My own parents are very authoritarian and children were not to question their parents' decisions in any way, regardless of whether or not it was fair or understandable to the child. I hated it and my sister did too and we wound up rebelling quite young and it just didn't work at all as my parents grew sloppy and, in their selfishness, too lazy to bother enforcing some things but coming down hard on others and it was all a hideous, confusing mess.
My plan is to be authoritative. I'll explain why I'm doing things and once they reach a certain age and are able to knowingly question things I'll be open to questioning. I will always have the final say but I'm not the type to not change my mind about things or appreciate I may have been too rash or made a mistake.
I don't believe in demands and expectations, I believe purely in support so whatever Molly does with her life and whoever she turns into will not be because I expect her to be a certain way to fit in with society, it will be because we loved her, supported her and allowed her to be whatever and whoever she wants to be.
For young children, I actually really like the naughty spot/step (though I'll just make it a very normal designated area and call it time out and not naughty spot/step) as it allows for a time to just sit and think. There will be warnings issued before we get to this and I will explain as they are placed in time out why they are there. It will always be calm and in a "we need to calm down/cool off" sort of a way and not "you've been naughty, this is a punishment!" which is how it seems to come across on supernanny.
My theory is, children are just little people and it's our job to help them grow and develop. It's not our place to force anything or control, that's not our right. We can only ever guide them and offer the advice of our own experiences and hope for the best. Strong discipline and control might be OK for some but the type of people that breeds are not the type of people I wish my children to be.
I believe there are ways that you can encourage them not to be lazy or to just be free to self indulge, there are ways of guiding them to achieve their potential without being pushy. I know children push the limits, that's what they do and there will, of course, be limits but the consequences will be proper, reasonable and fully explained because what's the point in having limits if children don't fully understand why or what they are?