hhmm- I understand where everyone is coming from and I agree with xolily in thinking that the doc probably told her that 5 was better than the pack a day she was smoking before BUT none of us are perfect! If we were and were thinking about our baby ALL of the time- we wouldn't eat the macdonalds breakfasts, crisps, chocolate and those naughty things that most people think they 'crave' during the 9 months- if we were so perfect, we would exercise regularly- only eat healthy food and avoid any contact with anything toxic. I'm sure she knows that she is doing wrong but tries to justify it to herself and you, to make herself feel better! I think leave her to do what she chooses to do. We can only do our best for our baby's and everyone is different - someone just told me off on this site for not taking prenatals- but I eat a v healthy diet and don't eat junk food, so don't believe I need them (and feel uncomfortable taking anything not prescribed by my doc)- am I a bad mother? some obviously think so- but we are all different and have different needs/wants/beliefs etc.
Good to hear some common sense. I eat a healthy diet. Everytime I consider putting a sweet, chocolate or a refined carbohydrate into my mouth, I KNOW its going to reach my baby. I would never suggest that people on this site who "crave" McDonalds are selfish and are putting their babies at risk but the "
I wouldnt touch alcohol" brigade are saying just that.
I HATE the judgemental crap on this site with people saying "its up to you but I WOULDNT RISK MY BABY" How dare you.