Expecting #1 and over 30

[luna_19]

Yeah I know someone that took 5 years to get preg then got a surprise bfp when her lo was only 5 months old

 

[Smimms]

Hi ladies!
It's been a long time since I posted, but I have been stalking All of your new babies are so adorable how exciting!

Chezek: Hayden is such a doll sorry your labor and recovery was so tough. Love your honesty!

Pilot: I understand you leaving for a while. My hormones are at full tilt. I personally had to take time off because I was becoming obsessive over everything! Congrats on your beautiful son!

RMSH1: Congrats on Emma she's beautiful and has so much hair! Is the wives tale about heartburn true? Thank you for publishing your birth story. I love to read them as I get prepared for my own.

Breezy81: Kinley is such an adorable name. She has an amazing head of hair too! So exciting and sweet.

I can go on forever. So excited to see familiar names getting their BFPs and sharing their pregnancy and labor experiences. I became so nervous about every little twinge and symptom I had to take some time off of posting lol It's so great that we women can share with each other and provide strength and support in such an open forum I myself have found it hard to connect with my friends who are not parents or are not currently pregnant. Makes me appreciate B&B even more!

AFM - I'm approaching 33 weeks. Baby has been head down since at least 29 weeks. Hoping she will arrive before Mother's Day, but who knows
My pregnancy as a whole has been pretty uneventful. Just a couple first time mom panics here and there. Went to check on baby the other day due to lack of movement and was told my placenta is anterior and acting as a nice punching bag. When they did the ultrasound she was wiggling away and hiccuping. Too adorable! I have decided if I am able to deliver vaginally I will definitely get an epidural. Other than that I will go with the flow and not really follow a birth plan. Come what may.
Just curious- Who was in the delivery room with the ladies that have delivered and/or who will you allow in the delivery room? My mother in law wants in and I told her no. Now I feel like I can't have my own mother in because of it. I think I would rather it just be hubby and myself anyway... decisions decisions

 

[preg_pilot]

Sbmack - What helped to calm my nerves was my portable fetal doppler.
Whenever I had this lack of symptoms, I would listen to my boy´s heartbeat to calm myself down.
Sometimes I didn´t feel pregnant at all

Smimms - Welcome back
And thanks
That wives tale on heartburn, is that supposed to have anything to do with the amount of hair the baby has? Because Thorgeir has a full head of hear (though it´s silver, practically see through), and I had horrible heartburn for the entire pregnancy...)

Fingers crossed your little girl shows up before Mothers day for you
Epidurals feel really nice, will definitely opt for one if I ever decide to have another child.
Yep, my birth plan went completely out the window when I got started in labor, but I was totally fine with it. Whatever keeps baby safe is fine by me.
I hope your birth goes perfectly

My husband and mother were in the delivery room with me.
I hadn´t really decided who was going to be there, since I really planned on delivering at home.
My mom, my mother in law and my husband were going to be at home with me, along with the midwife.

 

[rmsh1]

Hi Smimms, yep I had horrendous reflux from 23 weeks and was on prescription meds for it. It was nasty, but Emma come out with lots of hair!

I did not want MIL at delivery either, and was resigned to the fact that my mum could not be there. But in the end, when we got to the hospital I said I want my mum there, and not MIL and OH went along with it. Your choice, you are the one going through it. Not sure what MIL thinks, don't really care

 

[luna_19]

I agree it's your choice

 

[Smimms]

Rmsh- Lol I told my husband the same thing. The other DIL allowed her to be in the delivery room. I pretty much told her I'm glad she was there for her but I would rather not.
I heard horror stories from SIL.

I have the worst heartburn and hoping Hannah has a nice head of hair. I'm just so excited to meet her!

Pregpilot- I'm definitely pro epidural if all goes accordingly. Do you think you would have another child? My husband is already asking for one. Told me we should wait 3 months and try. Lol I want to at least take a year. I'm not in a hurry to do this again.

