{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[tcinks]

Zaycain I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. But it is nice that you and dh will take she fine off. Doing anything fun? Oh, and I don't drink at all, just a personal choice...and it's too expensive.

Oh, I have a job interview tomorrow! And another one Monday! Both at banks. Kind of nervous, kind of looking forward to it. I think being a teller might be fun.

 

[Fleur828815]

Leigh, good luck, hope you manage to catch the egg in time!

Terrissa, after the miscarriage I haven’t had spotting / discharge like I used to before AF, so maybe that has changed for you too? I only take prenatal vitamins, although my doctor said folic acid is enough as long as you have a good diet. Good luck for your job interview!

zaycain, we work in the same field! A friend and I have set up our own design company. I don’t drink because I don’t like the taste of wine, beer etc. I VERY rarely have a martini or a cocktail but I’m a lightweight so end up tipsy after half a glass.

 

[KTJ006]

Good luck at the interview, Terrissa! An old friend has been in banking for years and loves it. Though you get all sorts of personalities that come into the bank!

Zay - I'm not much of a drinker. Maybe a glass of wine twice a year. I hate beer, wine is ok, and the fruity liquor drinks are ok too. It just doesn't excite me much. I'd rather drink water because I know it's better for me...I'm a nerd like that

 

[kdmalk]

Hi!!!!!!

I'll start by saying I could take a bath in beer. Apparently I am the only one. But I don't drink while we are ttc. I did have a gin & tonic twice during the month we were required to take off between the d&c and ttc again, but I haven't had anything since then. Still haven't decided if we are going to skip this month or not. If this cycle has a normal length, I should O Feb. 4 or 5... Don't see the new doctor until the 13th. I guess we will just play it by ear and see what happens around O time, lol. Like everyone else, I have been crazy busy with work. I am barely in my office between meetings.

I did spend the day on Saturday just feeling sorry for myself and moping around. That seems to be what I needed, because I am full speed ahead now. Mostly boycotting facebook to avoid all the preggos. But the baby bumps are everywhere in real life too, and it still bothers me. But, as I have said previously, I don't really do feelings, so stuffing all my negative feelings into a jar and hiding it in the back of the closet seems to be working out right now. I have been more productive this week than I have in a long time. I am attributing that to no longer being obsessed with getting pregnant/staying pregnant. I have officially moved on to the "eh, whatever" phase. I am done testing early and retesting after a positive. No more. I didn't think that was stressing me out, but since I have decided not to do that, I feel like a lot of weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Last cycle, I was peeing on 2 or more opks a day at this point. I haven't done one yet. Freedom!

As for the healthy train, I jumped off it about as quickly as I got on. But I am working on it, and I feel like that counts for something. I need to quit using pregnancy (and subsequent miscarriage) as an excuse to eat whatever I want. I know it makes me feel gross, so I can't figure out why I am still doing it. I have gained TEN POUNDS since I stopped working out when we found out about our first loss. I guess that's what happens when you go from working out 5 days a week to working out zero (and eating IHOP twice a week). And now I have been out of the gym so long, my motivation to go back is pretty slim. Can someone force me to start back on Monday? Just one day back and I know I will start going regularly... but after a few months off, it is hard to take that first step back in the door.

Last part of the novel that is my update... I have decided to build a greenhouse in my backyard in the next couple weeks. Should give me something to do. I. Can't. Wait.

Fleur- glad to see that you are getting the hang of temping. Side note, let me bother you about living in France. Where did you live? Did you like it? I am thoroughly convinced I can't raise children properly in America and keep trying to convince DH to move to France. Neither of us speak French. But I have certainly been trying to learn lately! (Leigh, did you say you lived in France for a while also?)

T- Crazy about your car. Was it unlocked or did you actually lock them in there? If it was unlocked, glad the car didn't magically disappear during the day! That's some good luck right there!

 

[tcinks]

So good to hear from you Kylee, and to see that you seen to be in good spirits! The greenhouse sounds fun! What will you put in it? I'm so bad at planting, but we had a little garden last summer with some peppers and tomatoes and other little things.

Yep, keys were locked in the car. Hubby finally got me around 7. That'll teach me to always have my spare with me!

Job interview went really well , should have a follow up next week.

