{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[NDH]

Congrats kylee! Please do stick around!

Leigh looks promising

Jamie I have no idea. For me I know I definitely get stark negatives the day before and after O so I can definitely miss the surge. But mc also can mess up cycles. Last month I ovulated two days later than I'd expect, and this month a whole week later than usual there were no obvious signs of ovulation so idk if I missed it or if I haven't yet.

AFM I did poas today and negative so idk what was going on with the earlier tests. I don't have good chances this month though. Today was my daughters third birthday and m exhausted over all the planning and effort of the past couple days.

also I just read about this https://www.birth-institute.com/alternative-medicine-and-childbirth/vaginal-steams which intrigues me and I was considering doing one because of the mc, but since it would have to be done in the middle of the tww I'll have to pass as I don't know what it would do to a possibly soon implanting embryo.

 

[jlw617]

Congrats kylee! Please do stick around!

Leigh looks promising

Jamie I have no idea. For me I know I definitely get stark negatives the day before and after O so I can definitely miss the surge. But mc also can mess up cycles. Last month I ovulated two days later than I'd expect, and this month a whole week later than usual there were no obvious signs of ovulation so idk if I missed it or if I haven't yet.

AFM I did poas today and negative so idk what was going on with the earlier tests. I don't have good chances this month though. Today was my daughters third birthday and m exhausted over all the planning and effort of the past couple days.

also I just read about this https://www.birth-institute.com/alternative-medicine-and-childbirth/vaginal-steams which intrigues me and I was considering doing one because of the mc, but since it would have to be done in the middle of the tww I'll have to pass as I don't know what it would do to a possibly soon implanting embryo.

That is quite interesting, I wonder if by dark blood she is referring to brown blood because I know when its brown, it means its old...In the last couple years (I think maybe because Im getting older?) I always have the brown blood for a day or 2 in the beginning of af, I know I wouldnt be opposed to trying this out especially if I dont get a bfp this cycle.

 

[coucou11]

Thanks all! Temp went up again slightly today (.2 degree) - I'm not thrilled, I would have loved to see a big jump, but I'll take it!

Kylee you best be sticking around!!!

Fleur that's so strange that you got a darker opk after drinking so much water... are you still testing? What CD are you?

Natalie that steam sounds fascinating. I'm hoping I have to wait to do it until after I give birth How was the birthday party?? Sorry about the tests, but give it a few more days and see what happens.

How are the opks today Jamie? Hoping for a late O!

 

[jlw617]

How are the opks today Jamie? Hoping for a late O!

Tested again this morning-no difference whatsoever in fact if anything it looks like it might be a little bit lighter today so I have no idea, the one thing that has peaked my interest a little is that my temperature has been up a little which is odd for me because normally I have a lower temperature, I don't temp for charting/ovulation but we've been doing a lot of temperature taking around the house lately with everybody being sick and I have had an ongoing temperature of 99.5 on average for the past week and a half and I'm definitely not sick anymore nor have I been for at least a good week, i'm having the smallest twinge of queasiness in the morning but besides that I'm not having any other symptoms and last time I got a BFP my boobs were killing me by the time I found out I was pregnant so like I said, I'm going bonkers!

 

[Fleur828815]

Natalie, happy birthday to your daughter! Did she enjoy her party? That article is interesting, but yeah, it is not to be tried while we're trying for a baby!

Jamie, my OB/gyn said brown blood is old blood, I also started getting it before AF about a year ago, and it's even worse since the miscarriage. It's so frustrating not to know what's happening with your body but I do hope you're not going bonkers about the symptoms

Leigh, I've got my fingers crossed for you!

What do you do with your used OPKs? I keep them to compare but it doesn't really work because the lines get darker when I leave them out. I should just throw them away straight after checking the results!

I'm on CD 16 today and the OPK looked almost positive, but it's been looking that way for the past 3/4 days. Not a repeat of last month's anovulatory cycle I hope

 

[coucou11]

Hi Fleur! CD 16 is not out at all - keep testing! I have had several cycles in the past where I did not ovulate until CD 20 or 22! I know you said yours were very regular before but who knows now. It's funny that the opk has been looking close to positive. Maybe your body is just gearing up for O?

Jamie - hmm, very interesting. I def think that O can affect our overall temp as well as just our BBT. So that is a good sign. Maybe you actually O'd early and that is why the opks have been off? That could totally be. I hope so, and hope you got that BD in!!

