Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[NatoPMT]

excuse me, 10% of pregnant women test +ve at 8dpo.

Im gonna stop telling you lot my dirty secrets

Allie: the B vits, i would keep them up, you can actually od on some B vits and damage your nervous system so you do need to be careful, but some women dont uptake folic acid properly, so its worth taking the 5mg - espec as higher levels of folic acid are linked to reduced NTD's and now even reduced chances of Downs

 

[Razcox]

Morning all! How is everyone today??

Cesca - That is a very cute bump hun

Jenny - Good news about the tests getting fainter, i think with my MMC in April once the tests were negative i OVed about a week 1/2 later.

Mel - Sorry to hear about your work mate it must be hard as they still have a baby in there but they also need to morn the one that has been lost. Its lovely that its a girl for them though

CJ - Sorry you are feeling down honey, things take so long here it can get so disheartening but you're a strong lady and will get through this with your forever bean.

Sugar & Nato - i think i need to join your POAS aholic meetings as i am 20DPO and still POAS!

Hearty - Sorry about the long cycle, waiting for that egg can feel like a life time sometimes. Hope your temps go up now xx

Ali - Thats great news about OV being round the corner! I took Soy this month and i could feel a difference as the OV pain was awful. Will be sending lots of your way.

Megg - I dont have many fresh veggies either as they dont get eaten in time. I buy frozen or tinned so they last longer. I make up for it with fresh fruit though.

AFM - Not feeling too bad this morning, a bit queasy but not as bad as yesterday. Got the doctors at 5:30 so will update you all when i get back.

 

[sugarlove]

Cesca fab bump! Nato your temps are still looking really good!
CJ I know how you feel. I sometimes think this is never going to happen and if it does, going to take so long!
Hearty when you last got a positive on the opk what was the cbfm giving you? I'm on bloody day 5 of a high and still no peak. Getting bored of BDing incessantly!
Also hearty, with the cbfm what day do you class as ov? The first peak or second?
Hi to everyone else
Xx

 

[jenny25]

raz im so happy to see you around again hun , i stopped going to knocked up naughties cause they were all about them really and didnt post much congrats on your pregnancy hun you so deserve this hun after the heartache you have had

should i test every day or every other day to make sure it goes?

the reason my pregnancy was induced my son jamie had an enlarged bladder and i had a cvs done as they thought it was patau's syndrome but it came back clear and told us he was a boy the bladder went from 1.9cm to 3cm in the space of a week it went up into his chest cavity and put pressure on his heart they called it a urethra obstruction ( hypoplasia sp) basically their was nothing that they could do , i was told i could cont with the pregnancy and he would die either a still born or just after birth and so paul and i made the decision to stop his suffering , after he was born on friday we seen the damage that it had already done with no functioning kidneys aswell we know we made the right decision x

 

[Razcox]

Hey hun i thought i knew the name! It got to hard for me to go onto the Naughties thread so i stopped going in the end and had a break. Seems to have worked wonders for us now fingers crossed.

I am so sorry for your loss and the heartache you have gone through but i think your actions are that of a true mother - Putting the welfare of your child above all else. x Will be wishing you a short stay in TTC and sending lots of cyber

 

[dawny690]

Jenny so sorry again for your loss hun xxxx

 

[prgirl_cesca]

Thanks for the compliments girls. I do feel huge but i've looked at pictures online and it seems it can be anything from nothing to even bigger than mine. I have also had three major surgeries on my tummy in the past so I think my muscle definition is gone so I'm showing earlier - much like when you'd had a baby before.

I've got a dress coming in the post to wear for work. My work skirt and trousers are so uncomfortable. My skirt is riding up my legs so high because it's too tight around my belly so my legs are obscenely on show!

Jenny - after my blighted ovum I tested completely negative after about 2 weeks I think.

Nato - you are naughty!!!!

Mel - that's so hard about your work mates. Poor people.

To those with long cycles and waiting for news...big hugs.

