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[Pino6161]

So If I discard the spike I had on CD16 FF says I ovulated on Saturday CD20. What should I do? Should I keep it discarded, ok keep the temp. I am so confused and frustrated. We had sex on CD20 but not on CD21 or CD22. We will have sex today just in case, but I am so worried, confused, frustrated!! HELP

 

[lxb]

lauren - i think i would do the same thing as you do! taking 2 different temps! Then I would choose which one is closest to the previous temp~ You're right though.. you're generally supposedly take the first temp and just remember to put a note that you temp earlier that day. Just peak at your chart... not liking the drop below the coverline

pino - Hmmm... I think discarding the temp at cd16 sounds like the good idea as your temp today is way high! Definitely can see the frustration with the monitor~ Yep.. BD today just in case!

treasured - bfp on next cycle it shall be~!!

 

[SleepyOwl]

Hey ladies, I mean to ask you all this every cycle--maybe I have already! For tempers, if you don't get three hours straight of sleep, do you temp when you wake up before or after your normal time? I have woken up at 5:14 on the dot almost every day this cycle, to get up and pee. So I temp then! But for the last few days I've woken at around 4 and then again at 6...times equally close to 5 and I havent gotten three full hours before either of those times (have also been waking up at 2 and 3 some nights yuck). So of course to confuse things I've temped twice on these days. I know! I'm not supposed to. Is the general rule that you take the earlier temp? Thanks gals. I need to stop obsessing...

If waking up at my normal time means I won't get 3 hours of sleep, I force myself to sleep 3-4 full hours, set my alarm and temp then. If I wake up in the middle of the night, but have pretty much been sleeping all night, I'll get up at my normal time and temp. If I get up 30mins to an hour before my normal temping time I'll just use that early temp because chances are I'm not falling back asleep. Yesterday morning I got up at 6:05 and just used that as my temp even though I laid in bed til 6:45 in and out of sleep. I don't know if there's any right answer for this problem though.

I feel like I just made a BBT decision tree, LOL! I don't know if any of that made sense though

 

[Pino6161]

Lauren--- I don't like today's temp at all!!

 

[SleepyOwl]

Haribo - Glad that you and OH's tests came out fine. I think even though in your mind you knew IVF was a real possibility, that doesn't mean it makes it any easier. And maybe there are other options to explore before jumping into that. Wish the appointment went a little better. We're here for you

Treasured - Sorry about the witch. At least now she's here and you can start over!! Enjoy your trip

Sashimi - Welcome back!! Sounds like you're making a good decision about holding off on the lap surgery and fertility treatments. Take all the time you need to get your body and mind back to where they need to be! You definitely should go at your own speed and not be rushed. However, that brown CM/spotting totally sounds like IB and I'm hoping it is! Fingers crossed that your mom was right

 

[SashimiMimi]

Hi Sleepy!!! I officially cancelled the lap today and requested a one on one with my doctor so that I can ask questions about the lap and what it involves exactly without him rushing off to the next cycle monitoring appointment. I feel good knowing that I won't be getting sliced open in two weeks and now I have time to mentally prepare for it down the road. It's so easy to go along with these fertility things blindly and get caught up in the emotional roller coaster and it's time to sit back and ask questions before moving on.

Can IB be brown?? I always thought it was supposed to be pink... I haven't really had any spotting since that one day where it was brown blood trapped in a glob of EWCM about 7dpo. It would be nice if I got a fairy tale Hawaiian BFP, but last night I had mild cramps sore back and a soreish throat so I felt kind of deflated.

I still haven't caught up on this board!! I'm completely jet lagged!!! How is everyone doing!?

 

[Pino6161]

SashimiMimi-- I hope that your body is playing tricks on you!! You deserve your BFP without being cut open! I am glad you are back as I missed you LOL. When anyone goes off board for more than a day I get all confused LOL. I am the type of person that enjoys consistency LOL Did you have lot's of fun at least??

 

[SashimiMimi]

Pino we had an amazing time!!! It's the only vacation I've had where I did not want to leave and I'm actually depressed to be back!! There is so much natural beauty on the island of Kauai, it just feels wrong to be in a loud smoggy city now.

Well I guess we will see... AF is due Friday!

 

[Pino6161]

I haven't been on a vacation besides family ones when I was a teenager and I think they scarred me LOL. Driving across country in a motor home with 3 siblings is not cool LOL. Right now we are saving for the move, but I think hopefully in like 20 years we can have one LOL

I am nervous for you LOL BOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! I was trying to scare AF so it stays away did it work???

