General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[DobbyForever]

So I guess I drank too much wine because I wasn’t thinking. I sent this guy a WALL of text. I’m mortified. I had sent 2 in response to something. But then I got a little tipsy at dinner cuz I had wine while I was cooking but I hadn’t eaten since 11... anyway I decided to take a bath and so I sent a selfie (with bubbles covering all the good bits) and sent a caption teasing him for canceling our date then I felt b*y so I sent a follow up that was like lol jk but srsly do something nice for yourself this weekend.... but omg once the buzz faded I could not believe I sent that many texts. He did not respond. Probably thinks I’m nuts....

 

[gigglebox]

Dobs woohoo glad you got some nookie! I know you said it was subpar but sounds like it was nice enough and with some tweaking, could be amazing. Eeesh, didn't want to go downtown, eh? What a bummer! I know for some guys it's totally out of the question as they don't like to do it, could that be him? Here's to hoping it was only because he thought you might be uncomfortable with it and will do better next time. Hmmmmmmmmmmm those are some mixed messages there! Do you think it could turn into a "real" relationship? Or do you not want it to?

Shae glad you at least saw each other! That's great. And hey, nothing wrong with some bww One year hubby and I celebrated with a night in and taco bell. Yesterday we didn't do anything too special; I gave him his maple syrup and he made me a very sweet card. He wrote me a haiku! It was adorable. The kids got small boxes of chocolate from me and I hung up some heart decorations. My mom brought us a box a week ago that we weren't allowed to open until yesterday, and it was packed with candy. I had a sales show last night so that was my evening online, and then after we put the kids to bed and had full on bd, and right in time because af has arrived this morning, and let me tell you, she is not happy with me. getting some gnarly cramps on and off. such fun!

 

[gigglebox]

OMG dobs I just read your last response! you poor thing, gosh I despise the feeling of being embarrassed! well if he does respond, you'll know he's in it for all you and your crazy, lol! Hey he was probably busy using that photo for his own personal us if you know what I mean so don't beat yourself up too much. Did you mention he was busy or something yesterday?

I would suggest just leaving it be and not sending anything else....lol

 

[Flueky88]

Sorry for the short response.

Dobby don't beat yourself up. I'd also just wait for him to respond. Sorry he wasn't willing to go downtown.

Shae bww is nice! I prefer a local wing place but the jammin jalapeño boneless wings are my fav at bww! Glad you got to see SO

Gigs sorry AF is being awful. I'm voting if she's that bad that your probably had a chemical. what a twist that DH is considering ttc #4. How do you feel about that? Nothing wrong with a simple V day.


AFM ordered a new washer and dryer for our place. Will put it into storage for now, but it'll be ready for when we move in. I couldn't resist, $400 off combined! They are normally $1000 each but on sale for $800 each! I'm super excited. Yeah I've entered into the lame phase of life where I get excited about appliances lol

Dh ordered us some cookie pies/sandwiches for V day. He got red velvet, strawberry milkshake, peanut butter, and double chocolate! They are soooo good and I'm glad the girls don't like them so we don't have to share. I got him a nut variety box and I'd ordered a nice nightgown to wear. I meant to cook steaks and curry roasted cauliflower but doing that tonight. I made a shredded chicken enchilada casserole. Sooo yummy!

Going to get back into working out. Doing some mommy and me yoga on tube with the girls. V kinda does it and S is just crazy but ya know she's only almost 2.I am sad to say some of it was a little challenging, but hey I gotta start somewhere. My goal isn't to lose weight but get more active and help girls burn off some energy while it's cooler outside or too muddy. They are just too wild in the evening.

 

[gigglebox]

ha, it's kind of a loaded question...I don't know how I feel, honestly! I feel maxed out at 3 but with having to truly think about what life would be with 4, I'm feeling like we could make it work. I would be hard but doable. I just don't want to find years down the road that I regret not having just one more. Logically I don't think it's a good idea but emotionally I do, and I see not having one more and regretting it as a real possibility...but I'm almost 35 and do not want kids later than this. But it's all a definite "no" until I get my health issue sorted out, so that first, then maybe hubby and I will have a real conversation about #4.

