Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[vickyd]

Hearty i like the way you always find a silver lining!
Is your family still in town?

 

[jenny25]

yeah i was the same i was told from one of the top fetal medicine / gyne specialists from londons kings college hospital to go straight ahead and that she has seen many women in my situation come back very quickly cause their was no genetic cause for what happened .
after my erpc last year i was told to wait a month cause i had a blighted o i think we are just going to bed every 2nd day or so if we are not lucky we aint lucky but not going to stress myself out about it x

 

[msarkozi]

I like your thinking Jenny. You can't get stressed out about it....all you can do is hope and pray

 

[heart tree]

Thanks Vicky, I try to see the silver lining no matter what. Otherwise I think I would be a very depressed person.

Yes, my family is still in town. I'm driving them to the airport this morning. Tomorrow I'm getting on a plane to meet Tim. He's visiting his family. I'll be gone for the weekend.

Jenny it is a good plan to take it easy and not stress. I admire your courage and perseverance.

 

[jenny25]

well funny thing is let me tell you something paul and i went to spain for 10 days in june to start of july we bedded all the time while out their cause i was o while i was out their and you know what it didnt work i got my period on 16th july and since i came back from holiday we only slept together twice and it worked i fell pregnant it just goes to show you it can work with the more relaxed approach i chucked the ovulation tests and that away and wham by surprise x

 

[NatoPMT]

Hi all

Jenny, thanks for telling us about your little boy. My sister went through this with her first, he was diagnosed at 22 weeks with severe spina bifida and she went through a similar process. She said being able to say goodbye properly helped her in some ways. She now has 3 children, including a set of twins and one day, you will too. Its the hardest decision you can ever be faced with, im so so sorry you had to let him go.

Who wants a poas update??

Welllllll, this morning, i got a...

Spoiler

bfn.

Im SUCH a tease

 

[msarkozi]

Nato! I can't wait until that turns into a BFP! Thanks for always making me laugh!

 

[LucyJ]

Allie I dont know today isnt a good day to be honest I had a horrid dream last night dont really remember much of it but what I do remember is I was holding my baby and then the baby was gone almost as if someone kept taking the baby away I cant remember much more about it but I do remember steve waking me up as I was screaming/crying then I couldnt get back to sleep so feel slugish and out of sorts today. I just cant get myself going house is looking a mess and I've been snacking on rubbish I tend to comfort eat when I'm like this so need to shake myself out of it as best I can I always feel better when steves home which I guess is understandable we've got plans for the weekend nothing to exicting but I'll be out of the house which will do me good.

Jenny I think thats a good way to approach it and not to be to stressed. We've been told not to try until after our appointment on the 1st Dec as we're having blood tests done to see if theres a reason for the mc's and they can't be done if I fall pregnant again.

 

[LucyJ]

Aww nato you big teaser you always make me smile which today I really needed Hope your doing ok really hope that turns into a bfp for you soon.

 

[Megg33k]

Vicky - I watched the original last night... It was hard to find for download! But, once we found it, we had it a couple of hours later!

Cesca - I don't think there's going to be anything wrong, honey. But, to answer your question... IF there was something wrong, it would be a million times better to have someone with you. There would obviously be nothing to feel embarrassed about. And, I'm sure she'd just have your feelings/emotions in mind. However, I don't see you needing to worry much about that. I think things will be just fine!

Hearty - Yay for dip and rise!!! Its about time, yeah?

Jenny - I also admire your strength for doing the best thing for your son. That's what being a mother is... You have to make decisions that hurt you sometimes so that your children don't hurt or suffer. You're incredibly strong and brave, sweetie!

Nato - That was borderline mean putting it behind a spoiler like that! You made me laugh though!

 

[heart tree]

NATO!!!!

My heart was pounding when I saw that! I will blame you for any heart attacks I suffer from your teasing!

 

[NatoPMT]

right then, down to the business of rooting through this thread and replying

Allie i am expecting photos of major winter storms, including snow drifts very soon. I have just discovered Waitrose frozen vegetables. OMG. Their frozen parsnips and chanterey baby carrots are the best roasted i've ever had. I am having sunday roasts every night. I actually am as well. Sorry bout the cbfm fiasco. Hope the high arrives

Razzer, you and cazzer are a matching pair with your poas after bfp habit. Youre even starting to have similar names. How did you get on at the drs?

