Due Sept 2017

[peach81]

Good morning ladies... your resident lurker here checking in to let you all know that we're having a boy.

 

[rockstarlove9]

congrats on your baby boy...

 

[Babybump2017]

Congrats peach

Is anyone else in a major dark patch at the moment? Like I am paranoid about every little thing - family members dying, OH cheating (this is someone who has never given me reason to think this, leaves his phone unlocked and asks me to look at his texts when his phone goes off!) paranoid of being alone with my baby, just in a major rut today! The house is an absolute tip at the moment as it's being decorated top to bottom so literally just looks like a concrete shell and where it's being painted all radiators have had to come off so it's absolutely freezing in here and miserable, dark and a mess! I know when it's done that will fix almost all these stupid issues. Ugh hormones. I sat at my desk today and absolutely sobbed to the point I couldn't breathe. Luckily my work bunch are like family and are straight there. Bad patch I guess

 

[rockstarlove9]

So is anyone elses partner just realizing your pregnant. I know it sounds funny dh has known about our little girl since I was 9 weeks along but he said to me yesterday its so weird now that your really pregnant and now im starting to wonder if hes gonna start being weird now. Like he says its weird when we bd because I actually look pregnant it scaring me honestly. Like this is the biggest ive ever been in my life and im only going to get bigger im just worried he wont be able to perform for lack of better words as I get bigger like he wont be attracted to me its starting to worry me a lot actually

 

[Tess08]

Congrats again peach

Oh bump that sounds awful I don't know what to say tbh except you know we are all here too if you need a little rant to try and get your fears out in the open as I find that always helps. You are prob having a little hormone surge at the moment or something which won't be helping. Hopefully you feel better soon.

Rockstar unfortunately I can't help you there either because DH hasn't come near me since we found out! At 6 weeks should I add so it's been a looooooong time since we BD'd. Infact the last time we did was the night I fell pregnant! He was the same with our DD. He finds it weird being intimate with me knowing our baby is in between us. It really got to me when I was preg the first time but things went back to normal straight away after I had her and I expected him to be like that again this time so it's not bothered me as much. He's just lucky I feel rubbish and tired most of the time so BDing is the last thing on my mind anyway lol x

 

[peach81]

Congrats again peach

Thanks!

Rockstar unfortunately I can't help you there either because DH hasn't come near me since we found out! At 6 weeks should I add so it's been a looooooong time since we BD'd. Infact the last time we did was the night I fell pregnant! He was the same with our DD. He finds it weird being intimate with me knowing our baby is in between us. It really got to me when I was preg the first time but things went back to normal straight away after I had her and I expected him to be like that again this time so it's not bothered me as much. He's just lucky I feel rubbish and tired most of the time so BDing is the last thing on my mind anyway lol x

I'm kind of in the same boat; neither of us have been interested since we conceived. I'm uncomfortable with my body and I do feel weird about being intimate with a baby inside me... even though I understand that my little guy would be totally unaware of what's going on. My BF is just always tired from work anyway, and he shows his affection in other ways.

 

[ladybrown33]

congrats peach baby boys are tons of fun!!

I still have no patience and if I have to repeat myself that makes things ten times worse. Waiting to be back to my normal self, this is so annoying.

 

[rockstarlove9]

Congrats again peach

Oh bump that sounds awful I don't know what to say tbh except you know we are all here too if you need a little rant to try and get your fears out in the open as I find that always helps. You are prob having a little hormone surge at the moment or something which won't be helping. Hopefully you feel better soon.

Rockstar unfortunately I can't help you there either because DH hasn't come near me since we found out! At 6 weeks should I add so it's been a looooooong time since we BD'd. Infact the last time we did was the night I fell pregnant! He was the same with our DD. He finds it weird being intimate with me knowing our baby is in between us. It really got to me when I was preg the first time but things went back to normal straight away after I had her and I expected him to be like that again this time so it's not bothered me as much. He's just lucky I feel rubbish and tired most of the time so BDing is the last thing on my mind anyway lol x

Wow that's crazy so you guys don't bd the whole pregnancy? I don't know it's weird when I first found out and the new boobs came in I wanted to all the time and we did it all the time but as I get bigger it seems like we do it less an less and then he out and out told me the other night that it was kind of weird to do it now that Im getting bigger. I mean I expected some kind of change as my body changed just because certain positions and things couldn't happen but considering this isn't my husbands first child and he openly brags that he popped his sons bag of water bding I just didn't think he would be so strange about it its disheartening really I mean. Im already self conscience about my body because I feel weird looking. Im only feeling out in my boobs and stomach area so my legs look like little chicken sticks and I feel funny about it having him be weirded out by my body only makes me more self conscience...

