Due in July 2012

[Flagirl]

Kt- I know exactly how you feel bc I've done it 2x now. I've cried bc I was scared at the hospital tour and then here at home. I cried bc while I'm so so excited and we can't wait for her to get here this is also a life changing event ...it will never just be me and my hubby again etc. I'm not one of those people that doesn't really think thru every single thing probably to my detriment.
I think we all trust our doctors and know that they will use their training and expertise to help us

Try nit to stress about what you can't control. That's what I'm trying to do. They have patients that have way mo serious issues than we do and sme with perfect pregnancies (whatever that is ) but we all will be ok.

I just was telling my friends, who has 2 toddlers, I'm so nervous and this and that and we talked and right as we got off the phone she said- aren't you glad we don't like in a rural village in Africa or Asia where they still have babies on dirt floors with no painkillers or any modern medicine. I just laughed and said- yep that puts it all in perspective for me


I'm starting to wake up early and earlier. I'm worn totally out by 3or 4 and need a nap but my waking up is getting super early. My b ody preparing itself??
Anyone else???????

 

[ktskittle]

Yup! Me! I keep getting up super early. Last night I was awake from 2-3:30 with painless contractions that were consistently 5 minutes apart. I decided to go back to sleep and see if they woke me up later if they started to hurt... No luck. Nothing this morning!

 

[Bug222]

Kts!! Remember scan estimates can be off by quite a bit... a friend of mine had a growth scan that the estimated weight and the birth weight differed by 3 pounds!

Busy day today.. Ob appt, pre-op bloodwork, anethesia consult and our last prenatal class... I think I am going to be exhausted!!! Ahhhhh.. single digits!!!

 

[Canada8]

Had my OB appt today.....Celina is still high so I will prob not be going early
I am sooo exhausted today! Plus there is a heat wave alert in Toronto for the next 3 days! I is deadly outside!

I am really starting to slow down and focus on relaxing in my bed. One last work appt tomorrow, then DONE!

 

[angieloo]

I'm def slowing down too- the heat isn't helping for sure- it was 92 here Sunday and I was dying anytime I went outside.

I had my apt today too and still not dilated my cervix is 60% thinned out, but now dilation yet.

I don't want Ben to come too early, but I am hoping he'll be a week early and not late!!

 

[Flagirl]

That's me Angeloo. Want her early but not too early. Ob appt tomorrow. I have a feeling im a little dilated but idk for sure until tomorrow. Surely they will check me!


Canada! Dang. I bet my baby girl is still high too. I feel her back and butt up under my boobs so...........

Bug!!!!!!!!!!!!! Omgah. You're so close!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And I've heard that over and over abut scans being a fairly unreliable way to predict size. Sometimes they are right. Sometimes not.

 

[Bug222]

appts went well today. I have been cleared for a spinal which is a huge relief. Didn't check my cervix or anything as there really isn't any point.

Glad everyone else's appts went well! Ok time for a nap!

 

[angieloo]

21 days!!!! 21 days!!! 21 days!!!!

I can't believe it's only 21 days till Ben is due!!!

 

[Flagirl]

Dr said she is head down and ready to go whenever my pituitary sends the signal........ So we wait!! Haha

Estimated she is about 6 lbs right now so she will be avg when born. Prob bw 7-8 . I think she will be 7.5 or less. Gut feeling...no clue why I say that


It feels like up in my vajayjay is starting to ache. Does anyone know what I mean? My hips aren't hurting but it seems up in there is hurting a little like soft tissue. I haven't had any mor contractions since the other day so idk.


I'm gonna nap bu I have stuff to do and phone calls to make but I'm wiped out already.

 

[Excited4First]

Had my 38 wk appointment today and they didn't do anything!!! How are you ladies getting estimates of weight for your baby???? All the woman did was measure my fundal height and listen to the heart rate.. The nurse told me to take off my panties (I was wearing a dress) because the midwife would probably check for dilation... but I ended up getting a student midwife (second time this has happened now......) and she said she didn't want to check me. Total waste of time!!!!

Sorry for complaining.. I just would like to have some idea as to if I am progressing/baby size. But I guess if baby is really big I would be measuring big too??? I know it's a dumb complaint because women elsewhere don't usually even get checked. I am starting to get fed up with everything. Plus this freaking heat is making everything unbearable!!!!

