Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[msarkozi]

Sass - how you doing sweetie?

 

[Allie84]

Vicky, I was just going to suggest what Mel did....a toddler bed and a baby gate. Lots of my friends with older toddlers do this. I think now that Hero's older and not a 'baby', you're going to endure some sort of CIO because she's old enough to cry on purpose (ie she's not only crying out of need or because she has no other form of communication). The going rigid sounds like a temper tantrum? There's no denying it's going to be hard but if the bedtime routine you have right now isn't working I agree it's time to try something else. Glad the back problems don't sound too complicated!

Hearty and Round, I'm sorry your LOs are sleeping so terribly. Round, is Bryce in a crib yet? Hearty, I wonder if she's just ready to be out of her bassinet. I am hopeful once you get her into a crib in her own room she will sleep better. Alistair was never a bad sleeper (average I think), but I resisted moving him to a crib and I know I kept him in the bassinet too long. He was 6 months before we moved him to his crib and he was sitting up in his bassinet! I was like ummm, that's dangerous! Time to move you! The bassinet was confining and made him really hot. That being said, the initial transition to a crib SUCKED. We had the crib in our room until he was 8 months, and in retrospect I may have moved him to his own room earlier. Alistair kept getting caught in the crib (legs, mostly) and he couldn't get used to all that space! We also quit swaddling which added to it. I don't remember if you're swaddling? Once he was settled in his crib, though, he properly started STTN. Every baby is different yadda yadda but our recipe for sleep sucess has been: noise machine, light projection on the ceiling, crib w/ breathable bumpers (to stop his legs and arms hanging out), black out curtains, very clear bedtime routine, and a week or two of controlled crying. I never let Alistair cry more than 5 minutes at a time and that was usually all it took. I also never let him cry hysterically. I really hope you guys, Hearty and Round, find your solution soon

Same with you Vicky!!!

Amber, I remember you mentioning eating disorders but thanks for sharing those details. It's a good reminder that we need to have a healthy relationship with food! When I was in high school I must have had a good metabolism because I ate a ton and never had a fat roll. But I checked every time I took off my top to make sure! I can empathise with being that age and being so image conscious. When I first got cellullite I almost went to the doctor because I didn't know what was wrong with me and I thought it was something bad! Those were the days.

Sassy , I see you....how are you my love?!

 

[LucyJ]

Vicky I know it may sound a bit crazy but I think ts down to the accpuncture I has last night she said there was a good point she'd use that helps with anxiety and since last night I have felt calmer.

Mel my brother and sil had to put a stair gate on her bedroom door when she was little and in a toddler bed it worked untill she managed to undo it she appear one evening in the living room proudly and proudly announced 'I escape'

Vicky I dont know what to suggest that sounds hard. I hope you find away through it.

 

[msarkozi]

lmao! that is funny Luce.

 

[NatoPMT]

Sorry too hungover to reply, what i need to reply to is backing up into a mountain

Luce, that sounds very promising. If there was something wrong chromosome wise i think they often have things like restricted growth and irregular shaped sac so it does sound very positive.

Hearty, if Delilah still hasnt pooed, my dr told em to give weezie half water half orange juice to get things moving and it worked every time at 6 months old

will reply properly soon promise

 

[Sparkly]

Another big girl here, I spent the majority of last year dieting strictly and going to the gym 4-5 times a week, and I only lost 30lbs it was very irritating, but at least I have started this pregnancy lighter than my previous ones Also my weight has remained the same despite my tummy looking a little bigger

My latest scan was on Monday and both babies are doing well, Twin A measuring 5 days ahead and Twin B 3 days ahead I am always in awe when I see they are ok and cry all the way home afterwards The miscarriage clinic have now discharged me, which I'm really nervous about and I have now been referred onto the antenatal twin clinic. My first appointment is on 30th Jan and they will be scanning me again too, I will be 10 weeks...

 

[msarkozi]

that's awesome Sparkly! Those twins are doing amazing! Can't wait for you to see them again soon

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Hi girls, I've been keeping up with you all, love hearing what you're all upto.

I'm doing okay, just sorting our finances out! I'm having to sell my lovely car for something alot cheaper! Uhhh life as a single parent is going to be rough

 

[msarkozi]

It will be, but it will all work out in the end. Sometimes we have to sacrifice all the nice stuff for ourselves to give the best to our children. They will thank you one day

I am assuming you told Danny you want to separate?

 

[VGibs]

I had a bit of a motto when I was a single mom..."It may be cheap, but it holds more love."

 

[Allie84]

Sassy, I'm thinking of you every day, would love to hear how things are going and what's happening? Does Danny agree to separate?