 

[rockstarlove9]

Congrats again peach

Thanks!

Rockstar unfortunately I can't help you there either because DH hasn't come near me since we found out! At 6 weeks should I add so it's been a looooooong time since we BD'd. Infact the last time we did was the night I fell pregnant! He was the same with our DD. He finds it weird being intimate with me knowing our baby is in between us. It really got to me when I was preg the first time but things went back to normal straight away after I had her and I expected him to be like that again this time so it's not bothered me as much. He's just lucky I feel rubbish and tired most of the time so BDing is the last thing on my mind anyway lol x

I'm kind of in the same boat; neither of us have been interested since we conceived. I'm uncomfortable with my body and I do feel weird about being intimate with a baby inside me... even though I understand that my little guy would be totally unaware of what's going on. My BF is just always tired from work anyway, and he shows his affection in other ways.

Im starting to think im weird because even with all the tiredness and feeling awkward about my body I find myself constantly wanting to bd. Like I can only think of maybe three weeks out of this whole pregnancy that I wasn't in the mood lol.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Bump, I hope things get better for you soon. The hormones can really do a number on you! Pre and postpartum anxiety are very real, though, so please talk to your doctor if it sticks around. Don't suffer when there's help available.

I think it's pretty common for men to be uncomfortable having sex during pregnancy. DH isn't really into it, but I have so much hip pain and discomfort and Teddy doesn't always sleep through anyway, so there's not much going on here even if he's interested. I occasionally have a hormone surge or something that puts me in the mood, but overall my sex drive isn't very strong when I'm pregnant. I think if you're really struggling with your body image you should talk to him. Maybe he can find other ways to reassure you.

 

[GlowMama]

Congrats peach

Is anyone else in a major dark patch at the moment? Like I am paranoid about every little thing - family members dying, OH cheating (this is someone who has never given me reason to think this, leaves his phone unlocked and asks me to look at his texts when his phone goes off!) paranoid of being alone with my baby, just in a major rut today! The house is an absolute tip at the moment as it's being decorated top to bottom so literally just looks like a concrete shell and where it's being painted all radiators have had to come off so it's absolutely freezing in here and miserable, dark and a mess! I know when it's done that will fix almost all these stupid issues. Ugh hormones. I sat at my desk today and absolutely sobbed to the point I couldn't breathe. Luckily my work bunch are like family and are straight there. Bad patch I guess

Just wanted to send a quick note to let you know this is totally normal to feel extra overwhelmed - especially since you have so much else going on in your life! Pregnancy hormones can be pretty intense and will amplify your emotions big-time! Hang in there. Keep focusing on the positive things, think about what you are grateful for (even if you have to search for it!!), and hopefully you can turn this around in time. I also have had some ups and downs like yours this pregnancy - what helped for me was consciously thinking positive/happy thoughts, making sure I was drinking enough water, eating enough protein in the morning, taking my omega 3's and vitamin D, letting myself nap or go to bed early without feeling guilty, and just not beating myself up for feeling down/overwhelmed/tired. That's what worked for me at least, so thought I would share!! Everyone is different, so listen to your own intuition - is there any needs you have been ignoring? I found I was doing that too - not listening to what my body actually needed and just pushing through.

 

[Babybump2017]

Thanks so much for your kind words! I've had a much better day today. I think it was just a major down day yesterday, bickering with the other half which didn't help, weather was grey and horrible it was all just getting on top of me.

