Emmyjean
Mom to 2 Wee Lads
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I just need a bit of advice. I just got my positive test a couple days ago, so right now it's only me that knows there's something cooking. I have not told DH yet, and am contemplating waiting until a little later to break the news.
I've had a heavy night class load this semester and he's pulled a large amount of daddy duty for the two boys since mid-January. Normally my class load doesn't include so many night classes so this will all resolve itself in a couple months, but I'm scared to tell him, "Hey, I'm pregnant again!" right now. We talked a lot about going for a third and after quite a bit of back and forth, we agreed on it, but because he's feeling stretched thin (albeit temporarily), I'm suddenly really nervous to tell him I'm pregnant. I didn't feel like this with either of the other two - I told him with the test stick literally still in my hand.
Is it straight-up wrong to keep it to myself? I'm not even sure how long I'm thinking - maybe just until after my first doctor's appointment (this week)? I considered not telling him until AFTER the semester is over so it's more good newsy instead of a bomb drop, but that's two whole months from now - that'll be the end of the 1st trimester and it just seems wrong to hold it back for that long. Not to mention impossible.
Just to clarify - I'm not afraid he'll like, leave or legit have a meltdown. I just feel like he'll be internally going, "Sh*t" instead of "Cool!" and that makes me sad.
I don't know. Maybe that's insane. Just sort of freaking out over here. Opinions welcome.
I've had a heavy night class load this semester and he's pulled a large amount of daddy duty for the two boys since mid-January. Normally my class load doesn't include so many night classes so this will all resolve itself in a couple months, but I'm scared to tell him, "Hey, I'm pregnant again!" right now. We talked a lot about going for a third and after quite a bit of back and forth, we agreed on it, but because he's feeling stretched thin (albeit temporarily), I'm suddenly really nervous to tell him I'm pregnant. I didn't feel like this with either of the other two - I told him with the test stick literally still in my hand.
Is it straight-up wrong to keep it to myself? I'm not even sure how long I'm thinking - maybe just until after my first doctor's appointment (this week)? I considered not telling him until AFTER the semester is over so it's more good newsy instead of a bomb drop, but that's two whole months from now - that'll be the end of the 1st trimester and it just seems wrong to hold it back for that long. Not to mention impossible.
Just to clarify - I'm not afraid he'll like, leave or legit have a meltdown. I just feel like he'll be internally going, "Sh*t" instead of "Cool!" and that makes me sad.
I don't know. Maybe that's insane. Just sort of freaking out over here. Opinions welcome.