Heard from her dad

[Novbaby08]

So Harley's real dad wrote me tonight, I haven't heard from him in over a month. Here's what happened, it starts at the bottom!:



ok plz stop talkin down to me i know wat i have to do tty 2morrow

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ♦þlµmß þµÐÐïñg♦
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:51 AM


you want to see her, you need to call and make plans. Its not my job to arrange it.

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Tyler
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:50 AM


k ill bee there bye

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ♦þlµmß þµÐÐïñg♦
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:48 AM


I'm not starting anything, I'm just looking out for Harley. You know, when she gets older. "I'm busy" will just crush her. You can't be too busy to be a parent, that should be number 1, not whenever. Harley will only be little like this a short time. And before you know it, she's going to be all grown up. You need to take her seriously. You know her memory is like 3 days long.

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Tyler
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:45 AM


u really going to start this again i told you ive been busy and i said im sorry is that not good enough for you ???

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ♦þlµmß þµÐÐïñg♦
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:43 AM


Part of being a parent is helping raise a child, not seeing them once a month. You've missed so much. You have no idea.

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Tyler
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:42 AM


pfftt wat ever you know i hate that but yeah BYE

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ♦þlµmß þµÐÐïñg♦
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:41 AM


right

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Tyler
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:40 AM


but i gtg to sleep ill tty tomorrow on here or ill just call you k

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ♦þlµmß þµÐÐïñg♦
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:38 AM


something like that.

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Tyler
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:37 AM



oh yeah i really need to come down there asap so i can hear it for my self you know
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ♦þlµmß þµÐÐïñg♦
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:34 AM


well she is, alot more vocal then she used to be, she actually enjoys toys now, which she didn't until a couple weeks ago, she is also awake most of the day now. Sleeps through the night all that.
Wearing 3-6 months now
also she doesn't technically laugh, its more of a "heehee" type thing, like a giggle.
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Tyler
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:32 AM


awwww she sounds soooo sweet hahahaha jkjk

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ♦þlµmß þµÐÐïñg♦
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:29 AM


good, she's over 15lbs now. Huge, she's been smiling and laughing and stuff lately. I always take her to school the first day of the module, and people were shocked at how big she was since last month. She hates my birthday, still sleeps with me, her crib has become a storage place.

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Tyler
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:26 AM


oh sorry ive been really busy but how is my baby girl???

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ♦þlµmß þµÐÐïñg♦
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:25 AM


You never talk to me or anything, so I took that as a hint that was you not wanting to keep in touch with me anymore. If I don't hear from someone after a week I delete them.

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Tyler
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:22 AM


well we not even friends on here why is that

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ♦þlµmß þµÐÐïñg♦
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:20 AM


your not, otherwise you wouldn't be able to write me

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Tyler
Date: Feb 5, 2009 1:19 AM


mmmm why did you block me ???




Who the hell does he think I am?! Does he really think I'm that stupid!?! He's probably been sitting around on his ass doing nothing~! Well he doesn't know still but, my fiance is going to adopt Harley after we get married.
Btw I was being nice to him! sometimes I'm too nice for my own good.

 

[captain-ally]

ugh, sounds like the responsible type. Do you want him to visit her?

 

[Novbaby08]

He is not the responsible type at all. He claims to be busy, he doesn't even have a job or anything. He's not busy he's lazy, no not really, she's better off without him

 

[Always&4ever]

I'm sorry hun, Harley has you and thats the main thing x

 

[Novbaby08]

OK, I wrote him back and this is what I told him:


You know what Tyler. I don’t want you to come see her because you are unreliable. For the nine months that I was pregnant, you ignored me and I still allowed you to come visit at the hospital. We were home a month before I heard from you again and I still gave you another chance to make things right. You have blown it everytime. I think you being too busy is a bunch of bullshit. You aren’t enrolled in school or working at a job so what the hell are you doing. I am not convinced that you have made a true effort to be in her life and I don’t want you around hurting her later with your lies and irresponsibility. You think I am over reacting? Am I? You spend more time bullshitting me than actually doing anything. Your apologies are useless because they have no meaning and you don’t change thing. I am looking out for the well being of my daughter not trying to save your feelings. How is she your little girl when me and my family are the ones taking care of her, holding her when she cries, changing her diapers and financially supporting her. You don’t get to be a father only when its convenient for you.

 

[xJG30]

Well done for getting rid, you may have trouble with the adoption though as he's gotta agree to it.

 

[Novbaby08]

Well done for getting rid, you may have trouble with the adoption though as he's gotta agree to it.

No he doesn't legally he isn't even her dad, just biologically. I didn't put him on the birth certificate.

 

[xarlenex]

Ah, one of those "i'll be a dad when i want"..no good at all. Good for you

 

[brownhairedmom]

Well done for getting rid, you may have trouble with the adoption though as he's gotta agree to it.

No he doesn't legally he isn't even her dad, just biologically. I didn't put him on the birth certificate.

He still has to agree. Adam isn't on Renah's birth certificate but if he wants to go to court and say "this is my daughter, I want to see her", they'll court order me to a DNA test from her. Then he can get vistitation and make things a shitload more complicated in the legal aspect. That's the way it works here.

 

[Novbaby08]

Well done for getting rid, you may have trouble with the adoption though as he's gotta agree to it.

No he doesn't legally he isn't even her dad, just biologically. I didn't put him on the birth certificate.

He still has to agree. Adam isn't on Renah's birth certificate but if he wants to go to court and say "this is my daughter, I want to see her", they'll court order me to a DNA test from her. Then he can get vistitation and make things a shitload more complicated in the legal aspect. That's the way it works here.

Well her dad would have to have money to do that. Which he doesn't he's dirt poor, so once my fiance adopts her, he won't have a chance at all to get on her birth certificate.

 

[brownhairedmom]

good!

 

[mom-on-8/2009]

i hope it all works out in the end for you!

 

[PrettyBonk]

He's busy?! WTF?! oh this makes me so angry....
do whatever you have to do for YOUR DAUGHTER and you...
I've been there and you cant be nice forever hun..you are being too nice to him...but I loved what you wrote to him!!!!! Very good!!!

 

[Sandie_Cali]

Good job, glad you kicked him to the curb!!!