General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[nyxnw]

Shae I know!!! She's just very backwoods kinda person. She does admit now it was wrong to make him stop using his left hand, but I doubt she'll change her mind on the plants and AF

Dobby oh yeah, that is awful that she just plans to be taken care of her life. I hope your brother wakes up and realizes he deserves better.

Nyx right there with you. I want energy again!


OMG I found the heartbeat with my doppler. It was tough and baby loves to move, but it was definitely baby due to the rapid rate. Needed that reassurance after that nightmare. My next appt is 2 weeks from tomorrow. Noscan though. I'm not paying $250 for 12 week scan, early gender, and early 3rd tri scan. I think we'll do $100 for the 3rd tri, but do it at 26 weeks as that was the last decent scan we had with v. See we didn't scedule an early gender even though we paid for it so they suggested do one at 24 to 26 weeks. Then we tried our 3rd tri one at 28 weeks as tech said at 26 weeks to do it soon. The 28 week pics were so bad she offered to try again at
30 weeks for free! It wasn't any better. So yeah...

Oh and I took a pic of hook effect it isn't very dramatic, but if you look at top and bottom test it's a decent difference. I'm thinking I tested a bit too late so dilution didn't effect as strongly or maybe it's these tests.

So in order:
all urine
25% water
50% water
75% water
90% water.

All percentages are estimated

Wow the hook affect is so cool and so crazy!! Walmart cheapies still detect strongly without diluting the urine. I wanted to give it a try but the deeps test line showed up right away with normal urine still

 

[Flueky88]

Nyx hook effect is pretty cool. If I felt like wasting the money I'd think frer would be more noticeable.

Lovely on hearing the heartbeat

 

[shaescott]

Flueks has it affected his handwriting? I wonder if it would make it worse than normal? As a kid I was heavily right handed, it was very obvious before I even started writing. I can’t imagine having to learn to write with my left hand. I’m sure it would be less bad if I had to do it all the time from a young age, but if I compare the writing between hands my left hand writing is barely even legible, it’s terrible. I can write just as well with my feet as my left hand. So imagining someone having to do that just the opposite hands sounds awful. Glad she admits she was wrong though.

The hook effect is very cool, even though it’s not a huge difference. But it shows your hcg is so high that 90% dilution is so dark. Glad you found the heartbeat as well!

Nyx it wouldn’t load for me but I’m on my phone (using desktop mode), so maybe my phone just doesn’t want to cooperate. I always go on here on my phone, not my laptop, so idk if I’m even signed in on my laptop lol.

 

[shaescott]

Okay, correction, my left hand is still better than my foot. I just tested it out.
Anyway, here’s right hand vs left hand trying to be slow and neat vs left hand at same speed as right hand. I didn’t include my foot writing lol. The difference is a bit jarring. I can’t imagine having to learn to write with my left hand, it’d be terrible. Like re-learning to write after a stroke or something.

 

[Flueky88]

Shae I think it's pretty typical male writing, but certainly legible. I'm right handed but write like a lefty. Mom tried me writing left handed and normal right handed, but I couldn't do it I have tried left handed later in life and my writing stinks that way.

I think I'll try to do my digi weeks next weekend to see if I get a crazy result. Also I'm thinking of using my wondfos up around 12 weeks for hook effect.

 

[Flueky88]

Shae I love your pic. Right handed better but left handed is still legible. Way better than drs handwriting in general

 

[Jezika]

Shae that’s not bad at all! And it’s so true that most males’ handwriting is not very neat. Why is that? I know lots of women who also don’t have neat handwriting (mine is a mess unless I go really slowly and carefully), but if I see nice handwriting, I can almost guarantee it’s a woman’s. Although in Hungary (and probably many other countries) every kid seems to be taught the same beautiful cursive writing.

Nyx I didn’t open the file because toddler is currently sleeping with me. I’m sorry you’re feeling so poopy. Second tri is not far away at all.

Flueks, interesting hook effect, though I expected it to be more pronounced too. Maybe wondfos aren’t the best for that, like you said.