AFM, my CM is different today (sticky) and my cervix seems harder, so I'm thinking if I did O, it was maybe yesterday. FF will for sure call it that, if my temp keeps going up, but I think it could have been any time in the last three days. Sometimes I think FF doesn't quite get things right, with its slavish adherence to temperature patterns. I might still BD tonight just for fun, haha. With my short LP's I might have a sense in a week or so, but I will try to hold out on testing until the 21st.

 

[kdmalk]

Hi guys!!! Just checking in.

This evening I noticed some brown when wiping. I know it is old blood, but I am also feeling a bit crampy/gassy so I don't know what to think. Tests are getting darker, so I am hoping everything is okay. I am actually almost feeling AFish.... Trying to relax and just let whatever happens happen, but it's hard not to worry. Planning to test again on Saturday. Would be expecting AF either then or Sunday, so we will see.

STICK, little Taz, STICK!!!!

 

[Fleur828815]

Leigh, when will FF confirm your ovulation? I'm sure there's a margin for error in their results. Hope you'll get a BFP on the 21st!

Thanks for the support. I got a glaring positive OPK today on CD 17, for the first time ever. As I said though, for the past 4 days or so I'd been having dark test lines, almost as dark or as dark as the control line (last night at 11.30 p.m despite drinking a lot before). I don't know if that's normal. I'm not temping so won't be able to confirm ovulation this month. No CM/ EWCM either.

Kylee, try not to worry too much (easy to say, I know!). Early pregnancy and AF symptoms can be more or less the same. My doctor said brown discharge is not usually an issue and is quite common. The gassy feeling was one of my earliest symptoms. Stick baby Taz!

 

[tcinks]

Yep, gassy and crampy were some my first symptoms too! Did you test again today Kylee?

Okay I think I'm finally going to get some opks. I *should* be ovulating in a few days and can usually tell by cm but I don't want to take any chances! How many should I get? Do you take one a day? Or more?

Fleur that is really confusing. Have you been DTD just in case?

Leigh, I hope you timed everything right and you'll be our next bfp!

 

[coucou11]

Solid crosshairs on FF today! It's quite surprising, I have literally never seen solid crosshairs - mine are always dotted. So anyway, the wait is on.

Kylee I am sure everything is just great! I imagine it can be very unnerving though, I was just thinking if I get pregnant again and have any spotting in the first trimester it is going to be extremely hard for me.

Fleur that's great about your opk! That means at least your body is gearing up and having the right hormones and everything. I know a lot of people who take EPO and it is supposed to do wonders for EWCM, so that might be something to try for a bit if you are finding you are not getting any after the MC.

Yay for O Terrissa! Did you guys decide to try this cycle? For opks, I usually test every day between 2pm and 4pm, and if I get a day that seems like its darker (even if not fully positive) I'll test again at like 7pm and see if its positive. It depends on how your surge works, so I think you have to get to know the pattern, but you're unlikely to miss it if you test every day (normally). Good luck!

 

[tcinks]

Thanks Leigh! Well, I decided to try. Still trying to convince dh, he's really nervous about it. But I'm hoping he comes around soon so we don't miss this cycle!

 

[coucou11]

Yay! I hope so too! No harm in trying anyway, especially since you are feeling so much better now that everything seems to have passed. What a relief that must be.

 

[kdmalk]

I feel like y'all are the only ones that can appropriately obsess over this with me. Everyone else thinks I am being nuts. My first super squinter was at 10dpo, and I saw it because my 9dpo pm test dried pink. The lines still take a while to show up, but they are getting darker for sure. 11dpo frer was pretty much negative. My frer today looks good, but I have now taken three digitals and still can't get a positive one. Shouldn't I have enough HCG if I first tested positive nearly 4 days ago?!!!! I am freaking out thinking I have beta issues again. If we lost two in a row, we wouldn't try again for a while. Both of us would need some time. I can't remember if I told you guys I went to the doctor for a uti at 11dpo (already aware that I am pregnant) and my doctor told me my test was negative. But she said the sensitivity is 50, and I knew I wasn't close to that yet. So she won't be of help at least until Monday or Tuesday when she believes me. She thought I was bat shit crazy when I told her that I am certain. And I LOVE her to death, so I don't want to leave. She is just all evidence and her test didn't have a line yet. Lol. Anyway, am I being crazy and obsessive over the digital still being negative? Would you be concerned if you were in my shoes? What would you do? Help!

