General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[mrs.green2015]

Thanks Campn! I'm currently cleaning the house trying to feel better. My opks and htps are scheduled to arrive tomorrow. I'm up in the air on preseed and soft cups. I really think I have a progesterone issue (thanks google lol) so I'll be making sure to take my perscription 3-4 days after ovulation and track everything perfectly!

DH was so sweet I told him how I felt and he made sure to make me feel better. He's promised no matter what we'll have a baby. Even if he has to spend a million dollars figuring out what's going on. That got brought up because we have been told a couple times now we need to be prepared to see the infertility specialist. But I don't think it'll get there.

 

[campn]

I really doubt you'd ever need a fertility specialist cause you can get pregnant, but even if it got to that its still not the end of the world. My brother and even my sister had to see fertility specialists. Your DH sounds pretty wonderful I'm glad he's willing to do whatever it takes!

Have you thought about soy!? I think it helped me even though I ovulated later, but I think I had an egg quality problem and it probably fixed it.

 

[JLM73]

All
Gah been out for HOURS dropping son at work then painfully grocery shopping with mom

CB She has mentioned in the past that I "was an accident" lol nice huh
Honestly I don't think she ever wanted kids. She had to put her nursing career on hold for the first 10 yrs I grew up- NOT that she suffered at all. My father made plenty to keep us in the nicest neighborhoods,with fancy cadillacs and all that crap.
My whole time growing up she seemed angry and annoyed by anything I did.
I could be sitting quietly playing with Barbies and she would walk to my room and say "Come pick up these books off the floor!" (usually 2 coloring books and a crayola box)
OK np, and while I was picking the books up, she would go back to the family room and yell"And take these dolls back to your room!"

God forbid I ever said a word while she watched soaps or news it was SHHH! immed.
But when you are a kid you don't know any thing is wrong or weird about that. Especially being an only child.
Sooo my mother's opinion is noone should have more than one child.

I chewed her out this morning because the first 10 mins I was in the kitchen to get coffee she rattled off THREE complaints about pointless sh*t

On the way home from grocery shopping I lectured her about HER way not being the way most of the world thinks. She thinks no one should ever drink- Today was our annual Gasparilla Parade ( Pirate themed drunkfest lol)
So a guy was drunk at the store with beads around his neck, and she immed says
"I don't know why people think drinking is FUN. They all act stupid, and now they are gonna get in the car and kill someone
How the hell does ONE drunk guy in a group of friends imply alll that???

I have a friend my mom adores - so I made sure to tell her Oh yea mom btw my friend the Nurse you think is the best person ever? Yeah she puts down a bottle of wine by herself every night
My mom looked all confused lol. (drops the mic and walks away)

 

[JLM73]

Clairey
I LOVE the fruit/size tickers, but I was just thinking...
They have to be considering the baby,fluid, and sac the way their weeks/size work out.
Nothing wrong with that- I was just having one of those pondering moments

Dobaliscious Glad you are feeling the loooooove.
Hope you are feeling better physically too.
So question- chicklette...if you happen to get preggers soon- you can always have a Honeymoon after baby is here
Definitely been done ALOT.
I worked with a very prissy older lady at my last job- one of those who has 27 pics of her TWO grandkids alllll over the desk and cubicle lol.
Anyhoo- just saw today on FB her daughter that we talked about EVERYday
JUSTTT got married on the beach today They are so cookie cutter perfect family I never DREAMED they weren't married?? lol

 

[campn]

Jlm- totally forgot about gasparilla! Not that I would have even gone, not really child and pregnant woman friendly. I went on a babymoon to Miami when I was 7 months pregnant with DS and people looked at me like I had two heads!

My mom wasn't the nicest either when I was young, but she had 4 kids to watch all day while my dad came home at 9 pm every night so I think she was just stretched too thin most days, can't blame her. It all changed though once I got older and especially after I got married and moved away, she really started being so sweet then.

 

[JLM73]

OMG OMG
sorry for spamming posts- catching up
Soooo in planning for my FIFTEENTH cycle ttc
I went to 2 more health/medical supply places today.
Apparently when my pharmacist looked up Softcups it says Discontinued
So at the Health store where I saw the $45"Menstrual Cup" eww...
Anyway they still have the $45 reusable, but they also had DivaCups. It's another brand but same type product...
Those are $35 NOPE not paying that much either.
So basically...I McGuyver alot of things- I'm good at building stuff.
Campn Chime in on the size of yours if poss

Sooo- both models are like 2inches Deep, and are shaped like a Bell(upside down) There is an extra thin piece of rubber that hangs down ( so you reach in and pull it out by that**See pic below)
Both are also just wide enough to cover your cervix, so basically the tip of your uterus SITS inside the cup area.