On the plus side, my mom is supposed to move closer to us in the very near future (like within the year), so that would certainly be helpful if we had another one. On the flip side, she'll be in her 70's soon and I worry if she starts having any health issues, how will I be able to help HER with 4 kids to also take care of?

I don't know, lots to consider...I do feel a bit pressured though about it, since I don't want to have any more past a certain age.

Anyway, AF is not being, like, abnormally painful, just as painful as it gets on a bad day, if that makes sense. Appetite is somewhat returning so that's good I guess....bad for my weight loss progress though

Wow, great deal on the washer & dryer!!! GOD I LOVE NEW APPLIANCES. My Mom gifted me a refrigerator for my combined birthday/xmas gift, and I couldn't be happier. I love this thing, especially compared to our old one. and if getting excited about appliances make a person lame, than I will freaking own that lame title. I scored a sweet dishwasher for under $400 because it was a floor model and I pointed out to the sales person it had a dent (a very tiny dent that you can't see once you throw a hand towel on the handle). It's also a bosch, which is a super quality brand, and it's extremely quiet (as in we have opened it multiple times while it's in the middle of a cycle because we didn't realize it was running, lol).

i'm not a huge cookie fan but those sound amazing! which was the best? curry roasted cauliflower? tell me more.

giiiirrrl I need to do the same. I'm not sure how to convince my kids to workout with me, though. When I put on family workouts, ds1 participates with much reluctance, ds2 sits on the couch and refuses to join, and ds3 makes me hold him while I do it. If you find any workouts that convinces everyone to join, do let me know!!! I also would just like more energy tbh, but losing weight would be a great bonus. I'd love to see the 130's eventually but I'd be happy to get in the 140's...about 10lbs to go! That's not much, right?

 

[DobbyForever]

Gigs oh yikes! Hopefully the cramps die down, but glad you got some action right before! I think your evening sounds perfect! End of day, QT with your loved ones is the best. And how cute that he wrote a haiku!

Fluek yay! What a great sale! And I feel you. I still get giddy over my steam mop that I bought myself for Christmas during Black Friday. Yay adulthood!

Go downtown. That’s perfect.

I don’t think he’s mature enough to be in a committed relationship, let alone one that involves a child. I like his companionship, he’s a nice escape. So I’d like to keep the FWB status for a while.

I’ve sent a wall of texts before but yikes. The last wall of texts also involved a scandalous selfie lmfao Yay super bowl drinking. Which he did say left him tongue/text tied. I’m sure he wasn’t busy. But I was actually surprised I heard from him at all. I texted him in the am because I never responded to his last text from the night before. Just basically confirming that he can get it if he asks lol. Then he texted mid day solving my problem I had mentioned earlier, and we had a solid back and forth convo full of inside jokes for an hour. I was surprised because even in our early stages he didn’t respond this quickly. We averaged a text every 2 hours. Convo died on my double text. They were short and could have been one text cuz I sent it back to back. Basically just said I was thinking about our next get together too but gave him a heads up I’m on sugar pills next week. Then 2 hours later cue Dobs is a loose goose when she’s drinky.

def just gonna let that marinate. I’m sooooo in the mood for some tonight but the thirst can wait a week or more lol.

well guess I’m not pregnant. I was like what I’d this odd sensation. I can’t still be leaking post sex. No. I am hardcore on my period. I’ve never had it hit this fast. Usually it comes mid Tuesday. I’m not even cramping. Lol for now

 

[shaescott]

Dobs yikes I’m sorry about the wall of texts. I sometimes manage to do that sober if I’m emotionally unstable so I feel you I originally didn’t think I’d be able to see SO but the CDC changed the isolation to 10 days and they all get tested and his mom was re-tested, all negative. Plus they had no symptoms, so they’re wondering if the first was a false positive. Always possible.