 

[NDH]

Zay I'm another non-drinker at any time.
Terrissa thats awful about being locked out of your car for so long! I hope the weather was mild. God luck with the job interview.
Kylee I decided I'm done with early testing too. I miss the days of only buying a pregnancy test if my period was late, even though it only happened three times in three years and once was positive only after I had started bleeding and two were negative and my period started immediately after). Not being pregnant every month was hard but certainly a lot less stressful than trying to see if there's a line yet and then the stress of wondering if it progressing well. This month I am testing on Valentines day (cause how can I not) and id AF hasn't arrived by then I would be at least a day or two late. Otherwise I think I will wait a week past my expected AF date to test. Its not like knowing an extra week or two makes any difference in the long run. It has no bearing on when the baby will arrive or what your due date is and I really don't want to know about any more chemicals. So yep 1 week late for me from now on.
Greenhouse plans sound awesome! I can't wait for my hubby to finish school so we can start saving up to buy some land. I want to grow most of my food and build a sustainable house (thinking an earthship a this point but haven't researched many other sustainable houses to know for sure) and raise my kids outdoors... that's my dream.

 

[kdmalk]

...I just watched a 40 minute video on the earthship subdivision in Taos. I'm obsessed. DH refuses to send me to Earthship academy. I'll keep working on him. lol.

When you build one, can I move in?

 

[NDH]

They're pretty cool hey?

 

[coucou11]

Hi all!

Kylee glad to see you! I am with you and Natalie too on waiting to test (we'll see how that goes). But I really just want to wait a while the next time, I don't even want to see my doctor until 9 weeks. Just in case there is another mmc, I don't want that torture of having to know the baby had passed weeks ago.

I did live in France (and Fleur did too). I lived in Paris the whole time. It was both dreamy and obnoxious at the same time - Paris is a contradiction in terms. Its gorgeous and amazing and the food is to die for, but it's also a bureaucratic nightmare and frustrating and exhausting. So it's a toss up I was ready to leave when I did, and I'm glad I have been living in the US since then. But by the same token, I would love to go back with my daughter and have her experience that (and speak French!).

Terrissa I'm glad the interview went well, that's awesome!!

Natalie we will be testing at the same time (I agree, how can you not test on Valentine's Day, haha!) I'm hoping to O in the next few days. Have you already?

Zay, I am a drinker. Haha. My husband and I, after all the time in France, enjoy our wine, and I have always loved beer. Cocktails not so much but from time to time, or when we go out to dinner. As far as while TTC, I do, but in moderation. I will during AF, then I taper off, and during the TWW I try to abstain but will occasionally have a glass. I read a whole thing about people who "drink till it's pink" haha. I think if I have trouble getting pregnant I will probably stop entirely for a while but that would be pretty drastic for me. Also I'm sure it would help if my husband stopped but I doubt that will happen, he does enjoy his wine.

Fleur hope you are feeling good!

Nothing much here, EWCM has arrived but opks are still negative. We finally BD'd last night (phew!). Will try again tomorrow and then hopefully all weekend and I'm hoping that covers it.

 

[NDH]

Leigh I think I may have. I'm either 3dpo or haven't ovulated yet. I'm cd15, and pre kids cd12 was my usual O day. I'm not totally sure whether the cramping I had was ovulation cramps or not though as it felt a bit different than usual and kept alternating sides. Might have been double ovulation lol...I've had this unshakable feeling like I was meat to have twins next and that's why my baby didn't make it. Imcrazy I know.

 

[jlw617]

Sorry I haven't posted in a while ladies, I've been kind of creeping I guess and not posting. I've been really anxious these past few days about getting pregnant this cycle, it's funny you say that Kylie because even though I am really really hoping to get a BFP this cycle I am also a lot more on the ehh side to where I'm definitely not doing my OPK's like I was when we started on this TTC journey almost a year ago. I'm just so sad that it's been almost a year since my husband's reversal surgery and we still haven't gotten pregnant yet 😞 especially when it was so easy for us before he had the surgery that I thought for sure I would be one of the women that got pregnant right away. If I don't get pregnant this cycle I think I'm just going to stop officially trying I'm not going to not try but I'm just done I think, which is also probably why I haven't posted in a couple days I just have reached my limit with this whole TTC thing!
I am also not a drinker besides my faith even before I gave my life to the Lord I was never a big drinker,I don't handle alcohol very well. Coucou, I hope one of us gets a Valentines BF P that's the first day I will test as well.
I hope everybody is doing well I will try to be better about keeping up with you ladies!

 

[Fleur828815]

Kylee, good to read your update and that you seem to be healing and moving on to the next phase. I know how hard it is to get back into the groove when you haven’t been to the gym in a while. I’ll try to motivate you on Monday. Enjoy building your greenhouse, it’s a fun project!
To answer your question, yes, I lived in France for over 10 years, in the south. If I had to raise kids there, I’d definitely choose a smallish city in the south : milder temperatures in winter, open spaces, close-ish to nature (forests, parks, seaside), less hectic than Paris or another big city. Having said that, there are downsides to living there, just like in any other country. As Leigh said, the bureaucracy is enough to put you off for life. I don’t know if it would be easy for you to get a work visa etc. I’ve only been on holiday to the USA but I don’t know if France is better for raising kids? I actually came back to my home country because I believe any kids I have will have a better quality of life here

Terrissa, did the job sound interesting ? Fingers crossed you’ll get a positive response next week.

