{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[coucou11]

Morning all!

Kylee any new tests? Hope all is going well! How's the UTI? What a bummer!

Kate I totally agree time goes slower when you are thinking about ttc... each day seems like an eternity. Sorry things have been so busy on the home front but hoping that makes the time pass

Zay - ugh! yeast infections are the worst! So sorry, hope it resolves quickly!

Terrissa yay for not bleeding! Gosh that is so huge! I am thrilled for you!

AFM, nothing much new. Temps up .1 today (ha). I'm a glutton for punishment, I can't stop temping. Since O I've just been having bloating and some very mild cramping, so no real symptoms to speak of but its so early. Just have to hold out one more week then I will know.

 

[KTJ006]

Ladies...I know we talked about it before. I don't have the time to go through all the pages on here. What are some ways to increase your fertility?? Now that my cycle seems to be getting back on the track that it was, we really want to make January our month! I don't think I can take another disappointment

 

[jlw617]

Hi Ladies, things have been a lot crazier around here for me since Christmas so sorry I haven't been checking in as often!

Kylee-have you tested yet today? I was ridiculously crampy/bubbly with my last pregnancy so that's a good sign I think!

Terissa-glad you're feeling so much better, hope you and dh get to dtd soon!

Couucou, ooh that's exciting, do you know the exact day you'll start testing or are you just going to wait to see if AF shows? My temps have been 99-100 for the past week and I'm getting blood every time I blow my nose, I may start testing next Sunday!

Katie-I'm right there with you on having a difficult time updating/keeping track with everyone lately. I'm also right there with you on the trying as we've also never had to try for this long it took us seven months to get pregnant this last time for us! hang in there it will happen!

Zay-sorry you're dealing with a yeast infection! I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy!

Hope everyone is enjoying their Sunday!

 

[tcinks]

Katie I don't know much about things to increase fertility. I know some women drink fertiliteas (you order them online) and take other herbs , but those usually take a while to build up to be effective. When I got pregnant before, I dtd the two days before, day of and day after ovulation. I don't know which one did it, but I made sure to lay in bed afterwards and even had my bottom elevated a while to help things along (not sure if that did anything...but I did get pregnant) . Anyway, I hope this is your month!


I am just so down today. I spent the weekend with DHs family (who I love dearly) but everything is just about the baby and its soooo hard. I just wanted to cry. And I felt so alone, none of them know what I'm going through. SIL and her hubby/new baby live about 3 hours away and aren't around a lot, so when they are in town we really like to spend a lot of time with them. But its so hard sometimes. They won't be back for a while, and I feel bad saying it, but its kind of a relief.

And so I thought I should be ovulating soon and was so excited...but last night I had some weird cramping and some very very light pink spotting. I can't remember if I used to get the before or not but i know it can be a sign of ovulation. And if so that really stinks! We haven't dtd yet because I thought it wouldn't be happening for a few more days! I usually get tons of cm to indicate my fertile window, but I didn't. Ugh. I'm really hoping I didn't miss our shot this month.

 

[NDH]

Katie lots of women I know swear by Maca. But it must be gelatinized not raw powder (which I only recently found out, and I see the raw powder everywhere) because it has some mild toxins that need to be broken down first.
Its a root vegetable from Peru that has been eaten for thousands of years to increase fertility in both men and women (but always cooked... Of course when we westerners discover something we have to take shortcuts in order to make it cost effective to mass produce which them makes it less effective :eyeroll Its considered to be an adaptogen that balances and restores hormones.

 

[NDH]

Also yay Leigh! Hoping you caught that egg!

Terrissa I hope you haven't missed ovulation yet.

 

[KTJ006]

Terrissa- hoping you are in time for O! I forget, are you using OPKs or temping? I am right there with you about just feeling glum. There are so many people pregnant around me. I was invited to a baby shower and I just couldn't go. I ended up sending a gift instead. Not very friend like of me but I just can't deal with any of that stuff right now. I guess it's my way of coping.

I just sent an email to my OBGYN about everything. My gut is really telling me something else is going on and that's why we haven't been able to get pregnant yet. I know it's only been 3 months since everything, but with all the symptoms I have going on and not being successful getting pregnant thus far (which is abnormal for us) it just seems like it points to something Hoping I hear back relatively soon.