Here's today's frer (way better in person)

 

[tcinks]

Well I think anyone would be concerned, but that doesn't mean we SHOULD be concerned. I think it gets tricky when you start testing with different brands because they all have different sensitivity levels. Do you have anymore of the original ones you tested with? I think you should use that again and see how the line progressed. Because comparing the new choice line to the frer line doesn't tell you much. You know?

On the first pic you posted of the squinter I couldn't really see the line, but I definitely see this one!

 

[kdmalk]

That is what is driving me nuts! I am out of dollar store tests, and well past fmu with no desire to "4 hour hold" myself into another uti. I might pick up some more today and use one tomorrow. I am a bit annoyed with myself right now because I have been so obsessed with this. Now that I have a decent line on a frer, I will do another one tomorrow. I originally said I was going to do the digital on Sunday, so I am going to stick with that and use my last one. If it still says no, I am not going to worry about it. I can't change whatever is going to happen at this point, so I might as well just move on. I'll update tomorrow.

How is everyone else? Having a nice weekend so far?

 

[tcinks]

That's kind of a good way to look at it. I hope it says pregnant!

I'm finally feeling pretty good! I stopped bleeding!! I never thought this day would come. Still trying to convince DH we should start trying, my fertile window is this week!

 

[coucou11]

Hi Kylee! I can see this FRER and I agree, maybe trying with another dollar store would help. For my first pregnancy, I didn't test positive until 18 dpo! So I wouldn't worry too much, you could just be slow to develop hcg, that is totally normal. But it is good to try and not stress too much. Big hugs!!

What do you ladies think of this chart? I am concerned because my temp is just not very far above the cover line and not going up. Does that kind of thing matter? Ugh I'm considering ditching temping altogether now that I know I have O'd because it is stressing me out. As you said Kylee, whatever is going to happen will happen now!

 

[zaycain]

Hi ladies!

It's been so busy so I'm having a hard time keeping up.

Kylee congrats! Don't drive yourself crazy though. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I was crampy for the first 3 weeks! It's a good sign. Uterus is expanding.

T - I really hope you can BD this week. I'm glad the bleeding stopped. What a relief!

Cou - I'm not good at understanding temps. I haven't done it so I don't think I can offer much help.

Afm.. I've got a yeast infection and I'm crampy. So annoying. I should O next week, but I'm gonna just see how it goes with the hubs.

 

[kdmalk]

T- SEDUCE HIM!!!!!! This is the obvious answer. Lol

Leigh- as long as it is above your cover, I think it is alright. You are right about not needing to temp once you have confirmed O. Some girls know they have a 2-3 day temp nosedive before AF, so if they see it, they are a bit more prepared for a bfn. If you don't care to know what your temp does right before AF comes, I say forget it.

Zay- you have a yeast infection and I have a uti! Not fun issues to have!!!!! Hoping you feel better really soon!

 

[KTJ006]

Ladies...sorry I've been MIA. Things have been crazy on the homefront and I haven't had a chance to go back and read everyone's responses. I've been trying to not think about pregnancy/conceiving/all that jazz because for me it makes the time go by slower. I know I've missed responding to some people (SORRY!!!)

Kylee: congrats on the BFP!! Don't freak out about how the test are coming in. I agree with Terrissa that it's probably because you're switching between brands. And sorry about the UTI. I got them all the time while I was in college (stress maybe?) and they are not cool. Hope the doc gave you something that can knock it out quickly. I especially loved the medicine that turned your pee funny colors and numbed you. Ahhh modern medicine

Terrissa: yes, seduction is key. Make a yummy dinner, wear a dress, have some wine, then get busy!! So glad your bleeding has stopped! What a relief!

Leigh: How's the temp thing going? I say stop temping after O and just wait it out Hope your TWW goes by quickly!

Zay: sorry about the yeast infection! I had my first one after my DS was born and it was hoooooorrrrrrrible. They put my on antibiotics and after I finished them I still had it! I literally walked around with an ice pack on my "area" because it was the only thing that would stop the itching (maybe because I froze everything down "there!" Haha). But I feel you and hope it goes away soon

Natalie: sorry about the faulty tests. That is seriously not cool.

Not much for me. AF should be here tomorrow. Like last month, I'm 99.9% sure it will arrive, so I'm not even going to test. This is frustrating to me. This is our second month of trying and we've never had to try for this long. Starting to wonder what the heck is the matter with me

Will try to be more active on here!! Glad everyone appears to be doing well!