Dealing with azoospermia?

[MrsG30]

Oh yes, you are going to hear a lot of crap from people about "just" adopting or "just" using a donor. It still drives me crazy.

If I could do things differently, I would have not told as many people about the azoo. Everyone who knows about it also knows we are doing IVF and DH is having his biopsy and I hope they just assume we find sperm in him. I know everyone is supportive, but there is so much to work through about donor sperm. I kept that as a back burner thought while we worked out what was wrong with DH and decided what we wanted.

How are your husbands coping? Mine was always 2 steps behind me with coping. He was in denial for awhile while I think I read every single google hit for azoospermia I could find...

CM- when i see what you write its like i have just wrote it! ts awful isnt it

 

[tulip11]

Deb111 DH sample was diluted when he put in container ...to me and DH it looks like pre-ejaculatory liquid...DH said that I was not totally aroused ...but as I mentioned later on in home his ejaculate was thick like true semen...

 

[AuCa]

How are your husbands coping? Mine was always 2 steps behind me with coping. He was in denial for awhile while I think I read every single google hit for azoospermia I could find...

Exactly the same. I find that we deal with the situation very differently. I'm like you - researching every bit of information I can find, whereas DH seems to mostly ignore the topic. He doesn't talk about it much, and I think he's still somewhat in denial. But at least not so much that he refuses to get tests done/think about treatment.

It's hard to support each other when you work so differently. I'd really like to support him, but I'm not sure how. I feel better when I talk about things, but I think it's the exact opposite for him.
Do you guys talk about it much? How long did it take for your husband to come around and accept the diagnosis?

 

[AuCa]

ladies - I'm so sorry I don't get on here much these days. I try and catch up when I can and think if you all often.

If you can all post a couple if sentences about where you are with your journey atm, starting with your name so i can just copy and paste, i will try and update front page at the weekend x x

Hi Deb! And congrats to your beautiful daughter, she looks so adorable on the picture!

Here are my few words (there is not much yet as we are still in the testing phase):
AuCa - DH diagnosed Jan 2013, doing tests, next consultation with specialist end of March

 

[maybeBmommy]

MaybeBmommy: TTC 13months, HSG Feb 2013 showed perfect, DH-zero SA feb 2013, Urologist apt March 25

 

[maybeBmommy]

Oh yes, you are going to hear a lot of crap from people about "just" adopting or "just" using a donor. It still drives me crazy.

If I could do things differently, I would have not told as many people about the azoo. Everyone who knows about it also knows we are doing IVF and DH is having his biopsy and I hope they just assume we find sperm in him. I know everyone is supportive, but there is so much to work through about donor sperm. I kept that as a back burner thought while we worked out what was wrong with DH and decided what we wanted.

How are your husbands coping? Mine was always 2 steps behind me with coping. He was in denial for awhile while I think I read every single google hit for azoospermia I could find...

My husband is definitely in the denial stage. I have been crying and out of work since the diagnosis. We have had people from church come over, and talked with family and his response to them seems to be "I'm not worried, I have a a peace in me and I just know that I will produce a child". To me I'm like are you crazy? You have ZERO sperm??? (Mind you I don't say this out loud) I don't know, I guess I'm just searching for more emotion from him....like he just doesn't understand how seriously intense is is going to get.

 

[AuCa]

MaybeBmommy: TTC 13months, HSG Feb 2013 showed perfect, DH-zero SA feb 2013, Urologist apt March 25

Our next appointment is on the exact same day!

I don't know, I guess I'm just searching for more emotion from him....like he just doesn't understand how seriously intense is is going to get.

I also think he's in denial, doesn't want to confront the facts. I'm sorry you are going through this It seems like you have some good support through your family/community which is great.

 

[Chickensoup85]

There are so many new people on here! Hello! Sorry you have this horrible diagnosis, but welcome to the forum.

How are your husbands coping? Mine was always 2 steps behind me with coping.

Mine is exactly the same; after we got the diagnosis I knew and accepted that if we could find sperm it would be IVF with icsi. For quite a while OH still thought there was a chance of natural conception. It wasn't until our appointment when the doc told him our options it sunk in and he was really upset that we would have to go through assisted conception. I was really shocked that he hadn't realised what was happening as he won't talk about it.

Chickensoup - azoo diagnosis in oct 2012. mTESE booked for 1.3.13 (2 weeks to go!).

 

[loobylou_01]

Loobylou_01 - pregnant with azoo baby no. 2, due 29/04/13.

Good luck to all you other ladies going through this, you will come out the other side and once you're all mummys I promise you its worth every single second of this horrendous journey x x x

 

[maybeBmommy]

I have a rookie question.

What are the funding resources you guys have used? My insurance does not cover infertility. Do you know if they require total cost up front, or payments? Help!

 

[tulip11]

I have questionS that may sounds stupid but I do wanna know...is there any possibility in azoospermic case that FS put someone on medications only and that lead to success ? another question is that we are going to have second SA on Monday I am just wondering is there anyone out there who got different results from first SA means they found out some sperms in second SA ?

