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I wish I knew how, he'll have 4 maybe 5oz and thats it, anyone here cluster feed? I was wondering if feeding him a couple smaller bottles spaced apart an hour or so just to get more into him may get him to go a bit longer?
Well me and Hubby just had a huuuggggeee barney, by email, phone and he came home form work to finish it (the argument not the marriage!).
DISCLAIMER - I do not really expect anyone to read all of this I just need to rant
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I backed him into a corner with a question he couldn't answer without offending me without realising it and before I knew it hundreds of things that have gotten me angry/upset/frustrated tumbled out.
He actually said I have nothing to do all day!!!!! Cant believe I cant sleep when he sleeps - its not that fucking easy, oh and the jobs I have to do should only take 2 minutes each...yeah you try sorting out baby and hoovering etc and shee how well you cope...but if the baby cries just let him cry he says it only takes 2 minute. WTF??
He's soooo annoying though he has a photographic memory for words so can recount every detail of things you have said word for word...arguments are so difficult!
He doesnt take feelings into account and he can quite happily put his emotions into a box and put them away, for instance when it came to Dewi's delivery (v.difficult as I'm sure you remember) his words were well Dewi is here and healthy thats most important and what you feel now about is just caused by chemicals...they don't matter it'll pass.
I'm really struggling at the moment to keep by emotions in check, I feel useless and isolated but dont feel like going and doing anything because I dont feel like theres anything to do.
I have very few friends (that live near or give 2 shits about me most didn't even come to my wedding) those that I have seen since Dewi arrived it was awkward and I have nothing to say to them as I barely saw them through pregnancy and a while before as we were saving for the wedding and then I wasn't drinking so wouldn't be in the pub like they were at weekends.
The only time I get to go do things for me are the evenings and soe of them are impossible as hubby is in the gym after work so doesnt get in till gone 7.
I dont feel like I can leave them as Hubby never does anything for Dewi so doesn't know how to comfort him - he gives him to me if he cries.
As much as I want to go do things I just don't feel like it when the time comes, I had my haircut and walked out with something I don't like, I go looking for clothes as I have nothing to wear and cant bring myself to try anything on.
I went to get measured up for bras as nothing is comfy only for the woman to have to get a second opinion and that opinion was to buy something cheap and hope they settle down a bit more....one is a whole cup size smaller than the other now...great even worse than before.
We've arranged for me to go swimming tonight something I used to do with apprehension because it was 'good for me and bump' but I can barely bring myself to find my costume as I feel even worse about how I look now than before.
I actually miss being pg because thats the only time in my life I have been proud of how I looked and enjoyed my figure.
I enjoyed the baby group but feel its pointless as its only another 6 weeks before I'm back to work so any friendships I forge will be lost then.
Gah this all started because my Mum wants to come and visit and he thinks she's selfish, ignorant and rude and he had the nerve to say this to my face -tactful eh? All because when we had just had the baby - i.e. I was still in the birthing centre and then came home she was around and she didn't instinctively know to follow all his house rules and she made herself at home like we asked her to. He thinks because she didnt clean the house from top to bottom and cook us food like she said she would she's a c**t...uhhhh she didn't do certain things because we didn't ask her too, she did all the things I asked her to she was hardly about to rummage i our cupboards and get under our feet because she thought she should.
He's so intolerant its untrue, he's always saying he has to do everything and I do nothing, and what I do do he has to do again because I do a bad job...its such a load of bullshit.
I wish I had the nerve to tell him I finding things so difficult because I didn't even want to have this baby now...I didn't want to start TTC until a while after we were married I wanted to have a marriage to be a couple and do things together unlike when we were saving for the wedding and doing sweet FA every weekend before tying ourselves down to all that again but without even having time to ourselves.
I agreed to have the baby now for him, he wanted it so badly.
I dont have the nerve though...he'd only call me stupid (he often does) and a martyr.
Arrrrgggghhhhhhhh
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to you. Maybe you should tell him how you feel, it probably won't help the current argument, but at least you won't be bottling it up any more. Best case is he might get a wake up call, which it sounds like he needs a little bit - I'd go mad if DH gave Jake to me every time he cries.
hope thomsons will get it sorted out for you Nic!! And hope your grandma is ok 
otherwise il have to use the three point thingy and havnt done that before 
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