Dealing with azoospermia?

[snd80]

Good Luck Sun!!!!!

 

[Deb111]

He also said, to me "due to your youth I think we will find lots of very good eggs"... hope he is right! I had my last blood test for a while, something about malaria, I think, to check egg reserve or something?

That'll be your Anti-Mullerian Hormone test - it gives them an indication of your fertility - don't worry if it's low (mine was VERY low) - it just gives them a reference point to know what doesage of drugs to put you on.

Great news on things moving along quickly for you and keeping everything crossed for next week xx

 

[SunUp]

AHhhh that is exactly it - I was going to google it, but forgot! Thanks

 

[raelynn]

Good luck Sun!

I just got back from a Women's retreat that the majority of the women in my extended family do every year so it was a nice little break from everything. But, of course, I'm exhausted from all the activities. Friday hubby and I tag-teamed on phone calls and cleared our plan with all the doctors. We're supposed to get a call early this week to schedule hubby's TESE and then go from there. When I called our nurse at the fertility clinic to ask about dropping down to IUI if we end up having to use donor, she said our doctor had already made a note that it was an option for us in our file so we're clear to go down either path depending on the results of the TESE.

 

[Deb111]

Great news - I hope you get a date soon

 

[SunUp]

Yay Rae! I am going to send you a private message

 

[MJ73]

Hi girls, sorry I haven't been on here or the FB page much, I have been following though. My Mum has been very unwell, in intensive care for a few weeks now after complications from hernia surgery. She hasn't eaten for 3 weeks & has been on a few drips & has had a nasal-gastro tube draining her stomach, she also has been in for emergency surgery since the initial surgery because her bowel had twisted. It's been very stressful as we watched my dad die 2 years ago so all the tubes just bring back bad memories. She lives nearly 2 hours away from me & my boss has been away so I've only been able to visit her a couple of times a week. Anyway, just haven't had much time for posting. But as usual you're all in my thoughts & prayers & I'm with you all through the ups & downs. This week DH & I are away on a trip we've had planned for a year, just a few hours drive from home. So I'm calling the hospital twice a day & just trying to relax.
Big
Mel xx

 

[tigerlily1975]

Hey MJ, really sorry to hear about your mum, I hope she's on the mend

C xx

 

[Deb111]

Hope you're Mum is better soon MJ xx

 

[silverbell]

Good luck, Sun!

MJ, so sorry to hear about your Mom. I hope she's feeling better soon

Great news, Rae.

 

[cosita]

Hi girls,
So I had my hsg this morning, it went really well, wasn't half as bad as I had imagined and my tubes are open and my uterus is a normal shape (my gynae had thought it was bicornute). At the same time my dh went to andrologist again to take 3rd sa results, so his biopsy is on 27th of March. Eeeek!!Its all happening now! Dh is a little low because I think he always thought it wouldn't come to this and that miraculously he was going to get his numbers up but my good news has cheered him up I guess. Over on SunUp's thread I picked up this link, its amazing and well worth a read.
Anything really is possible!! https://todayhealth.today.msnbc.msn...82-miracle-baby-born-from-single-frozen-sperm

By the way, I am right around O and tomorrow Im taking a trip for a week without dh. Nurse said we shouldnt bd but my sister is a radio tech and said that sometimes girls are recommended to bd as tubes are wide open. What do you reckon?? What did you girls do?

 

[deafgal01]

I'd bd anyways. What was the nurse's reason for not allowing you two to bd?

 

[cosita]

They said to prevent infection. My sister is a radio tech though and where she works they don't tell the patients that. I think we'll go for it!

 

[Pink Lolly]

I don't remember being told that either cos.

Glad it went well xx

 

[tigerlily1975]

Cosita

Glad it all went well.

The Dr who performed mine said a lot of women get pregnant afterwards as 'your tubes will have been cleared', but obviously there was no point for us (she didn't know our situation). It sounds like there shouldn't be a problem if you want to though.



C xx

 

[CanadianMaple]

I just wanted to post and thank you for your support. I'm going to take a bit of break, I'm not coping well and feel like I am not being a very supportive member of this group. My husband and I are barely talking right now and I am allowing this to take over my life. I need to step away from the computer a bit.

The news that he has low T and other hormonal issues that point to testicular failure hit me hard, even though I was expecting it. He's coping by not talking about it and pushing me away. The fact that we have to wait until early summer for answers is going to be even harder on me now that I have an idea what's going on.

It's hard being in here while in limbo. It feels like everyone is getting results and biopsies months quicker than us. I'm excited for those of you getting pregnant but even that is hard for me this week. I really don't think we will get that opportunity.