Flueks I’d be pumped about new appliances at a great price too, especially if your old ones weren’t working well or looked blech and these ones are pretty and work really well. The yoga sounds like a good idea. I’m terrible at getting motivated, it’s a legit problem. I have a gym membership and I haven’t gone since September. Oops. I don’t want to lose weight either, just be more active to be more healthy.

Gigs a low key Taco Bell VDay at home doesn’t sound bad to me either lol, it saves money and it’s cozy. Sorry about the cramps

AFM I was supposed to get late VDay BD this morning but SO was exhausted and grumpy (because he was exhausted) and gave me a hard no, and I had to get back to school for my 11 am COVID vaccine appointment, so no BD for me. I got my 2nd 25 minutes ago. Feeling a little bleh but could be unrelated. We’ll see if it hits me hard in a few hours or tomorrow.

 

[gigglebox]

bummer for missing out on the BD shae! Hopefully later...? if you're feeling better. Hope you are. hmmm I'd say you should probably give up that membership if you aren't going -- aren't they expensive? Or do you get a student discount or something?

Dobs looks like our cycles are synced! so fun! I guess you're going to have to wait, unless you really want to play up the crazy and see if he'll do it on the rag no please don't. hahahahha

 

[DobbyForever]

Shae that’s so awesome! But bummer about the missed bd opp. Glad you were able to get your second shot! Hopefully no worse symptoms have popped up.

Gigs that’s such great news about your mom! But true about things switching eventually from her helping you to vice versa. Hopefully things go well at your upcoming appointment and your health gets sorted soon. Hugs.

right?! My friend’s kid does yoga with her, this other friend’s kid does hip hop with her... I’m like how?!?! I guess maybe if I just did it enough he’d eventually get part the tantrums and want to join. He likes to sit on my cycle bike lol.

that’s rough about #4 when you’ve got that internal deadline to make a decision. But whatever you decide will be the best decision.

Shae again lol I’m disorganized today. that’s rough. Maybe cancel and try the Peloton app? They have all sorts of “classes”. It’s not just all spin stuff. And since it’s all at home maybe might be easier to sneak in enough workouts a month to justify the membership. I forget what it is.

back to gigs lol haha yeah for now. I’ll be having my “af” every 21 days ugh. Only downside to bcp. I am so not an on the ragger. Like more power to everyone, but it just doesn’t feel good. I swear it feels metallic and just ugh. I’d rather just wait haha. I’m not that horny

AFM dramatic Monday, had to block my coworker who wouldn’t take no for an answer. To make it creepier, guy is like a solid 25+ years older than me. Gonna have to tell my boss tomorrow in case it’s an issue when we go back in person. I’m officially eligible on my turn but LOL no appointments available. I am on a waitlist for a small clinic, but not word on when I may get a call just that they will call. Boss said not to expect appointments for weeks despite the super site being opened at the Coliseum. Oh dunno if I mentioned I’m finally letting A nap in his own bed in his own room. I still have anxiety whenever I think about letting him sleep in there at night though. Baby steps.

 

[Flueky88]

Gigs I gotcha. That's a hard thing to end up regretting but not a good time now or much in the future. I imagine it would be really hard to care for an older parent and 4 kids. Hope she stays in good health for awhile.

Well I'm glad I'm not the only to get excited about new appliances! We got new ones for our old house back in 2016 and they had a slate finish. LOVE slate! I miss them but we will get new ones and if we don't like them will just upgrade later. We opted for black because I prefer it to stainless. My thing about stainless is fingerprints. I know a lot of the newer stainless are fingerprint resistant but we didn't have that option. Oh and yes Bosch are very nice. I ended up going for the GE back in 2016 but almost got the Bosch.

The double chocolate was my favorite, but strawberry milkshake was close. The strawberry one tasted like those strawberry ice cream bars by good humor. Yummy!