Hope everyone has a good start to the week ahead!!

 

[KTJ006]

Oh...and thank you ladies for the suggestions on increasing fertility

 

[coucou11]

Hey there - happy Monday! 7 dpo here and bored... just waiting, waiting. I probably will test end of this week - since my LP is usually so short if I don't get my period by Thursday I will have some hope. I would love to hold out on testing until next week or even longer - really don't want a chemical. We'll see.

Kate I don't know much about increading fertility - I hear Vitex is good but I tried it and didn't love it. I would talk to you doctor, that way they are in line with whatever you are doing.

Jamie hoping for a BFP for you this week! That would be awesome!

Terrissa so sorry you are feeling down, I am sure it is ridiculously hard to hang around with you family and a new baby. I have been avoiding pregnant women as much as I possibly can, it's just too hard. Good luck, and hopefully you haven't missed O this time!

Hope everyone else is doing well!

 

[jlw617]

Hi ladies this really might be borderline TMI so sorry in advance anyways I was just wondering if any of you had really thick like CM before you got your BFP (BTW for those thinking it may be ovulation I highly doubt it just because I'm on cycle day 20 now and normally I ovulate on cycle day 14 I really think I just missed catching at this time) I vaguely remember having this the last time before I got my BFP and did some googling and it looks rather promising just wanted to see if any of you ladies remembered having the same thing this last week of waiting to test is going to kill me lol!

 

[KTJ006]

Hi ladies this really might be borderline TMI so sorry in advance anyways I was just wondering if any of you had really thick like CM before you got your BFP (BTW for those thinking it may be ovulation I highly doubt it just because I'm on cycle day 20 now and normally I ovulate on cycle day 14 I really think I just missed catching at this time) I vaguely remember having this the last time before I got my BFP and did some googling and it looks rather promising just wanted to see if any of you ladies remembered having the same thing this last week of waiting to test is going to kill me lol!

I personally didn't have any when I became pregnant, but everyone is totally different. I can tell you that the 2nd time I ovulated after the miscarriage wasn't until CD21, which was WAY late for me. This time around it was CD14, which is around where I was before. Good luck!

 

[jlw617]

Thanks Katie, I didn't realize you could ovulate so late! Although I ended up asking my dh if he remembers me mentioning anything like that the last time and he said I clearly remember you telling me about that before you got pregnant last time

 

[tcinks]

Thanks Katie, I didn't realize you could ovulate so late! Although I ended up asking my dh if he remembers me mentioning anything like that the last time and he said I clearly remember you telling me about that before you got pregnant last time

Well hopefully that's a good sign Jamie!

Kylee....how are you?!

Afm, I'm not sure what was going on with me on Saturday, but I don't think it was ovulation. I haven't been temping or anything, but I started getting my normal cm I get before I ovulate! So I'm excited about that. And dh and I had a talk about how we've been feeling, and I'm so glad we did because I thought I was just being emotional. But he brought up that it was hard for him this weekend too being around the baby, and that he was kind of hurt that everyone seems to have forgotten what we're going through. Today has been better though. And remember a couple months ago when we were all talking about working out more and eating better? How's that going for everyone? I had cake for breakfast this morning, but then a salad for lunch, so that balances out right? I'm trying not to keep anymore sweets in the house because I can just not resist pigging out. But I've started working out more...just a bit. Trying to work up to lifting weights, my arms are sooooo weak!

 

[KTJ006]

Afm, I'm not sure what was going on with me on Saturday, but I don't think it was ovulation. I haven't been temping or anything, but I started getting my normal cm I get before I ovulate! So I'm excited about that. And dh and I had a talk about how we've been feeling, and I'm so glad we did because I thought I was just being emotional. But he brought up that it was hard for him this weekend too being around the baby, and that he was kind of hurt that everyone seems to have forgotten what we're going through. Today has been better though. And remember a couple months ago when we were all talking about working out more and eating better? How's that going for everyone? I had cake for breakfast this morning, but then a salad for lunch, so that balances out right? I'm trying not to keep anymore sweets in the house because I can just not resist pigging out. But I've started working out more...just a bit. Trying to work up to lifting weights, my arms are sooooo weak!

