Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

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Huny the tests I had were for things like to check if my blood was clotting, also all the hormone tests, mutations & chromosome defects, I don't know the exact names of them but there were 10 all together & lee had 1 aswell to do with chromosomes.
All of ours came back normal? I was confused to say the least. My fertility specialist is fabulous he is determined to make me healthily pregnant bless him. I have to call him the minute I get my next BFP for scheduled fortnightly scans and blood levels I'm so scared to be honest but totally dertermined to be a mum .
Your Dr should most definetely refer you now. I don't understand how ur health system works chick but mine went through the NHS here in the uk. If I went private the main tests I needed were approx £200 each so I don't know what that is in dollars? It's gotta be worth every penny though right? I hope it's not too expensive babes x x

let us know if u go home sweet ok x lov Caz


Hearty u need to go home u cannot be in work right now!!! Just get your coat and leave right now! U can phone in and tell her why your ur not able for work. I can't believe you've pushed itself to even go in babe u need to think of yourself right now!!

Thanks babe. I actually did get all of those tests done, 17 vials of blood plus a hysteroscopy and they couldn't find anything wrong. Luckily all that was covered by insurance. I'll pay for a consult with a fertility specialist just to see if they have any thoughts. It will be worth every penny.

You know, I actually like being at work. I'm in an office by myself, so can cry and write to you when I need to. I'm on call today which means I'm not seeing clients in person but am taking calls from clients calling for the first time. It's actually pretty easy and nice to talk to other people about their problems rather than dwell on mine. My work is incredibly supportive and already they have rallied around me. I'm taking Friday off for the D&C and then will have the weekend to recover. I'm also taking Monday off. Will go into work on Tuesday and then will get on a plane Tuesday night.

It is so comforting to read your posts and hear the strength in your words. It moves me forward. Thank you my sweets.

 

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Hearty im so happy that Tim is being such a rock for you. The only good thing that came from my losses was how much stronger as a couple me and Alex became. I know now that we can handle pretty much anything that comes our way.
I think you should take a couple of days off work. I never so much as took one day off around the time of my losses and i ended up bursting into tears at meetings weeks after. You need to be in a place where if you need to cry, scream, break things you are free to do- DONT REPRESS your feelings.
As you know im an atheist but coming back from work today i couldnt help but walk into a little chapel and light a candle for you and Tim...Who knows maybe im wrong and someone out there will start aying attention...

Thanks Vicky. It's true, this is a test of marriage and it is nice when we realize the marriage is solid.

As I mentioned to Cazza, I will take some time off in a few days. Thank god for my upcoming vacation.

Thank you so much for the candle. I wasn't given a religion when I was born and I don't practice one, but I have my own spirituality. Nature is my temple. I'll take a candle, a blowing leaf, a butterfly whatever! If someone wants to pay attention, I'm here!

 

[cazza22]

your 1 amazing woman hearts & im glad ur find some strength in my words babe, alls i can say to that is Ditto

we'll all get there together & wow are we gonna be amazing parents or what !!!!!! take care of yourself & massive cuddles to you & Tim xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

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Heart tree I am so very sorry for your loss I just went through my 3rd miscarriage as well... it is so unfair. It took us 9 months to concieve our twins and it was the first time we ever got to see heart beats on an ultrasound so we were so sure that it was meant to be... but I lost them on 4th of July just like the last one. Miscarriage is hard because we go through so many emotions and the remaing hormones don't help. Right after I lost them I was a wreck and spent most of the day crying at work so finally I broke down and told my boss so that I could go home. For me it helps to just take time for my self and my husband (his name is Tim also) and just like how you described your hubby mine is the same way... he always just knows the right things to say to bring me back from all the gloom and doom so we are both lucky we have such wonderful partners. Even though it is difficult at times I keep myself going by hanging on to hope that it will happen someday and I make sure to focus on all the good things that are in my life. Just remember that people grieve differently and time can eventually heal all wounds. We will have our babies some day and we are going to love them so much more because of what we have had to go throug to get them

Oh god honey, I saw your post about having twins in the PAL section and was so thrilled for you. The last post I saw was that they were only seeing one heartbeat. I didn't see what happened after that. I'm so, so, deeply sorry that you are going through this too. Thank you so much for reaching out. It helps to hear from people who have been through this the same number of times. I don't know why, but it does. You are still so close to your loss and already you have such amazing perspective. You give me hope that I will be ok and will get through this. Thank you again. As your name says, it is important to remain forever "hopeful"

xoxo

 

[vickyd]

 

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I'm feeling better girls. It really is amazing how talking to you helps. The power of community is palpable to me right now.