Dobs, your bro’s gf does sound pretty awful. It sucks when those we love make life choices we know aren’t best for them, but unfortunately it’s his life and his decision of course m, even if she’s rude and money-grabbing. I imagine the deeper he gets into his profession once he’s qualified, the more he’ll outgrow her. I’ve also seen how criticism often pushes a couple even more into each other’s arms. Maybe call their bluff and encourage them to get married ASAP. Could also backfire though. But yeah, the “he’s awake anyway so he can just stay awake” would absolutely infuriate me, even if it was family, let alone random rude gf.

Reminds me (in a very minor way) of one of my good friends right now who’s in medical school in NYC and just started dating a divorced firefighter with two kids around three weeks ago. They fell madly in love and now she’s talking about how we need to start saving money so we can go to their wedding in Hawaii in 1.5-2 years’ time. Her family are LIVID that she’s dating a firefighter (who they think is only interested in her so he can rely on her financially later) and that he already has kids (which they see as unnecessary baggage). I get their concerns because in an ideal world nobody would have baggage and everyone would be on equal footing financially, but I think actually being happy with and connecting with your partner is most important. **My** concern is more over her lofty plans. I told her to consider not making any hard-to-take-back plans until they’ve known each other a while because no matter how perfect and unprecedentedly amazing it feels after just three weeks of knowing each other, you really can’t tell what the relationship will be like later on down the line. Maybe I’m a pessimist? Well, I definitely am. I’ve felt instantly CRAZY in love with two people in my lifetime and both ended up being really, really unsuitable partners for me (aka a$$holes). Anyway, her older sister literally forbade her from moving in with him until they’ve known each other for a year, which irks me because my friend is 33 and her sister has always been controlling like this even though obviously she has no right to tell my friend what to do. My friend had said ok to placate her, and then her sister even called her back later to say, “you wouldn’t lie to me would you?!?” She IS moving in with him, but actually he’s moving in with her and her roommates, which to me seems fine (even if fast) because if it doesn’t work out, he’ll just move out. She has nothing to lose.

 

[Jezika]

Wow, that was a ramble, sorry, but one more moan... I had my bff’s bachelorette yesterday which was pretty stressful to organize and I’m bitter because her future SIL who also came only gave us like $50 for the night’s activities and it was waaaaay more (like $130 each). Possibly partly my fault because I said in the email it would be approximately $50 plus whatever food we order (based on what our other friend had told me), but I didn’t clarify that it didn’t include tax or gratuities and didn’t update her that one of the parts of the night had to be switched for a more expensive option due to lack of availability. I said to my other friends who helped organize that I’d pay the extra portion because it was my fault (they did say no but maybe just to be polite), even though I’m not convinced it was fully my fault... like the fact she didn’t offer money for food wasn’t my fault at all, and I did say approximately. Plus this SIL was just s guest and not responsible for organizing, so she wouldn’t have had a say in the (necessary) switch to the more expensive option. All she could’ve done was say she’s not coming, I guess, but she definitely wouldn’t have done that, plus she definitely has the money. And now I don’t know what to do. I said I’d send an email totalling up all the final costs and let my friend’s SIL know, which I think would be fair given that one of our other friends paid for all the various activities on their own and said would tally everything up and let us know what we owe later (it’s just that my bff’s SIL assumed it was just $50 as per my email and so gave that as cash at the end of the night). But now it’ll be awkward to tell her it’s more than double, you know? My other friend to whom she gave the money HATES making people feel uncomfortable so she will definitely not want us to ask for more money, so we probably will have to just eat the costs and my friends will resent me for maybe playing a hand in it.

Which leads me to part two of this moan: bachelorettes and showers and stuff are SO expensive for those who organize them. We will easily have paid around $350 EACH ($1750 total) just for this bachelorette and we didn’t even do anything crazy. I find that insane. And our same friend will have a baby shower in a few months, and our other friend will have another baby shower a few months after that. How the hell do people afford this? It also irks me that most of my friends work and make decent money and don’t yet have kids so they have a tonne of disposable income, but I’m a bloody student with a mortgage and a child, and we’ll be forking our $850 a month for part time daycare as of next month too. But obviously I’d never be like “oh hey I’m going to make all you guys pay more” because that’s not fair. Anyway it just irks me. Not blaming anyone at all, it just irks me.