 

[NatoPMT]

There's too much consumerism anyway, children need love, guidance and food in tummies... not stuff. It's character building sassy

Can't be nice to have the financial implications bought home to you like that, but in one way it can be a distraction to have the practicalities to deal with. I hope you and Danny are both coping

 

[Allie84]

Agreed! How are you, Nato?

 

[Round2]

Vicky, I hope things are going better with Hero. That's rough, I'm sure it's so much harder to let her CC when she's older. Poor kid!!

Sassy, hope you're doing okay. Nato is right, all your kids need is a healthy happy mom to give them lots of loving.

Sparkly, I'm so excited about your little twinnies! It's about time this finally happening for you.

Hearty, how are things going with D? Did you try the OJ and water? My doc said to go ahead with prunes or prune/apple juice. Bryce is constipated today and I tried the juice...still waiting for it to kick in.

AFM, things have been rough here. Maddy got the flu a week ago, then I got it, then Bryce got it then Maddy got the stomach flu this past weekened. Both Bryce and I have colds still and NOBODY is getting any sleep!! I freaked out when Bryce got the flu, his fever was above 39 degrees and his breathing was fast, so we ended up at the urgent care unit on Wednesday night, turned out okay, but holy crap did it ever freak me out. On top of that hubby is still dealing with his anxiety issues and the drugs are taking a huge toll on him. I feel like we're all barely hanging on!! Oh and I got a grand total of 3 hours of sleep last night...in 40 minute intervals!!

 

[msarkozi]

oh round, I hope you all get over the sickness soon and can get some sleep

Yesterday, a guy I grew up with for over 20 years passed away in his sleep. He was only 29!! He left behind his high school sweetheart and 2 children (5 and 20 months). It's still so unreal that this happened. Autopsy results should be in on Wednesday, and then hopefully this gives everyone some peace. Life is just so unfair. It seems so much worse since we all grew up together, and we still live in the same town together. This is also my boss' son in law. This hasn't been a great start to the year for some.....another man's wife just passed away on Wednesday as well. He works for the same company as me, but I didn't know him personally. He got home from work to find his wife dead. How tragic. I really can't imagine how these people feel

On another note, I am still sick. I am getting worried about baby as I haven't been able to eat properly, drinking as much fluids as I can but that's not always much, coughing fits are causing me to vomit, coughing up phlegm, and continuously blowing my nose (which is still stuffed up). I just want this to end!!

 

[Allie84]

Oh you poor things!!

Round, I'm so sorry, that sounds awful! I just looked up 39 C in F and it's 102.2...I don't think that's overly high for a baby? Definitely high and certainly sick, but not worrisomely high I don't think. He must have felt awful, though. The breathing would have freaked me out too, what did the doc say? Oh and I feel for Maddy because I got the stomach flu after the flu as well. Bleh. I hope you all feel better VERY VERY soon. What meds did your hubby get put on?

OMG Mel, that's shocking!! That's such a scary thing to happen to a 29 year old. I'm nearly that age and I just never think about things like that happening to young people, Accidents and stuff, but not just dying in your sleep. No history of illness? I hope the autopsy brings everyone some peace. I feel so bad for your coworker as well.
Oh, and I hope you feel better soon. Have you been to the doctors to see if they can give you anything?

 

[msarkozi]

Thanks Allie. I went to the clinic this morning, and I have bronchitis like I suspected. On antibiotics, and it's already helping lots! Thank God!

I am still in disbelief over it. He was completely fine on Saturday. The only additional things I have heard is that it was 7:30 yesterday morning. Lonnie heard Ryan making strange noises and she called 911. I believe he was dead before they got there. There is no illness, but past drug use. Wondering if that has something to do with it at all?! Some people said he has been clean for a couple years, but others say he was still using hard. I hope the autopsy comes through quickly so they can all have peace. I keep wondering too if it was an anuerysm or something like that?! I am 31 and I don't think of that stuff either. Time to get our will in place and ask my parents to be the kids' gaurdian!!!

 

[Round2]

Mel, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. That's so scary, really puts things into perspective how fragile life can be.

Allie, his fever was at 39.5 at it's highest, they say to take them to see a doctor if it gets higher than 39.3. The doc didn't say much, just that his breathing was fast and to keep an eye on it. He's totally fine now, he rebounded faster than anybody. Poor you with flu and stomach flu. It's a brutal flu season here.

My hubby is on zoloft...it's his 3rd week and still not really seeing much improvement. He's getting lots of side effects nausea, headaches, insomonia...not much relief though.

 

[msarkozi]

did you get any sleep last night Round?

 

[Round2]

I slept from 9pm till 12. Then he was up at 1am, 1:45, 2:30, 3:30-5:00. Maddy woke me at 6:30am. Little booger is asleep now, but I can't sleep!!

How's your bronchitis?