I'm kind of sat on the fence when it comes to spanking - I think it's okay in some circumstances, but not all. I don't know how I am going to feel about it once my baby is here and is old enough to make these mistakes, but I won't rule out spanking completely. I will only use it as a last resort. I will try other means of discipline first, and if that doesn't work then well, what can you do?
If my child doesn't tidy her room, then I won't spank her for it, I will just ban her from something (a toy, computer when she is older etc) and take time out and make use of the "naughty step". If she backchatted me and swore at me, then like I said, I will take the necessary routes to make sure that she understands that backchatting and swearing is not nice at all - but if all else fails. Until she is here and growing up, I don't know how she is going to be and how she will react to my methods of discipline. It's just seeing what works best, but as I said...spanking is an absolute last resort for me.
I do not consider light tapping abusive whatsoever. A punch in the face, pushed down the stairs, starved to death...yeah that's abuse. We all have our own beliefs on things, and we all come from different parts of the world, different religions and cultures.
What I intend to do with my child in the form is discipline is down to me and my OH - no one else. If we feel something doesn't work, then we move onto the next tactic, but spanking is the last thing we'd ever do - and only in the absolute extreme cases. If that makes me a child abuser then shoot me.
Different strokes for different folks.
my kid, my rules, dont like it? shove it
