{CLOSED GROUP} Journey to BFP and Beyond!

[KTJ006]

Leigh, that time will totally go by fast. And yes! Try to stay busy. Hence why I'm crazy and doing all these home projects...I need something to focus on! And even if the testing doesn't tell you much, at least you know it's nothing big. That would be a big relief in itself

 

[coucou11]

Well, I guess I needn't have worried as I am already spotting / bleeding lightly. Ugh, most depressing moment so far was recording the data in my FF chart and having it reset my cycle.... there goes my pregnancy, just another old chart to be filed away.

 

[NDH]

I've only just been spotting still, as I was before I found out. I hope I have a proper good bleed this time. I have no idea what to record as cd1 if i dont...

 

[Fleur828815]

Natalie, that property sounds just wonderful, I hope it has internet access and that you’ll be able to move there!

Leigh, lots of hugs to you, I hope it won’t be painful. Focusing on other things is a good idea while you wait to get the testing done.

I have no idea if it’s true or not, but some time back I read about hyper / super fertile women who fall pregnant very easily but also miscarry a lot. I don’t know if they test for that?
https://www.bbc.com/news/health-19361432
https://www.livescience.com/22706-super-fertility-recurrent-miscarriages.html
https://www.pregnancyproblem.co.uk/...-of-the-mechanism-to-select-the-right-embryo/

 

[NDH]

Yeah I was reading about hyperfertility a couple weeks ago and I definitely seem to fit the profile. I just have no idea how to get tested for it or how they would treat. I haven't read anything that seems to offer a solution.

 

[Fleur828815]

Yeah I'm thinking there's no treatment for it at the moment...unlesss you go through IVF and they select the viable embyros before implanting them. I hope that's not what you have though, and that you'll get your rainbow baby soon

 

[tcinks]

I've been a little quiet on here lately because this was finals weeks and I had a lot to get done! I didn't study nearly as much as a should have, but I think I passes! Actually I know I did. Haha. And I had graduation last night! I wasn't going to go, because here I am at 25 and just now getting my associates. I've been in and out of school for so long and have tons of credits but never finished. So I finally feel like I'm going somewhere. And dh was really excited ( I didn't have any other family there). And I'd love to finish my bachelors, but with baby coming and the plan for me to stay home, there's really no rush. But it'll be nice to say that I have a degree now, instead of just that I've been in college for 7 years with nothing to show for it.

Here's a pic from last night, if anyone cares
https://i62.tinypic.com/15pjplg.jpg


Leigh and Natalie, still thinking of you ladies so much and hoping you get some answers and your sticky babies soon.

Hope everyone has a nice weekend ��

 

[kdmalk]

Beautiful, T!!! And look at that little baby bump! So happy you have something to show for all your time in college! Congrats!!!!

 

[jlw617]

Congrats Terissa and yes cute bump! You look great!

 

[coucou11]

Gorgeous! Thanks for sharing Terrissa! Congrats on graduating, so exciting!

Hope everyone stateside is enjoying the long weekend. No plans here, just hanging out, we went to my niece's 7th birthday party yesterday, and will go out to dinner tonight.

Friday was a tough day, I think losing this baby so close to my other due date was hard (and I've just been thinking recently about how I should be so close to giving birth now). So I've been focusing on fertility, I started taking Vitex again (and will take it through the first tri this time, and maybe I won't need the suppositories that way), I ordered more Fertilitea, and I bought a couple books, one for coping with miscarriage (called "Grieving the Child I Never Knew") and another about increasing egg quality (called "It Starts with the Egg: How the Science of Egg Quality Can Help You Get Pregnant Naturally, Prevent Miscarriage, and Improve Your Odds in IVF").

So I'm wondering, I suppose I should really try to prevent pregnancy until I go see the doc in 7 weeks? I HATE to do that but I know that she won't be able to do testing again if I'm pregnant. But I also sort of just want to NTNP and then if it accidentally happens (highly unlikely) then oh well. Let me know what you ladies think.

 

[tcinks]

Leigh, that's really great you're able to look forward and focus and getting ready for the next baby! Being so close to the due date is tough. I honestly think whatever you feel comfortable with and feel like your body is ready for is what you should do. I think we understand our bodies more the doctors and health professionals sometimes. One doctor told me I needed to wait 6months before I should try again, but I felt better before that and listened to my body and here I am now. So whatever you think is best is what you should do. Hope you get it all figured out.

 

[KTJ006]

Well, ladies...I think our TTC #3 journey is over. AF should be showing up in a few days. I have the sure sign she's coming, plus a negative HPT on top of that. My appointment is on Thursday, so hopefully I will get some headway as to what's going on with my body since I've had the miscarriage. I'll update at that point.

