General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[DobbyForever]

I agree. I’ve heard frer has really gone downhill. I definitely see that line, but I trust wally. There should be something on it. How long is your lp again?

ETA: I can’t stand it. I’m just gonna nut up and give him a direct invite. If he says no then I’m not asking again. Plus I’m on sugar pills next week. It should not be this aggravating. There’s always my friend’s friend, but I’m not attracted to him. He’d go out of his way to make me happy but id like my first time in years to be with someone superficially attractive lol

 

[gigglebox]

Yeah i shot her a quick text that I don't think I'm actually pregnant because she did ask how I was this morning. But yeah if this happens again that's definitely not the person I'd tell first!

I did tell hubby this morning. He finally just straight out asked if I was pregnant. I said I thought I was but I don't think so anymore. He was very matter of fact about it, as he always is, and just said, "If it D we will

 

[gigglebox]

My phone froze, will give better response later lol

 

[gigglebox]

To finish, hubs just hugged me amd said we'd get through it because we always do. God I love that man!

 

[gigglebox]

Dobs lp is 12-13 days, I honestly don't remember which. I haven't paid too much attention.

Woohoo, I hope your direct approch has favorable results! Remind me, Which guy was this?

Fluek i know what you mean about the faint lines that disappear and reappear, lol! That's when I play the "if I'm honest with myself, I do/don't see a second line." But I'm telling you, these lines were there! Pink! Visible! They look exactly like early bfp's...but that they fade is really throwing me for a loop.

Hubby being so supportive is almost making me hope for a darker line but I'm really wondering about these symptoms I'm having...they are very pregnancy-y.

Guess we'll know for sure in the coming days if af shows.

 

[gigglebox]

Oh and regarding fading line...at 9dpo is was somewhat visible at 2-3 minutes then faded.
At 10dpo i saw it and took a pic about 6 minutes, then put it away. When I pulled it out at abput 40 minutes it looked faded.
Today at 11dpo it was there same as yesterday, if not slightly darker, until 8ish minutes then started to fade. Barely visible now that i look at it dry. And cheapie was negative.

A mind f is right!

 

[shaescott]

Gigs that’s so frustrating. I hope you get a clear answer soon, whatever it may be. I’m glad your hubby was calm and supportive, I’m pretty sure my SO would be freaking tf out he’d 100% be all in, he’d just be freaking over how we’d make it work. My FRER indents were not nearly that visible, but I’ve seen a few people who had visible faint lines and they were evaps/indents. I definitely feel like FRER quality has gone down, I don’t think I’m going to buy any more. I have one left in my drawer, I think, and I’m saving it for if I get an undeniable line on a cheapie. I don’t have any Walmart ones, my local Walmart doesn’t have them, though the one near my school did last year. I’ve just been using pregmate because they’re wider than usual cheapies. Anyway, I guess we’ll see in the next 2-3 days if you get AF or an obvious positive!

Dobs that’s frustrating re: NSA boy. I would definitely not go for a guy you’re not attracted to just to get out your sexual frustration, you probably wouldn’t enjoy it as much because of a lack of sexual chemistry anyway.

AFM getting slightly more risky with fully unprotected sex today but my period is just ending (like it’s just a little bit of light tan discharge), and I’m only CD6 so I’d have to ovulate crazy early to get pregnant. I’ve had short enough cycles on the IUD but not in a long time, I’ve been having 33-34 day cycles for a bit now, and those short cycles may have been anovulatory. This first hormone free cycle was 33 days. I am taking an estrogen boosting herbal supplement this cycle that could potentially move up ovulation a bit, but going from CD20 ovulation to CD11 or earlier sounds extremely unlikely. Doesn’t mean I won’t have wishful thinking, but logically I know it’s incredibly unlikely. Last cycle I did it on CD3 and I’m obviously not pregnant. I know CD8 and CD11 are quite different for chances of ovulating, but I still doubt I’m going to have like a 24 day cycle (my LPs have been a little under 14 days, more like 10-13).

 

[DobbyForever]

That is seriously a mind f*. What a roller coaster. Glad you told hubs and he’s being supportive.

this is The Boy. The one I’ve been talking to about a month and a half, went on three dates cuz we’re both busy af. We made V-day plans and then I think he has commitment problems and panicked cuz he thought it was a big deal when it really wasn’t. So he was like you’re amazing, it’s me and my job and my schedule. You deserve better than the half assed attention I’m giving you but it wouldn’t be fair to ask you to sit around and wait for me. And I’m like punk b* people make time for who they want to make time for. So don’t bs me. But like if you’re dtf then I am LMFAO. And he said he was. We don’t do explicit sexting. It’s all innuendo. But like I’m trying to get laid before my damn period. But also of you don’t want NSA either then just day so. Cuz I have other d. I just want your d.