 

[SashimiMimi]

Well honestly those mild cramps are gone today. Here's hoping!!!

 

[Pino6161]

I'm glad. Let's try to keep it away!!

 

[lxb]

Welcome back Sashimi~~ Kauai is simply amazing isn't it?? It makes you feel sooo much healthier with just the air alone! I'm hoping that the brown cm is IB too!!! And I'm still rooting for your souvenir bean from hawaii~~

 

[lauren26]

Hey y'all! Sashimi, that sounds pretty promising!! Hoping that it means you get your BFP real soon.

Thanks for the temping advice, ladies. I adjusted a few based on what you all said plus what a temping 'expert' on FF told me to do. Still, I think today's is tell-tale of what's to come! I really feel disappointed. I thought it would be the month. I feel really naive and silly for hoping. It seems like my chart was looking great and then something went wrong...? Anyway, BFN today so I am just waiting for AF. Progesterone over. Light cramps but no blood yet. More later, I'm at work!

 

[lxb]

Oh lauren it's perfectly normal to feel what you're feeling. There would be something seriously wrong with you if you don't hope!! The most important thing is knowing you do all that you could within your power and your time will come.

 

[lauren26]

Thanks, lxb. This month feels hard!!! I have run the gamut of emotions about TTC and I just felt like it worked this time! Thanks for being supportive .

 

[haribo813]

Lauren, totally know what you mean, I am a bit emotional at the moment to say the least, crying one moment, angry the next...I'm really fed up with this whole TTC malarkey and struggling to cope with how unfair it feels. I need to call tomorrow to make an appointment with the fertility specialist.

Pino sorry you're having a rough time with the monitor, you never know it might surprise you with good news this month. They do say it's always the months you least suspect when miracles happen.

Treasured sorry also that AF caught up on you but good signs that your cycle is that bit longer now.

Sashimi, i heard that IB should be brownish as it's old rather than new blood...am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Sleepy what day in your cycle are you on now?

Lxb, is it scan time tomorrow? So exciting, tell us what your lovely bean looks like!

Sorry I'm no fun at the moment ladies! I can be like this for a day or two each cycle and then always perk up but at the moment this black cloud doesn't seem to want to lift xxxx

 

[countrygirl86]

Hi Ladies Lauren and haribo, sorry you both are feeling down. I think not only is it normal to feel down as AF approaches/arrives, I think there's some hormones going on too that make you feel that way whether it's AF or BFP coming. The cycle I got my BFP I went a little crazy after watching that movie "What to Expect" because I felt so hopeless, meanwhile I was only a few days from finding out I was pg. It's hard to gear yourself up for AF while wanting that BFP so bad, just to have AF actually show up. You all are doing so much to further along your TTC journey and I hope you can take comfort in knowing you do more than a lot of people.

Welcome back Sashimi, you were definitely missed! This crazy lady thread needs you! Glad your vacation was so incredible. Hope you are able to beat that end-of-vaca-funk. I'm glad you've decided what feels right for you with the lap. A stress-free TTC summer sounds wonderful! Judging by what you've been through you don't want to waste your summer away with doctor's appointments and stress.

Happy Raspberry, almost green olive LXB! How are you holding up?

Pino, I keep forgetting you are so young, you are mature for your age! It's nice to hear that DH wants a baby so strongly too. It's hard not to take it personally and think it's the woman's fault since we are the ones who house the thing! Are you using OPKs too or just the monitor?

Hi treasured, Sleepy and all the other fine ladies on here!

I had my first prenatal appt today, doc seemed a little concerned about my spotting and near fainting yesterday so I'm going for bloodwork tomorrow. I'm not stressing out about it since I've had no cramping or pain. I'd rather start thinking about how we're going to break the news!

 

[Pino6161]

Thanks Country... Many people have trouble guessing my age cause I look young and act old LOL It is mostly cause I had to grow up very quickly when I was 17. I didn't use OPK's this cycle. My OH seems to think i should throw the monitor away They manual says that if you don't get a pee try dipping the stick, but I have done that from the start so IDK I think I will call the hotline if my temp is still high and get a replacement. Since finances are going to be tight I might just temp and OPK cause I'm not sure if I trust the monitor after this month. IDK. I don't feel like this is my month even though I kinda hope it is just cause we didn't BD right after O. IDK

 

[SashimiMimi]

Mini vent: I'm on a packed bus right now trapped beside a woman going on and on about how she is 13 weeks PG!!! It's put me in a mood so I'm listening to loud rap music to drown it out!!!! Lol!!

 

[Pino6161]

OH hun I am sorry!! Tell her to shut up