hey girls and welcome to CJ,
I've just caught up on the latest posts and I have to say I am in tears right now it brakes my heart that you wonderful women have been through so much pain and still are I just wish I could take the pain away for you all. Life is a cruel place sometimes.
Right I've dried my eyes and will back track a little hope thats ok as I missed a lot. First hearty I am so sorry about your boss I know how hard it is my sil was pregnant the same time of me (she was three days behind where I should be) as you know she had the baby 8 weeks early but in all the time she was pregnant i couldn't see her couldnt even speak to them it was just to hard so I cant imagine how you must feel being around her but we are all here for you whatever you need scream shout yell you go for it. Hopefully she will be sensitive towards your feelings. You have to do whats right for you with regard to work I think its fair to say you need to protect yourself.
I totally agree with the ptsd and triggers seting us off. I dont think people realise the last effects of suffering a mc and how it impacts your life months even years later. I hate to admit but I havnt been to see my nephew yet as he was still in hospital and the thought of going near a maternity ward was just to much to cope and I know I wouldnt be able to keep it together he's now home so I'm hoping to go and see him soon. I am terrifed about scan I want to be exicted but I am so scared the one think I am thankful about is its not at the same place where we went for our 12 week and were told the bad news but if we get to 12 weeks with this one it will be the same place and I know I will be sick to my stomach. The other thing I have notice is the impact on my hubby obviously hes suffered a loss and it has impacted him but I dont think I realised how much untill this week he came rushing home left work to come home as I didnt answer phone when he rang (I was busy) and was terrified something had happened to me and the baby. He was as white as a sheet when he came in the house and his heart was racing. If I get up in the night he wakes up (he always slept like a log but now is keeping one ear open if that makes sense).
I just wish miscarriage wasn't such a taboo and we talked about it more openly maybe then those that havent suffered a loss would understand how hard it is and the impact it has across your life.
I know Ive probably missed loads I wish it was dealt with in a better way in the media, tv/films ect. My mum watched marley and me after I had lost my little one and she phoned me to tell me not to watch it due to her suffering a mc I have never watched it and so glad my mum warned me as I dont think I could of watched it.
As far as books and films - I've not seen Tell No one but have read the book. The one film which is as good as the book and sticks to it truefully is the Green Mile.
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to you all. I know some of us are having a shitty time but you are all strong wonderful women and I am so lucky to have found you as you have helped me through so much and I know you will be there for everything and I am there for all of you.