I will think he/she is beautiful regardless obv I just really hope bub takes after me
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You mean takes after you by having unprotected sex with people they find unattractive just to satisfy their genitals, and then, as an adult, goes on to make fun of these people's appearances...despite being the very person breeding these traits into the population? Yeah, I think we need more people like that. Hope you get one of those rather than a redhead!
Well i thought this was quite funny
How you can have sex with a person with red hair and then worry that you might have a baby with red hair is beyond me. Imagine if the OP had said instead: "I got drunk and crossed the line with a
black friend of mine and now i'm worried my baby will be
black and i would still love them of course but i wouldn't want them to get bullied for being
black" (Because all i've done there really is substitute the word ginger for black!)
People would be horrified and rightly so! But apparently because it's hair colour and not skin colour there's no problem with expressing a distaste for one particular type?
Amazing how quickly folk forget the slippery slope we start on when we decide on physical characteristic is more desirable than another...nazis and the aryan race anyone?!
Things i was picked on for in school:
Being pale
Having dark circles under my eyes
Having freckles on my forearms
Being 'clever'/'teachers pet'/'swot'
Being skinny
Not wearing branded trainers for P.E.
Being flat chested...and then later after 'blossoming' being big-boobed
Being called Rebecca (apparently, it rhymes with pecker?!
)
Being 'the new girl' (we moved around a lot when i was younger)
And probably loads more i've forgotten about. If someone wants to pick on you they will find something, ANYTHING and hone in on that. Our job as parents is to make sure our children know their worth, know they are as good as anyone else and that they are loved for who they are, so that their self esteem can bear up to whatever the school yard might throw at them.
I find it upsetting that people genuinely think it's ok to hope your child isn't ginger, even if it's under the pretense of "for their own sake- so they don't get bullied" I'm a neonatal nurse so at work i get to see every day what happens when pregnancy/birth is not straightforward (for lots and lots of different reasons, and with lots and lots of different outcomes) and from personal experience, i have had 2 miscarriages and my younger sister has had 3. My maternal grandmother lost 3 babies through stillbirth (2 full term and 1 pre term) and also had miscarriages. My MIL also had a late mc. And on here i've had the fortune to 'meet' so many amazing strong and kind ladies who have supported others through losses of different kinds whilst also grieving for their own losses. So the focus for me is very much on hoping for babies to be healthy.
I know a few people on this thread have said "It's only the same as someone expressing a preference for gender" but a. i don't actually think it IS the same and b. even if we pretend for a minute that it is the same...if the OP had said "i really hope my baby isn't a girl" or "i really hope my baby isn't a boy" i do genuinely think she would have provoked the same sort of response.