I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I spoke to one of my pregnant friends last night to check if the midwife round here checks for a heartbeat on your 15 wk appointment (mine is next thurs) and she said yes and she said to bring hubby along. I can't because he is working, so she's offered to come. I'd love her to come but I can't shift the feeling that if something is wrong it'll be horrible having someone with me and really....well....embarrassing. Then I realised I'm just embarrassed all the time, I was embarrassed that I had loads of symptoms last time but still miscarried, embarrassed I was puking this time but still bled, embarrassed before my scan this time incase it wasn't alive and i'd already started growing, again I'm embarrassed now because my bump is showing but I'm only 14 weeks and what if something goes wrong?!

I'm sure this is all normal but i'm going nuts.

 

[jenny25]

Thanks for the compliments girls. I do feel huge but i've looked at pictures online and it seems it can be anything from nothing to even bigger than mine. I have also had three major surgeries on my tummy in the past so I think my muscle definition is gone so I'm showing earlier - much like when you'd had a baby before.

I've got a dress coming in the post to wear for work. My work skirt and trousers are so uncomfortable. My skirt is riding up my legs so high because it's too tight around my belly so my legs are obscenely on show!

Jenny - after my blighted ovum I tested completely negative after about 2 weeks I think.

Nato - you are naughty!!!!

Mel - that's so hard about your work mates. Poor people.

To those with long cycles and waiting for news...big hugs.

I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I spoke to one of my pregnant friends last night to check if the midwife round here checks for a heartbeat on your 15 wk appointment (mine is next thurs) and she said yes and she said to bring hubby along. I can't because he is working, so she's offered to come. I'd love her to come but I can't shift the feeling that if something is wrong it'll be horrible having someone with me and really....well....embarrassing. Then I realised I'm just embarrassed all the time, I was embarrassed that I had loads of symptoms last time but still miscarried, embarrassed I was puking this time but still bled, embarrassed before my scan this time incase it wasn't alive and i'd already started growing, again I'm embarrassed now because my bump is showing but I'm only 14 weeks and what if something goes wrong?!

I'm sure this is all normal but i'm going nuts.

thanks hun i remember after having my d&c last year on the 9th sept i had my period on 28th but today i have been having twinges on my left ovary so guess i will might as well bed for fun eh i wanna say thank you i got your little present in the post this morning hun thank you so much for that xxxx

 

[jenny25]

ok this is weird faint positive on preg test cheapie but strong positive on opk hmmm dunno wot to think x

 

[LucyJ]

Mel that is so sad about your bosses daughter hope she's doing ok must be such a hard situation to deal with.

Hearty sorry your body is messing you about our bodies really do suck sometimes.

Allie hope the soy helps this month keeping everything crossed for you.

Jenny I am so sorry for what you have been through that must of been so hard you sound like a very strong women who has done the best for your little one. Massive to you.

Nato, yogi and sugar you girls crack me up

CJ hope your feeling a bit better today

Cesca I would take your friend with you I think having someone there for support is a good thing I am sure everything will be ok with your little one but with what you've been through your bound to worry so having someone with you may help eleviate the fears a bit or at least give you someone to lean on.

 

[babywanted73]

Jenny.
So sorry for what you are going through
I would say the HCG is not of your system yet.

 

[Allie84]

Jenny, so sorry for your loss, thanks for sharing, I'm sure that was a tough decision but you did what was best for your baby.

Cesca, all of your feelings sound perfectly normal to me, Maybe tell your friend your fears; I bet she'll help you feel better and won't want you to be embarassed.

Well, I STILL have a low on my CBFM. I've never been so mad to see a low, I was 99% sure it was going to say high due to how I feel, since I know I feel very different. And the OPK. Oh, well, maybe tomorrow. I won't get my hopes up again, though.

Lucy, how are you feeling today?

 

[msarkozi]

Jenny - that's gotta be a tough decision to make, but it sounds like you definitely did what was right for your son. We definitely don't want to see our children suffer It wouldn't hurt at all to bd, especially since your cervix is still open. It increases your chances of getting pregnant quickly again. OH and I did the same thing.

Hi to the rest of the girls.

Haven't heard if Nato poas today yet???

 

[MinnieMone]

Hi everyone....

