Fireflies TCC a rainbow baby

[KozmikKitten]

hang in there sunshine! I hope your d&c is as uneventful as mine.

 

[yazoo]

I've just been reading some of your thread Niamh and can relate to a lot of it. I remember you from the GD thread when I was expecting my Ds. You were a great help. I'm just going through a miscarriage at the minute. I am also in Ireland and breast feeding my 20 month old. This is my second loss. I lost my my first ds is 2011 at 22 weeks. I can't believe our bad luck. Xx

 

[CelticNiamh]

Hi Yazoo I am so sorry you find your self here but good to see you hope you are ok and being looked after and I hope we help you heal

are you on the extended breastfeeding in Ireland group by any chance great support

 

[yazoo]

I am indeed. I've just thrawled through it looking for a thread about the TTC while breastfeeding group.
I have started to have pass very small clots tonight. No pain at all yet. X

 

[wantingagirl]

My journals in my signature if anyone wants to come feel free xx

 

[NDH]

Good luck sunshine I hope it went well?

Mummy I'm confused - was your pregnant friend upset at you for sharing in about your loss with her or for sharing it with someone else? I can kind of understand pregnant women not wanting to hear about bad things to protect their bubble but her reaction is still not cool

 

[CelticNiamh]

I am indeed. I've just thrawled through it looking for a thread about the TTC while breastfeeding group.
I have started to have pass very small clots tonight. No pain at all yet. X

Small world yazoo I am Niamh ui Cheallaigh I can add you to the ttc while breastfeeding find me on the breastfeeding one and I remember you as well from the GD thread took me a minute to remember
we have a lovely group as well and Wanting will add you to that one as well

I hope it all goes smoothly and you do not have to much pain

 

[wantingagirl]

Yep just let me know Hun I can add you and anyone else. So sorry for ur losses xxxx

 

[CelticNiamh]

I updated the 1st thread but wanted to share the two little pictures I found I think they sum up our little expanding group some where we can let it all out and remember our babies and say good bye in our own special way as we move forward in our TCC journey to Rainbow babies ​

Wanting we could add a link to the group or your facebook page link so people can add you as a friend and be added to our group if they like to join us there

 

[hope2bmother]

Hiiiiiiii ladies! I've got some serious catching up to do on here! I've been mostly on FB, but see some new faces/names here! I have to finish up some (long overdue) thank you notes for our wedding gifts, but will be back later to see what's been going on here. Hugs!

 

[wantingagirl]

I updated the 1st thread but wanted to share the two little pictures I found I think they sum up our little expanding group some where we can let it all out and remember our babies and say good bye in our own special way as we move forward in our TCC journey to Rainbow babies ​

Wanting we could add a link to the group or your facebook page link so people can add you as a friend and be added to our group if they like to join us there

I'm not sure how to link it Hun xxx

 

[wantingagirl]

Or maybe on front page say they can pm me to add or request it on the front page with a list of all the usernames and who's done and not done?

 

[sunshine2014]

Back from my d&c. On the couch watching four weddings and a funeral. DH is on dirt tonight so I'll enjoy every Minute.

Just concerned that the dr said he can't test my progesterone if I get pregnant. Ugh. I don't want to wait 3 months for all of the tests. I don't know what to do.

 

[NDH]

I was just reading that you can order saliva test kits online and send them to a lab to have you progesterone levels tested that way (supposedly more accurate than blood tests anyway). How odd your Dr can't test progesteone when pregnant that makes no sense.

 

[sunshine2014]

And frustrating! He said he needs to test on day 21 to see how the lining of the uterus is. If it's not plump there's not enough progesterone. So if you're pregnant it's not accurate.
I've compromised with DH -- we're going to get the blood work done for clotting, and for genetics. THEN we aren't going to actively try (well he's not lol. I am ) after that. The progesterone can't be done until I've had a few cycles so it can all be built back up.

So confusing I know.

 

[jumpingo]

this thread has been getting good PR on other threads around BnB, so i've been lurking, but finally saying hi...

i read on FF that you should put CD1 as the first day of full bleeding. (https://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Charting-after-miscarriage.html) i started bleeding a sunday and passed the baby the next day, so i marked sunday as CD1. i guess it all depends on how much bleeding? seems quite subjective... but for people who were saying their cycles were "off," my first post MC cycle was shorter than pre-MC, but i think it has bounced back now on this 2nd cycle, though i guess i won't know until AF shows... we were planning on preventing until march because of a family wedding i refuse to miss, but i think we might try, if a relaxed approach is even possible for me?, from february.

p.s. without sounding needy/demanding, i would prefer not to get any "i'm sorry for your loss"es. a wave and/or a hello will do for me! thanks...

 

[steph.]

Hey Jumpingo! The good PR comment made me laugh I'm counting cd1 as first day of full bleed too, although I passed the baby the next day. Now cd13. It's interesting you said you first cycle was shorter as I conceived my dd1 after a mc despite using condoms around the time ovulation should have occured, I always thought dh had super sperm that lived for like a week but maybe I just ovulated earlier. Maybe I should start testing with my opks now!

I went to see the recurrent mc specialist today and she was awesome. She thinks that we could just have had bad luck but we got blood taken for all the testing today and then I have a uterine mri in a couple of weeks and dh will have a sperm dna fragmentation test. She said she reckons our chances of having a normal pregnancy next time are good though and there is no need to wait to ttc. If there is a genetic issue our options would be ivf or to keep trying naturally until we make a healthy baby. If there is a uterine septum I could have it lasered off but then we would need to wait a further 3 months to ttc. So we'll take our chances and go ahead with ttc now. We'll go back to see her in 3 weeks to get results and if I am lucky enough to be pregnant by then we'll start treatment as necessary.

