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Dealing with azoospermia?

I love this forum the most ALREADY! thank you deafgal for your quick reply!

We are being as positive and hopeful and we could possibly be. I think it will be very helpful throughout this journey.

My dad said to me the other day: "Honey, you need to think of it this was. What you're going through is life altering, but it is not life devastating. You're going to be a mother one way or another- but I think it's going to go just the way you want."

I couldn't help but cry a little. I am 98% over the "why me" stage, which helps a lot!!

Do you girls (or guys, if they are on here) have any other good advice for keeping your spirits up?

Thanks. :flower:
 
One place to look is at the first page- Deb's first post... Everything is there- the information you need to know, a bittersweet video about the journey of azoospermia. At some point we all go thru a "grieving" process if you will look at it that way, not over the loss of a child but the idea of having a baby with our husband's sperm- because for some of us, that journey is not going to happen. You're right, it is just another barrier for us all to face and overcome.

Currently- I keep my spirits up by doing a regular work out (which usually consists of at least 30 minutes of walking/jogging combination)... I also tend to positive chat to myself most of the time (I'll say about 90% of time I do that because today was the 10% when I had a little down moment). I'm fine now though.
 
I will check that out now, and I completely understand that I may need to go through that grieving process. I just decided that I wouldn't let that emotion overcome me, yet. We really have no answers. DH has only had a physical exam- in which the doctor "suspects it's a problem with production" - which, frankly, couldn't be worse news. BUT, he's not 100%, or probably even 70% sure. He just felt his balls. Big whoop. The real results will come with the b/w and then the sperm retrieval surgeries, if he needs it.

But of course, I am human. I have my moments and days. I'm sorry you had one of those today...what keeps me going, mostly, is looking at how far science has come and reading about "azoospermia success stories". Just google it. It'll make you smile! :happydance:

Working out is great for de-stressing. I can't wait to swim tomorrow night. (My gym just reopened it.)

Lots of :spermy::dust: to you and your man! I'll be thinking of you.

~C
 
Carrie- thanks. So far my dh has had 3 SA, blood tests, medicines, and a biopsy. We get the results of the biopsy in 2 weeks- which is where we are right now in our journey. I've already had my lady parts checked out and nothing out of the norm. That's everything we've had done in the last 6 months. Every lady's DH/man in here has been thru a different journey but like you see, we all already are in the same boat just with that diagnosis of no sperms found. :hugs: I did some of the grieving process when I first found out before New Year's. Then I went thru a period of being extremely angry during spring (March I think it was). Now I'm just taking it day to day waiting and see approach to figure out where we're gonna go with this. Currently I cope just fine most days, but there's one young girl that makes me nuts with all her "happy" pregnancy posts/statuses in facebook (so that's the only person I really can't comment on right now- at least anything pregnancy related, I don't dare say anything). Other than that, last time I checked I'm still insane... Or am I sane? I can't figure it out. :smug:
 
so..here.

:sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex::sex:

lolololol!! Crazy smileys! (yes, I am 28...and yes, this makes me laugh, no, I won't apologize for this) hahahahaaaa!!
 
I wish. :haha: Yeah, it's funny to think about sex and know that DH's off limits for another um 7 days. :dohh: so frustrating but I'll be glad if the results tell us anything about our next steps to take. :shrug:
 
Oh, sorry! I didn't realize he was off limits!

I wasn't laughing at sex, in general...

I was laughing at the fact that this website has a "smiley face" sex icon! lol So funny and cute! Good luck in waiting. It sucks that you seem to want sex more when someone is telling you you can't have it!

Infertility blows.
 
Yeah Carrie- infertility blows. He's not allowed to have any for 10 to 14 days due to having biopsy- there's stitches on his testes. Poor guy. So basically that means I probably won't have sex until I come home from camp to switch bags. :dohh: Oh well. I've gone long in between before. :shrug: Just not used to being told I can't have any. :haha:

Seriously who smiles while they're going at it in bed? I think I'm too focused on the feeling good part to remember to smile too??? :haha: :dohh: I wonder who invents these smilies.
 
cbergs - Welcome and im sorry to see you here!....BUT you did find a great group! Azoo sucks...it sucks really bad, but it is what it is and we all need to just pull ourselves together and make the best out of it. Ask as many questions as you can and be as pushy to get results/apts as you can. Besides that, its all a waiting process.
I know how overwhelming you must feel....we are the same age. I always thought infertility happens to "older" people...little did I know. You always have this perfect picture in your head of how your life is going to be and for something like this to swoop in and turn your world pretty much upside down is devastating.

