Hope youre uncle gets better very soon, sounds serious so hope things improve
I love your pics of penny. Do not stop.
We have talked about the worries of rejection before. I remember Vic saying some old trout told her sids babies didnt feel loved. And how my therapist didnt deny it when i said 'what if my baby thought i didnt want it?' - she just nodded and not in a 'i understand your irrational fear way'. Which kinda cemented that worry, i think in retrospect she meant 'we dont actually know what happens' so didnt dismiss my fear like she dismissed some of my other fears
On your fears, youre very healthy so you do all you can and you are the last person id expect to worry about that, losing your mum must add to that anxiety and its something that i wish we could all just say 'lets live for the day and be happy our present is here' but thats so much easier said than done
Hearty at what stage was the uterus empty? couldn't they see anything in the tube at that stage? He did check the tubes but couldnt see anything.
yes they should have checked my hcg but i left the clinic - i had been there for hours and was upset but now im regretting it and starting to worry. I will buy a double frer pack tomorrow and test... then test again in a few days and if it remains positive I'll go back.
Sorry I was traveling all day and am just seeing this. I started bleeding at 12dpo and thought it was AF. Then at 21dpo I started bleeding again for 5 days. I got an hcg test and it came back at 32. That would have put me at over 5 weeks pregnant. They did a few more tests hcg tests, I don't remember how many, before they did an ultrasound. I was over 6 weeks and they didn't see anything in my uterus or tubes. My hcg kept rising which was the only indication of ectopic. I had no pain, no symptoms and nothing was seen in my tubes. They did a D&C and didn't find any pregnancy tissue. That's what confirmed the ectopic. They never saw it in my tube until they did surgery to remove it. There was some concern it might be located elsewhere in my body. Ectopics aren't always in the tubes. I was over 7 weeks when I had the surgery. I'm sure you are fine, but take a few more tests just to make sure they are getting lighter.
crap. Thanks for the info, worrying though that is, i needed to hear that.
Long day of travel yesterday, but Delilah was a star. She didn't cry once and it took us 13 hours from door to door. I can't say it was easy taking a 5 hour plane ride alone with her, but she was great. I'm a little fed up with Tim at the moment though. He had 2 weeks without us here. I asked him to clean the house. Nothing was done! I even had to make the bed when I got home and I was exhausted. There was a pile of clothes in Delilah's bed too. So instead of coming home to a clean house, I feel like I have even more work to do. I'm already feeling sad that I had to leave my mom. And I'm feeling isolated as there is no one here to help me during the days with the baby. Now I also feel frustrated with my husband. And he wants to have sex tonight! I highly doubt that will happen. I really wanted to come back and feel chemistry towards him, but I didn't. I'm feeling even more distant. I really don't feel like he pulls his weight. His argument would be that he has a job and makes all the money. But I feel like my job is 24/7, even while I was on vacation. I'm not sure how to broach it without getting into an argument. Any ideas? I'm so tired I can't think straight right now.
Sorry youre leaving your lovely mum and coming home to this. His argument is valid to a point, and i think its agreeing on where that point is that helps you both find your place in the partnership. And thats what it is, a partnership. He goes to work 9-5 and earns money. You look after your (plural) baby and do that 24-7.
So, if you went to work the same hours as him, how would the partnership work? What would happen in the evenings and mornings?
Now, thats what I think should happen now. I think that you do your job in the day, he does his, then it gets split in the weekends / evenings. Because you both input to the household and the partnership and the family, just because his brings in physical money, doesnt make it any more valid, just more tangible.
So lets make your role tangible.
Annual salary of a nanny: £31,500
Annual salary of a private chef: £30,000
Annual salary of a cleaner/maid: £12,000
So your work is valued at £73k or so, converted to $ = $117k per annum
https://www.guardian.co.uk/money/2011/feb/07/pay-rises-nannies-working-week
https://www.cheftalk.com/t/8137/rates-for-private-chefs
https://www.payscale.com/research/UK/Job=Maid_or_Housekeeping_Cleaner/Hourly_Rate
Thats a lot of work he's expecting you to add to the partnership - he could shave off some of that value by helping out occasionally. Men like facts (stereotype alert) so give him some cold hard money facts.