Kitty, for the above reasons, if anyone expected me to get three individual gifts per person for Christmas, I’d be like kthxbye. I agree with Flueks, I hate the commercialism and pressure to spend and often to buy crap that just gets tossed after and just pollutes our planet more. Idk why the world is so obsessed with possessions, and I know I’m often guilty of that too and we’re brainwashed into being this way, but I resent it so much.

K somehow I’ve now managed to enrage myself.

I really hope Keeps posts about her baby boy soon to remind me of the joys in this world.

 

[pacificlove]

Jez, wow that is expensive! But so are weddings,. 15k minimum for an out of town small 25-30 guest wedding.... I guess it has something to do with the fact it's only supposed to happen ones so everyone tries to take the most of your money.

Dobs, your brothers GF sounds lazy and needs a reality check! More later, gotta run.

 

[shaescott]

Jez my SO has awful handwriting, it’s funny how guys have terrible handwriting. My dad’s isn’t too bad, thankfully. Once my teacher thought I’d written his dismissal note though, she asked who wrote the note and I said “my dad” and she was like “okay...” lol, that was like 4th grade.

Talking about wedding planning after 3 weeks sounds a bit nuts, wow. Hopefully your friend is one of the lucky ones and it all goes okay. I’d also be annoyed if someone told me to start saving up for their destination wedding when they’d known the guy less than a month. Although, I probably would reject the invite to a destination wedding because of money, unless it’s one of those people who can afford to pay for everyone’s everything and they tell people they’re paying. I can’t afford to go to Hawaii or any place like that, it ain’t happening.

That’s rough about the parties you’re organizing. Any kind of wedding related party is super expensive.

I’m also hoping Keeps posts soon!

 

[FutureMrs]

I haven’t had a chance to read through yet because we just got back from the country! But I did test and wanted to share! Hahahahaha

 

[shaescott]

Future it’s a bit blurry so I can’t really tell if what I see is a line or just blur effect.

 

[FutureMrs]

Yea it’s hard because I can’t post photos for some reason.. it keeps saying they are to large so I just use the take a photo option which sucks lol!

 

[Flueky88]

Jez they did better last time for hook effect and initial test progression. Not sure why the difference.

I hope your friend is like DH and me. We knew the next day we'd get married. Bought a house together 4 months after our 1st date, got engaged about a year after our 1st date. It was a bit fast for others, but we just knew.

Sorry about the money loss. I didn't want a bachelorette party, but I'd say they can be expensive.

Future I'm not seeing anything yet, but bnb made it blurry. Fx!!

 

[kittykat7210]

Future I swear somethings catching my eye

My scan letter finally came through so I get to see the twins again at 10am On the 28th!! Hopefully hubby can get the day off! He normally works 4am till 12

 

[Flueky88]

Kitty yay for scan date!! If DH can't take the day off, could he take half a day off?

Oh meant to say Vs 1st molar is almost came in completely. This will be her 7th tooth. She's going out of order

 

[mrs.green2015]

Just wanted to update. I've read some but we've all been sick all weekend. So tired of being sick. I feel like we've been sick for over a year straight. Of course I always get sick because the boys sneeze and cough in my face. Anyway, I'll try better to post.

really was looking for an update from keep to see if baby arrived but nothing so far. Darn.

Okay back to closing my eyes now.

 

[Jezika]

Future - not seeing anything yet but I’m on my phone. How many dpo are you?

Kit - yay on scan date. That’s my bday so I should remember. Hope hubby can come too.

Green - sorry you’re feeling poops. Are the boys in daycare? I forget. Illnesses suck for reals. I’m not looking forward to that shen Tilly starts daycare, even though it’s supposed to be good for the immune system obv.

Flueks - yay for molar. Do you think it was painful for her at all? Doc says Tilly has all her teeth now but some of them came in a weird order too.

 

[kittykat7210]

Ooh yay happy birthday!! Lewis’s sister jasmines birthday is the 29th, it’s her 21st. We’ve got her a pearl bracelet but we’re going to also get 2 onesies and announce to lewis’ family!

 

[claireybell]

Future none of mine upload with an original photo, it says file too large, if u screen shot your photo after u take it, it will upload & it’ll be as nearly clear as the original one i always screen shot it now, Dobby said about it once & ive done it since. How many dpo are u?

Awaiting an update from Keeps also.. hoping all is ok