General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[DobbyForever]

I thought my mom was retiring after this year, but she is just going to go back to part time intervention. So even if we did part time babysitting, it's going to cost and arm and a leg. Especially since it's a big problem with me leaving for work as early as I do. =/

 

[Breeaa]

Childcare is almost 2k a month for working parents around here. We can't have two kids. I'd honestly rather risk both and have none than have two. We don't have the means to provide for two. I also can't emotionally go through having a child and placing just one. =/

Sorry for the short reply. Speaking of shitty money issues, the loan qualifications on just changed so we no longer qualify for our loan programs and need to come up with twice as much down. Stress out. Had to give my kids choice time because I can't even teach right now.

Wow that is expensive! I think it would be a about half that where I live. I'm sorry to hear about your loan. We went through something similar I know how stressful it is. We thought for sure we had lost the house. Things will work out in the end, either way.

 

[pacificlove]

Here in Canada as a first time home buyer it's 5%. After that it's 20-25% especially if you don't want CMHC (mandatory mortgage insurance).
We thought it was bad DH couldn't get on the mortgage when we bought our first property. Turns out it was a blessing in disguise as he now qualifies as a first time home buyer for this home. But in the last 3 years, CMHC has tightened their rules so much it is nearly impossible to get them to agree to any property.

I am feeling frustrated and impatient. I almost have myself counted out for this month due to stress and it's only CD5 ...

 

[mrs.green2015]

Pacific- stress usually just pushes ovulation to a later date. So you defiantly are not out!

 

[JLM73]

Hi my lovelies
Sorry had to go cook quesadillas from me the fam and the baby dragon...who apparently does not make hcg
Here's your pic porn from the tests earlier.
7 hr hold I am not impressed!
Frer I got nothing and walmart same faint line as last couple days.
Thinking I'll wait 2 more days to test. That is when AF would be due anyhow
Maybe I can do a Dobby
"I'm not testing......oh wait OMG BFP!" lol

 

[Breeaa]

Hi my lovelies
Sorry had to go cook quesadillas from me the fam and the baby dragon...who apparently does not make hcg
Here's your pic porn from the tests earlier.
7 hr hold I am not impressed!
Frer I got nothing and walmart same faint line as last couple days.
Thinking I'll wait 2 more days to test. That is when AF would be due anyhow
Maybe I can do a Dobby
"I'm not testing......oh wait OMG BFP!" lol
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Wow those walmart tests keep getting darker! Could be the different photos but I can really see it now! Wonder why the frer isn't showing a line.

 

[JLM73]

Thx Breeaa I have no idea...frer hates me lol
I added some markers:

 

[JLM73]

Here's the Negs:

 

[JLM73]

Ok I'm losing it...I can actually see a faint line on the frer in my pic and neg(5-10mins), but now that it is dry the line is def gone.

DOBBBBYYY! I need to know if your super faint first frer lines faded or stayed??

 

[DobbyForever]

Hey, sorry ladies. Shit just keeps getting real over here. I feel bad that I'm not keeping up.

Thanks, after a lot of tears with the fam we worked it out. Unfortunately, it means emptying our savings for now. The thought of buying a house with nothing left in the bank scares me, but my parents say we'll get tax credits and less withheld that we can save it back in no time. Shrugs. SO has been so good all day. He was stuck at work, but he calls periodically to calm my nerves.

As for my frer, sorry my lines stayed. But I swear I looked at my 9dpo test and 10dpo fmu tests for like a day or two and thought they were bfn. Took a long time for the line to get dark enough to see without squinting, and it honestly looked grey and icky. I haven't clicked your pics yet though one sec. K. I see it in the neg for sure. Hugs. This must be so frustrating.

I fed my dragon quesadilla for lunch hehehe

 

[DobbyForever]

Oh and aside from cost, you have to sign up like as soon as you are pregnant if you want to guarantee a day care spot when your baby is born. I s*** you not.

 

[JLM73]

OMG lol there is no way I would live there.
I don't like being forced to live a certain way or do certain things...that's like those private schools that you need to sign your kid up while you are preg...
Seriously?? Have they seen how many ladies are here?? You really can't guarantee anything.
Dobbs did your very early faint line fade from the frer?
I see it in my pic but now that the test is dry it's gone

 

[JLM73]

Oh sorry
Just saw your answer lol.
Well I saved it so I will def keep staring at it the next 2 days lol Talk about outside the 10 minute timeframe
So glad your house stuff worked out Dobby.
House purchases are SO stressful!
Are you selling your old place or were you leasing?
Your parents seem very wise, so if they say you can do it, I think you will get your savings back

 

[DobbyForever]

We rent from my parents right now, so we are first time home buyers hence the tax credits and blah blah. Idk. Trying not to stress. Nothing I can do about it now. The good faith check is already in the escrow account.