Vicky, I'm dying to know when your scan is.

I'm also anxious to hear from Mel. Has anyone heard anything? We don't need this to focus on me!

 

[vickyd]

Hearty my scan is on the 22nd. As usual im in complete denial, i was supposed to throw a bachelorette party for my bff on the 23d but i changed the date to 29th in case i need an emergency D&C pathetic i know....Hot doc was like, strange that youre putting it off, i shared the reason with him and he hung up on me!!!!! He called back a minute later to yell at me again!!!!
Just to make you laugh a bit, ive discovered that my body hair issue has become over the top and i now have the beginning of a goatee....Seriously the best gift anyone could get me now is a box set of tweezers..

 

[roonsma]

Hearty my scan is on the 22nd. As usual im in complete denial, i was supposed to throw a bachelorette party for my bff on the 23d but i changed the date to 29th in case i need an emergency D&C pathetic i know....Hot doc was like, strange that youre putting it off, i shared the reason with him and he hung up on me!!!!! He called back a minute later to yell at me again!!!!
Just to make you laugh a bit, ive discovered that my body hair issue has become over the top and i now have the beginning of a goatee....Seriously the best gift anyone could get me now is a box set of tweezers..

Or you could make a feature of it, a pleat perhaps!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xx

 

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OMG, I'm still laughing at hot doc hanging up on you and then calling you back to yell at you some more That is freakin' hilarious!

I agree with Roonsma, you could do something stylish with the goatee. It could be a new fashion trend!

 

[vickyd]

What can i say.....Its my fate as greek woman!!!!!!!!!!!
next stage is nasty sideburns!!!!

 

[vickyd]

Lately he seems to be yelling at me alot.....Maybe he has a crush on me??????????? That would be weird during an examination...

 

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I'm of Irish descent, but I'm hairy too, it's just blond. I actually had a hair competition with the Greek woman in my office. My arms rival hers, but the blond disguises it. I can seriously shave in the shower, get goose bumps in the shower and have the hair grow back before I even get out of the shower. It is so annoying. Luckily I married a guy who loves stubbly legs! Go figure!

Vicky, you could easily do a 70's disco theme with the sideburns!

 

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Lately he seems to be yelling at me alot.....Maybe he has a crush on me??????????? That would be weird during an examination...

Hot doc likes Vicky! Hot doc likes Vicky!

You need to bring a camera with you to your next appointment and take his photo. Maybe not during the exam though, that would be extra weird.

 

[roonsma]

What can i say.....Its my fate as greek woman!!!!!!!!!!!
next stage is nasty sideburns!!!!

Don't worry Vicky, we've got hairy facial moles in our family, big ass moles with about 3 whopping wirey hairs sprouting from them!! i have vivid childhood memories of trying to avoid kissing my Granny and Aunties!!!

I can't wait for those to start, making me gag just thinking about it!!

 

[vickyd]

Lately he seems to be yelling at me alot.....Maybe he has a crush on me??????????? That would be weird during an examination...

Hot doc likes Vicky! Hot doc likes Vicky!

You need to bring a camera with you to your next appointment and take his photo. Maybe not during the exam though, that would be extra weird.

Now i have to definately take a pic at some point!!!!!!! I could snap one quicky while hes busy "investigating" down there!!!!!

Yeah my sis is a natural blonde and she beats me on the arm hair, i actually dont have hairy arms at all!!!!!

We also have family members with huge wowza moles in all the wrong places, usually centered around the mouth EWWWW!!!! And this whole kissing on both cheeks ritual can be pretty gross let me tell ya!!

 

[vickyd]

My new look!

 

[roonsma]

Imagine hot docs surprise to look up from your foof examination a see you brandishing your camera!!! hilarious!!!

Yeah gross moles are always in places you have to go near, yuurrrgghh, can't think of them anymore!! x

 

[roonsma]

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My new look!

looking good Vicky!!!

 

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Oh my god, I'm gagging at the thought of the gross moles! Thanks ladies!

Love the new look Vicky

I especially like the way it is manicured. Very neat and tidy.

 

[vickyd]

Knowing him hed probably strike a pose!!!
I was in labour for 16 hours with my first angel Electra, and hot doc was in my room the whole time basically flirting with the midwives who were all pretty hot young things!!!! He also flirted back with all my girlfriends who developed instant crushes on him....This whole flirting scenario is the only thing that got me through those very difficult hours!