Thanks for listening girls. Hope everyone is doing well.

 

[ktskittle]

Yay for an average size baby for ya!
So I think that if I go into labor this week, I will say HOORAY and give it the old college try, but if they talk about forcing it next week (where I have to choose induction or c section), I am leaning towards a section... The C Section rate is double for inductions, and emergency sections are much harder to recover from, so why risk laboring for 30 hours only to have an emcs due to failed induction and/or size???
Plus... I don't feel the need to have a "vaginal experience"... I just want the easier or more painless one... I would be PISSED if I opted for an induction and had a level 4 tear like a friend of mine... It took her a year to recover and had to have reconstructive vaginal surgery!!! (And her baby was 8 pounds!)
What do you ladies think I should do?
BTW, if I am sectioned, I am pretty sure it would be the 28ths like you Bug (because that is my dr's surgery day)

 

[ktskittle]

excited, sorry your appt didn't go as you hoped... They only did size estimate for me because my fundal height was measuring ahead and my previous ultrasounds showed him in 97th percentile. A good midwife can sometimes "feel" how many pounds they are.
Next time DEMAND to be checked. They weren't going to check me at my 35 as I had been checked at 34 and wasn't progressing and hadn't had any issues that week, but I told them i WANTED to be checked, so they did. I am glad too because it let me know that all the progress I have made occured between 35 and 36 weeks!

 

[angieloo]

I agree with kt- I would ask to be checked for sure. My first estimated baby weight came from the ultrasound. Now the dr is checking with his hands.

I would opt for the scheduled c section kt- just because of the reason you mentioned about the emergency c section rate going up. I would rather prepare for it myself if I could, but I do much better if I know what's coming

 

[Canada8]

kt i would also do the section based on what you had mentioned.....I asked my doc if I could get induced "just because" and he said no as it does increase the chance of a section due to if baby becomes distressed and because I have already had a successful vaginal and no issues with this pregnancy, he said no way to me....lol it was worth the try lol....if you were not going to get induced, I would say vaginal...I only got one stitch and was all healed up within days...I think ppl tear that bad if they push too hard, not at the time when doc says to push or had an epidural that completely numbs that area....I had the epidural, but I still felt the "ring of fire" so I pushed when the doc told me to...I know the section does take a little longer to hear...the actual area that is cut....overall, do what is the safest for you and baby

 

[Flagirl]

- Kt- my dr and I talked about this today. She said there is significant numbers that validate a section if a first time baby is over 9 pounds so they give the choice (bc purely elective sections are illegal ). She said they are more likely to have complications And trauma bc it's the body's first time and baby is big and...... Although some women demand vaginal and it goes fine.
I would opt for a section bc I'm not trying to be a hero. I just want my baby safe and if safe is a section , which clearly isn't ideal for mom or baby, then i would still opt for the section. That's just my opinion. All that came up with my dr bc she guesstimated weight today but said 36-40 weeks is when they really build their fat so hard to tell but if she gains as an avg baby would she will be about 7.5. If genetically im predispositioned for big baby ( which it doesn't look like I am although my mom had big babies) then she will gain slot each week from here on out. We shall see but based on what she is now she should be avg. fingers crossed

Yea I was happy bc at 27 weeks she was a little small so I was a little worried. Opposite prob of you.

My ob felt with hands. Delivered 4000 babies and said hand is just as good if not better than u/ s

Excited----I asked about this today bc im almost 36'weeks and i knew it usually started then and i was excited and she said this- Claire, I can check you if you want me too but the fact is that women walk around for 3 weeks at 2 centimeters dilated all the time and we have women that aren't dilated at all and they suddenly go into labor and have babies and the woman that was thinning out and dilated is still walking around. She said it tells us actually very little when talking about a typical group of same due date pregnsnt women. She said I can check you and tell you but if u say nothing is happening the you get depressed when actually you may go into labor next week and if I tell you that you are half way thinned out and 2 centimeters dilated you get excited then it's July 18 ( im due the 20th) and you're still pregnant and your mad and let down over it. I came home and called 2 retired obgyn friends that are friends of my dads and they concur. Although they said some women just want to know and that's fine to. I opted to not be checked bc I do not want to get my hopes up. I just want to go into labor and have her and not have another timeline in my head if that makes sense. so I guess it's all up to you and what you want.