 

[Sbmack]

I heard the heartbeat on the Doppler at the dr.'s office yesterday! All the worrying for not. I thought I was getting a scan, but I guess not. I'm still deciding if I should get the NT early risk assessment. I'm 32 so I don't think my risk for downs is that high. I wouldn't terminate either, but I'd want to know. I also kind of just want to see the bean again as I won't again until 20 weeks. I have a friend who had to terminate at 12 weeks because of some horrible defects. They said the baby could be still born or not make it long after.

I hope all the new mommas are doing well and those near the end of their pregnancy are comfortable!

 

[preg_pilot]

Rmsh- Lol I told my husband the same thing. The other DIL allowed her to be in the delivery room. I pretty much told her I'm glad she was there for her but I would rather not.
I heard horror stories from SIL.

I have the worst heartburn and hoping Hannah has a nice head of hair. I'm just so excited to meet her!

Pregpilot- I'm definitely pro epidural if all goes accordingly. Do you think you would have another child? My husband is already asking for one. Told me we should wait 3 months and try. Lol I want to at least take a year. I'm not in a hurry to do this again.

Wow... if you ask me now, the answer is definitely no.
I might reconsider in 2-3 years. I don´t really want to try for a baby after 35...
Feeling pretty confident that Thorgeir will be an only child.

I heard the heartbeat on the Doppler at the dr.'s office yesterday! All the worrying for not. I thought I was getting a scan, but I guess not. I'm still deciding if I should get the NT early risk assessment. I'm 32 so I don't think my risk for downs is that high. I wouldn't terminate either, but I'd want to know. I also kind of just want to see the bean again as I won't again until 20 weeks. I have a friend who had to terminate at 12 weeks because of some horrible defects. They said the baby could be still born or not make it long after.

I hope all the new mommas are doing well and those near the end of their pregnancy are comfortable!

I didn´t have the NT, since I wouldn´t terminate anyways, and if something did come up in the scan, they want to draw some amniotic fluid, and that increases the risk of miscarriage. (only 1%, but still...)

That would be my only reason for terminating too... if baby would only suffer and die...

 

[luna_19]

I'm having an NT scan, my doctor didn't give me an option.

 

[Clarkeyness]

Hi Smimms. I definitely would not have my MIL in the delivery room either. My mom and husband only. But since im having a c-section then I think only hubby is allowed. Im also going to wait a year before we try again...we will see how I handle this one first

sbmack- yay for hearing the heartbeat!! i had the NT scan done just because I would want to know as well but would not terminate unless there was no chance of survival. I would have the scan just to see the bean again as 20 weeks is far away

 

[Sbmack]

I think I'm going to call and schedule the NT scan. Mostly I want to see the bean again.

I haven't even thought about whether or not my MIL will be in the delivery room. I don't have strong feelings either way. She's wonderful and if she wants to, then it will probably be ok with me.

Because it took me longer than I thought it would to get pregnant, I thought I may just NTNP right after. I will most likely change my mind and take precautions for at least six months.

 

[preg_pilot]

I'm having an NT scan, my doctor didn't give me an option.

Wow. My midwife was very adamant that I have the NT scan, but I refused.
If I would have been any less decided about not having it, I would probably have caved.
Weird that you don´t get a choice, though?

 

[MrsChezek]

I was mad that the internet ate one of my posts from yesterday but turns out that I never actually clicked submit!!! So here it is I guess the lack of sleep is getting to me…

Yay for a booked appointment clarkey! It will come in no time

pilot - so her poop gradually went from green to greenish yellow and yellow again and I've reintroduced the dairy so it seems that is NOT it! Hopefully it's just a phase and there is no allergies…but if there are, it's not dairy I too can give up ANYTHING but not dairy…I love it so much! Re Raynaud's my OBGYN has never heard of it on nipples!!!! Crazy. He is going to contact the lactation dept head at the hospital that I spoke to and get some advice from her. So I'll let you know what I learn...

luna - once you hit the second tri, it all flies by so quickly!!!! So make a schedule of some sorts and stick to it. We don't have our crib yet cause we're such procrastinators! We luckily have a portable crib in our bedroom as that is where we planned to have her sleep for the first 4-6 months but still no crib Plus, I went into labor 2 weeks early when I was banking on being 2 weeks late…don't do that either!!!