The curry roasted cauliflower is an old WW recipe. I just break cauliflower into small florets, mix with some curry powder, oil, minced garlic, then sprinkle some parsley on them. I'll have to look but I think I bake it at 425 or 450 for 20 minutes. You can add a dash of salt and/or pepper of you want. I'm not a big fan of using salt.

It was only 10 minutes each so that helped and yeah S wasn't very cooperative. The channel is Pregnancy and Postpartum TV if you want to check it out.

Dobby ah well, I'm sorry he isn't mature enough for a relationship. I hope the FWB works out for you.

Oh man sorry about the coworker. Definitely creepy to me since he is that much older than you. Blah.

Oh and I'm not sure I'll try any dancing workouts..... I have no rhythm or coordination. My dancing is a disgrace and embarrassment.

Shae I mean I want to and need to lose, but yes at this point just being active is my main goal. Any weight loss that happens will just be a benefit. I've only been really dedicated to going to the gym once in my life. At this point in my life it's not convenient so I know I'd just throw money down the drain. I hope to maybe join one eventually, especially one with a pool!

Hope you don't feel too bad from the vaccine. I've heard several people say it was rough but manageable. Also, sorry on no BD. Maybe later?

 

[shaescott]

Gigs the gym is planet fitness so it’s not nearly as expensive as most gyms would be. My big issue is that it’s freezing outside and I have to walk a decent distance from my dorm to my car. I just don’t want to face the cold in my sports leggings and I don’t want to have to change at the gym, the changing rooms are very inconvenient, and I don’t want to put my regular clothes back on when I’m sweaty anyway because ew, but the showers are also super inconvenient, there’s no shelf and no outer area to change in, you have to keep products and a towel right outside the curtain and grab from behind the curtain and then walk across the aisle in your towel to the changing stalls. It’s just annoying. So I either go through all that or drive back in my thin sweaty leggings and walk through the cold back to my dorm in them. Neither sound like good options to me. When it’s warmer out I don’t have as much of a problem, because I don’t have to do the cold sweaty long walk. I’ve thought about canceling but it’s such a hassle to cancel with them, you have to either send a notice in certified mail or show up at the place to do it and that’s embarrassing

As for the child #4 issue, that’s hard. It’s hard to know whether you’ll regret not doing something in the future. I hope you guys can figure it out together.

Dobs no worse symptoms yet. I have a 3 month trial of Apple fitness that I haven’t yet done anything with, I could use it at the gym if I can convince myself to go. Part of my problem is I’m always starving after I go to the gym, so I always stop by McDonald’s on the way home and the cost adds up and also it’s not exactly healthy lol.

That’s crazy about the coworker. Ew. I hope you can get a vaccine appointment soon, I’ve heard teachers are struggling with getting it right now. That’s a great step with A, I’m sure it must be hard to not see him the whole time but if he tolerates it I think it’s good for him to get a little independence, even if it’s just sleeping in his own room.

Flueks dancing workouts sound fun to me but I definitely would look like an idiot. I’m also super bad with cardio, I get out of breath so fast, my poor heart just isn’t in shape. To be fair, if nobody is watching to judge you, who cares if you’re uncoordinated? In theory I’d love to be a member of a gym with a pool for some low impact exercise but I’m pretty sure with COVID that’s not happening so much anymore, is it? Plus I hate the part after swimming when you’re wet and cold and your hair is gross from the chlorine. I would totally use that as an excuse to never do it. I’m very bad at motivating myself

Re: BD, none until I get back next weekend, I had to drive back up to school for the week. By then it’ll be red days and I’ll need to use the diaphragm, which is fine but of course it’s easier and more carefree without it.

 

[DobbyForever]

Buahaha I’m getting vaxed Wednesday! Second dose 3/10. I was literally shaking filling out my info cuz the appointments are going so fast.