I will probably be back after a short break. I really hope everyone understands. I feel like I am being a big baby, but I know I'm not coping well and don't want to drag anyone else down until I get a hold of myself.

 

[deafgal01]

Canadian No worries. We all understand and it's healthy to take breaks from here once in a while when you need it. I feel the same way sometimes (stuck in limbo not getting any answers yet). Hope you work things out with your man and he starts talking soon rather than pushing you away.

 

[raelynn]

Canadian - We all understand. Half of the challenge of this journey is all the waiting involved. Just know we're here for you when you need the support!

As for me, we just scheduled hubby's TESE for March 21. I have to be the transporter for the cryo tube between the fertility center and the urologist. Hopefully they find a few sperm for us to use! But, at least we have our plan b ready if not. We're just ready to know and move forward.

 

[silverbell]

The news that he has low T and other hormonal issues that point to testicular failure hit me hard, even though I was expecting it. He's coping by not talking about it and pushing me away. The fact that we have to wait until early summer for answers is going to be even harder on me now that I have an idea what's going on.

It's hard being in here while in limbo. It feels like everyone is getting results and biopsies months quicker than us. I'm excited for those of you getting pregnant but even that is hard for me this week. I really don't think we will get that opportunity.

I will probably be back after a short break. I really hope everyone understands. I feel like I am being a big baby, but I know I'm not coping well and don't want to drag anyone else down until I get a hold of myself.

It's entirely understandable and most of us have been there with requiring a break from BnB. It's normal and natural. I'm sorry to hear about the troubles between the 2 of you, but I hope once you've both lived with the news for a little longer that you'll find your way back to one another again. I've always said the waiting is absolutely, horribly VILE. It's the hardest period of waiting you'll ever have to do and it stinks that everybody seems to be going at a quicker pace than you are ... but that's honestly not ever really the case. There are a lot of ladies on here and we're all at different stages and sometimes it can seem like things are happening really quickly, but in reality they rarely are. From our initial zero sperm SA results to the date of DH's operation, it was just over 7 months of long, hard waiting and quite honestly the worst period of our lives. It was the waiting and the 'not knowing' that was a living nightmare for us and we thought of little else that entire time, despite our efforts.

I wonder if counselling could help? It's a shame that it has the stigma that people have attached to it. It could help you work out some of the issues - either as a couple or individually and certainly isn't anything to be ashamed about. Getting a diagnosis like this is a majorly significant event in any couple's lives. I have read that the emotions in response to it are comparable with a diagnosis of a terminal illness or the death of a loved one. Most people wouldn't think twice to get counselling for either of those, so do bear that in mind.

In the meantime, I hope your break away goes as well as it can and that you and your DH can find a happier place together. We found a holiday really helped us to put things in perspective and just enjoy being together and being loved up, like we were before all this mess.

Thinking of you and hoping you and your husband are feeling better very soon

Hi girls,
So I had my hsg this morning, it went really well, wasn't half as bad as I had imagined and my tubes are open and my uterus is a normal shape (my gynae had thought it was bicornute). By the way, I am right around O and tomorrow Im taking a trip for a week without dh. Nurse said we shouldnt bd but my sister is a radio tech and said that sometimes girls are recommended to bd as tubes are wide open. What do you reckon?? What did you girls do?

How funny that I had the exact same happen to me (re the gynae telling me it was possibly bicornate and the HSG proving otherwise). I'm so pleased for you, as I know you were worried.

Amazing news about the biopsy date.

I would definitely BD - it's always worth a shot until you know the results of a TESE. I was told after my HSG that it was the perfect time to BD because it flushes the tubes out clear and widens them a bit and lots of ladies get pregnant after an HSG. We didn't actually bother as we already expected zero sperm, but it's clearly not a problem with my hospital either. Go for it - it can't hurt.


Raelynn - great news you have a date! Having a Plan B really helps you deal with the TESE, I think.

 

[Deb111]

Canadian - Don't be too hard on yourselves. SB is right - this is like a bereavement. We are nearly at 2 years from diagnosis and all the waiting really is horrendous.

I hope you and dh can get to a point where you are able to discuss things more and get back to being 'you'. It really is easy to lose who you are individually and as a couple in all of this. I remember putting a quote in my video journal that says something along the lines of how it becomes so consuming that you forget to live, forget to laugh - maybe you need to get this back and just be a newly married couple again.

I'm sure we all completely understand the need for a break, especially as you have a wait ahead of you right now - I know I've needed breaks before. It really can be all-consuming. Just please know that we are all here for you whenever you need us or if you need a shoulder to cry on and a good old rant.

Will be thinking of you both hun
Take care of yourselves xx