General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[Flueky88]

Shae well I'm glad there doesn't seem to be anything "wrong". I still think it's really odd though

 

[shaescott]

Definitely odd

 

[DobbyForever]

lot of curse words, sorry

Ditto. I’m glad they didn’t find evidence of something “wrong”, but that sucks to not have a definitive answer/solution.

A is fine. He’s getting ABA at his “discovery preschool” and speech therapy once a week. I’ve seen some improvements since he started, but it’s still quite taxing. I love him, and I wouldn’t change him. But I’m exhausted and the language difference between him and his peers just grows exponentially. He’s started pushing kids because he can’t communicate, and it’s only going to be worse when he moves up into the 3-4 room.

As for me, I’m depressed. Working in this grade level is so fucking toxic. I broke down last night because I had to tell my boss I want to move back to fifth and my old team. I’m bullied every day by first and third grade teachers, so I started just eating in my room and wearing headphones in the staff room. Now I’m getting shit from my teammate, who is also the union rep. Because I have a student who should be in her combo class and she flipped the fuck out on me for pointing it out when she has two open seats, all the best behaved and smartest kids, and two fucking aides. I have kids operating at k/1, a kid fucking gave me the middle finger last week IN SECOND GRADE. But you’re right it’s unfair for you to take her when you have a 2/3 combo. I’ll just cancel my intervention groups so I can run a 3rd grade program for her. She’s an international student, so she came from a country where they start a year younger. So she should be in third grade.

My best friend is a hot mess express rn and I’m trying to support her. But I can barely support myself.

ctxruct i May take a mental health day on Thursday because holy fucking shit I’m going to snap at someone at work one of these days. I couldn’t even sleep last night over this stupid shit. I’m so mad. Because end of day this petty argument isn’t about us. It should be about the kid and what’s best for her!

 

[shaescott]

Dobs I’m so sorry you’re totally right, she shouldn’t be in a class way below her level. Sending love

 

[Flueky88]

Agree the child's needs should be priority. I'm sorry it's still very stressful right now.

 

[Flueky88]

I just got a bfp..... so many mixed feelings...

 

[kittykat7210]

Oh wow flueks! Is it a definite? I know you were waiting to try, how difficult would be it brought forward?

 

[Flueky88]

It is faint but definitely there. I know it's not line eye. I'm happy but I'm worried about DHs reaction. He changed to undecided about a third. Financially it'll be tough but I think doable. We are fixing to sell then buy a house so timing isn't best. I also worry about telling work but there is time for that.

 

[kittykat7210]

It is faint but definitely there. I know it's not line eye. I'm happy but I'm worried about DHs reaction. He changed to undecided about a third. Financially it'll be tough but I think doable. We are fixing to sell then buy a house so timing isn't best. I also worry about telling work but there is time for that.

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yeh that’s a line, it’s difficult to know how anyone will react, I’m glad you’re happy about it, but I understand the worry on telling DH. In the politest way possible were you guys using any form of birth control? How likely is it to shock him?

 

[Flueky88]

Kitty you are so sweet. No we were not using birth control. He ummm..... had his way with me last Monday morning... I got a positive opk that afternoon and negative Tuesday. It was our only time dtd during fertile window. I didn't tell him about opk because I thought why worry him unless I get a bfp. I did have this crazy feeling later that day that we conceived.

 

[kittykat7210]

Kitty you are so sweet. No we were not using birth control. He ummm..... had his way with me last Monday morning... I got a positive opk that afternoon and negative Tuesday. It was our only time dtd during fertile window. I didn't tell him about opk because I thought why worry him unless I get a bfp. I did have this crazy feeling later that day that we conceived.

right okay, he shouldn’t be too shocked, you guys were having unprotected sex so it’s not too much of a stretch to the imagination that it will cause pregnancy eventually! I really hope he reacts well (or at least better than it sounds like you’re expecting him to) when/how do you think you will tell him? Would you wait to get more definitive lines?

 

[Flueky88]

I'm thinking Sunday as long as I've had good progression. Serena's 1st birthday party is Saturday and I don't want to "ruin" it for him. I think I'll buy a digital test and hand it to him. I don't think cutesy will go over the best. I think he'll come around but I think he'll be bit sad at first.

 

[kittykat7210]

I'm thinking Sunday as long as I've had good progression. Serena's 1st birthday party is Saturday and I don't want to "ruin" it for him. I think I'll buy a digital test and hand it to him. I don't think cutesy will go over the best. I think he'll come around but I think he'll be bit sad at first.

that’s fair enough! I agree that cutesy for an unplanned pregnancy probably wouldn’t go over too well. Let us know what happens, and if you’re okay with it I’m sure the line porn would be nice! I keep thinking of peeing on a stick myself just because I like the lines but I’m not even sure what it would look like at this point!

I’ll say congratulations because it is a congratulations event, even if it is daunting and unexpected

 

[shaescott]

Flueks oh my goodness, I guess baby #3 is coming a year earlier than planned, huh? That’s definitely a BFP. Hopefully your DH takes it well. How are you feeling about it? Leaning more excited or nervous? I feel like I’d totally take a digi and just hand it to my SO like surprise? Also reminds me of that clip of Rapunzel from tangled saying “please don’t freak out”
All jokes aside I hope everything turns out okay!

 

[Flueky88]

Kitty I caved and told him he sensed something was up and I didn't feel right lying or hiding it from him. He wasn't happy but he wasn't upset with me. He didn't see the line at first and then he tried rationalizing that it's too faint. He's hoping it's a false positive, but I don't think it is. However he does seem open to ttc in the future if it was or if I have chemical/misscarriage. So I am happy about that.

Yes I'll definitely share line porn as long as I get some tomorrow. Unfortunately, walmart was out of Frer and I won't pay pharmacy cost of frer. I bought a clearblue and I do have some ICs.

Oh and I wholeheartedly agree. Whether planned or unplanned they are miracles and special.

Shae bahaha I didn't wait for digi thankfully he took it a bit better than expected. Honestly, I dread telling my boss and family more. However if things progress we won't tell them til at least after my 7 to 8 week appt...if not 2nd trimester.

 

[DobbyForever]

Thanks. I just hate that I let these bullies bully me out of second grade. Ugh

Fluek I’m glad that hubs took it well. Like you said, he will come around in time. I know you said selling and buying, the timing is bad. But honestly it could be good to go in buying knowing #3 is on the way. That way you don’t buy something and have to move later. Big hugs. How are YOU feeling? I’m sure DH is a nice person, but money aside and now that hubs knows are you ready to be excited?

 

[Flueky88]

Dobby I feel okay, bloated and having trouble eating. Some foods make me a little queasy. I think I am a bit excited but DH not so much. I showed him the digi today and he apologized. I didn't have a frer as walmart was out.

 

[DobbyForever]

Oh no! He apologized for not being excited? That’s sweet. He’ll get there.

Glad you’re feeling ok. It’s such a love hate relationship with those first tri symptoms lol. Like yay hormones! But boo feeling less than 100.

thanks for sharing the digi!

 

[Flueky88]

Dobby nah he apologized for me being pregnant

 

[shaescott]

Flueks hahahahaha wait, sorry that he got you pregnant, sorry that you are pregnant in general, or sorry that he was wrong when he thought the first test was too faint and you are indeed pregnant?