Sunshine I did ask about the aspirin, and she said she wouldn't recommend starting it unless there is a proven clotting problem because NSAIDs have been shown to increase chances of miscarriage. And if there is a clotting problem, heparin works better than the aspirin.

So I guess that's it, I'm waiting to O and hoping we get it right this time. If we do conceive this month, it would probably mean missing out on my bil's wedding. My dd will be flower girl so I'd love to go, but I am hoping Sod's law will get me and I'll get pregnant with my rainbow.

 

[jumpingo]

steph,
it's always nice to feel "properly taken care of" by doctors/specialists (or anyone, really!) isn't it?!

and yes, i started temping soon after my miscarriage and FF was saying i Oed on CD13, when i normally Oed on CD15 (and once on 17) so 13 last month and 14 this month are not way earlier, but on the earlier end. so, entirely possible that's what happened with your daughter! or, your husband DOES have super .

 

[NDH]

Hi jmpingo, welcome
I bled for two weeks before my MC so counting that way wouldn't have worked for me. I counted the day I passed the baby as CD1 and ovulated 16 days later and AF arrived on CD 29 (though was a chemical as I got a +hpt on CD26)

Steph sounds like a promising appointment. I hope your tests either all come back clear or something easily treatable.

 

[mummy2o]

Good luck sunshine I hope it went well?

Mummy I'm confused - was your pregnant friend upset at you for sharing in about your loss with her or for sharing it with someone else? I can kind of understand pregnant women not wanting to hear about bad things to protect their bubble but her reaction is still not cool

It was a group of us. I was actually sharing my story with someone else, but she just happened to over hear. So like that's my fault in the first place. However, there are a lot of different factors between her and me in the first place. She's generally pretty healthy and I have allergies more or less daily, her baby is slightly older than mine was, so she will probably be able to make it and have her's saved etc. I can see it from her point of view, but I wasn't even speaking to her.

I've just been reading some of your thread Niamh and can relate to a lot of it. I remember you from the GD thread when I was expecting my Ds. You were a great help. I'm just going through a miscarriage at the minute. I am also in Ireland and breast feeding my 20 month old. This is my second loss. I lost my my first ds is 2011 at 22 weeks. I can't believe our bad luck. Xx

Welcome to the group. I've had a late loss and early loss also, just the other way round.

Back from my d&c. On the couch watching four weddings and a funeral. DH is on dirt tonight so I'll enjoy every Minute.

Just concerned that the dr said he can't test my progesterone if I get pregnant. Ugh. I don't want to wait 3 months for all of the tests. I don't know what to do.

I'm glad the D&C went ok. I'm sorry the doctor can't test your progesterone. Another member from ages ago had 3 miscarriages in a row then went on to have a healthy baby, just before her testing started. So you might get lucky.

this thread has been getting good PR on other threads around BnB, so i've been lurking, but finally saying hi...

i read on FF that you should put CD1 as the first day of full bleeding. (https://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Charting-after-miscarriage.html) i started bleeding a sunday and passed the baby the next day, so i marked sunday as CD1. i guess it all depends on how much bleeding? seems quite subjective... but for people who were saying their cycles were "off," my first post MC cycle was shorter than pre-MC, but i think it has bounced back now on this 2nd cycle, though i guess i won't know until AF shows... we were planning on preventing until march because of a family wedding i refuse to miss, but i think we might try, if a relaxed approach is even possible for me?, from february.

p.s. without sounding needy/demanding, i would prefer not to get any "i'm sorry for your loss"es. a wave and/or a hello will do for me! thanks...

Welcome here Jump. I really like this group, and these are lovely ladies here.

Hey Jumpingo! The good PR comment made me laugh I'm counting cd1 as first day of full bleed too, although I passed the baby the next day. Now cd13. It's interesting you said you first cycle was shorter as I conceived my dd1 after a mc despite using condoms around the time ovulation should have occured, I always thought dh had super sperm that lived for like a week but maybe I just ovulated earlier. Maybe I should start testing with my opks now!

I went to see the recurrent mc specialist today and she was awesome. She thinks that we could just have had bad luck but we got blood taken for all the testing today and then I have a uterine mri in a couple of weeks and dh will have a sperm dna fragmentation test. She said she reckons our chances of having a normal pregnancy next time are good though and there is no need to wait to ttc. If there is a genetic issue our options would be ivf or to keep trying naturally until we make a healthy baby. If there is a uterine septum I could have it lasered off but then we would need to wait a further 3 months to ttc. So we'll take our chances and go ahead with ttc now. We'll go back to see her in 3 weeks to get results and if I am lucky enough to be pregnant by then we'll start treatment as necessary.

Sunshine I did ask about the aspirin, and she said she wouldn't recommend starting it unless there is a proven clotting problem because NSAIDs have been shown to increase chances of miscarriage. And if there is a clotting problem, heparin works better than the aspirin.

So I guess that's it, I'm waiting to O and hoping we get it right this time. If we do conceive this month, it would probably mean missing out on my bil's wedding. My dd will be flower girl so I'd love to go, but I am hoping Sod's law will get me and I'll get pregnant with my rainbow.

That could make sense. I took baby aspirin with my first miscarriage, but didn't take any for DD and my later one.

I hope your tests come back ok, but it sounds like your doing the right steps and in good hands.