I would say I’m in a mood cuz pms but lol obviously not a thing. I got myself chocolate covered strawberries and ordered a lobster tail/filet mignon to cook tomorrow plus I grabbed my fav bottle of wine the other day. So I’m prepped for single girl v day lol. Also dropped off valentines for my friend and her kids. She already ripped into hers with her hubby and sent me a video of them taking their shots (I got her that chocolate is for amateurs heart box that’s just a bunch of fireball shots lol)

 

[DobbyForever]

Lol Shae do you. I just worry about the unprotected sex cuz it sounds like you work yourself up with the what if’s. As long as you’re not going crazy over it, then a little early nookie is nbd. I’m guilty of it. But I’m also guilty of getting pregnant on a day that I thought impossible soooo lol

 

[Emsabub]

Gig those tests are hella confusing!! If you're due on tomorrow or the day after then you should know for sure, hopefully. But that's amazing you have the support of your husband if it did happen!

Dobs I completely agree with what Shae said, from the little bit I've seen about this guy you talk about. I just feel a bit stupid I can't work out what NSA is
And your valentine's plans don't sound so bad, the way my partner is winding me up I'm wishing mine and was single. Then again we haven't got each other anything just because I can't be assed with the soppy stuff hahaha

 

[shaescott]

Dobs your single girl Valentine’s Day plans sound amazing. My Valentine’s Day gift was a baggie of homemade bacon jerky, which is admittedly super good, I’m not even mad, but SO’s grandfather was like “you didn’t get her jewelry? You just got her bacon?!” But I never wear jewelry, the only jewelry I want is an engagement ring lol, so he shouldn’t waste his money on any other jewelry.

Re: getting worked up, oh I 100% do but I’m just gonna watch my cycle and if I don’t ovulate in the next 5 days I’m not going to worry about it anymore. Like last cycle, I wasn’t worried about the CD3 BD once CD8 passed with negative OPKs. And like I said last time, if my body actually manages to ovulate that early just to get me pregnant, I’ll honestly just be impressed like if my body is that committed to getting pregnant, it can have the win.

Emsabub, re: NSA, it’s the title of that Natalie Portman/Ashton Kutcher romance movie from 2011, if that helps

 

[shaescott]

Oh Dobs, I meant to ask in the previous post, what CD did you manage to get pregnant from that you thought was impossible? Just out of curiosity lol

 

[DobbyForever]

Lol Ems yeah I’m a hardcore romantic. It’s my ISFJ personality. Any excuse to shower people with attention and gifts is like sign me up. But I never want or expect anything in return. V day itself is dumb but I still do it cuz I’m nuts lol

NSA is no strings attached, just here for DTD. Don’t talk to me, don’t hang out with me, just show up when I want to DTD and gtfo immediately after.

FWB is friends with benefits, similar but there’s generally more of an actual friendship. So like you may chat or even hang out, but it’s not a dating relationship. It’s more for people who want the BD and companionship of a relationship without actually committing to a person

 

[DobbyForever]

Lol Shae I totally remember that movie

it was cd 27 or 28. I was thinking I’m due for my period in a day or two so there’s no way. Well joke was on me! I had an ovarian cyst that donated ovulation so that was not fun on so many levels.

good plan. Glad you’re feeling more mellow this go round

I’d probably want the jerky over jewelry sounds yummy!

 

[shaescott]

Dobs ouch, I had one time where I think I had an ovarian cyst burst and I felt like I was gonna pass out from pain all of a sudden in the dorm hall bathroom luckily the pain subsided to levels where I wasn’t dizzy anymore after a couple minutes and my RA recommended some NSAIDs and to call her if the pain got worse. I didn’t know what the pain was and she goes “are you ovulating?” Like huh now that you mention it, maybe. That was an interesting time. Was that pregnancy one of your losses or A? I thought A was conceived in an expected fertile window but I can’t remember.

 

[Emsabub]

Thank you guys! Shae now it makes sense! I don't know how I couldn't guess that really. And honestly I think it really works out better for people when they just let the feelings go, don't think about it (or try their best not to) and go with the flow. Like how some people say after having fertility treatment they just didn't think about it 'cos it won't happen anyway' and then bam!!
Ofc everyone's different, but being easy on is definitely the best approach.
Also that sounds super painful if ovulation ruptured a cyst

Dobs I get you. I'm the same type who will do so much for someone, in my mind it's I can do it for you but you can't do it for me. Like I've put so much effort into a dinosaur themed birthday party for my partner next week, inc a piñata (I know I'm a big kid inside ) and looked EVERYWHERE for this cider he loves, which I did finally find! But when it comes to my birthday in March I've already said nope, don't want anything. Don't buy me anything. But if I get birthday money I'm spending it on stuff for new baby & a lamp for the lounge.
Cos I really want a lamp.