I do agree that focusing on happy thoughts and what I'm grateful for definitely helps. I've been doing so much to help this pregnancy and that's what I keep telling myself, that I'm doing all that's physically possible for my baby! The pregnacare plus vitamins, drinking pretty much just water and milk, eating a LOT of fruit and veg daily, not even standing anywhere near anybody that smokes let alone in their presence. As much as I'm stressing the last couple of days and I know that it isn't good to do so whilst pregnant, reminding myself of all the good things is reassuring me that I'm really trying - as we all do for our babies

Distant family but, my cousin is pregnant and so is her step sister. one is 37 weeks and one is 35. Neither drive so their mum takes them to the doctor for their midwife appointment fortnightly.. my cousins step sister hasn't quit smoking during pregnancy and has been told today that her baby hasn't grown in 2 weeks! She's measuring that she's got 6 weeks left not 3. Scan confirms that babies growth has slowed right down since last check, and they reminded her that one of the affects of smoking when pregnant is low birth weight. She's now kicking herself and quitting (with 3 weeks left?) my cousin then had hers done straight after and midwife plotted her growth on the chart and she's smack bang where she should be. I feel bad for her but you on the other hand you couldn't pay me to smoke whilst pregnant with this precious gift that needs all she can from me to grow healthy!

 

[MrsKChicago]

I'm glad you're doing better today.

I hope​ everything is ok with your cousin's baby! I've heard of doctors telling women that it would be a bigger stress on their body and more dangerous to the baby to quit than to keep smoking, but the only woman I know personally who was given that advice had a heart condition and was a light smoker. Thankfully her daughter is fine. It must be difficult to have such a strong addiction and have to quit so suddenly.

 

[lilmisscaviar]

Congrats Peach!

I don't feel comfortable BDing with DH anymore. Not so much pain from actually BDing itself, although I agree with you ladies that certain positions are better than others, but it is more that I'm not comfortable with my body image. He says it doesn't bother him that I'm getting bigger... I think he is just trying to be nice.

Babybump I do feel that way, more days than I care to admit. I'm always moody around DH. I joke that I don't handle testosterone very well The other day I had a sudden urge to move. Just up and sell our house and move. Nothing seemed "perfect" even though we've been here for the last 5 years. I've suddenly become paranoid with our neighbors, who mostly keep to themselves, and keep thinking that they're going to come over to steal something from us while we're away so I haven't been leaving the house much. When we were on our babymoon last week, I was paranoid that we were going to get in a car accident. Now I'm paranoid about birth. I'm typically an adventures person (my DH refers to me as "spunky") and this is not like me at all. I can't wait until the baby is here so I can relax a bit. Does it seem like the second trimester is taking FOREVER?

 

[ladybrown33]

Yes lilmisscaviar the time seems to be dragging away, and there is nothing we can do about it.

 

[rockstarlove9]

Hey ladies how do you tell the difference between baby hiccups and kicks? Im asking because at my ultrasound my baby girl was head down but ive been noticing what I thought were kicks down by my pelvic bone and I mean I know that the babies turn and flip around a lot but now im wondering if the little thumps I feel are actually hiccups because they aren't as strong as the kicks I feel up by belly button...

 

[lilmisscaviar]

Is anyone feeling hiccups yet? I've been feeling them for about 2 weeks and now they're daily, multiple times a day.

 

[rockstarlove9]

Is anyone feeling hiccups yet? I've been feeling them for about 2 weeks and now they're daily, multiple times a day.

What do they feel like to you im having trouble telling whether what im feeling is hiccups or small punches because they don't feel strong enough to be kicks or idk maybe theyre just weak kicks...

 

[Tess08]

Is anyone feeling hiccups yet? I've been feeling them for about 2 weeks and now they're daily, multiple times a day.

What do they feel like to you im having trouble telling whether what im feeling is hiccups or small punches because they don't feel strong enough to be kicks or idk maybe theyre just weak kicks...

I haven't felt hiccups with this one yet but with my little girl I used to feel hiccups every night when I lay down in bed. It was a much more constant popping feeling so I would feel a little pop every 5/10 seconds and it would go on for a few minutes and then stop x

 

[rockstarlove9]

Is anyone feeling hiccups yet? I've been feeling them for about 2 weeks and now they're daily, multiple times a day.

What do they feel like to you im having trouble telling whether what im feeling is hiccups or small punches because they don't feel strong enough to be kicks or idk maybe theyre just weak kicks...

I haven't felt hiccups with this one yet but with my little girl I used to feel hiccups every night when I lay down in bed. It was a much more constant popping feeling so I would feel a little pop every 5/10 seconds and it would go on for a few minutes and then stop x

ok that's kind of what the thumps I feel near my pelvis feel like it'll ill feel the popping feeling like bubbles bursting for a few minutes then they stop so I guess theyre hiccups