Breezy - can't believe you're trying again so soon! I originally thought I would but after my delivery and especially the 3 week long recovery, I'm going to need some time before I feel up for it all! I too have several friends who thought it would take a while with their second as it took a long time to get pregnant with their first but they got pregnant within the first 3 months!!! So be prepared

smimms - great to see you! it's been a loooong time. Glad everything is going well for you Can't believe you're at 33 weeks already!!! Can't wait to meet your LO I personally said no parents as I thought they would add to my stress. It was just my DH and a very close friend of ours that we both like a lot and thought would be a great support person - her role was to run out and get food, get coffee, call nurses or doctors into our room in case they weren't responding, etc. But then my delivery was SO quick, she just ended up cheering me on during pushing!

 

[luna_19]

I'm having an NT scan, my doctor didn't give me an option.

Wow. My midwife was very adamant that I have the NT scan, but I refused.
If I would have been any less decided about not having it, I would probably have caved.
Weird that you don´t get a choice, though?

I think it's because I'm seeing a specialist. Also he said genetic abnormalities are slightly more common in twins. I'm also going to end having a ton of ultrasounds with a perinatologist after 20 weeks because of the higher risk of complications too.

 

[MrsChezek]

I'm having an NT scan, my doctor didn't give me an option.

Wow. My midwife was very adamant that I have the NT scan, but I refused.
If I would have been any less decided about not having it, I would probably have caved.
Weird that you don´t get a choice, though?

I think it's because I'm seeing a specialist. Also he said genetic abnormalities are slightly more common in twins. I'm also going to end having a ton of ultrasounds with a perinatologist after 20 weeks because of the higher risk of complications too.

My doctor gave me the script for the NT scan like it was required as well though I know I could have declined it as he can't make me have one; but it definitely wasn't presented to me as a choice! I wouldn't terminate unless it would lead to a still birth or the like but I would want to know to mentally and physically prepare myself.

 

[luna_19]

I should clarify that I have no issue whatsoever about having the scan done I personally know two people that had to terminate because of severe genetic abnormalities, one at 12 weeks and one at <20 weeks. If there is a major issue I'd rather know sooner than later.

 

[MrsChezek]

Totally agree! I guess all the research I did and the many talks I had with my doctor convinced me that the ultrasounds aren't that bad as long as they are kept to a low resolution and quick. I did all the scans that were medically prescribed but skipped any extra 3D ones etc. and it gave me peace of mind. HOWEVER, I will say that with each scan, the hospital where I had it done found some issue with something that caused me unnecessary stress! I wish I had known to tell them that I don't want to discuss the results with them and that I will discuss them with my doctor as each time my doctor said that the thing they "found" was nothing of importance (had like a 1% chance of developing into anything of importance) and that they just made a big deal out of nothing. So that's something to keep in mind when going into these scans...

Overall, odds are high that everything will be great! So you all should stay positive and no need to worry in advance!

 

[sasha0430]

Congrats to all new mommies...little girls are adorable...good luck to all will all upcoming tests...I have my baby shower tomorrow and I am very excited...just wanted to pop in and say hey and hope everyone has a good weekend...

 

[MrsChezek]

Have a great time at your shower sasha!!!!

 

[MrsChezek]

So I've uploaded my favorite shots from Hayden's newborn photo shoot - my most favorite one is my new avatar I don't know how to post pictures here without them being huge so you can check them out on my journal:
Hayden's Newborn Shoot

Don't want to spam the whole page with pictures of my baby!!! Hope everyone is having a great weekend!!! xx