 

[DobbyForever]

I agree yikes Shae that sounds awful! This was my second pregnancy. I was basically told I could lose my ovary (best case scenario) or lose the pregnancy, but ultimately my gyn’s medical suggestion was the latter. So. Yup.

omg I love it! Post pics! I love seeing people’s party stuff. And lol right?! Always that money goes to the kids or house. I’ve been really trying to treat myself more here and there. It’s still nice when people do stuff, so hope you’re partner surprises you with a little extra spoiling. And lol I bought a steam vacuum mop for Christmas. Just bought a lamp today. Like that’s when you’ve hit peak adulthood. Gift money = lamps and vacuums

oooo and I have brie and crackers

and I just booked a beach house for spring break + my parents agreed to take A cuz my stepdad gets his second vax Monday and even though it’s delayed I bet teachers will be vaxed within the month

ETA I may be DTD tonight omg I’m so excited. I really hope he doesn’t back out

 

[shaescott]

Dobs you were right, the anxiety has hit currently stress googling but also wondering how to make me ovulate earlier because I want a baby but like also BAD. I’m a mess. I should take my anxiety med and stop googling. My estrogen boosting herbal blend I’ve been taking since CD2 could potentially make ovulation occur a few days earlier than usual, black cohosh is considered like a natural Clomid, but CD11 would be crazy early even for using that. I need to CHILL TF OUT.

 

[DobbyForever]

Oooof that’s hard. I have zero advice. Sorry. Like I’m so glad that things planned out the way they did in my early pregnancies. I’m so happy to give my kid the world because of my salary, job security, and place in life. But I was dead set on keeping my early pregnancies so I get it.

 

[gigglebox]

lol shae that broody brain cannot be tamed! Well I guess SO would be OK with a baby then, yes? I mean if not I'm guessing he'd be a bit more diligent about pulling out or perhaps wear a condom himself or something? Or is he trusting you to take care of the b/c? If he's trusting you, I'd say it'd be a little dishonest to try and prompt an early ov....plus if your body pops out an egg sooner than it's ready, how good could the egg be anyway if you're forcing it out before it's mature? Just my thoughts, no judgement. Also there's kind of a certain fun-ness (is that a word?) about playing the "oooh I might be pegnant!" game, when you're really wanting a baby. Peeing on sticks is fun, I'll admit it. And once you're pregnant you do kind of miss it so I say have fun, pee on things!

Dobs ahhh on THE Boy. Yeah I wish people would just say what the mean/think, not beat around the damn bush. Also I do remember that guy you are talking about who is into you but it's not mutual -- haven't you known him for awhile? If I remember correctly at some point you almost considered him as a mate purely because he would be a good spouse/father. Maybe try some friendly dates and get to know him more? Maybe he'll grow on you if there's an intellectual/emotional bond? and wtf your valentines sound amazing. I think I just suck at celebrating this day. I got a small box of chocolates for each kid and I got hubby gourmet maple syrup (trust me, he'll love it)....but I don't think I'll be getting anything. just the way the cookie crumbles, I guess. But who knows, he's surprised me before....

Ems yeah I think women overall are just more considerate/thoughtful. Well, at least moms seem to be. I have some pretty inconsiderate female friends. I am always the one who does the planning in his family. And I, too, want to see pictures of the party stuff! I once planned a cowboy themed kid-style party for hubs before we had ds1. It was a lot of fun! I made a cake and put white frosting on it, then left a can of green frosting out for guests to decorate the cake. There were a lot of penises and boobs on it and it was quite hilarious. I also set up a shooting style game on our sliding glass door. I had these toy guns with ammo that had suction cups on the tips and I had worked out a point system on the door and hung targets on the reverse side so the ammo would stick, then I had a prize for the winner (I can't remember what it was but I think a gift card to a beer/wine shop). It was a lot of fun.

ok to update...did another cheapie this afternoon and bfn. I guess what's doing my head in is how pregnant I feel. I have a serious food aversion but am craving very specific things (what I wouldn't do for a seafood salad from the local sushi joint....and I'd go get it if there wasn't ice everywhere right now). I just feel exactly how I do early pregnancy, so it's driving me mad