Sh*t ain't that complicated LOL. Sooo I went to Wallyworld to see what I could use to make one.
1-They have turkey basters with soft rubber bulb, but cutting the bulb to make the end to go over cervix pfft would be TOO wide.
2-The baby Snot sucker bulbs I have seen some with smaller bulbs than the baster-PERFECT....but they didn't have the small ones at this store sigh.
3-Dobs:friends Back me up Lady!! As I perused the cooking aisle...GASP-25cent SHOT GLASSES!!
Now hear me out and stop laughing ...ALL of you
We alllllll know even if we haven't done it the vajay can def fit a shot glass(these are plastic). I mean come now....there are TOYS much bigger in diameter, than the top of the glass, and for those who have seen crazy porn- Fisting I say no more...
These 25cent shot cups are the SAME diameter as the menstrual cup, annnnd the same depth!!
I'm totally gonna try it
I'll put the in the shot cup, add enough Preseed to almost reach the top, and insert that sucker!!!
Very easy to sterilize it too.
And just like a tampon the vajay muscle will totally hold it up in there.
I'm not so worried about getting it out. I can reach it....Can't be any worse than retrieving Ben Wa Balls
OMG- I'm so gonna be a guinea pig.
If it works, I will truly be able to blaming it on shots...just not that kind LOL

 

[mrs.green2015]

Do soft cups seem to really work? I keep going back and forth on the idea. I guess my thought is whatever would normally "fall" out will just go into the cup? Right? What am I missing? Lol

 

[JLM73]

Mrs G Lady- Camp used them last time for this bfp I think
Well in my case I will pour the pickle juice in there add preseed and insert it.
I figure this will give me the ability to put it in immed, and drive home without them sitting in a cup for the ride, or them some leaking back out if I syringe them in then drive home

In your case, you will def wanna be on bottom, pref with a pillow under your hips while Then he just needs to pull out slowly and Im sure your hubs won't mind inserting the softcup while you lay there.
Once its all the way up in there NOTHING can leak out, so basically any slow moving swimmers that may have dripped out with the semen fluid, are held close to the cervix.
Thus they get as long as you leave the cup in to try and make it in.
Once it's inserted you can stand up move around as normal- no laying with hips propped

 

[JLM73]

Here's an anatomy pic- not that we don't know where everything is but just showing that the cervix has space up each side past it, so a softcup in theory will "cap" over the cervix.
The cervix will literally be sitting IN the cup. There isn't much distance, but it basically give the slower swimmers a better chance to stay there longer to make the swim up.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Oh got cha.

So funny story I thought I'd share. I was all about guy on top with hips propped for baby making as I heard with a tilted uterus that or doggy style. Well since missionary was better known for baby making hubs always finished that way. Until September. I have up and we just did what was natural. So all month either I finished on top or doggy style. And that month we got a bfp! So I'm all about doggy style now. Lol

 

[campn]

I ordered mine online cause I'm this lazy. Would rather things just show up on my door! I just think the softcups help all the swimmers stay up there and none of them fall down, cause I just thought what if some of the good strong ones fell down cause of gravity before getting a good chance?

Also preseed 15 minutes before BD, also so it would make the vagina less hostile and aggressive towards the sperm. Losing good ones who could have totally made it cause my body is unfriendly isn't funny

 

[campn]

Missionary and doggy are best ones for getting pregnant. With doggy the guy is right at your cervix!

 

[JLM73]

I like the guy behind personally RAWR lol
whether doggy or laying with him laying on top.
Campn I'm sure their available order elsewhere. The time I was gonna order it was from CVS site - then everyone says discontinued!?
Only other I saw were from UK
No worries, as long as to goo goes in a sterile holder the same size- my shot glass theory will work for only 25cents lol.

 

[FutureMrs]

JLM Just a heads up that kindara sells soft cups for $4! Or at least the store on the app says so! Lol

 

[DobbyForever]

This got dirty haha love it

 

[JLM73]

Yea we had been riding the good clean and wholesome wave a bit too long LOL

Thx Future- I'm just too lazy to wait on an order lol. Kinda wanna try one of these cups as it's meant to be used- for AF. If nothing else at least overnight. And AF is due in 5 days. Really I have no idea why they aren't stocked at most stores??
I'm sure they wouldn't exist if no one was buying them
I know TSS (toxic shock syndrome) is real for some women so tampons are a no go. If they hate pads like I do, then the softcup would be ideal.
I HATE HATE HATE pads grrr

 

[DobbyForever]

Omg I love pads. Well love is a stretch but they really don't bother me.

My AF is ending and it's hard to stay rational. Two days of spotting then 36 hours of clot filled medium/heavy flow, then light.... Sigh weird oh well

 

[campn]

Can't fall asleep!

I'm also a pad girl, I like tampons but I like pads more. I don't have the nerves to try softcups for an actual period, I'm too squeamish and the idea of spilling it while it out scares me. Trying it for semen was gross enough

Dobby- Glad AF is almost done, seems like a super weird AF for you! Hopefully no pain anymore? I'm glad SO is being so such a darling, I hope he'll be more open to TTC soon but I understand his fears too. TTC is scary for even men!

So Greenie is the only one trying this cycle? Where are you at J?

 

[JLM73]

I'm on the bench - no donor this cycle so just waiting on AF 5 days out.
Next O will be 2-15/16.
No one lined up yet.
I HATE pads!
Florida heat and humidity walking around feeling like a diaper and the smell due to heat here and a pad not letting anything breath?? ewww and NO.
Love tampons. You can swim with them even.
I have pads with wings and only use them for overnight back up for my tampon.
HATE the bunching shifting and again- Fl heat thigh sweat uh uh lol.
I have a VERY sensitive nose, and have even smelled other ladies when they sit down next to me working or on the bus
This is why between kiddos- I was 100% Depo girl. 1 shot every 3 months- my old doc even let me do them at home lol. OMG
LOVVVELY having NO AF for a full year- sex anytime vacay anytime- no hassles.
I'll absolutely be back on it after I have this kiddo.
I never had any side effects- well, no AF lol.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Can't believe I'm the only one in next cycle so far. Hopeful you get something lined up j!

DH is so on board it's crazy. I told him about soft cups and preseed. We agreed soft cups are a bit much but that we should do the preseed. So I'll be ordering tomorrow!!!