LOL right?! It took one of my "bfn" frers like over a week for the line to show up once.

Well, they basically are schooling them. Kids come into kinder these days mastering their kinder standards. So if you want your kid to survive in the silicon valley, you start them as early as possible. I remember getting s*** from some ladies on here with my last bfp who didn't understand I live in SF Bay and we have different rules. When I was 4.5 weeks, I signed up for a WAIT LIST for a 5 day a week day care. I wasn't even the first on the wait list. I'm just thankful that I won't need day care for the first 2.5 months.

 

[Breeaa]

We rent from my parents right now, so we are first time home buyers hence the tax credits and blah blah. Idk. Trying not to stress. Nothing I can do about it now. The good faith check is already in the escrow account.

LOL right?! It took one of my "bfn" frers like over a week for the line to show up once.

Well, they basically are schooling them. Kids come into kinder these days mastering their kinder standards. So if you want your kid to survive in the silicon valley, you start them as early as possible. I remember getting s*** from some ladies on here with my last bfp who didn't understand I live in SF Bay and we have different rules. When I was 4.5 weeks, I signed up for a WAIT LIST for a 5 day a week day care. I wasn't even the first on the wait list. I'm just thankful that I won't need day care for the first 2.5 months.

No wonder it's so expensive!!!! My sister lives in Novato and she is a nanny for two girls and when she first told me how much she makes a month. The cost up there is so expensive. It is beautiful though. I love it.

 

[gigglebox]

House buying SUCKS. It's nice when it's all done but the process....yuck. So glad i will (hopefully) not have to do it again for a looooong time.

But i have to say, things worked out better in the end both times we did this. We had a contract fall through the first time, and rejected offers when we lost bids...in the end we ended up with a nice house near walking trails and we made 100k off of it in 3.5 years. This time, we had a contract fall through and we ended up with a muuuuch better located house in the end with more square footage and 9 acres instead of 5.

J, that wally test looks darker to me. How confusing....that FRER is quite odd. Are you going to test again in the morning?

 

[gigglebox]

Dobs, i'm going to have to relay that info to my brother. I want him to move back here before kids so i can dote on them

Have you considered an au pair? Just get a male or an unattractive one. We had one that nearly destroyed my family

 

[DobbyForever]

Yeah, I've never been to Novato but it is quite close.

Gigs, LOL but not lol at the same time. Yeah, SO gets off on power and dominance so having an au pair is no go. Even if she wasn't attractive, the temptation would be there. That's honestly kind of why we ended up DTD last night. I was whiney about how fatigued I was and threw myself in the bed. TMI, but he was looking at me and was like, "Is it wrong that I'm getting turned on by your weakened state?" And the rest was history lol. Told you Christian Grey has nothing on us.

ANYWAY what was my point? Oh I also just don't like au pairs in general. My younger brothers had one, and every one of them blurred the lines between their job and their relationship. Plus, sharing my space with someone. Ew. Get out. There are some wives of classified staff that do lower cost babysitting for teachers in the district. But I think they still cost like $16/hr. I need 8 hours of day care if they are willing (which they usually are) to pick up and drop off at my school. So $640 or $23,680 for the school year NOT counting days I have staff meetings or Site Council. Although those i can probably convince my mom to take baby. And I would hope that my mom does go to part time and would take baby part time...

IDK that's tomorrow's problem. As soon as kinder hits, baby can go to my school and then no babysitter needed.

 

[gigglebox]

That'll be so nice to take bubs with you. I almost worked at a daycare just for that perk.......almost. Turns out i (for the most part) don't like other people's kids

Is it wrong that i'm getting turned on by your sexual antics? Lol--confession, i still haven't read 50 shades. I read an excerpt and couldn't get past all the grammatical errors. I keep hearing good things though so, I don't know, maybe I'll cave...or rent the red box.

And, yeah, au pairs....I can see how that'd be tempting. I guess. I don't know. My Dad slept with one...I don't remember what she looked like though. I'd ask but that's a box of worms I really don't want to open! Ever! It was over 20 years ago...all was forgiven and things are peachy keen now I guess.

I'd also have a problem with the space invasion. I don't like people taking over "my" space and I hate seeing too much of anyone. I told hubs that that was how i knew he was "the one"--because I never got sick of seeing him. I always wanted to spend more time with him. He's literally the only person ever that I haven't ever felt like I needed a break from.

Um...

Sorry about that tangent...

 

[gigglebox]

Dob...Wait, i may have missed it but have you told hubs yet? If i remember correctly, which i probably don't, you told him but didn't give us details...?