T I am with you on the sweets! CANNOT have them in the house or I will eat them! I joined a fitness group this week with some wonderful ladies. I meet with them 2 days a week for a hardcore workout. Yesterday we did heavy weights and I am sooooo sore. I absolutely love it. Then I try to get in a long run 1 day a week, then the 2 other days I do some cardio and barre. I'm really trying to focus on health! Thankfully, I don't need to lose any weight, but I would love to tone and gain a bit more muscle. Glad you and DH are on the same page. Has he come around any more about TTC again?

I emailed my OBGYN about some of my concerns and she wants me to come in for an ultrasound to check things out. Hoping it gives me some relief and doesn't add any more stress. I plan on calling them today to set up an appointment.

 

[coucou11]

Jamie that sounds like a great sign!!! Yay! I don't remember that symptom but it is defnitely possible to ovulate that late - my first BFP I ovulated on CD22.

Terrissa so glad you and DH spoke, it always makes me feel so much better when I talk to my hubby and let my emotiosn out. Sounds like you are getting ready to O - good luck!

Kate good luck at your doc! I hope it goes well. And nice job on all the fitness! Wow. I am super impressed. I have been doing ok at working out, I usually run three times per week but I've been trying to go a bit farther lately in preparation for a 10K we are doing in early Feb. I'm still eating way too much sugar though - too many cookies at my office!

8DPO here.... man I am just dying to test. Must. hold. out. Sometimes testing and getting a bfn actually helps me relax and just forget about it for a few days so maybe I will tomorrow. But AF would be due in like two days anyway so part of me wants to wait. We'll see. No symptoms to speak of and my temp is not budging from 97.7 so I'm not feeling too optimistic this cycle.

 

[Fleur828815]

Hello all, just popping in to say hi. Lost the internet connection at home while replying to this thread. On my phone now but it's hard to type and check the last comments.

Good luck to those in the 2WW, and thinking of those who are struggling for various reasons.

 

[jlw617]

Terissa-I'm so glad you talked to your dh and he let you in on that, I bet that was quite comforting to know that he was feeling the same way you were! I hope your and dh get to dtd soon! I'm right there with you on the sweets and I've been demotivated to workout since the mc and I was doing so well before

Coucou-I know what you mean about the testing!!!! I took an HPT yesterday even though I knew it'd be a bfn, I just needed to get it out of my system! I'm not due for AF until the 21st or so but I think I'll start testing every other day starting on Sunday

 

[coucou11]

Agh! Broke down and tested this afternoon, so dumb! Of course it was BFN. Not going to think about testing again until at least the weekend. AF will have come by then anyway, if she's coming.

 

[tcinks]

I haven't even ovulated and I already want to start testing

Good luck Jamie and Leigh, hoping you two are our next sticky BFP! (and then me!)

Natalie, how have you been?

Katie I hope you get some answers! Any ideas so far?

Fleur, how are things with you?

 

[Fleur828815]

Terrissa, yay for CM and for the talk you had with DH ! It’s nice to know you’re on the same page emotionally. Have you managed to convince him to go ahead with TTC this month?

Leigh, sorry about the BFN, hope it was just too early to test. Hold out till the weekend if possible. Do you have any symptoms?

zaycain, has your yeast infection cleared up?

Katie, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you, things can take a while to settle after a miscarriage, but even without a miscarriage my OB/gyn said it’s normal for it to take up to a year! I understand how frustrated you must be if you usually fall pregnant quickly, hope your doctor and the ultrasound will be able to reassure you. Good luck with the fitness programme, you sound really motivated.

Jamie, I did get increased CM in early pregnancy, fingers crossed for you!

Kylee, how are you feeling?

AFM : I’m technically in the 2WW now IF I ovulated but I don’t temp so can’t confirm it. Got a +ve OPK on CD17 and DTD on CD 12, 13, 14, 16, 17, 18, 19 and 20, we were worn out by the end and didn’t manage CD 21. Today is CD 22 so I don’t know whether I should get a last attempt in. I believe my body is still recovering from the D&C so I’m not banking on this month. Last month I stupidly took a pregnancy test although I never got a +ve OPK and obviously AF turned up a few hours later so this time I won’t get my hopes up.
I am still working out regularly and I eat fairly well, but I just can’t do without cake and biscuits!