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[SleepyOwl]

So quiet on here today!! How is everyone doing?!

Got an invite for our friend's baby shower (I think I mentioned it on this thread before - she was trying to keep it hidden but had a huge bump). Luckily it's the week of our family vacation so I'll be out of town. I feel like a bad person not wanting to go, but I felt seriously depressed when I got the invite. I already emailed her and let her know and she totally understood, but I feel like she knows the real deal.

 

[Pino6161]

Sleepy-- I wouldn't worry about what she thinks, or if you think she knows.How you feel about it is what matters. At least you have a good excuse though.

I am doing well. OH did one of my work out videos with me and was a big baby about it, so I will work out solo from now on, cause it kinda brings me down.

I just made dinner. Chicken for me, steak for OH w/ corn and a side salad. Yummy!!

 

[SleepyOwl]

Lol Pino! OH and I can't work out together either. We always end up getting into a fight! Some things are better done on our own for sure!

 

[Pino6161]

LOL I did get really frustrated at him, but he was all into doing it together. It didn't work out cause he complained the whole time and kept giving me "the look". I got irritated. Besides as much as I love him I am all about form (I grew up being in dance) LOL and he looks like a flailing fish. It was so cute in a way. I do give him credit though cause he really tried, and although I know he wanted to give up, he didn't

 

[lauren26]

Mmmm that dinner sounds good, Pino!! Sleepy, don't worry about her knowing. I just turned down a request to watch a former co-worker's toddler for a few hours this week. I just can't be around someone's beautiful baby a week after having the I-might-not-be-able-to-have-kids scare. I'm kind of over it now but I just wanted to give myself some space...I bet your friend understands, and if not, who cares! Like Pino said TTC is so hard for people to understand who haven't been through it. It's totally OK to protect yourself and avoid situations that feel like too much. It is convenient that you have a family thing, though. And you're not a bad person!

 

[Pino6161]

How are you doing Lauren? I really am sorry about your scare, but I really do have hope for you!!! I look at it this was. Dr's told me I have unexplained fertility, which means I can't get pregnant and they don't know why, yet I have had 3 MC's which means I can. It makes me feel better thinking the Dr's are full of shit LOL. I guess what i am trying to say, is no matter what don't give up hope, cause some way, some day we will all be able to reach what we need to. I say need because I know me personally am way past the wanting phase. I don't feel like I am complete, like I am missing part of me to make my life fulfilled. So I can't believe what they dr's tell me, I can't give up. I can only try my best to defy their reasons if that makes any sense.

 

[Jojono2]

hi, if anyone could be of any help would be sooo grateful!!!

I have pcos and irregular periods that can range from 34-87 days!!! over the last 3-4 months they have become more regular, 38, 34, 35 days, last month we used the clearblue fertility monitor, i got high readings from cd16-26, no peak! anyway I am now on cd45 and no sign of period, if i did ovulate surely i was due on around cd40? just dont want to test cause im sooo fed up of bfns and just dont think it will be positive

 

[Lika]

hi, if anyone could be of any help would be sooo grateful!!!

I have pcos and irregular periods that can range from 34-87 days!!! over the last 3-4 months they have become more regular, 38, 34, 35 days, last month we used the clearblue fertility monitor, i got high readings from cd16-26, no peak! anyway I am now on cd45 and no sign of period, if i did ovulate surely i was due on around cd40? just dont want to test cause im sooo fed up of bfns and just dont think it will be positive

Hi there Jojono!!! :wave:
For what I understand the fertility monitor detects a LH surge, meaning your body is gearing up for O, but for reasons unknown sometimes we don't, specially gals like us who suffer from pcos. Also if you have cysts in your ovaries, they constantly release the hormone so fertility monitor and opks are not always accurate. BUT I hope it's NOT your case and you get your !!!!
This whole pcos stuff is driving me bonkers! Going on 2 months without a period I have my fxd this is your month!!!

Hey ladies!!! Back from my trip and now in cleaning mode!!! Im trying to keep busy while AF doesn't come and I'm in this limbo I seriously thought with met I would get my period but nope!!! Upping the dosage to 1000my tomorrow! Hope that works! Also my DH goes in for sperm analysis tomorrow! Hopefully his are fine!!! Fxd!
I will be back in a jiffy
Happy Wednesday ladies!!!

 

[lauren26]

Thanks, Pino. I'm feeling OK. My BF here keeps telling me "I KNOW you're meant to have kids naturally" (vs adopting), and I'm starting to believe her. Honestly, I was very willing and ready to accept that I wouldn't be able to (not excited about it OBV lol but like I said, I thought, at least I'm not accepting that I have cancer or something!), and I've gotten all of these messages since then that I am meant to have kids. I kind of feel like a pendulum swinging between total optimism and the belief that it'll never happen. I think the difference between how I feel now and how I felt before my trip is just that I'm completely trusting in whatever happens! It helped that lxb and country got their BFPs--it was sort of a shock to read that, ladies! We've all been on here not getting BFPs for a few months and it was a great reality check--that it'll happen!! I DO feel like it'll happen for me but like I said, if it doesn't then I'm committed to trusting that it's all part of the greater plan for my life! Plus, that JCPenny gay dads advertisement with those adorable adopted kids touched my heart (I know they were hired models and not a real family, but still!). It made me feel that if adoption ends up being our only answer that it'll be OK. Still, hoping that's not the only option!