Cazz - Firstly I am so so happy for you both that the scan went well, you must be overjoyed..... amazing that you had an external as well as saw the hb so early, all so so positive. fantastic news.

Jenny - welcome to this lovely thread, and to a wonderful group of women. I am so sorry for your loss, I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling, we will all be here for you to listen and support as best we can. I know with each of my losses my hcg dropped very quickly, if the line is faint I would say keep testing in another week. Would your doctor give you and hcg test to see if it's dropping?

Cesca - sweetie, don't feel embarrassed about feeling embarrassed, that is the way you feel and it's ok, I have felt that too on occasion, but you must do what is right for you re the scan, whatever is going to make you the most comfortable. I'm sure your friend will understand.

Nato - any news? Have you POAS yet? doowit doowit.

Hope everyone is having a lovely day.

Mone x

 

[hoping:)]

I am so sorry for your loss Jenny You are so brave.

 

[vickyd]

Hey ladies!

Cazz WOOHOO!!!!!! Im so happy babes that everything is going perfect for you guys...You deserve this sooo much!

Cesca going to a scan is a very emotional experience for us, only take people you feel 1000% comfortable with. Obviously you have nothing to feel embarrased about but either way dont bring your friend if you think it will stress you more than you already are.

Jen, Im quite a hypochondriac and after my D&Cs i always waited till first AF to be over before i BD. This is something i was told to do by top specialists. They all recommend that when your cervix is open and after any kind of procedure its best to avoid not only sex but swimming or anything that may cause infection that may lead to scarring. The recovery is 100% better if you abstain. However, this is something you should also discuss with your doctor.

Mone how you holding up girl?

Sorry if i missed anyone, my allergies have been acting up and i feel like im recovering from a real bad hangover...

Megg i just watched glee! I also have never seen Rocky Horror but the episode was really fun so i think im gonna try and download the musical tonight.

 

[msarkozi]

Vicky - that's funny that you were told to wait until after AF is due before trying again. My doctor told me there is no medical reason as to why a person needs to wait until after AF, as the only reason some say that, is so they can get an accurate EDD. My doctor told me to go home and get pregnant, and there was no reason why I had to wait at all. At the hospital though, I was told to not have sex for a week or to have a hot bath so I don't risk getting an infection, but that was all.

 

[vickyd]

Mel i was actually told to wait 2 cycles but they were ok with having sex after 1 cycle. I guess every country has different recommendations, my specialists (who i pay very dearly as i go 100% private) all agree that making sure everything is clean and back to normal is healthier for the woman. When i told them about the dating theory i read on here they laughed it off as with todays scans they dont rely on LMP to date the pregnancy.

 

[msarkozi]

I think it is personal preference as well. If a person is emotionally ready to try again, then there is no reason to wait. If you aren't emotionally ready, then definitely wait.

yeah, with the ultrasounds, you definitely can date it. The only issue that can arise is if you know your LMP, and the ultrasound shows your baby developing slowly compared to that. So then the ultrasound wouldn't be accurate. I had a friend that she ended up having to go to a specialist to be monitored, as her baby was smaller then what he should be, and they weren't sure if he was going to make it. In the end, he was very tiny when born, but he is sure a cutie

 

[heart tree]

Jenny, thank you for sharing. I can't even imagine what a difficult time that was for you. I would agree with Shannon, you still have hcg in your system. OPK's can also pick up hcg which is why you are getting a positive OPK right now. I know it is frustrating to see these lines. Hang in there, you'll see negatives soon. Honestly I wouldn't waste my money testing every other day but that is a personal decision. It can't hurt you, but it might make you more upset every time you see a positive test.

Allie, sorry you didn't get a high reading. I know how annoying it is. Grrrr

Mone, how are you doing today?

Nato, sorry to offend! You know we all love your poas reports. Please keep reporting.

Well I did an OPK with FMU today and it was very positive (speaking of poas). My temp did go up today. I think I'll put my temps in from the past few days. I think I've ovulated at this point. A few more temps will hopefully confirm. Good thing we decided not to try this cycle. Tim went out of town yesterday! We would have missed it this month anyway. Maybe the angels were telling me not to ttc with this egg.