I have been dealing with this since March of this year, not as long as others, we were lucky enough to find docs that moved the process along.
There are a ton of pages here, so here is my story...
DH is 33, healthy, never has had any surgeries or illnesses, bloods/hormones all normal. They found a cyst in his prostate, which doc says he could have been born with it, but could really be causing the blockage, as well as his varicocele. Tom is his biopsy, praying they find sperm, we will freeze it and I will be starting my IVF process this cycle.

Everyone is different. I hope you get some answers asap!
 
OH yeah....the way I cope with this on bad days, I go shopping and have a nice stiff drink afterwards lol
 
Stinas- :dust: Good luck tomorrow- hope they have some good news for you and your hubby!
 
Stinas- I was super nervous too. :thumbup: The biopsy is the easy part. :dohh: So once that is done, you'll be at ease but then of course there's the wait for the results. :grr: Makes me wish they'd give it to you right away. :shrug:
 
Hi everyone. I have been lurking but haven't been posting. I'm feeling kind of in between places right now. Since we're not going to look further at DH for sperm, I feel like of removed from all the posts about TESE, etc... I think it's still a bit of grieving and sometimes it's really difficult to think about. Since we are now moving down the donor sperm path, I have been searching for answers about donor sperm around the internet.

Our first wedding anniversary is tomorrow, which will mark one year since we started TTC. It makes me so sad to think about how excited we were to TTC and how he had no idea how we would be hit hard with that azoo dx just before Christmas. But, it's also exciting to think that we are moving ahead. We may have found our donor but I struggle with not seeing an adult picture and have questions about the testing they do.

I have been thinking about all of you and am silently cheering you all on. Hopefully now that we're home from our marathon camping trip (gone 9 nights), I can settle back in here. It's amazing how diverse our journeys become after the original azoo dx.
 
Hi ladies! Sorry it's been awhile since I posted last. I'm going to try to catch up.

DG~ I'm so glad everything went well. Fx for a good report when your DH goes in.

Raelynn~ Fx for you!

Arimas and cbergs~ Welcome :hi:

WW~ Fx for a bfp!

Stinas~ I hope everything goes well tomorrow.

CM~ :hugs: There is so much to look through on the donors. Try not to stress about it to much. Maybe give the places a call and ask some questions. Thats what I did.

AFM~ I'm just waiting for my beta on the 12th. I think I will test on Tuesday to see if anything shows up. I did test out my trigger and got a negative about 3 days ago.
 
Stinas - Good luck tomorrow!

MrsC - I'm planning to test Tuesday too. Tested out my trigger already. I'm hoping I'm too sleepy tomorrow with being back to work to cave in and test but this 2ww has made me weak with holding out on testing. I just want to know!
 
Stinas - Good luck tomorrow!

MrsC - I'm planning to test Tuesday too. Tested out my trigger already. I'm hoping I'm too sleepy tomorrow with being back to work to cave in and test but this 2ww has made me weak with holding out on testing. I just want to know!

I know what you mean. Waiting the last few days is the hardest part. I want to test tomorrow but I'm trying to tell myself that Tuesday will be better. Fx for both of us!
 
DG - I get my results right away. Thats why I was wondering why you didnt.

Mrs C & Raeylnn - Good luck!!!

Canadian - Im happy for you maybe finding the right donor!! Thats exciting! I know its not exactly what you wanted to do, but once you get preg, it will feel like it is biologically DH's. You have gone a long way since finding out.
Happy Anniversary! Many more!!!

Thank you all for the best wishes! In about 8 hours from now I will know whats going on. Its exciting and nerve wracking too. Ill keep you all updated.
 
Stinas- I don't know why they couldn't give us our results (full report) right away. :shrug: I guess different places do things differently. :shrug: I'm not too worried as I'll find out while I'm at camp from Zach.
 

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