 

[lauren26]

So I wasn't going to do OPKs at all since I wanted to back off of that before the HSG, but doc said I had to so here is today's. It looks like half the line is as dark as the control--not quite + or + enough? My CP and CM feel like I'm Oing today, it's just so early!

https://i1263.photobucket.com/albums/ii633/laurendartt/Untitled-3.jpg

 

[kimberleywats]

Hey apparently on my last preg I o'd cycle day 8!! As my baby measured a week older than my edd by lmp-
Never rule out early o!

 

[lxb]

Lika - FX for good news for DH's SA! Happy Wednesday!

Lauren - @ JCPenny gay dads. We're all human and ttc is definitely an emotional roller coaster. I still believe your time will come and adoption won't be the only option for you. Ah, our body is definitely tricky! Sometimes we don't O at the time we think we will~~ So get some BD in!! Your OPK looks + enough to me~ But I don't have much experience with those lines as I use one of those OPK kit for dummies~ (Clearblue digital that shows either a blank circle or a smiley face) it fits me so well~

 

[Pino6161]

Lauren--- It looks positive to me!! Get to BDing!! FX!

 

[treasured]

lauren id say that was deffinately positive hehe. get bumpin n grindin .

im feeling really ill today exteme cold symptoms and feel exhausted . Im wondering if cold symptoms can be a sign of OV cause I seem to get ill most months at around the same time :\.

gotta work tonight woohoo... wish I was snuggling up with a duvet and a hot chocolate .

how is everyone else ? xxx

 

[Pino6161]

Treasured--- Sorry your not feeling well. It can be a sign of O which sucks though, cause who is in the mood to BD when they are sick?

I am not feeling good either. I had an extreme migraine, and my knee is really sore cause I did my video twice yesterday, and I overdid it.

 

[lauren26]

lxb - Hilarious. I need one of those just to take my obsessive guess work out of the equations! Thank you for saying that about the adoption, too. I think you're right. Only time will tell but I'm just going to keep hoping and praying for that BFP until then! For the record, I love gay dads!!! Lol. And gay men for that matter. How are you today??

Kimberly - Yay for early O! Lol. I hate waiting to O! I guess my temps tomorrow will tell me for sure.

Pino - Yes!! OH will be delighted, lol...He already knows that BD is on the schedule. Maybe I won't tell him it's O time just for fun.

 

[countrygirl86]

Sleepy - it worked out perfectly for that shower so I wouldn't worry.

Pino - that dinner sounded yum! Most men aren't coordinated enough for those videos! Good for him for trying though, it always warms my heart when they make an effort Hope your migraine clears soon. They are the pits!

Lika - fx for your OHs test!

Lauren - I agree with your friend, I KNOW you are meant to have your own too, it's just going to come when it wants to, not when you want to. Your OPK looks perfectly positive to me!

treasured - sorry to hear you aren't well. Your duvet and hot chocolate sound lovely to me too, could you send some here?

I ordered a prenatal yoga dvd and it came in today! I'm excited to try it but afraid it might be a bit mild for me at this stage. I haven't done yoga in years though so it might be a stretch (get it, yoga, stretch? lol ). I can't do things like that with DH around cause he tends to roll his eyes and make comments. In other news I have a bachelorette this weekend for a wedding I'm the MOH in the following weekend! My excuse for not drinking will be 'antibiotics' cause there's no driving necessary. I think for the wedding I will just fake drinking, it'll be easier! My summer holidays start in a month today Anyone else have summer holiday plans?

 

[lxb]

Country - I looked up prenatal yoga yesterday! Let me know if you like/dislike it

 

[kimberleywats]

4 me I thought I wasnt guna get preg- as we missed our "predicted ov" by over a week!! Dint bd at all thru The duration i would have isually thought id ov-Thought ther was no way I was preg that month( strangely, that was the only month I had no symptoms) the previous 6 months I had every symptom under the sun!! Proving that my "symptoms" wer all in my head!!! Prob don't help that I was man-handling my boobies every day in previous months, to c if they hurt at all- lol as I knew that was an early symptom!

 

[haribo813]

Hi everyone, I am struggling to keep up as am only person in world without a smart phone so can only check messages at home and as I'm running so many events in the evenings I am not home very much at the mo!

Treasured, I am in the UK and in answer to your question re TTC, I had 9 cycles before I went to see someon on my 10th. I went because I had discomfort on my left hand side low down-looking back I think it was me being neurotic but she booked me in for a pelvic scan which was great and came back clear. I then went in and asked for blood tests, the nurse I saw was fine about that-especially when I told her OH's sperm test all fine. I'm doing all of it through NHS and not seeing a specialist and they have been really helpful, I couldn't have asked for anything more. I am also saving my pennies for acupuncture instead which is going well! Definitely worth going and asking-you may get lucky-I knew that they normally ask it is a year but no harm in asking-although I am 30 and think they expect you to try for 2 years before going to them but go anyway-what do you have to lose?

I think I'll change my CD21 blood tests to 7 days after O so thanks for everyone's help.
xxx