I'm craving weird things again. Not weird food but random cravings!!! Then I'm nauseated. It's like first trimester all over again. Blah!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[ktskittle]

Thanks for the input guys. I think I cried for about 36 hours straight after my appointment Monday... I think it was a combination of the hormones and the realization that I was going to have "unmet expectations" either way. I had this vision of how things would go... skin to skin immediately, nursing immediately, 1 hour or so with just dh and me and baby before other visitors etc. And now I have to come up with a new plan... I feel a lot better now... I think I was having trouble "seeing" past 2-4 weeks postpartum (At which point life shouldn't be too different than if I would have had a vaginal I believe.)
I think as I start to accept that I will possily/likely have a c section, I calm down and my sense of urgency to have him diminishes. At first, When they told me he was 9 and a half pounds, it was like all of a sudden I was carrying a ticking time bomb instead of a baby! LOL.
BTW, it looks like the "first" girl to have her baby has posted in our alternative room. (I don't think we know her?!? Lol. Maybe we need a new title if we really want to keep it just "us." Instead of Due in July 2012, we could be something else??)

 

[Canada8]

Kt I guess with pregnancy we always have this plan in our heads, but we can never truly predict what the outcome will be. You will still have a wondful experience, just on on the highwy you had thought! He will be beautiful and you will still enjoy the experience of creating life.....all will be well

The lady that posted is from my other July group....I am a member of 2....I think bug222 and I are on this one and that one....so when I post there, it shows up in my signature....there are about 4-5 of us on that one...we can figure out a way to start another one xclusive to us, or we can join our experiences of motherhood together.....what s everyone's thoughts?

Oh, but the lady who said the thread will be locked, I have no idea who she is lol

 

[Flagirl]

It- I totally get where you are at and here is why... Yesterday was my first- omg baby is almost full term and I have lots of ques etc - appt. I asked about a birth plan and dr told me this that it's great to do it bu she doesn't want me to get anything to set in stone or my mind bc then if it doesn't go according to that she sees women get upset and think they failed. So I hope you get passed what you're feeling and enjoy your experience for what it is. I bet money that atleast one of us will be really disappointed bc something will happen and delivery won't go as we expect. It very well may be me. No way to know. I've spent a lot of time tyring to prepare myself bc I watch tlc a baby story as much as possible and I see the different situations....like when babies heartrste drops bc it isn't tolerating labor and they make the decision to do a c section. Things like that...I'm trying to prepare myself.

Kt- I hadnt checked it but when I read your last post I went over there. Omgoodness what a story she had to tell. Wow! So glad that isn't me. I cannot imagine. I would've gone to hospital ASAP. Unreal

Canada,
Can we lock it or make it by request only. For example, I know some of the "loss" forums you have to be approved first. Maybe we could set it up like that. I think unfortunately whomever sets it up would be the moderator/ principal person that has to deal with it. You may not want to and if not I understand.not even sure I we can do it.. Just a thought. I know VERY SOON WE WILL ALL BE REALLY BUSY!!!!

Ok so this is kind of deep but I gotta ask.. Is anyone else having thoughts such as- what if I dont bond with my baby right away or what if Im not good at this ...... I've just started having these sort of thoughts. I'm so excited for her to get her and this is dream come true for me and hubby but I'm also really nervous about the big change and really nervous about it.

Recent craving--pimento cheese sandwiches......random!!! Anyone else having any weird food issues? I think it's so neat to hear what everyone says.

 

[angieloo]

I def know what you're saying Claire- my DH and I tried for almost two years before getting a positive test- and we were not trying not preventin for almost two years before that. Now that it's all finally happening sometimes I'm like- can I really do this??? It's been just us for so long- its going to be so different, etc.
Then I get excited about his first birthday or trips to Disneyland or finally getting to see his little face! I think we all feel nervous or anxious about stuff like that

 

[Bug222]

I have to admit I am absolutely terrified!!! At this point I can't see past the section and can't imagine that there is actually going to be a baby at the end of this. For some reason (probably reading too many of the loss threads) I am also absolutely terrified that something is going to happen to baby in the next week before the section. DH keeps telling me "not to worry" but I can't get the thought out of my head.

The nausea is back for me too!!! Ugh!