I bled through my pants twice. Ugh. But yesterday was like a normal/moderate flow and today its been pretty light so far. Hopefully tomorrow the bleeding will stop altogether! Wouldn't that be nice...after almost 3 months.

I think I'm giving up on the doctors for a while. We thought we liked the most recent one, but she says she's not sure about my results and wants me to see ANOTHER specialist. Well I think maybe we will just go ahead and try this cycle as long as the bleeding stops and I feel good. I'm almost to the 3 month mark, which is what most people suggested (although I definitely wouldn't have waited that long if my body hadn't stopped me. ) Anyway, I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much, but I feel like we are finally ready and my body is actually cooperating!

 

[coucou11]

Hi ladies - I'm sending out big hugs to everyone today. I think the start of a new year, getting back to the grind, and the end of the year that we were all pregnant has brought out a lot of emotions, at least in me. It's harder than I anticipated saying goodbye to 2014 - knowing that after all I went through, it feels like I'm back where I started. I think starting to try again this cycle has also brought up a lot of weird emotions about the baby I lost - like maybe I didn't properly say goodbye, and I was kind of rushing trying to get pregnant again to "replace" it, but that's not ever going to happen. I've had some time to think which has been nice, and I'm ready to move forward, but still, I totally agree that sometimes one just needs to take a step back.

Jamie I hope you guys are finally on the mend! What an ordeal with all that sickness during the holidays, and how scary with your daughter! I think this first cycle is going to be hard for me too if we don't get pregnant, so I'm going to try and not focus too much either after this O. We'll see.

Fleur I'm sorry to hear about this disappointing cycle so far, and your fighting with DH. That only makes things harder. Maybe you can check in with your doc and see if they can give you any advice? There might be natural supplements you can take to bring on ovulation that they would be ok with.

Kate - I have to imagine this all has to do with the miscarriage. I mean, I m not an expert so I can't really offer much specific advice, but it does just seem like our bodies are all out of whack for a while, in one way or another. I think a call to your doc would be appropriate. This is actually a very interesting article about heavy menstrual flow and the treatments / causes - apparently low progesterone can be a cause! Who knew! https://www.cemcor.ubc.ca/resources/very-heavy-menstrual-flow

Natalie I am really terrible at seeing lines so I'm no help at all! Anything new today?

Terrissa that would be so great if you stoped bleeding once and for all! I'm glad you are feeling more comfortable, but I can't believe she recommended another specialist. Ugh! What did she think it was that you passed the other day? What kind of specialist does she want you to see now? It's so annoying that they can't even figure out the answers themselves. Glad to see you are staying positive!

I am at CD16. EWCM for two days or so (I usually get it for a few days before ovulation). Negative opks that last two days (hopefully I didn't miss the surge - I test once per day at around 4 pm - the last two had a faint line but I called them negative. We'll see I guess- do you guys test more than once per day with opks?) My husband is finally coming around (phew) so we bd'd on Sat night, and have it scheduled again tonight (haha) and maybe the next few days if the opk comes up positive today. fingers are so tightly crossed. I keep telling myself, I could be pregant by the end of this week.... sigh.

 

[coucou11]

Quick update - got a positive opk today, so let the race to catch the egg begin... will plan on BD tonight and tomorrow night for sure, not sure we will make it three nights in a row. My last cycle, ovulation happened the same day as the positive opk (according to FF) so hopefully it will be close this time around too.

 

[tcinks]

Yay Leigh! Get to it!