COURT pls help

[angelpkj]

rang her again finally got thru to her

just spoke about whats going on etc

1st hearing on wed sooo...
we show up,i show cafcass the fb stuff etc tell her my concerns mention the drugs,court will then be re organised for a different day and court order in place demanding statements off both partys and cafcass to do a report and a drug test on FOB

(gutted cause surely it will come back negative i need it to be positive but he was smoking weed in aug??and taking mushrooms in december??thats all im aware of at present)

i told my solicitor what i said to cafcass when she asked my veiws on a contact center
solicitor said but i thought u didnt want any contact at all
i said well i don't but if a court is going to award him unsupervised anyway then i may aswel offer it him first and show i am reasonable
so she said this is a sensible idea

just abit nervous because she keeps saying
unsupervised visits will not be on the cards straight away but at some point he may request that and if hes clean on drugs there wont be much reason u cant

hopefully fob wont ask for any and just accept his contact center offer

it will be something like an hour a week for a month then two hours a week for a month then 3 hours (highest you can get)

it will be held at a sure start center so i have asked for one at a place near my mums as she will be the one taking LO there and back and she drives i don't

rather thn the center in town,easy for fob to get too £2.50 but for me a £10 quid taxi trip dont think its fair how my mum or me should ferry LO to fobs doorstep center if he wants see LO he should come to us

 

[angelpkj]

X

 

[Lemonflower]

he's done a runner from his own letting company without paying the final amounts due

so i may of just rang up telling them of fobs new whereabouts hehe

Hahaha!! Brilliant!!! Welldone Hun!

Glad he's moved away from your area! You won't have to worry about bumping him to him now!!

xxxx

 

[TattiesMum]

 

[angelpkj]

hehe thats my next plan but saving that till i'm desperate-don't want to anger the drug dealers anymore than i need too

hes already been done for possession of class a's

heheheeh

 

[angelpkj]

bit confused
FOB has took it upon himself to find comments i made from back in 2007 from when i was a party like person
and he is planning to use these in court tomorrow in some way to try show i am a bad person and mother

2007 tho-really!when i was 18!

 

[BigZai]

bit confused
FOB has took it upon himself to find comments i made from back in 2007 from when i was a party like person
and he is planning to use these in court tomorrow in some way to try show i am a bad person and mother

2007 tho-really!when i was 18!

Well i cant imagine that would work... the judge should see through that

 

[angelpkj]

i should bloody hope so
considering i got told off my own solicitor most stuff in fobs past is irrelevant as "its the past"
so luckily i've had present stuff too

 

[TattiesMum]

Just popping in to wish you good luck for today Hon

 

[angelpkj]

thanks spoke to my solicitor and all good
they should really make this section private

 

[daveww]

good luck today hope everything goes well

 

[angelpkj]

thank you will let you know how it goes but got an idea anyway x

 

[xxsteffyxx]

I know it's a bit late but i hope all went well!! xx

 

[angelpkj]

yes went very well so far so good
fob refused to come into the court room it was suspected that perhaps he was wound up after a telling off from the judge for the death threats at me etc etc so was advised not to go in a court in that state

it doesnt look very good on him either way you look at it-after everythin hes done i still found the strengh to go into that court room prepared to face him for the sake of LO

due to the amount of stuff i have shown them they are worried so have said they wont allow any contact till cafcass have done their full section 7 report and fob passes a drug test
so no court untill oct now

 

[BigZai]

yes went very well so far so good
fob refused to come into the court room it was suspected that perhaps he was wound up after a telling off from the judge for the death threats at me etc etc so was advised not to go in a court in that state

it doesnt look very good on him either way you look at it-after everythin hes done i still found the strengh to go into that court room prepared to face him for the sake of LO

due to the amount of stuff i have shown them they are worried so have said they wont allow any contact till cafcass have done their full section 7 report and fob passes a drug test
so no court untill oct now

Thats great!

 

[xxsteffyxx]

fantastic news, now you can relax until October And even then hun, FOB may get bored and give up. At the end of the day, you are mum, you make the rules... it's what I get told daily. If you feel as though what you are doing is in your LOs best intrest then never fear...

 

[Lemonflower]

That's great news!! xxxx

 

[angelpkj]

thanks guys

feeling very confident about it all having spoken to more people on their veiw on the situation
his criminal past is also gunna be playing more of a factor than i thought as history seems to be repeating itself

 

[TattiesMum]

That's excellent news all round Hon

That's the thing with these deadbeats ... if you give them enough rope they will hang themselves and the courts/cafcass etc aren't stupid thank goodness

 

[angelpkj]

no their deffo not stupid!

one of his best mates have decided to chuck me their support
really suprised

he said my ex been going round saying this and saying that about me and now his mates are starting to think well actully its him whose the dick and not me

glad anyway cause he's got alot of stuff for me to show in court and fob none the wiser haha