A big part of me feels like God is telling me just to be content with where we are in life. We have 2 healthy kiddos. Between the loss of this past baby and now having tried unsuccessfully for over 7 month (after being way way fertile beforehand), it just seems like a sign that being a family of 5 wasn't meant to be. I am SO grateful for our lives now. Would I love another one? Heck yes. But I don't think it will be a part of our story and I'm becoming more used to that. I'll update more after Thursday.

Terrissa- you rock my friend for getting that associates!! Keep those goals of yours close and you'll achieve them. Baby steps

 

[Fleur828815]

Congrats Terrissa, well done ! No hiding that baby bump anymore

Leigh, it sucks that this loss had to happen close to your other due date, as if one or the other wasn’t hard enough already. I think that in your place I would just prevent for 1 cycle, and then NTNP till the appointment. Even when we do everything “right”, things can go wrong, so maybe we should trust our bodies.

Katie, I’m sorry that you feel you’ve reached the end of your TTC journey. 7 months feels like forever when it’s been easy before but my doctor told me that trying for up to a year or even two is perfectly normal. I suppose your fertility also changes as you age, or after a miscarriage. But I understand wanting to be grateful for what you already have instead of chasing this dream of a third baby and obsessing over it… so hard to give up though. Would you and DH be willing to NTNP, or did you have a cut-off point? I hope you’ll find peace with whatever decision you come to. Let us know how your appointment goes on Thursday.

 

[KTJ006]

Fleur- I definitely have fertility issues stemming from something that's going on. I have too many symptoms of it that I'm 100% certain. It's just a matter of figuring out what it is, so we can treat it accordingly. I guess you could say we will be NTNP, because since I can't get pregnant at the moment there's no point in birth control. Though there is a strong likelihood I'll be getting back on BC to see if my symptoms decrease with hormones. I guess Thursday will play a big part in deciding what I do next.

 

[coucou11]

Oh, Kate, I'm so sorry this cycle didn't work out! Will be interesting to see what the doctor says. I very much hope that this isn't the end of your TTC journey. There is still a lot of time, and even a few months on birth control is no big deal in the scheme of things. At least, that is what I keep telling myself! We are getting on one year behind my plan already, but that's just how it goes - life has other plans, and I am trying to roll with it. So hopefully God is not telling you necessarily that the journey is over, just that there are a few bumps along the way. I like to think that its His way of giving me some tough times, since I am truly blessed in the rest of my life. It sounds like you are as well!

Terrissa, I agree - you are an inspiration! Can you imagine if you had waited six months?? I'm glad you didn't, and everything is going great now

Thanks, Fleur! I agree that at least one cycle off is probably good. I'll give myself some time for the Vitex to start working hopefully, and also I'm going to get some vitamins for DH (has anyone used Fertilsan? It's highly recommended but so $$!) I could end up ovulating again right before the appt though which would be highly annoying. I'll see how my cycles are playing out and then decide I guess.

Sad to see the end of the long weekend here, and back to work Have a good start to the week everyone!

 

[Fleur828815]

Katie, good luck for your appointment tomorrow, let us know what the doctor says.

Leigh, I just made DH take normal multivits. I don’t know about Fertilsan but I’ve seen people recommend Fertilaid. How are you doing?

 

[NDH]

Katie IM do sorry to hear your ttc journey is over it will be good to take the pressure off though and focus in the family you have rather than the family you hope for. (I'm kind of doing the same - still hoping for many more babies but trying to be at peace with where we are)

Congrats Therissa!

Leigh I've never heard of Fertilesan. my hubby is so not the vitamin type so I haven't looked into st what there is for men as it would just be wasted. he is healthier now though than he was a few years ago though which might be helping.

 

[KTJ006]

Jamie/Kylee, don't you guys have scans coming up? Keep us posted!

I'm waiting for the doc now. Ultrasound checked out just fine, but of course it did! Nothing is ever that easy...

 

[kdmalk]

Kate, that is good and bad news. I hope they are able to find something they can fix!

Sorry I have been MIA lately. Honestly, I am just a walking ball of nausea most days. My body just will not throw up though. So I just walk around gagging and looking like I need to vomit all the time. It's super pleasant. Had to take a road trip to middle-of-nowhere town today to give a presentation riding shotgun down a bunch of curvy, twisty roads. That certainly didn't help. I came straight home from work and crawled in bed! That is where I sit now (trash bag in tow). My scan is tomorrow morning at 10:30, so please pray for peanut. I want to see a squirming little baby for the first time. I keep seeing these videos of 8 and 9 week ultrasounds where the baby decides to wiggle a bit, and I am really hoping peanut will give us a show tomorrow. I could really use the reassurance.

Hope everyone else is well.

 

[kdmalk]

Oh, Leigh. Where do you live again? I have a bottle of vitex I got from my chiropractor (really high quality product) and I paid $40 for it and won't use it. It will sit in my cabinet unused for all of eternity. If you want it, I am happy to mail it to you (obviously for free). Let me know!