It makes me so sad to read this because it's obvious you're hurting. Is there any way you two could meet with a counselor of some sort? If you have talked about this many times and he's not willing to compromise a bit then maybe you need a third party to help you guys work through this.
I hate to bring up a sensitive topic but do you know if he uses porn at all? This can really do serious damage to some men and affect their ability and interest in real sex.
Is there any possible medical reason for this? Maybe he has low testosterone, it's worth getting a check up and asking him to mention his low libido. I know men hate going to the doc, I have to force my DH to go.
Has your frequency of sex always been like this or is this a more recent change?
Sorry for so many questions but I just like to help if I can.
Thanks Hun.
As far as i am aware he doesn't watch porn, that is what he tells me and he say's he wouldn't wanna watch it unless i did with him. he doesn't get exited about it like he would when he was single.
It hasn't always been like this it was once a week, then once a fortnight then once a month now once every 5-6 weeks. but we have went 2 months without.
I'm not sure if there is something wrong with him, but he just says he is tired, sore ect he suffers ibs but was like this before then.
We have had this problem for years, we have got 3 kids (2 together) but it's just got worse and worse. i just don't think he really cares about my needs at all.
I just tend to try forget about it now, the odd time it will upset me. i vow to reject him next time like he does me, but he rarely initiates it, and when he does i give in and i hate myself for that.
as when he rarely does want to i always give him it.
last night he was watching a programme with a sex schene on (he watches a few programmes with frequent sex schenes in) and i just got upset and went to bed.
he say's he wants another child, but if he has trouble putting out now, how is he gonna manage when it comes to it.
I just wanna spend the night in my room away from him it upsets me. i dont get like this on regular occurrence, just once every few months then i get over it again.