 

[DobbyForever]

Flueky I’m drooling lol

Shae yeah cold and McDonald’s are deterrents for sure. I don’t blame you for not wanting to change or bring a bag. And I feel you about cancelling in person. Sooooo awkward

thanks. So far I’ve been napping across the hall with both doors open so hoping I can get comfortable enough to go downstairs. No complaints cuz I’m exhausted lol. Need the naps anyway. He’s doing alright but he’s so big in it! I ordered a twin mattress and I’m going to just convert it now. I have the kit and he’s used to sleeping in my queen so I’m not worried about rollouts.

sorry about having to wait in the bd but yay for more relaxed engagement.

Re the vax they ran out of appointments within the hour! Crazy. But h think they only booked for Tuesday and Wednesday. Not sure if that’ll be their ongoing plan or just because it’s the first two days of opening and they want to see how it goes. I’m hoping I can get one for my mom cuz my spring break is 4/3. My second dose is 3/10. And she can only take A if she’s vaccinated.

And I must have impressed The Boy cuz he texted me. Basically saying he appreciated my text aka bath selfie and that he understands I’m on my period no big. Then we exchanged a couple texts re the vax and yup.

 

[shaescott]

Dobs yay! So glad you got your first dose scheduled! Is he napping in a crib or toddler bed? The twin conversion sounds like a good idea.

Re: BD it would’ve been relaxed before lol, not so much when I get back because of diaphragm wielding. Not a biggie, it’s just nice to not have to use it right after my period and after the fertile period is over.

I keep waking up super early and it’s driving me a bit nuts. I slept like 2 hours just now and I would’ve got back to sleep but my school called like 10 min later to say we had a delay due to snow/sleet and it was loud and now I’m wide awake. Which sucks, because breakfast doesn’t open until 7:30 (it’s 5:48). Hopefully I’ll get tired again soon. My arm is definitely sore this morning (last time, I woke up the next morning and the soreness was gone) but it’s not bad at all.

 

[DobbyForever]

Omg my dumba** booked my mom’s appointment under her maiden name.... and they won’t change it. And appointments are gone again. Ugggggghhhh. Hopefully her hella unique 17 letter first name is enough lol

Shae hope you can get some good rest soon! Glad you’re not having bad side effects. He’s in a toddler bed converted from his crib. I had read that you should but the twin conversion at the same time cuz the models go out of production, so it’s been in my closet. I’ve started asking him if he wants to sleep in his bed or mine at night. He mulls it over but still chooses mine. So I’m fine with it.

 

[shaescott]

Dobs could she bring a birth certificate to prove her maiden name? Any other kind of documentation of it?

27 hours later and still just some arm soreness. I do worry I’m not having a proper immune response if I don’t feel crappy, but hopefully that’s not the case.

 

[DobbyForever]

My stepdad keeps all their documents af his office and he’s kinda cagey esp now. I told her she better find something.

yeah I get that. My bro’s gf got WRECKED by her vax. She was miserable. 104 for days. But my stepdad felt nothing. I’m worried cuz I don’t have any capacity to operate at less than 100 rn lol

 

[DobbyForever]

I definitely still have feelings for him I don’t think I can sleep with him again.

 

[shaescott]

Dobs I’m sorry

 

[DobbyForever]

Yeah.... that was weird... I was sitting there minding my own business watching tv happy as a clam then BOOM. I missed him. And it’s because he kissed me. When we were just talking and I said something outrageously cute that he just smiled and gave me two quick kisses. And the way he looked at me. Ugh. And I just lost it. Had a good cry for about an hour. Took everything I had to not call him. Kept telling myself it’s just hormones. But ffffffffffff. Or Covid isolation. My mom kept thanking me for getting her appointment but honestly I did it for me. I’m burnt out.

bright side I’m decluttering my closet and I found $25 to Starbucks so that was fun lol

I’m so exhausted. A keeps tossing and turning. It’s to the point where I’m almost more tired than anxious about him sleeping alone.