Sugar, my temps are looking good, but i think they are just looking as they are supposed to in ov. If i get 2 higher temps, i might be going triphasic.

Just imagine, me, triphasic.

Are you expecting a +ve tomorrow? any lines on the opk at all?

Cesca, im bad arent i? whos baby edna btw, anyone's baby that i know? <noseyface>

When i read your post about being embarrassed, it kind of struck a chord. I went to A&E on my own when i started bleeding, then the scan where i discovered mmc on my own too. I didnt want anyone, not even husband there. Not sure why, but theres some sense of embarrassment involved somehow, not quite sure how. You need to be comfortable.

Mone - how you doing poppet? whats going down in your hood?

Vic, boo at hangover with no booze. Boo-ze Hiss

I guess the prob with waiting for dating on a scan is the wait between the first and 2nd scans might be very anxious if the dates do need confirming, and i know that drs often want you to wait cos if you dont wait until its easily dated, it makes you a more difficult patient

Hearty, no offense taken lovey. I have wings of steel. Yeay at ov, yeay at next cycle approaching with meds akimbo

Luce, i know the dreams are unsettling, but its a 'safer' way of your mind dealing with whats happened, and reminding your conscious that it has to process whats happened. It will take time

AFM, baaaaah. I know the exec producer of the x factor, and asked him for tickets, and he's offered me either/or 2 sets of tickets.. but only 2 tickets for 14th of Nov when Take That are performing. Bahhh bahhh - I now have to chose out of my 2 friends at work who to take (that).

 

[NatoPMT]

haha, naughty me

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QnroWnC6seQ&ob=av3e

 

[vickyd]

Nato you are one crazy bitch!! Btw whats up with this Robbie Williams and Gary Barlow reunion???

 

[NatoPMT]

i dunno but if they sing Angels i will throw tomatoes at them

 

[vickyd]

Yogurt is always a better weapon... Trust me we have been throwing loads to our politicians this year!

 

[heart tree]

Lucy

These are the hardest days. The ones right after the loss. The reality starts to sink in. Dreams are ways that we integrate events and memories in our life. They don't always make sense, but our brains need dreams to help sort things out. Sounds to me like your brain is trying to integrate this tremendous loss you've experienced. Just get through today, don't worry about what you are eating. If it helping you get through this day, so be it.

Cesca, I don't want to tell you there is nothing to be embarrassed about. If that's how you feel, then that's how you feel. However, I imagine your friend wants to be there for you as a support. I bet she's offering to be there because she cares about you. Whatever happens, she won't judge you. That's what good friends are for. I've gotten bad news alone and I've gotten bad news with someone. In my experience it is always better to be with someone. That being said, you aren't going to have bad news. And it is even more wonderful to get good news with someone so you can celebrate! That's how I envision your appointment to be...a joyful celebration.

 

[NatoPMT]

Nice tip with the yoghurt. That shizzle's gonna smell bad. Im bad, you know it. Owww.

 

[jenny25]

thanks meg hun , i have been here before as you know with my first son who i lost in 2003 so i kinda know what to expect etc but it doesnt change the pain and hurt thats the only difference i can be at peace knowing i done the right thing and its just one of those things that has happened as i see it god only takes the best x

 

[sugarlove]

Ha ha Nato, that was well funny you tease! That'll teach us to take the piss

Can't believe you have got free tix for X Factor. I keep applying online for freebies with audience.com, but never got them yet. You might be able to sexually harass Matt Are you saying you also have the chance of getting free Take That tix? That would be fab too!

AFM I'm hoping to get a peak tomorrow on CBFM. I hope so as I'm nearly BD'd out! OPK looks a bit darker but not positive yet. I have no idea why it's giving me so many god damn highs!

Allie, this is your first cycle using it right? It can give misleading results the first few times you use it, as it's getting to know you. I got highs nearly every day the first time I used it, and never got a peak. I'm sure I ov though.

Hi to everyone else
xx