Natalie, I hadn’t heard of Earthship before, it sounds brilliant. Twins eh, you’re brave! I think we should all encourage each other not to test too early… I say that but I’m not sure which is better : getting a BFN before AF, so you stop hoping, or keeping your hopes up till AF turns up! The only time I’ve been pregnant I tested a few days after AF was due, and this month I tested a few days before although I knew I wasn’t pregnant.

Leigh, I’m ok, just waiting till it’s time to TTC again. Which CD are you now?

Jamie, sorry to hear you’re feeling anxious. TTC does get all-consuming sometimes, we know that all too well over here. It’s hard when you start out with high hopes that it will happen again quickly only to be disappointed.

We’ve got ladies testing on Valentine’s day, it would be fab if we got a few sticky BFPs!

 

[Kika7]

Stalking!

France is great for raising kids! UK weather not very good for farming. Which is your home country Fleur?

I won't have time to read the whole thread, I always check the Loss sub- forum to see if any of the girls I had my loss with are ttc yet.

I wish you all to get your bfp's as soon as possible and to have your cuddly babies in the end and I wish the same for me too and to every one who's ready to be a parent, and the not so ready ones too as long as they want it

 

[Kika7]

Kdmark, move to the UK, easier and no need to learn new language--well sorta you do but you'll love it. I'm stuck in the USA for the next 3-4 years or so dh promises and I hope it's not more than that but I agree --> I woukdn't like to raise kids here...

Oh I might read the thread after all ...but I don't promise

Hugs all

 

[KTJ006]

Happy and excited for you Valentine's testers! If it's an outcome you don't like, just don't let it spoil your day, ok?! We really need some good news in this group!!

We are starting to renovate our kitchen this weekend. Today - Monday its countertops. Hopefully DH and I won't kill each other...haha.

As far as living in other countries...if we had the guts, we would pack up and move to either Sweden or Canada. Just seems like citizens are valued more there and the quality of life is better. Personal point of view

I hope you ladies have a fabulous weekend and do something fun. What is everyone's plans?

 

[tcinks]

Hi there kika :wave:

Katie that sounds so fun! We bought a house that was built in 1925...it's been updated some since then but still feels very old. So we are doing renovations here and there. But the kitchen is next on our list! I want completely new cabinets and countertops. We got an IKEA in town a few months ago and I just pretty much want my whole house to be from there. Haha.

Well, not sure whats up with my body. 15 dpo, no sign of af which should have come yesterday, but also a bfn. ugh I just wish that if af was coming she'd just come! I hate the "oh, there's still a chance I could be pregnant!" Because I'm always let down. But maybe I could be and it's just too early? You'd think by now I'd get at least a hint of a line though. Ugh.

Oh interview went well and I have a follow up on Tuesday! And also my other interview Monday...and I cannot remember if he said to get there at 3 or 3:30! :S Guess I'll get there early just to be safe.

 

[Kika7]

I got a hint of a line 18 days PO so not too late for you tc...FX

Ya Canada and Europe--> better quality of life and there's somethimg called the human factor --> the human being is more important than the making money industries...

 

[KTJ006]

T - I'm sure your cycles are just being wonky after everything you went through. Mine were long at first. In fact, this is the first month it's been back to normal since the MC...and that's 3 months after the fact! It takes time so don't get down on yourself.

 

[jlw617]

T - I'm sure your cycles are just being wonky after everything you went through. Mine were long at first. In fact, this is the first month it's been back to normal since the MC...and that's 3 months after the fact! It takes time so don't get down on yourself.

I hope that's the case with me as well Katie! Last month I really feel like I never even ovulated, especially since I never got a positive OPK...which up until my bfp I got a positive every month. I really hope I will atleast ovulate this month, of course I hope even more to get my bfp!
T- I hope it's a bfp for you, that would be awesome, but if not you seem to be moving in the right direction! I like the idea of buying an older home, where I live in md they are all around however I'm not sure is have the patience to wait to renovate! We actually live in a very old home, it's beautiful but it's been redone. But the architecture is still there, the lady that rents it to us kept the original glass knobs on some of the doors, they're beautiful!

I hope everyone is having a great weekend so far!

 

[tcinks]

I am not even sure if I ovulated since I don't track temp or use opks.:s I got all my usually fertile cm so I just assumed I had...but maybe I didn't. No idea, just waiting now to see what happens...

Dh and I are spending the afternoon cleaning. We have one bedroom that has become our junk room...and boy has it gotten junky! So we are organizing and throwing away a lot of stuff <----my favorite way to clean . It's amazing how much we've accumulated over 2 years, mostly from garage/estate sales .