I am a bit confused... How hard do you all "tap" the bum (if you wont call it spanking)?
Like... I pat Jasmines bum sometimes playing around, obviously not hard enough to hurt... its all in good fun.
How would you get the point across that your displeased if it doesn't physically hurt the child a little bit? (I know we're not talking about slapping their bum as hard as you can).
It was me who doesn't call it spanking hun - Well I don't think anyone else mentioned it
I see why you/others would call it spanking ...didn't mean to suggest you as a person was wrong in your wording I was saying me as my individual and other reasons don't think the word suits for a lilttle tap on the bum or hand because imo I use to get a spanking ...the 'spanking' left belt mark scars on my back so theres why I personally don't like to use the word when referring to a slapped hand or bottom. Hope that makes sense
I see where your question comes from but I think its a hard question in a way of how to actually word the answer which is usually the type of question that causes the heat starting because things become fuzzy. Again hope that makes sense
I am very like you I see you have a problem with even thinking about giving a little smacked bum or hand of no which is why the thread and I think the girls have some interesting replys including how different their smacked bottom would be to what was acceptable years ago.
Someone mentioned the SKY box - Caitlin loves this little feature
now shes at the stage of well you can tell her 5 times but by the 3rd times you say NO she'll scream/take a tizzy
and try again ... and again ... the tone of voice does kinda fade in effect with LO as we're learning.
The tapped hand to me is where child should not be touching its either dangerous or things you simply can't move. You can smack a hand without reddening the area stinging the area but the noise is what is the shock part for them I thought < that at a guess because thats why I created thread to see lol I guess they tend not to like the difference in being told no maybe?
The vibe of a lil smacked bottom (I couldn't do it bare btw) and tone of Mummy/Daddy I guess comes with it so play times they do know the difference.