overcomer79
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I think we are going to aim for 2. I'm one of 5 and enjoyed growing up in a big family but I don't really want as big a family myself.
I have no real objection to people having as many children as they want as long as they can support them financially. What I do resent (and I don't want to upset anyone here so I'm going to try and word this carefully) is people who see having lots of children as a meal ticket - ie bigger council house, extra benefits etc etc. I have no objection to people claiming what they need but when you see families with about 10 kids living in £500k houses specially built by the government just because a couple like breeding and sponging of the state it tends to raise my blood pressure a little I think there is taking the help that you need and then there is taking advantage of the system and having children just for the sake of getting more money.
As I said - I don't want to offend anyone - I myself grew up in a council house (3 bed) with 4 siblings and although my parents did both work full time they did get support from the government so I know how needed it can be. I guess there is a fine line between right and wrong in my view
I totally agree!!!! I don't think you will find me offended what so ever!!! I was so angry when that lady in Ca had 8 more kids when WE, THE AMERICAN PEOPLE, already support her previous six!!! The people that "require" federal assistance in nations like the UK and USA should be limited!!! Also, I don't think it is fair that our governments will support children of immigrants before ours! I used to live beside someone (immigrant) that had 8 kids in a 2 bedroom apartment and I know no one in that house worked!! I work and "academic" schedule (nine months but get paid over 12 months) and I never saw anyone from there leave long enough to go to work!!! My EX SIL had the ability to work. My brother is legally blind but he still works part time and draws disability to support his children. My EX SIL had at least 10 jobs in the last three years and got fired from every single one of them!!!!! She left my brother for another man (who worked at Macdonalds) and conned him into paying to have her IUD removed just so she can have her meal ticket!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh man, should have never got me started!
Anyway, to the initial question lol, we plan on having 2. I want mine spaced out about 3 years to give me time to adjust to motherhood. Then again, I had fertility issues and it took me three years to conceive James, so that might not be up to me. OH was an only child and he still has the "living for myself" mentality. He didn't have siblings to spend time with or anything whereas I had a brother and it has been a big transition for an equal compromise about how time is spent so I think for me personally 2 is a must so they can have that social interaction at home (with someone other than mommy and daddy and doggie ).