 

[MrsG30]

MrsG30- pcos 14/1/13, azoo 05/02/13 first fertility appoinment 21/2/13

 

[MrsG30]

I have questionS that may sounds stupid but I do wanna know...is there any possibility in azoospermic case that FS put someone on medications only and that lead to success ? another question is that we are going to have second SA on Monday I am just wondering is there anyone out there who got different results from first SA means they found out some sperms in second SA ?

Tulip11- Ive been thinking the same as we only got ut our azoo diagnose a week ago but i dont want to force myself to believe everything will be ok on the next SA
Im preparing myself for the same outome an trying to look forward to hearing what treatment we can use.

its horrendous and i really do know you feel

 

[tulip11]

MrsG30 we also found out on 12th february...but truly saying the result was quite unexpected for us..I hope that our SA results ill come out with some hope...GL to you and your DH ..thanks.. we are completely heartbroken since knowing this result for us now this world I mean everything seems meaningless...

 

[Jimmysrabbit]

Hello Ladies, can I join you?
I've been "lurking" around this thread since our Azoo diagnosis in May 2012. We were put on the NHS waiting list for a consultation (which in Wales is supposed to be 5 months), which we finally had it on the 21st January. In the meantime we had a private consultation to find out our options. We found out yesterday (the follow up appt to the various blood tests they took in January) that DH is a cystic fibrosis carrier and as a "symptom" of his CF carrier status his vas def are missing. Of course this is terrible news, but at least we had a reason for his Azoo. The urologist was also quite optimistic about finding sperm using TESA as DH's FSH and testosterone levels are all good. So now we are waiting again, NHS have said anywhere between 2-5 months for the TESA. We are finding out from the private clinic if we can transfer any retrieved sperm to them and they can carry out the IVF and ICIS (I just turned 38 and the NHS waiting list in Wales is 2 years for IVF). Paying privately for the TESA at the private clinic is £3K which we cannot afford on top of the IVF/ICIS. It is sad to be here, but nice to know that other people know what we are going through.

Deborah

 

[MrsG30]

MrsG30 we also found out on 12th february...but truly saying the result was quite unexpected for us..I hope that our SA results ill come out with some hope...GL to you and your DH ..thanks.. we are completely heartbroken since knowing this result for us now this world I mean everything seems meaningless...

GL too you too- there are lots of options and treatments out there- you have to stay strong or each other hun xx

 

[tulip11]

My DH ill be having blood tests on Monday...so if there would be any problem with hormones levels so in that case would they put my DH on medications ?

 

[MrsG30]

My DH ill be having blood tests on Monday...so if there would be any problem with hormones levels so in that case would they put my DH on medications ?

From what i gather from the other girls- after the initial diagnose your hubby will have further SA, bloods, genetic tests so they can determine the cause of the azoo? if its obstructive or non obstructive and after that plan a treatmen plan.

I have heard of medication for hormone levels yes but im not sure if this would change the result to enable normal conception as having a 0 count is different to having a low count.
please jump in girls if im wrong?

tulip hun- do lots of research and prepare yourself for a long hard slog and you will get there 1 way or the other- thats how im trying to think xxx

 

[tulip11]

My DH ill be having blood tests on Monday...so if there would be any problem with hormones levels so in that case would they put my DH on medications ?

From what i gather from the other girls- after the initial diagnose your hubby will have further SA, bloods, genetic tests so they can determine the cause of the azoo? if its obstructive or non obstructive and after that plan a treatmen plan.

I have heard of medication for hormone levels yes but im not sure if this would change the result to enable normal conception as having a 0 count is different to having a low count.
please jump in girls if im wrong?

tulip hun- do lots of research and prepare yourself for a long hard slog and you will get there 1 way or the other- thats how im trying to think xxx

I did alot of research since we came to know about his condition...but I didnt find any thing proper based on medication treatment...like now we ill be having second SA and blood tests on Monday and GP said that they have already referred us to FS ( Urologist) and we ill get our app letter within four weeks...for me these 4 weeks are like 4 decades cant wait any more ...

 

[MrsG30]

My DH ill be having blood tests on Monday...so if there would be any problem with hormones levels so in that case would they put my DH on medications ?

From what i gather from the other girls- after the initial diagnose your hubby will have further SA, bloods, genetic tests so they can determine the cause of the azoo? if its obstructive or non obstructive and after that plan a treatmen plan.

I have heard of medication for hormone levels yes but im not sure if this would change the result to enable normal conception as having a 0 count is different to having a low count.
please jump in girls if im wrong?

tulip hun- do lots of research and prepare yourself for a long hard slog and you will get there 1 way or the other- thats how im trying to think xxx

I did alot of research since we came to know about his condition...but I didnt find any thing proper based on medication treatment...like now we ill be having second SA and blood tests on Monday and GP said that they have already referred us to FS ( Urologist) and we ill get our app letter within four weeks...for me these 4 weeks are like 4 decades cant wait any more ...

i agree about the medication front- i have found out alot of tese, donor, insemination and IVF. DH and i have just done plenty of talking and agreeing our way forward whatever is thrown at us.

my 1st appointment is thursday and im bricking it